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It's Not You, It's Me

2.87  ·  Rating details ·  358 ratings  ·  104 reviews
Funny and touching—this is a heartfelt breakup story.

Zoe loves Henry.

Henry dumps Zoe.

Zoe wants Henry back—at any cost.

Zoe’s two best friends come up with a plan to help Zoe get what she thinks she wants. The plan: make Henry jealous.

But the plan takes a surprising turn. . . .

Spanning thirty-one days in the cycle of a breakup, Kerry Cohen Hoffmann’s humorous and poignant no
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published June 9th 2009 by Delacorte Books for Young Readers (first published January 1st 2009)
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Nov 18, 2010 rated it did not like it
Shelves: young-adult
Henry dumps Zoë and that's when all the madness begins. Zoë knows she's in love with Henry and he must feel the same way, so if she can only show him and prove to him and...then she'll get him back. Except things don't quite go according to plan, especially since Zoë won't heed the advice of her friends. Eventually they form a plan that's a little more sane and a little less stalker-y, but will it work?

I really tried to like this novel. If Zoë wasn't in it, I probably would have. SHE IS COMPLETE
Taylor Knight
Oct 08, 2016 rated it did not like it
I had accidentally bought this book a while ago and I really wasn't interested in it. I had it for about a year before I picked it up and I kind of wish I had just left it on my shelf.
The main character of this book, Zoë, is awful. She's completely insane. The things she does after her breakup are crazy and she's so stupid. Like, that boy needed to get a restraining order. I don't understand if the things she did were meant to be funny or she was just a very poorly written character. I wish I c
Mar 01, 2018 rated it liked it
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Jan 27, 2010 rated it did not like it
Shelves: fiction, young-adult
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Summary: After 6 months of happiness, Zoe’s boyfriend Henry dumps her so he can focus on his band. But Zoe thinks—no, knows—he’s made a huge mistake, and she sets out to win him back.

Review: Jack Tumor was an impulse pick from the library that paid off. This impulse pick, not so much.

From the very start of the book, the main character was over-the-top psycho, with a capital CRAZY. She just could not function on even the most basic level.

After six months and 218 kisses, Zoe is blindsided when boyfriend Henry tells her he wants out--he wants to focus on his band, he says, and not have a girlfriend right now. Zoe takes the news calmly, but she won't take it lying down. Zoe writes him poems and sneaks them into his locker, his pants pocket (while he's in gym class), even his bedroom window, in her efforts to win him back. Zoe's best friends Julia and Shannon discourage her and tell her she's acting crazy, but she can't help herself ...more
Kenzie Hoffman
Dec 15, 2010 is currently reading it
“Its not you it’s me” is about a girl named Zoe. Everything in her life is going really good. She has a boyfriend named, Henry, they have been dating six months. But after a while, they stop talking and he brakes up with her. Since that day her life is miserable. She finds her self doing things she usually does not do. She tries and tries to get him back. For the longest time she was going in his room while he was not there to find things, or clues so she can find things out on why he broke up w ...more
May 04, 2012 rated it did not like it
This book was written well I guess. Other then that, it was horrible. The whole time I was reading it, I wished I could find this character and slap her out of her stupid trance. Whoever says this book is good for teens is also wrong. I'm sorry, but we've all a first love that might have crushed us. This girl took it to a whole new level of crazy. The main character Zoe I think was impulsive, irrational, silly and very close-minded. She was obviously too needy, and obsessive, I'm honestly surpri ...more
Nov 21, 2017 rated it did not like it
Zoe is a teenaged girl who enjoys spending time with her tragically underwritten friends, writing bad poetry, and being unhealthily obsessed with her boyfriend Henry. But, alas, Henry abruptly ends their six month relationship, breaking Zoe's heart. Will she get him back? Will she move on? Should you read the story long enough to find out? Hint: the answer to the last question is no.
Before I explain the one star, I'm going to tell you what I liked about the book. The writing was fine. A tad bit
Jan 16, 2018 rated it did not like it
I tried to find something I liked about this book. Anything remotely redeeming. But at the end of the day, I just could not bring myself to think of anything I liked.

