Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “I Can't Believe She Did That!: Why Women Betray Other Women at Work” as Want to Read:
I Can't Believe She Did That!: Why Women Betray Other Women at Work
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

I Can't Believe She Did That!: Why Women Betray Other Women at Work

3.46  ·  Rating details ·  57 ratings  ·  19 reviews
The massive influx of women into the workplace in the past thirty years means a whole new category of problems has arisen among women at work. Suddenly, women are working over, under, and alongside other women. Women on the job have grown more comfortable with ambition, competition, and success, but that hasn't negated the value they place on communication and relationship ...more
Paperback, 288 pages
Published October 3rd 2006 by St. Martin's Griffin (first published 2005)
More Details... Edit Details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about I Can't Believe She Did That!, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about I Can't Believe She Did That!

This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Add this book to your favorite list »

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
Average rating 3.46  · 
Rating details
 ·  57 ratings  ·  19 reviews

More filters
Sort order
Start your review of I Can't Believe She Did That!: Why Women Betray Other Women at Work
Dec 21, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
2.5 stars
Much like The Sociopath Next Door, I Can't Believe She Did That was probably more compelling when released in 2005. Or not. A series of cases, the book doesn't offer much in the way of solving a very real issue.
Sep 09, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is a pretty useful guide to women's relationships at work. It is full of true stories of friendships gone wrong, and it is a very insightful look at why some of these women behave the way they do. It is particularly useful for people wondering why a friend would betray them, and of course, the answer to that is "that person was never your friend" anyway! As with most self-help books, this book is an excellent way to explore your feelings, and to understand the behaviours of others. ...more
Jan 27, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I DNF this book, it was from the library. I may pick it up again. It WAS good, and very true to life, sadly. I have been through most of the scenarios in the book! But I was going through the experience while I read it, and decided to walk out of an abusive workplace and move on with my life. Sometimes, life takes the place of reading.

There were no "solutions" in the book, but that's not what it is. It's a case study.
Aug 17, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
page 156 The biggest complaint older women had about the younger generation boiled down to two words: no respect. There is often a feeling that "girls today" don't have the proper appreciation for the struggles the older women went through to open those doors they are now striding through. Like Helen, they saw the younger generation as too selfish and too hungry, as wanting it all, wanting it now, and having no interest in paying their dues.

page 188 Groups devoted to transcending personal concer
Nov 12, 2009 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a very interesting read, and not specific to any one industry. In fact this covers every job from the service industry to the corporate world. There are a number of case studies explored throughout each chapter, with detailed analysis of each by the author. Some might find it shocking that women will do these things to one another; others might just find it sad. But certainly, the more we know about what motivates us to cut other women down rather than build them up will help us as a wh ...more
Nov 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Insightful, to say the least. The book forces the reader to be self-reflective in many ways. As a boss, instructor, and peer, have I participated in the types of behavior that Mooney discusses? Sadly, I have been the giver and receiver, certainly not to the level of most of the anecdotes, but I easily identified with the fears that motivated much of the bad girl behavior. The book not only caused self reflection, but it helped me better understand some of the dynamics in my current work situatio ...more
Anita Smith
Jul 17, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I want to disclose this right now... I really and truly do not experience any cattiness or bitchiness in my current work environment... it truly is the nicest, most harmonious and drama-free work environment that I have ever been a part of... and I love it! But I really love sociology, and I dig womens' studies too, plus this has lots of juicy and fun stories about other womens' experiences of cattiness in the workplace, which are always fun to read about when they're happening to other people a ...more
Apr 19, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: work
I read this last spring, if I remember correctly, because I wanted to gain insight as to why women sabotage each other in the workplace.

I could relate to many of the scenarios, and it gave some sage advice, like not forgetting to draw a line between collegiality and friendship.

