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Getting Naked Later: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life
Dating, Waiting, and Feeling Frustrated?
In all the ways you imagined your life, this is never how you thought it would turn out.
If you didn’t anticipate still being single at this stage and you aren’t quite sure how to navigate the unfulfilled dreams and as yet unanswered prayers, you are not alone.
Kate Hurley found herself waiting on the side of that road, and waiting, and waiting. Now she wants to guide you through it. She doesn’t offer a magic formula that will bring your spouse to you, nor does she ask you to be content with your “gift” of singleness.
Getting Naked Later will help you tackle the hard questions:
What happens if I never get married?
Do I have value if I don’t have a mate?
Will I always feel lonely if I end up alone?
Kate gives you permission to grieve your unmet expectations while opening your heart and life to the unforeseen possibilities of a different kind of love story. Like Kate, your longing may never go away, but you can learn how to long and let go at the very same time.
In all the ways you imagined your life, this is never how you thought it would turn out.
If you didn’t anticipate still being single at this stage and you aren’t quite sure how to navigate the unfulfilled dreams and as yet unanswered prayers, you are not alone.
Kate Hurley found herself waiting on the side of that road, and waiting, and waiting. Now she wants to guide you through it. She doesn’t offer a magic formula that will bring your spouse to you, nor does she ask you to be content with your “gift” of singleness.
Getting Naked Later will help you tackle the hard questions:
What happens if I never get married?
Do I have value if I don’t have a mate?
Will I always feel lonely if I end up alone?
Kate gives you permission to grieve your unmet expectations while opening your heart and life to the unforeseen possibilities of a different kind of love story. Like Kate, your longing may never go away, but you can learn how to long and let go at the very same time.
256 pages, Paperback
Published July 7, 2020
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Kate Hurley
12 books5 followersKate Hurley is a worship leader, singer-songwriter, and teacher based out of Boulder, Colorado. She writes the popular blog The Sexy Celibate and has a passion to care for the poor through her art and her friendship. The mission statement for her life is "to paint an accurate picture of a passionate God." Visit her at www.katehurley.com.
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May 6, 2020
In Kate Hurley's bare-it-all memoir...
Not really. But Hurley has written the handbook of my life, the one where you run up against expectations about what your life was supposed to look like and try to make sense of how it actually does. Reading this book is like being known, which is no something that happens often to thirty-year-old singles in church.
My favourite chapter (obviously) is the one titled What Singles Wish Married People Knew because dammit if you'd stop saying those things, even in passing, maybe I wouldn't hurt as much. Or as often. Or decide that some days aren't worth going to church for (the weekends of Valentine's, or Mother's Day, or anything that could possibly head round to why-are-you-single-and-not-having-babies? or maybe-if-you'd-do-this-you'd-already-be-married). Hurley balances it out, of course, with follow up chapters titled What Married People Wish Singles Knew and What Divorced People Wish Everybody Knew.
I think the biggest thing about Getting Naked Later is the validation it brings--that I'm not the only one going through this alone, I'm not the only one struggling with these thoughts, that you know what, it's okay to struggle through this and not be okay. It's okay to be not okay.
It's not all gloom-and-doom. Amidst the soul-crushing pain, Hurley is both hilarious, and hopeful. And it's more than just the hope of a husband-to-come, it's the hope of a God-Who-Is and a Community-That-Can-Be.
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I received a complimentary copy of this book from Harvest House via Netgalley. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
Not really. But Hurley has written the handbook of my life, the one where you run up against expectations about what your life was supposed to look like and try to make sense of how it actually does. Reading this book is like being known, which is no something that happens often to thirty-year-old singles in church.
My favourite chapter (obviously) is the one titled What Singles Wish Married People Knew because dammit if you'd stop saying those things, even in passing, maybe I wouldn't hurt as much. Or as often. Or decide that some days aren't worth going to church for (the weekends of Valentine's, or Mother's Day, or anything that could possibly head round to why-are-you-single-and-not-having-babies? or maybe-if-you'd-do-this-you'd-already-be-married). Hurley balances it out, of course, with follow up chapters titled What Married People Wish Singles Knew and What Divorced People Wish Everybody Knew.
I think the biggest thing about Getting Naked Later is the validation it brings--that I'm not the only one going through this alone, I'm not the only one struggling with these thoughts, that you know what, it's okay to struggle through this and not be okay. It's okay to be not okay.
It's not all gloom-and-doom. Amidst the soul-crushing pain, Hurley is both hilarious, and hopeful. And it's more than just the hope of a husband-to-come, it's the hope of a God-Who-Is and a Community-That-Can-Be.
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I received a complimentary copy of this book from Harvest House via Netgalley. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
September 22, 2020
Relationship advice for a very specific audience
This book was not what i expected it to be.
