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See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love

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How do we love in a time of rage? How do we fix a broken world while not breaking ourselves? Valarie Kaur—renowned Sikh activist, filmmaker, and civil rights lawyer—describes revolutionary love as the call of our time, a radical, joyful practice that extends in three directions: to others, to our opponents, and to ourselves. It enjoins us to see no stranger but instead loo ...more
Hardcover, 389 pages
Published June 16th 2020 by One World
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Kai
Sep 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
"We can have all the empathy in the world for a group of people and still participate in the structures and systems that oppress them."

Stars cannot express the power of this book.
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Raymond
Jun 04, 2020 rated it really liked it
One of the hardest things we can do as humans is to love our enemies. It’s one of those precepts that is easier said than done, but civil rights lawyer, activist, and filmmaker Valarie Kaur has given us a book that can help us to do this work.

In See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love, Kaur provides us a book that is part memoir and part how to manual on how to practice what she describes as “revolutionary love”. She defines revolutionary love as the active decisions humans
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Lorilin
Sep 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir, arc, own
I had never heard of Valarie Kaur before reading this memoir, but she is a renowned Sikh activist, filmmaker, and civil rights lawyer. She’s also incredibly thoughtful, insightful, and impressively understanding toward people who are different from her. It took me a while to finish See No Stranger because it is heavy—beautifully written and straight up breathtaking, no exaggeration—but, good grief, she covers some tough subjects. Not only does she discuss her personal experiences with racism and ...more
Michelle
This book is extraordinary. Transformative. I will be buying my own copy because I need to mark it up. And reread it. Over and over. I recommend this most highly for anyone, especially anyone who wants to make the world a better place.
Christine
Disclaimer: ARC via Netgalley

There times when this book feels like it cannot decide what It wants to be, like it is trying to do too much. One level, it functions as a memoir, a very good one. On another level, it functions as a guide to dealing with those people – ones who disagree with you or who exhibit racism. On a third level, it is a discussion of Sikh belief and philosophy. Again, like the memoir, interesting. But there are times when the two book types mesh and times when they do not.

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Steve
May 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Rarely does a book come along that makes an impression on me as See No Stranger has.

In the 1990s, several of M Scott Peck's books, including Different Drum (about building community) enabled me to re-imagine my life and begin a healing of my soul. Just a few years ago, Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari presented a revolutionary overview of human history that enabled me to re-imagine humanity.

Now in 2020 comes Valarie Kaur with See No Stranger to empower me to re-imagine my life as an activist (and wr
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Suzanne
Some books are so perfectly in tune with their time that reading them feels almost spooky. As though the author has moved beyond our earthly struggles and found solutions from sources we have overlooked amidst our solitary pursuits. We were too busy not listening. Author Valarie Kaur took time off very intentionally and composed this book from myriad sources, her own lifelong journals and philosophy and religious texts. That her book will be published in the midst of COVID-19 and racial demonstr ...more
Blythe
Sep 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir
Restorative and transformative. Enlightening and comforting. I wish every American who strives to love in this broken world could absorb the wisdom in these pages.
Alissa
Jul 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I was on maternity leave in Hong Kong bonding with my newly adopted toddler daughter during the winter of 2016 when I first encountered the work of civil rights activist Valarie Kaur. This period of time, you may recall, was a particularly interesting one to be an American diplomat overseas, as our presidential election results had just shocked the world; it was also an interesting time to find my footing as the single mother of a child of a different ethnicity - and U.S. immigration status - th ...more
Anne
Jan 27, 2021 rated it it was amazing
This excellent, worth-reading book helps us gain understanding of the two diametrically opposed camps within our country. It also suggests reasons and avenues to open dialogue. The underlying theme is we cannot begin to repair and move on unless we mitigate our individual dislike, anger or hate toward others...and even add empathy and respect for those we don’t understand. And we all need to remember to take care of ourselves. I’m so glad Ms. Kaur wrote this book!
Liz
Apr 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: giveaways
Wow! I do not usually read books with a heavy philosophical bent, but I really loved this book. I was given an ARC by Random House One World and received it about a week or two into the my state's stay at home order but didn't immediately pick it up. I finally started it yesterday and got about 50 pages to the end before I finally tore myself away to go to sleep - I didn't anticipate it being so hard to put down! Kaur's synthesis of her own traumatic experiences and those she has witnessed throu ...more
Jewyamarie
Aug 06, 2020 rated it really liked it
I would highly recommend this book. The only reason it is not 5 is due every so often I would lose connection to her writing style. However, that does not really affect that this book really stretched me by giving me ideas to think about that I had not previously considered, a glimpse into a faith that I knew nothing about, and a wake up to historical events in our country and their ramifications.