At the end, however, it devolved into a sort of feminist manifesto about adequate child care, which I thought was a red herring. Daycare issues have nothing to do with the backstabbing I've seen! Many an empty nester, DINK
Andrea Jones
I probably never would have read this book if I hadn't received it as a graduation gift back in 2004. I finally got around to reading it and was somewhat fascinated. It slowed down a lot at the end and was a little repetitive but the information, stories, and message were thought provoking and educational. It revived my interest in the status women hold in today's world and in supporting a larger role for women in directing our society's next moves. ...more
May 09, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
An interesting look at how women think. I have dealt with some of these situations at work before, so I could relate to alot of the stories in this book. I enjoyed the variety of personal stories about women in all fields, and how they relate. It gave me some good insight into the challenges women face in the workplace.
ok. I was disappointed. It's fine for a young woman - it's basic, superficial. Since it's been so long since the 60's, I wished someone had really taken a deep look, study and reflection into the topic. For me, this book wasn't it. However I certainly want to encourage her to continue and go farther. I look forward to her developing the subject - or others. ...more
Aug 22, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
If you have ever said to yourself "I'll never work for another woman again", read this book. Although it offers little by way of dealing with the culturally imparted passive aggression that women bring to the workplace, it helps just to have one's experiences validated. ...more
I wish I could give this book 2 1/2 stars. It was OK. It was a quick read and certainly made me think, but it wasn't until the second to last page that I read anything that moved me at all. ...more
Oct 14, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"Lying is done with words,and also with silence" ...more
Oct 22, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A very helpful book for women in business and other fields known for their notorious treatment of women (usually by other women).
Jan 02, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I come back to the insights in this book again and again in my life. I had the opportunity to interview the author, too, which was a cool connection.
Jul 25, 2011 added it
Linda Abhors the New GR Design
Great book if you need the validation; however, there were no practical solutions as to what you can do when forced to work with difficult people.
Aug 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Gives insight into different issues professionals face from different prospectives. I thought the author did a great job addressing a complex topic.
rated it liked it
Jul 07, 2010
rated it it was amazing
Sep 03, 2007
rated it really liked it
Jun 01, 2008
rated it liked it
Apr 23, 2008
rated it it was amazing
Jun 12, 2008
rated it really liked it
Aug 05, 2009
Chris Lyons McKinley
rated it really liked it
Sep 23, 2013
rated it liked it
Dec 23, 2012
rated it it was amazing
Apr 08, 2012
Elsie Tham
rated it it was ok
Dec 22, 2016
E.b. Dean
rated it did not like it
Aug 18, 2010
« previous 1 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »

Readers also enjoyed

  • The Adventure of the Christmas Pudding (Hercule Poirot, #35)
  • A Great and Terrible Beauty (Gemma Doyle, #1)
  • The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina—Separating the Myth from the Medicine
  • How Not to Diet: The Groundbreaking Science of Healthy, Permanent Weight Loss
  • Everyday Sacred: A Woman's Journey Home
  • The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake
  • Far Flung: Improvisations on National Parks, Driving to Russia, Not Marrying a Ranger, the Language of Heartbreak, and Other Natural Disasters
  • Forest Air: Skogluft: The Norwegian Method to a Healthy Happy Life
  • I Actually Wore This: Clothes We Can't Believe We Bought
  • Face It
  • Inside Out
  • Little Bee
  • The Barefoot Book: 50 Great Reasons to Kick Off Your Shoes
  • Wildflower
  • What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Blacker: A Memoir in Essays
  • A Study in Emerald
  • The Clothing of Books
  • Sleep Smarter: 21 Essential Strategies to Sleep Your Way to A Better Body, Better Health, and Bigger Success
See similar books…
Nan Mooney is the author of three books and numerous articles for publications including the Washington Post, The Daily News,, the Utne Reader, Women's eNews and Alternet among others. She currently lives in Seattle with her son Leo and lots of rain. ...more

Related Articles

  Mary Roach is a science author who specializes in the bizarre and offbeat. With a body of work ranging from deep-dives on the history of...
11 likes · 3 comments