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Love You Hate You Miss You

3.76  ·  Rating details ·  7,751 ratings  ·  534 reviews
Get this, I'm supposed to be starting a journal about "my journey." Please. I can see it now: Dear Diary, As I'm set adrift on this crazy sea called "life" . . . I don't think so.

It's been seventy-five days. Amy's sick of her parents suddenly taking an interest in her.

And she's really sick of people asking her about Julia. Julia's gone now, and she doesn't want to talk abo
Hardcover, 276 pages
Published May 26th 2009 by HarperTeen
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This book smashed the reading slump right out of me. One furious smash like it was nothing at all. Wow. (And just how had I never heard of Elizabeth Scott before was beyond me.)

I could feel, strongly, the simmering rage just right under Amy’s skin, so ready to burst right out and destroy everything around her. How raw and real it feels.

One caveat though - if you hate ‘only tell don’t show’ books, stay away from this one! It just so happens that I was one of those who don’t mind if you don’t show
t's no secret that I am huge Elizabeth Scott fan. She is so diverse in what she writes. If you were to read Something, Maybe, you'd think she was a quirky, light-hearted rom-com kinda author. My librarian recently read Living Dead Girl and was astounded when I said her other work is often funny and sweet. Living Dead Girl so haunted my fave librarian that she is scared to let young teenagers read it :) Love You Hate You Miss You is edgier than some of her other work (nothing like Living Dead Gir ...more
Dec 20, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Elizabeth Scott is a wonderful author, so I had high expectations for this teen novel--it did not disappoint. A compelling story of a teenage girl writing a journal to her best friend as part of her therapy after entering a rehab center for her alcohol abuse. The best friend died in a tragic accident. The story and characters unfold steadily, and our narrator is not your typical child from a broken home - quite the opposite, in fact - which was a refreshing change for teen novels. There was noth ...more
Quick review for a quick read. I think every Elizabeth Scott book I've read thus far has such a potent attention to the respective character emotions she showcases. This book does the grief and healing process after the loss of a friend very well. Amy has survivor's guilt over the death of Julia- her former best friend. The two girls were in an vehicular accident - with Amy drunk and Julia shaken by grief in the events of that respective night. "Love You Hate You Miss You" shows Amy grappling wi ...more
Feb 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own, signed
Amy is full of guilt. She can barely look at herself after what she did. It has been 75 days since she walked away from the car accident that took the life of her best friend, Julia. She never should have gone to that party, never should have said what she said, never should have drank what she drank.

After grueling weeks of therapy at Pinewood, a rehabilitation center, Amy is starting school again with a whole new look. She is now the outsider, the girl with no friends because she killed her onl
Love You Hate You Miss You follows Amy, who is essentially the same as the protagonist from Perfect You, except she's troubled and more cynical (if that's possible). Her best friend Julia dies in a tragic car accident that Amy feels responsible for, and she spends the entirety of the novel coping (or rather, really not coping) by writing letters to Julia and attending therapy sessions.

This is yet another infuriating story about people who refuse to talk to each other about how they're feeling a
Sep 08, 2011 rated it liked it
Recommended to Reynje by: Nomes

Alright, I’m officially an Elizabeth Scott fangirl. Can I have my badge now, please?

My rating of Love You Hate You Miss You is probably more indicative of my reading experience, given of the stage of life I’m in right now, as opposed to a rating of the book per se. Had this book been around when I was 17, I’d be slapping stars around with more abandon. Having some distance from that particular age, I read it with more appreciation for the quietly expressive writing, and rather less of the deeply
Feb 05, 2010 rated it liked it
Shelves: ya, 2010
I suppose I shouldn't have read this book so close to another book with similar theme - Nancy Werlin's "The Killer's Cousin." Both books are about death, guilt and responsibility, but I think Scott's novel is a little weaker than Werlin's.

On the positive side, "Love You Hate You Miss You" is a very engaging story, written as a mix of letters to a dead person and a 1st person narrative. It took me just about 2 hours to get through this 300-page book. Amy's emotional state after the death of her b
Jennifer Wardrip
Jul 01, 2009 rated it really liked it
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I've said this before and I am going to say it again: Elizabeth Scott's writing is chameleon-like. Some of her books are fluffy and light, the perfect poolside read, while some of her other books take on darker undertones. Where does her new book fall on this continuum? It's dark, not disturbingly dark but still dark, because the main character's emotional pain is very apparent.