The subtitle - Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life - to me indicated that the book is aimed at divorcees or people who have gone through breakups. People who were in relationships and unexpectedly got dumped. This is not that.
Instead, in Getting Naked Later, Kate Hurley aims to guide singletons on how to deal with singlehood, while waiting for your person. She does this quite successfully.
WHAT I LIKED
The book is divided into 20 chapters and well organised. My only criticism in terms of language is the lack of contractions. Sentences like "I am thinking about the fact that out of all the words in the world, you have chosen to read mine." are sweet, but doesn't flow.
However, I like that the author uses plain language to share her thoughts (on a variety of topics). The scriptures are encouraging. And so are the stories of hope, like her experience with her friend Carson who has a rare disease.
I especially enjoyed it when she showed kindness, like when the older you gives advice to the current you.
Even though Kate Hurley hasn't been married, I find her realistic view of marriage quite refreshing. I believe that this comes with maturity.
The author's done research and chose to include quality quotes. I nodded along to some of them, like this quote by William Doherty: "People work themselves up over the ordinary problems of marriage, for which, by the way, they usually fail to see their own contributions. They badger their partners to change, convince themselves nothing will budge, and so work their way out of really good relationships."
In some instances Kate Hurley quotes her sources in the text itself. In other cases she uses notes, clearly listed at the back of the book, making for easy referencing.
Some of my favourite chapters were Part 1: How to create your own family, The Deepest Love Story and Afterword. I'm certain you'll discover your best-loved chapters in Getting Naked Later too.
The author tackles important topics. Highlights include:
1. Placing the responsibility for all of our happiness on our partner's shoulders.
2. Examining the reasons we're staying with someone (is it just to be married?).
3. The importance of communication (obvious but important).
She also introduces interesting and new-to-me concepts. Like that everyone has a "code book", a perspective based on their life experiences and the people they've encountered throughout their life. Hurley explores what happens when two "code books" come together.
WHAT I DIDN'T LIKE
Let me start by saying that the emotional state of the reader definitely affects the way the book is received. Being at this place in my life - at the end of a long-term relationship - it was hard to read parts of this book.
Author's Quote: "As you can tell from this book, I am the queen of giving advice about things that I don't have much experience with."
This is one of the things that I least enjoyed about this book. The fact that the author
gave advice on things she hasn't experienced herself.
The chapter called "What divorced people wish everybody knew" almost made it onto my most-liked list. Especially because the author seems to take a non-judgemental approach to divorced people.
Her statement on in the same chapter negated this approach for me. She says, 'And I do believe divorce should be a last resort, as in cases of abuse and adultery, and not just the default thing to do when life together becomes difficult.'
Needless to say, this statement didn't sit well with me. Because unless you've been throught it, you shouldn't have an opinion on it.
I'm sure this is not intentional, but some sections come across as preachy. Like all the We have tos on page 151. Also her statement that we choose comfort over community and are comfortable, yet unhappy and lonely. This blanket statement is not necessarily true of everyone.
Two surprises stand out for me.
1. The first is the author's "big confession" in chapter six. Let me confess that I rolled my eyes, because it's not a big deal. I do it too!
2. The second is indeed a big revelation. When the author makes this statement on page 218, my jaw dropped. It changed the entire feel of the book for me.
As you can see, there are both positives and negatives to this book. A very specific audience - over 30s who have been single for a long time - will definitely relate to Getting Naked Later.
Read it if you're willing to keep an open mind.
This book was not what i expected it to be.
The subtitle - Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life - to me indicated that the book is aimed at divorcees or people who have gone through breakups. People who were in relationships and unexpectedly got dumped. This is not that.
Instead, in Getting Naked Later, Kate Hurley aims to guide singletons on how to deal with singlehood, while waiting for your person. She does this quite successfully.
WHAT I LIKED
The book is divided into 20 chapters and well organised. My only criticism in terms of language is the lack of contractions. Sentences like "I am thinking about the fact that out of all the words in the world, you have chosen to read mine." are sweet, but doesn't flow.
However, I like that the author uses plain language to share her thoughts (on a variety of topics). The scriptures are encouraging. And so are the stories of hope, like her experience with her friend Carson who has a rare disease.
I especially enjoyed it when she showed kindness, like when the older you gives advice to the current you.
Even though Kate Hurley hasn't been married, I find her realistic view of marriage quite refreshing. I believe that this comes with maturity.
The author's done research and chose to include quality quotes. I nodded along to some of them, like this quote by William Doherty: "People work themselves up over the ordinary problems of marriage, for which, by the way, they usually fail to see their own contributions. They badger their partners to change, convince themselves nothing will budge, and so work their way out of really good relationships."
In some instances Kate Hurley quotes her sources in the text itself. In other cases she uses notes, clearly listed at the back of the book, making for easy referencing.
