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Love Is for Losers

4.02  ·  Rating details ·  753 ratings  ·  245 reviews
In this wry and hilarious queer romantic comedy, fifteen-year-old Phoebe realizes that falling in love is maybe not just for losers.

Did you know you can marry yourself? How strange / brilliant is that?

Fifteen-year-old Phoebe thinks falling in love is vile and degrading, and vows never to do it. Then, due to circumstances not entirely in her control, she finds herself volun
Hardcover, 352 pages
Published February 23rd 2021 by Farrar, Straus and Giroux (BYR)
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Sandy There is some pretty frank talk about sex, so that is something to consider - some 12 year olds (and their parents) are ready for that, and others are…moreThere is some pretty frank talk about sex, so that is something to consider - some 12 year olds (and their parents) are ready for that, and others aren't.(less)

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daph pink ♡

It's not the book nor it's me.

It's the main character!
Jul 05, 2020 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: those who like Louise Rennison's type of humor
This is the type of YA I intentionally seek out, every year combing through every title promising humor and comedy. Judging by the fact that I usually find about 2 each year that perfectly fit my taste, my guess is, the pool of readers that are into this kind of writing isn't big.

Let me explain what I like:

1) diary format

2) biting humor that usually comes from British or Canadian writers

3) a flawed, often sarcastic or clueless narrator who isn't afraid to do or say some really dumb stuff.

Cece (ProblemsOfaBookNerd)
Things to love about this:
1. It's about a 15-year-old, an age group for queer teens that is not nearly as represented in YA
3. Thrift shop love story
Emer (A Little Haze)
This was such an engaging read. So honest and funny, and at times so heartbreaking.

A lot of the times in YA we complain that the characters don’t act or sound like teenagers. Well in this book Phoebe the MC is 100% a teenager. She’s 15 years old and is the most glorious medley of personality traits that all blend together to make her feel entirely authentic.

Phoebe isn’t always likeable.
She certainly has some dodgy opinions throughout the book... but that’s what makes her human. She makes mista
Ellie (faerieontheshelf)
✨ over at Beyond A Bookshelf, we recently had a Q&A with author Wibke Brueggemann as part of F/F February 2021! You can read the interview here


this whole book was a bit of a personal attack tbh I'm laughing but also crying.

When I received the details for Love is for Losers, I was immediately intrigued. Because yes, I am the kind of person who has a bit of a cynical outlook on love and generally views every time I get a crush as a bit of a bother. I'm a bit past 15, but Phoebe is kinda me. Als
Nenia ✨ I yeet my books back and forth ✨ Campbell
Feb 21, 2021 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Nenia ✨ I yeet my books back and forth ✨ by: Tatiana

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Because the title is LOVE IS FOR LOSERS, I originally thought that this was going to be a story about an aro/ace girl. Instead, this is a young adult story, told epistolary style, about a depressed misanthrope who hasn't quite figured out that she's a girl who likes girls.

There is so much to appreciate about this book but I think it's probably going to put a lot of people off because the heroine, Phoebe, is so angry. Ironically, that's w
Melanie (mells_view)
Feb 12, 2021 rated it really liked it
“PPS: I think I’m socially awkward.”
^I feel this on a deeper level.

Love is for Losers is a coming of age and learning that maybe a little bit about love. Phoebe is 15 and dealing with losing her best friend to new love, her absent (for a good cause) mother, feeling lonely, and new feelings for a new friend. She finds friendships, life lessons, and refuge in her godmother’s thrift shop, a place she originally felt disdain for.

I think this story is good because while Phoebe is a bit crass at times
Oct 14, 2019 marked it as dnf
dnf @ 10%

sorry, i just cannot stand the main character or the writing style. we need more sapphic books for under 16 year olds but not edgy kids who make fun of humanitarians and people with disabilities
Bookphenomena (Micky)
A strong British voice, something of an annoying character and a great diary format.

Review to come for the blog.
Jul 21, 2020 rated it really liked it
Two words: thriftstore romance. I didn't know I wanted that, but I really did.