I believe wholeheartedly that accidents happen and that blame is a w
May 31, 2009 rated it it was amazing
I get this feeling when I read the last page of a book. It's when I read the last sentence, and I close the back cover over it.
The first thought in my mind could be "Why did it end that way?" or "Okay. I see how the author is trying to close his/her book."
With LYHYMY, I read the last sentence and thought "Why did it have end at all?!" and then I closed the back cover and sat there. It was like a choked up feeling inside, just filled with emotion, and I realized Elizabeth Scott could not have c
Oct 21, 2009 rated it liked it
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Mar 25, 2011 rated it it was amazing
75 days ago, Amy's best friend, Julia died. We don't get the details right away, but we do know that Amy blames herself. Most of the book is in the form of her journal, written as letters to Julia. The rest is still in Amy's POV, but is more moment-by-moment, and is slightly more honest than the thoughts that Amy is intentionally "sharing" with Julia.

I've never read Elizabeth Scott before. Obviously, I should have. She writes Amy so believably, so emotionally that I was glued to every word. This
Mar 24, 2011 rated it really liked it
The first Elizabeth Scott book I read was Grace - & that was an incredible baptism of fire. LYHYMY was mildly intense in comparison, and a thoroughly amazing read.

One word - Patrick ;) Here are a few swoon worthy quotes about him.

I'd always picked skinny guys before, guys who were all bones and angles. Guys who were small in my arms, guys I could see around. Patrick was solid, and instead of ribs and shoulder blades, I felt mucsle rippling under his skin. It should have felt strange, but it did
Oct 06, 2014 rated it it was amazing
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Mar 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
Meet Amy. Trust me, you wouldn't want to be her. Amy is the star of Elizabeth Scott's latest, Love You Hate You Miss You. And it's a tough read--though not as touch as Living Dead Girl. She's an alcoholic. And a grieving one at that. Her best friend, Julia, died in a car accident. And Amy blames herself. But no amount of I'm sorry's and why's and if only's will bring her friend back. Life goes on...despite it all. And Amy's return to "normal" life, to school, is anything but easy. Facing the ent ...more
Apr 12, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya
Mmmm.... I want to say 3.75/5.

Okay, so. I liked it. I really did. It's just nothing unusual. I liked the story and how it is not about a typical high school student struggling with life. She's struggling with a loss so big it's almost unbearable. The book obviously talks a lot about Amy's feelings, but I didn't find them recurrent and I believed most of her arc development. I do think that the book resolves too quickly; as in, she suddenly understands and things (slowly, I'll give Scott that) ge
Aug 25, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: young-adult
This is my first Elizabeth Scott book, one i stumbled upon while reviewing Hold Still, which had a similar plot. I can't help but compare the two when i was finished with this one. Hold Still felt raw and honest, and while Love You Hate You Miss You was a lot more raw in some parts, it felt unrealistic to me. The main character Amy was extremely hard to relate to, as she was mainly angry and self destructing in every turn. What bothered me was not the fact that i could not understand her - it wa ...more
Jan 10, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: ebook
This is not a book I love, Hate, or will Miss, but it’s a book that’s got me thinking about the “what if’s” of life. What if I was Amy and Julia my best friend, and all of a sudden I found her looking up at me, like she has done so many times, laughing, crying or smiling, but only this time there was no expression on her face, just complete stillness?

“She was looking at me… but she didn’t see me.”

What if I had been the last person to hold her hand and tell her everything would be okay, just mom
May 09, 2009 rated it it was amazing
It’s been seventy five days, and Amy still doesn’t know how to function. Seventy five long days and Amy doesn’t know how she’s supposed to live without her best friend Julia. But she has to live, because living without Julia is her punishment for letting Julia die. And so Amy struggles along, barely able to bear her parents’ phony concern, endure the trials of school, and weather her shrink’s uncomfortably probing questions. Angry and frustrated, Amy starts writing letters to Julia instead of jo ...more
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Nov 23, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: own, 2012
This was an interesting book to read, and it reminded me a little bit of How To Save A Life by Sara Zarr. Obviously, the plot is completely different, but the protagonist not so much. The relationship with the parent(s) not so much. The relationship with friends not so much. And the loss of a loved one not so much.

Amy is a good person, a good person that's gone a little off-kilter, and was easily lead by a wild, independent, and autonomous character like Julia.