Some of my favourite chapters were Part 1: How to create your own family, The Deepest Love Story and Afterword. I'm certain you'll discover your best-loved chapters in Getting Naked Later too.
The author tackles important topics. Highlights include:
1. Placing the responsibility for all of our happiness on our partner's shoulders.
2. Examining the reasons we're staying with someone (is it just to be married?).
3. The importance of communication (obvious but important).
She also introduces interesting and new-to-me concepts. Like that everyone has a "code book", a perspective based on their life experiences and the people they've encountered throughout their life. Hurley explores what happens when two "code books" come together.
WHAT I DIDN'T LIKE
Let me start by saying that the emotional state of the reader definitely affects the way the book is received. Being at this place in my life - at the end of a long-term relationship - it was hard to read parts of this book.
Author's Quote: "As you can tell from this book, I am the queen of giving advice about things that I don't have much experience with."
This is one of the things that I least enjoyed about this book. The fact that the author
gave advice on things she hasn't experienced herself.
The chapter called "What divorced people wish everybody knew" almost made it onto my most-liked list. Especially because the author seems to take a non-judgemental approach to divorced people.
Her statement on in the same chapter negated this approach for me. She says, 'And I do believe divorce should be a last resort, as in cases of abuse and adultery, and not just the default thing to do when life together becomes difficult.'
Needless to say, this statement didn't sit well with me. Because unless you've been throught it, you shouldn't have an opinion on it.
I'm sure this is not intentional, but some sections come across as preachy. Like all the We have tos on page 151. Also her statement that we choose comfort over community and are comfortable, yet unhappy and lonely. This blanket statement is not necessarily true of everyone.
Two surprises stand out for me.
1. The first is the author's "big confession" in chapter six. Let me confess that I rolled my eyes, because it's not a big deal. I do it too!
2. The second is indeed a big revelation. When the author makes this statement on page 218, my jaw dropped. It changed the entire feel of the book for me.
As you can see, there are both positives and negatives to this book. A very specific audience - over 30s who have been single for a long time - will definitely relate to Getting Naked Later.
Read it if you're willing to keep an open mind.
September 25, 2020
Getting Naked Later is a great resource for single Christian women. Kate Hurley, who is a licensed professional counselor, singer-songwriter, worship leader, and teacher, shares personal experiences not only from her own life but also from other people’s lives that show readers how they have dealt with the loneliness of singleness, especially when one desires a family. Kate is forthright in relating her disappointment of being in her thirties and still without a spouse or children, which is a deep yearning within her heart. At the same time, she is also candid about how one can be part of a family in a non-traditional way, such as befriending the homeless and disadvantaged and/or being part of a resource-shared community, and she talks about her experiences in both types of environments.
Kate frankly shares her feelings about depression after break-ups, loneliness in childhood, misconceptions about singleness, at times the lack of trust in God during dark seasons of her life, and how God is a Father of mercy and love with no strings attached. Interspersed in Kate’s heartfelt reflections of feelings are bits of humor. She validates her beliefs about the challenges of being single and wanting companionship and provides helpful and encouraging ways for staying positive even when life gets tough.
The book is well-researched with sources that are used listed at the end. There are a few typographical and grammatical errors, but they do not detract from the profound message shared by Kate about life as a single Christian woman. Pertinent Bible stories, relevant verses, song lyrics written by Kate, quotes from magazines and books, along with an in-depth study correlating to the points covered in Getting Naked Later all add to the overall value of using the book in a group of Christian women who are single and want the support of others who are grappling with singleness. Kate offers weekend and/or day retreats for anyone interested, and she can be contacted via her website with a link provided in the book.
Kate frankly shares her feelings about depression after break-ups, loneliness in childhood, misconceptions about singleness, at times the lack of trust in God during dark seasons of her life, and how God is a Father of mercy and love with no strings attached. Interspersed in Kate’s heartfelt reflections of feelings are bits of humor. She validates her beliefs about the challenges of being single and wanting companionship and provides helpful and encouraging ways for staying positive even when life gets tough.
The book is well-researched with sources that are used listed at the end. There are a few typographical and grammatical errors, but they do not detract from the profound message shared by Kate about life as a single Christian woman. Pertinent Bible stories, relevant verses, song lyrics written by Kate, quotes from magazines and books, along with an in-depth study correlating to the points covered in Getting Naked Later all add to the overall value of using the book in a group of Christian women who are single and want the support of others who are grappling with singleness. Kate offers weekend and/or day retreats for anyone interested, and she can be contacted via her website with a link provided in the book.
January 4, 2021
Great book on singleness. She gave a beautiful poetic version of the gospel story from Genesis to Revelation. Her journey with limes diseases was such a tearjerker. My biggest problem would be that there were some micro aggressions and stereotypes of black people and the Latino community.