This book is super funny - think Georgia Nicholson but gay - but it packed some real emotional punches too.
Mar 28, 2021 marked it as dnf
Dnf @5%
And the award for the fastest DNF of the year goes to this book. *congratulations* Honestly, I'm not a fan of the writing or the humor that apparently everyone I know has loved. The title drew me in, and I thought the cover was pretty. But,guess I'm too old for this. No,I don't regret this at all.Did I mention,I dislike the main character?

People are right. This book is cute. However it's not my kind of cute.
Queen Ophilia III
Feb 05, 2021 rated it really liked it
Shelves: uhc
Such a sharp and witty read. I legit laughted. I dont uaually laugh to books, i might smile but not laugh. This sure was a fun ride.

I wanted the romance to start sooner though not in the end part of the book.

Still a fun and smart read.
Umairah | Sereadipity
Mar 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Oh I loved this. Phoebe's voice came through brilliantly and she was hilarious! ...more
Mar 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
*4.5 Stars*
(Thank you to my Mum for typing this for me).
Thank you to NetGalley for sending me this eARC in return for an honest review.
This book follows the main character Phoebe who thinks love is for losers and vows never to fall in love. Phoebe starts this book feeling rather abandoned due to the fact that her mother, a Dr, is going to Syria for 6 months to aid in the humanitarian crisis (something she does often) and her best friend Polly has ditched her for a boy. But through a series of un
Samantha (WLABB)
Phoebe had no interest in falling in love. She had seen the pain of losing the one you loved, as well as the the way some people, like her best friend, lost their minds when they fall in love. Nope. Love was not for her. At least it wasn't until she met Emma.

For a book about resisting love, it had me head-over-heels love-at-first-sight captivated from the very beginning. For one thing, the diary format is one I always adore. The confessional nature, unfiltered thoughts, and stream-of-consciousn
charlotte, (½ of readsrainbow)
On my blog.

Actual rating 2.5

Rep: lesbian mc & li, side character with Downs syndrome, side character with anxiety

Galley provided by publisher

This book was somewhat of a mixed bag. There were things I liked about it, but there were also plenty of things I didn’t like about it.

Love is for Losers is written as six months worth of diary entries from the main character as she lives with her godmother, gets through her GCSEs, and falls in love while her mother is away on a humanitarian mission.

I t
Nov 27, 2020 rated it really liked it
~Love Is For Losers~

4/5 stars

I got approved for this book on Netgalley not really knowing too much about the plot besides that it involved a queer romance and had a really fun cover! This book was very British and reminded me of a mix of the movie Angus, Thongs, and Perfect Snogging and the show Sex Education so if you liked either I think you’d really enjoy this book.

+I think the formatting really allows for a uniquely authentic teen pov. It really feels like a 15 year old wrote this s
Review: Love is for Losers by Wibke Brueggemann // Or, A Grumpy Girl Catches Feelings

★★★,5☆ | *Heterosexual Love is for Losers

"I don’t have time to have crushes on people, I’m busy with exams. My brain is working on full capacity, I don’t have room for fluffy shit like this."

🐈 written in the form of a diary
🐈 unlikeable protagonist
🐈 f/f rom-com
🐈 chosen family and kittens

Phoebe is not the most likeable protagonist. She is judgemental, bad with people, and messes up a lot.

She tries to be better
Jessica | Booked J
May 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
Blog | Twitter | Instagram | Tik Tok | You can find my review here.

As always, a copy of this book was provided by the author or publisher in exchange for my honest review. This does not effect my opinion in any way.

For reasons unknown to me, I kept procrastinating Love Is for Losers. Although it sounded like an absolute must-read, in my opinion, I was a little nervous that I might be hyping it up a bit too much in my mind. Unsurprisingly, I was wrong and absolutely need to climb to the roof
Is it weird that I relate this much to someone who is selfish, sarcastic and constantly telling people to f**k off??

The plot is this: Phoebe is a 15yr old who just lost her best friend to a boy. Suddenly Phoebe is discovering that love makes people idiots and she is not a fan. To be fair, she kind of has a point.