Valarie Kaur is smart, impressive, bold, brave, and unbelievably kind and loving. I have been great
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Jacquelyn Fusco
May 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I can't say enough good things about this book. I want everyone to read it. It is so good on so many levels: activism manual, history of the years since 2000, memoir, primer on the sikh religion, self-help book.
Valarie Kaur is an inspiration and she shows me that it is possible to be powerful and make change even if you have suffered from panic attacks and impostor syndrome.
Maybe I should have gone to law school too. I'm 31, but I still want to be like Valarie Kaur when I grow up.
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Natalie Park
Aug 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audio
A powerful read, part memoir and part guide of how to deal with hurt, trauma, anger and rage along with finding the way to seeing others who have harmed us with love, understanding and as part of our own family. Definitely a tough idea in this heated time of social justice issues taking center stage and seeing all the ugliness that still exists. It’s work that will last a lifetime.
Hillary Watson
Feb 16, 2021 rated it it was amazing
I feel almost silly giving this book 5 stars, how could I possibly express the worth of this book with such a simple rating system?

I loved every page of this book. The author has truly discovered something amazing in her process of revolutionary love. "You are a part of me that I do not yet know". For so much of my life, I have been oblivious to parts of the world that I do not yet know. I am grateful to the author for opening her world to me and introducing a new perspective. This book has bee
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Konrad Mueller
Jan 10, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Read this, everybody.

This book was balm for my soul. Over the last 4 years I’ve watched myself steadily turn inwards in the face of trauma and brokenness. Reading this book returned me to a part of myself that had been muted and numbed. Kaur calls us to cultivate wonder and empathy, to listen and grieve with our neighbor, to lean into love as a sweet labor. Reading this was an entirely restorative experience, and I cannot recommend it enough.
Laura De Palma
Nov 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, feminist
Exceptional; life-giving.
Erin
“The future is dark. But what if this darkness is not our tomb, but our womb?”

I absolutely loved this book. I had no idea what or who it was about when I started it, but Valarie Kaur’s story covers so much. Sikh-American communities, 9/11, the anti-war movement, intergenerational trauma, divine rage, hate violence and state violence, self-doubt and love for self, naming white supremacy, reimagining the criminal justice system, healing from sexual assault, the injustice of Guantanamo Bay, the rol
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Emily
Nov 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Essential reading. What do I say? The country is a mess. But some of us know we have to be part of the healing. If this sounds like you, read this book!
Lauren Mueller
Feb 12, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Certain, few books have the power of returning me to myself and this was one of them. A powerful, practically memoir reminding me that rage and joy, wonder and doubt can all live side by side on the journey of love. I couldn’t recommend this book more!
Margaret Butler
Jan 11, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Thank you to Gillian for recommending this. It was a wonderful and amazing book and I'm telling all my friends about it. She has figured out a lot of pieces about healing from trauma, building networks for the long haul, and loving our opponents as we change the world. ...more
Mara
Valarie Kaur’s ‘See No Stranger’ is a fascinating, life affirming, poetically written memoir and call to action for us all. She is a Sikh American woman that has devoted her life to care and action as an activist, civil rights lawyer, and filmmaker. Kaur’s ethos is to “see no stranger” and to wonder about everyone, showing them compassion, even if their words and/or actions are filled with hate. Hatred often comes from a place of pain or loss. She details the hate speech and violent actions suff ...more
Trevor Gardner
Jul 06, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I am a person who leads with my head; I find comfort in the intellectual and academic realms of the struggle for justice. To a fault.