I wanted to start my year off with a short read. Something simple with a cute romance aspect to it. This was a short read that ended up being too simple with a romance that was downright exhausting to read through. When your main character is annoyingly needy and not relatable, that can be a huge problem for me. When I was first re
Sep 09, 2017 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: ya, fiction
I picked this up thinking it was another with the same name. Unfortunately, this was not a great book. The main protagonist is a stereotypically crazy, love sick teen girl. The resolution and enlightenment at the end can not overcome the craziness displayed the majority of the story.
Steph (Reviewer X)
Jun 07, 2009 rated it did not like it
Henry breaks up with Zoë. Zoë decides that she won’t have it because it was her relationship, too, and it is clearly Her Whole Life, and she should have some say in its disintegration. So she decides the best way to woo him back is by climbing up a tree right outside his window and slipping a poem she wrote about him in, giving him a collage she made of their Happier Times in plain sight at school, befriending his new love interest so as to further stalk every aspect of his life, and pestering h ...more
Yun Mei
Oct 11, 2012 rated it really liked it
Date: Monday, October 15, 2012
Title: It's Not You, It's Me
Author: Kerry Cohen Hoffman
Genre: Fiction
Pages: 1-153

It's Not You, It's Me is about a guy, Henry, who breaks up with a girl named Zoe. Zoe saw it coming since he didn't call her or answer her calls at the certain time they always talked. Zoe was devastated and heartbroken. She couldn't assimilate to the person she was before Henry. It was always Henry this and Henry that. She changed when she started dating him. She was just inundated wit
Alina Rivera
Oct 07, 2011 is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition

So i just started reading this book. So far it had caught my attention. The book starts off with This girl named Zoe. She has a boyfriend named Henry. They have been dating for 6 months and are in love. Zoe and Henry always call each other at exactly 9 p.m. every night since the day they started dating. But this one night Henry did not pick up. Zoe panics and calls everybody she could think of asking if they knew where Henry was , but nobody knew. Right now Zoe is just trying to figure
Jun 24, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2011-2012
"It's Not You, It's Me" by Kerry C. Hoffmann is a compelling novel about a boy named Henry breaking up with his girlfriend Zoe because he wants to focus on his band more. Zoe really loves Henry and she wants him back no matter what, even making him jealous to get Henry fall for her again. But before that Zoe wrote many poems to Henry explaining how important he is in her life and without him she's nothing. With all those poems he thought she was crazy and told Zoe to stop it. But instead Zoe and ...more
Sep 13, 2009 rated it liked it
Zoe loves Henry. They've been dating for six months, a time when she has counted his kisses and devoted herself entirely to supporting Henry and his band. Which makes it all the more devastating when Henry breaks up with her. Zoe pretends to be fine with it, but only because she is sure she can win Henry back. Despite warnings from her friends and family, Zoe dives headlong into obsession; she writes Henry poems and creates photo-collages; she sneaks them into his bedroom and his school locker w ...more
Mar 20, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-for-review
Like many have said the character of Zoe comes off as a nut, basically sabotaging any chance she has of getting her ex-boyfriend back with her antics. Everyone tells her just leave it be, don't do that, don't say that, but she does it anyways without much thought. Even though she comes off as kind of crazy I feel like it depicts a bit of what any normal girlfriend might go through when she breaks up with the boy that really counts and this can be seen sort of as a cautionary tale. It sheds a bit ...more
Jul 10, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is about a girl called Zoe is dating with a boy named Henry. However, Henry almost graduated, he wants to focus on his band, and becomes free. Therefore, he need to break up with Zoe. But Zoe really likes Henry, she feels so hurt, and sad. She doesn’t understand why he can’t focus while they together. She knows that one of her friend’s relation had been break up many times, but they still together. So she is trying to get Henry back, and comes up with a plan to get him back. During th ...more
Aug 14, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arcs, read-in-2012
This book has an adorable cover, I seriously love the two little birds on the front and the colors and everything. What I read on the back cover seemed interesting. But its what is between the two covers that matter and between the two covers I had the equivalent of a slasher flick. I don't mean that there was massive amounts of blood and gore, in fact there were neither of those. More or less I had that same audience reaction as when you watch a horror/slasher flick. You know the one, where you ...more
Jennifer Wardrip
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Zoe Gill has been dating Henry for six months. SIX MONTHS!!! In teenage years, that is a lifetime! She has counted every single kiss; every single moment they have been together.

Zoe believed that their bond would last forever. But now, something has gone horribly awry. Henry doesn't answer his phone at the predetermined time of 9:00pm. Zoe begins to analyze Henry's behavior. He has been acting strangely.....