There's a lot to unpack here, but it's mostly just a glimpse of teenage life that so many of us can relate to. Phoebe is obviously hurt by how happy Polly is with someone who isn't her,
Elyse (ElyseReadsandSpeaks)
Feb 12, 2021 rated it really liked it
This was adorable! I'll be honest - I have struggled finding a YA f/f romance that I'm into, but this really hit the spot for me. It was a slow burn sweet romance as this witty girl questions her sexuality. Maybe "questions her sexuality" isn't the right description. It's more like she doesn't want anything to do with love as a concept and then realizes she's falling right into it and didn't realize she would be attracted to another girl. Honestly, it felt real to me. Plus, Phoebe's voice sounds ...more
Sai at theengineerisreading
As my first five-star read for 2021, the pressure to write a cohesive review for this book is on.

Love is for Losers is Wibke Brueggemann's debut novel that is set to hit bookshelves in the UK this January 21 and next month (Feb 23) for the rest of the world.

But before I go ahead with my review, I would like to thank MacMillan UK and Wibke herself for sending a proof copy my way in exchange for honest review.

When I heard that this book is pitched as Sex Education but make it in Bridget Jones form
Thank you to Pan Macmillan Australia for giving me a finished copy to review in exchange for an honest opinion.

I loved this book.
I had this as marked "want to read" in October (I remove them from there because it makes it impossible for me to search my 'read' books sometimes, stupid goodreads) 2019 !!!

This was everything I wanted and so much more. Full review to come as soon as I am able.

Representation: Phoebe is a lesbian, Alex has Down Syndrome, Emma is a lesbian.

Content warnings: parental ne
I received this book from the publisher in return for an honest review.

I received this book as a surprise and contemporary books are outside of my comfort zone. So this is hard for me to rate, but I am really surprised by how much I ended up enjoying this read.

The book is in diary format which is new to me, but I believe that also made it very quick and easy to read.

In the beginning I didn't like the main character but she goes through a lot of development in the course of the book.

The story a
Sanna G. Ståhl
Jul 11, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020
3.5/5 stars! ⭐️

This was a cute but at the same time honest, beautiful and heartbreaking read.

I really liked the main character Phoebe as she was very unique and not the typical “outgoing” heroine.

To me this felt more like a read for a teenager than for a young adult/adult like myself but I still really really enjoyed it!

Also really enjoyed the fact that it was a light and quick read even though the book looked quite big and intimidating.

Would really like to read more of the author in the fu
“And what a stupid expression that is in the first place: to fall in love.

Like you fall into a ditch or something.

Maybe people need to look where they are going”


I have absolutely NOTHING bad to say about this book! Cute AF, funny, witty, sarcastic, full of amazing characters (even a Scottish gal YAY!) and deals with so many important topics in a way that would help a young reader understand! Love, loss, growing up, sexuality, sexual experiences, exam stress, death, relationshi
Feb 18, 2021 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed how this story was formatted and the overall plot of this, but the humor did not always land for me.

I received an ecopy of this through netgalley; however, all opinions are my own.
Dec 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
Thanks to NetGalley and Farrar, Straus and Giroux for this arc, which I received in exchange for an honest review. I will post that review- aka my ode to Phoebe’s greatness- upon publication.

Updated 2/23/21

4 stars

This book is so quirky in the most appealing way.

Phoebe is 15 (going on 16), and she's in a state of flux. Her father died before she was born, and her mother is out of the country so often providing medical services in war torn areas that Phoebe actually has her own room in her godmo
Nov 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: young-adult, 2019, queer, faves
I told myself, "self, you're gonna need to read some middle-grade books before the holiday season starts because you're woefully behind and will have to suggest random books and coworker suggestions if you don't!! least read a YA that's not queer!" Of course I ignored such sage advice and read this WONDERFUL & BRILLIANT queer YA that's not even out until next summer!!!!

Love Is For Losers is soo funny and strange and clever! Phoebe's brain is a place you'll want to stay, but also it'll make
Rayne ♥ [ IG: havenofink ]
Thank you to the publisher for providing me with a review copy. All opinions are my own.

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Wibke Brueggemann grew up in northern Germany and the southern United States, but calls London her home. She originally studied acting at the Academy of Live and Recorded Arts but ended up becoming a writer. She has a Master's in Writing for Young People from Bath Spa University, where she was the recipient of the Bath Spa University Writing Award. Wibke enjoys traveling, and is a clandestine love ...more

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