But in See No Stranger, Valarie Kaur cuts straight to the heart and the body – specifically, the womb – as the foundation for her framework of revolutionary love as the sword and the shield needed to stay in the work of fighting for a better world. Through her deeply honest and beautiful storytelling, I found myself letting go of what I was thinking and effortless
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Content Sabina
Aug 05, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I wrote her a love letter on my medium page - Sabina Writes. She’s incredible. This manifesto is beautiful and it makes me proud to be Punjabi. To think of love as an act of defiance in times of abject hate reclaims the value and healing that is so desperate to be stolen. What can they do if you choose not to hate in return, but instead wonder about them? Not just telling, Valarie shows how this is possible and provides examples of her own life. I’ve admired her for years, and now I will forever ...more
Kyle Christian
Jan 10, 2021 rated it it was amazing
There is a reason I chose “See No Stranger” as my first book of the new year: It would offer a challenge that I did not think I was, nor am, ready for but one I desperately need. I knew that it would be a challenge; but that it would offer insight, and tips, and hope for living in a world wracked by social violence, emotional violence, and physical violence. The fact that I finished this book days after an attempted coup, instigated by a man who perpetuates every vile, racist, bigotted, and hate ...more
Dana DesJardins
Jan 07, 2021 rated it really liked it
Famous for asking if the darkness under the Trump administration was that of the tomb or the womb, Valarie Kaur anchors her activism in the Sikh faith and daily acts of kindness like deep listening. "In any given moment, each of us has a role in the labor of revolutionary love." Kaur created a healing approach to advocacy through personal pain and immense witness. She is equally adept at showing up with a megaphone or a legal precedent, having prosecuted a case at Guantanamo, pioneered policing ...more
Barbara
Apr 10, 2020 rated it really liked it
The writing of Valerie Kaufman is very convincing. Despite all of the negativity in her life-the racial slurs and the bullying-she had a loving family as a child in Clovis, California. Especially important was her Grandfather who taught her to persevere with friends and strangers. Her life is an uplifting story with many examples of the revolutionary love that she advocates. At times a little esoteric, but mostly practical and down-to-earth, her book creates a philosophy of allowing love for all ...more
Melissa Greene
Nov 02, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: imaginarium
WOW. WOW. WOW. I am blown away by this memoir full of both uplifting and tragic stories, as well as challenging and inspirational messages. The magic for me is the reminder of the beauty, resiliency, strength, courage, and passion of the human spirit told so authentically and vulnerably. Plus, an introduction to the Sikh religion so lovely that I can't wait to continue to learn more and glean from their wisdom. This will remain on my bedside for years. A MUST READ and MUST SHARE book. ...more
Louise
Jan 24, 2021 rated it it was amazing
"All that you touch you Change. All that you change changes you. The only lasting truth Is Change. —Octavia E. Butler"

This intensely personal memoir is breathtakingly inspirational. Kaur has lived and loved through many of the worst experiences possible, and yet she continues to push for wonder, to breathe in joy, to listen and rage for grief. Her lens, both literal and figurative, provides an important perspective on the work that we need to do together in America. There is work to be done pers
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Kelly Leonard
Jul 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing read. From the margins, Valarie has insights than many of us simply don't have access to. The book is an honest and open story of what it means to break as human being and what it might take to reconnect with ourselves, our community and even our opponents. This is a must read - particularly in the times we find ourselves living in right now. ...more
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“Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear. When I really want to hear another person's story, I try to leave my preconceptions at the door and draw close to their telling. I am always partially listening to the thoughts in my own head when others are speaking, so I consciously quiet my thoughts and begin to listen with my senses. Empathy is cognitive and emotional—to inhabit another person's view of the world is to feel the world with them. But I also know that it's okay if I don't feel very much for them at all. I just need to feel safe enough to stay curious. The most critical part of listening is asking what is at stake for the other person. I try to understand what matters to them, not what I think matters. Sometimes I start to lose myself in their story. As soon as I notice feeling unmoored, I try to pull myself back into my body, like returning home. As Hannah Arendt says, 'One trains one's imagination to go visiting.' When the story is done, we must return to our skin, our own worldview, and notice how we have been changed by our visit. So I ask myself, What is this story demanding of me? What will I do now that I know this?” 9 likes
“In the United States, white supremacy is intertwined with Christian supremacy, one an extension of the other. Any theology that teaches that God will torture the people in front of you in the afterlife creates the imaginative space for you to do so yourself on earth.” 5 likes
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