Love you Hate You Miss You is an em
Jan 26, 2014 rated it liked it
What's nice about three star reads is that the pages will turn, and the brain will be just the right amount of engaged, which I can't always say for 4-5 stars let alone the 1-2s. At the same time, however, three starts tend to hit the almost but not quite mark of book where I keep thinking, hey this is a nice idea, if only I could just edit this...
LYHYMY (dumb title but sort of works when you read the book) is about a teen named Amy who has just left rehab after being in an accident wherein her
Jun 04, 2009 rated it really liked it
Elizabeth Scott reminds me on sunshine. I see her in a photograph or on her vlog and I feel joyous. There's just something about her that makes me smile like a loon. I have read three of her titles so far (Stealing Heaven, Bloom and Perfect You) and enjoyed them all but Love You Hate You Miss You trumps all of them.

There's a harder edge, plenty of sarcasm and a lot of negativity in the form of the protagonist, Amy. She's brittle and fragile in one tall, red haired, resentful and mostly silent pa
May 27, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2010
Amy could have been an awesome character if she'd been fleshed out more. She wasn't your typical grief kid; she made bad choices prior to Julia's death, and I liked that take on the character. Despite that, I just couldn't begin to even enjoy Amy. Like most of Scott's protagonist, she was always complaining and ever so whiny. I wish that, I wish this. My mother this, my mother that. This time was worse because the author made it all too dramatic with Amy's "I'm a murderer" proclamation. Obviousl ...more
Sep 03, 2011 rated it liked it
Name: Sarah Fretz

Citation: Scott, E. (2009). Love you hate you miss you. New York: HarperTeen.

Genre: Contemporary Realistic Fiction


Format: E-Book

Selection: Living Dead Girl by Elizabeth Scott


Amy is an extremely “awkward” teenager. She is not very social, her parents are in their own little world and the only thing she has to look forward to is spending time with her best friend Julia. Julia brings out the best in Amy, making her into the person she isn’t…happy, fun, carefree.

But A
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My thoughts - Amy is a mess. Since the death of her best friend Julia she can hardly function anymore. Everyday seems like one big chore. Life just ins't the same without her and she's having a very hard time coping. You see, Julia was her rock, her support. She made her feel less of a gangly red haired freak, but without her she's left with a bunch of strangers that she has no connection with whatsoever. She feels completely alone.

LOVE YOU HATE YOU MISS YOU was so damn fantastic. This book is
Jul 24, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: ya
Slightly reminiscent of Speak in tone, Love You Hate You Miss You is a dark book about grief, loss, and personal responsibility. Not nearly as dark as Living Dead Girl, Scott gives us a very realistic story of struggle and grief. After surviving a car accident that kills her best friend, Amy must confront her demons. She struggles with a wealth of problems (alcoholism, her relationship with her parents, school, connecting with others, to name a few) and through that struggle, confronts her feeli ...more
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Grade: B

Amy gets out of rehab 75 days after she killed her best friend Julia. Now instead of being detached, her parents are super interested in everything she does, but Amy isn't buying their faux concern. Her therapist clicks her pen annoyingly and even worse, she recommended Amy for all honors courses instead of the slacker classes she's always taken. Then there are the whispers from the other kids, former friends and some new friends who are trying to befriend her. But, Amy pushes everyone a
Jan 05, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Love You, Hate You, Miss You, catchy title, catchy start, to a catchy plot. Everything about this book screams reality at the reader, honest in tone and easy to read. Even the format, letters to a girl's dead best friend, are heartbreaking. The narration, via the letters, establishes an early level of comfortable interaction. It's a simple, but powerful, tale of a girl struggling to move on with life. For me, the most powerful part of the story was Amy telling her parents of all people, what had ...more
I've never been much of a contemporary reader. As a matter of fact, it wasn't until recently that I decided to start giving them a try. As it turns out, I do like them. I prefer my horrors and paranormals and dystopians better, but some contemporaries have managed to sneak into my heart and grab a very nice hold of it *cough*everything by Courtney Summers*cough*. Anyway, the point is that I've stumbled upon some pretty amazing contemporary books this year, and though Love You Hate You Miss You i ...more
May 07, 2009 rated it really liked it
This was one of the last books I received from the library on my book binge (consisting of roughly 16 books, all to be read within three weeks. Sadly enough, I succeeded). I finally got around to reading Love You Hate You Miss You and I enjoyed.

Amy and her best friend Julia went out partying one night. Only Amy made it home alive. Her parents decide that it's best if she gets some help for her drinking problem. She gets counseling to deal with Julia's death. But nothing helps her overcome the gr
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