Zoe frantically enlists the help of her friends,
Nicholas Wong
Nov 13, 2011 rated it it was ok
This book was about how a girl named Zoe has a relationship with this boy named henry and he ends up leaving her for some reason after about a two years relationship together. Then Zoe at first tried to preserve her pride by saying it was no big deal and by doing that she basically bottled up every thing inside. Then like in almost all love stories and movies she can't handle it and she ends up writing poems for henry every day and putting it in his locker or sneaking into his room to give it to ...more
Jun 20, 2010 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya
This is a humorous romance novel about a girl, Zoe, who makes a fool of herself while trying to get her ex-boyfriend back. Zoe cannot accept that Henry no longer wants to be with her. Against her friend’s advice, she engages in a series of events that only make things worse. Her life is consumed with thoughts of Henry and her desperate need to make him want her back, so much so that it affects her school performance. After days of trying to throw herself at him, Henry calls her and bluntly tells ...more
Jul 20, 2010 rated it liked it
Summary: Zoë and Henry are a couple in love in Kerry Cohen Hoffmann’s book It’s not you, it’s me. At least that’s what Zoë thinks until Henry dumps her. At first, Zoë seems cool about it, but as reality sets in, she becomes desperate to win back the love of her life, her first real boyfriend. Zoë does the unthinkable, stalks Henry, sabotages him and his band until her friends step in and take control. She tries to listens to them, but performs one last desperate attempt before coming to the full ...more
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Jul 12, 2009 rated it liked it
After reading several unfavorable for reviews for It's Not You, It's Me, I was unsure of what to expect. While I was not blown away by this book, I really enjoyed it.

The plot of this book (girl loses boy, girl tries to win boy back) may seem familiar; however, this book is anything but typical. Zoe's plan to make Henry miss her includes multiple hilarious stunts, actions, and outfits. Not only will they make you laugh, but you'll also feel Zoe's embarrassment.

Kerry Cohen Hoffman's writing is cle
Yu Tong Mei
Jan 25, 2011 rated it liked it
I read this book called “It’s not you, it’s me” by Kerry Cohen Hoffman. This book is about a girl named Zoe who got dump by her boyfriend. Zoe’s ex-boyfriend was celebrating with another girl after the break-up. Zoe wants her boyfriend Henry back. The plan is to make Henry, Zoe’s ex-boyfriend jealous.
I like this book. When I first found this book in library, I really like the title. My opinion for the book is I like how there are surprises in the book. Zoe’s plan helps her to get her boyfriend
Hui Hui
Jun 23, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: advisory-2011-12
"Zoe loves Henry. Henry dumps Zoe. Zoe wants Henry back--at any cost" That says everything!
After the 199th kiss, the relationship between Henry and Zoe ends because Henry only wants to focus on his band but Zoe is not giving up the chance of getting him back without trying. So she tries everything to make him love her again, even risking the friendship with Julia and Shannon... "It's Not You, It's Me" is a short and decent novel about high school romance.

This novel is not my favorite nor the typ
May 28, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This book is about a girl that falls in love kind of mid-relationship and gets dumped. Zoe was heartbroken and of course, her first thought was "I want Henry back." She loses herself while trying to win Henry back. This book was amazing to me because I had gone through something similar, although I wasn't as crazy as Zoe, and more things happened. All in all, I believe this book is amazing for teen girls, it shows the pain felt, the pain that most people think can be so easily pushed away until ...more
Judie Kuang
Sep 05, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 10th-grade
This book was about a girl named Zoe who was dating someone named Henry. Henry was about to graduate and he wanted to concentrate more on his band instead of relationships so he broke up with Zoe. However, Zoe still liked Henry a lot so she tried to get back together with him. She knew that since her friends had gotten back with their boyfriends previously, she might be able to do that too. She came up with a plan to make Henry come back to her, but in the end, the plan failed and she was forced ...more
Jun 23, 2009 rated it it was ok
Let's just say I had high expectations for this book and they were most definitely not met. I went into this book thinking that it would be relatable and that I would enjoy it. I did not. I feel that the idea was GREAT, it just wasn't executed in a good manner.

The biggest issue I had with this book was the main character. Zoe was... an interesting character. She was most of the problem with this book. Most of the book she is just by herself, of course, because she was the person who was broken u
Wan Yu( Stephanie)
Jun 22, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is a book about how a girl tried to get her ex-boyfriend back. Henry decided to break up with Zoe, but Zoe disagreed. Therefore, she and her friends Shannon and Julia came up with plans that help get Henry back - to make Henry jealous. From that day on, Zoe puts on makeup and dress up beautifully in order to catch other boys attention. On a Satursday night, when all of them were in the party, Zoe kissed Niles- Henry's best friend. Things didn't come out the way Zoe and her friends wanted to ...more
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Kerry Cohen is the author of Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity; Seeing Ezra: A Mother’s Story of Autism, Unconditional Love, and The Meaning of Normal; Dirty Little Secrets: Breaking the Silence on Teenage Girls and Promiscuity; as well as three young adult novels – Easy; The Good Girl; and It’s Not You, It’s Me. Her essays have been featured in The New York Times' "Modern Love" series, The Wash ...more
“Just because I don't let boys take over my whole life doesn't mean I don't like them.” 1 likes
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