October 22, 2020
This was an interesting book about 1 woman's take on being single. I liked the fact that she incorporates her Christian beliefs in her reflections on her journey. Her quotation of scripture into the book was a definite plus for me. I enjoyed her stories (sometimes embarrassing) because that made her so relatable. The author is also a singer and included lyrics that she wrote...for me, I enjoyed her stories more than the songs. I think this is a good book for those Christian singles because she attacks the topic with honesty as well as humor.
July 26, 2020
Hurley has an engaging writing style, and as a 30- something year old single in the evangelical community, I found myself relating to her and her story. I appreciated her candor and vulnerability! However, in my opinion, this book fell into the common trap of approaching singleness as merely a waiting period before ultimately getting married instead of a season of life to be embraced to the fullest, whether one is single for a brief amount of time or longer. Admittedly, writing with empathy and vulnerable of the natural longing for marriage as well as boldness and encouragement to embrace singleness as a gift is an almost impossible fine line!
All in all, I would recommend this to singles and married alike, but I would couple it with Alberry’s 7 myths about singleness to further touch on the point above.
All in all, I would recommend this to singles and married alike, but I would couple it with Alberry’s 7 myths about singleness to further touch on the point above.
February 21, 2022
In life, good things come in limited portions. Like you get to meet ONE special person at some point (maybe) and not 50. Same thing happens with good books. I believe this is one of those books.
Kate begins in a way most believers can relate. "For many years now, I have spent my life on the shore, watching, waiting. Like a million stories told through a hundred generations, I was searching the horizon, looking for someone to come home to me. A companion to walk with........But years passed. No matter how hard I looked, no matter how fervently I prayed, I did not see that sheep coming in."
I knew what to expect but her method and style and gripping reality through her words far surpassed anything I would have imagined. She beautifully shares her deepest worries and greatest fears through her amazing life stories and somehow manages to encourage you in the end that there is hope and that you can trust in God (Which is true)
I love the way she doesn't hide from the often overlooked fact that gratitude and grieving don't have to be mutually exclusive. We can be thankful while simultaneously allow ourselves to mourn. She is super real about her struggles and worries that at some point led her to depression and insomnia (and a lot more) most of which she recovered from thankfully.
I have nothing negative to say about this book. I'm so impressed, connected and validated in my thinking about single hood and the struggles that come being in it. Waiting has never felt so real.
Maybe one day, I will get to shake her hand and probably give her a very big hug. A tiny kind gesture back to an amazing human who put her thoughts in a simple book that profoundly altered the course of my life.
Kate begins in a way most believers can relate. "For many years now, I have spent my life on the shore, watching, waiting. Like a million stories told through a hundred generations, I was searching the horizon, looking for someone to come home to me. A companion to walk with........But years passed. No matter how hard I looked, no matter how fervently I prayed, I did not see that sheep coming in."
I knew what to expect but her method and style and gripping reality through her words far surpassed anything I would have imagined. She beautifully shares her deepest worries and greatest fears through her amazing life stories and somehow manages to encourage you in the end that there is hope and that you can trust in God (Which is true)
I love the way she doesn't hide from the often overlooked fact that gratitude and grieving don't have to be mutually exclusive. We can be thankful while simultaneously allow ourselves to mourn. She is super real about her struggles and worries that at some point led her to depression and insomnia (and a lot more) most of which she recovered from thankfully.
I have nothing negative to say about this book. I'm so impressed, connected and validated in my thinking about single hood and the struggles that come being in it. Waiting has never felt so real.
Maybe one day, I will get to shake her hand and probably give her a very big hug. A tiny kind gesture back to an amazing human who put her thoughts in a simple book that profoundly altered the course of my life.
October 17, 2020
Most folks don’t anticipate still being single late in life, and they aren’t quite sure how to navigate the unfulfilled dreams and as yet unanswered prayers. In all the ways which people imagine their lives, this is never how they think that things will turn out. But they are not alone. Author Kate Hurley found herself waiting on the single side of the road, and waiting, and waiting. Now she wants to guide her readers through it. She doesn’t offer a magic formula that will bring them a spouse, nor does she ask them to be content with their “gift” of singleness. However, she does tackle the hard questions. What happens if I never get married? Do I have value if I don’t have a mate? Will I always feel lonely if I end up alone?
Provocatively titled, Getting Naked Later is for those who are dating, waiting, and feeling frustrated. While Kate speaks rather frankly at times, there is nothing vulgar or inappropriate in the book. I especially appreciated her observations and comments on dating. The book gives singles permission to grieve over their unmet expectations while opening their hearts and lives to the unforeseen possibilities of a different kind of love story. Like Kate, the longing may never go away, but she explains how one can learn how to long and let go at the very same time. It would be especially beneficial to ladies, but guy can find good in it too. Much of the material was previously published in 2013 as Cupid Is a Procrastinator. One reviewer noted, “It’s rare to read a Christian book that honestly talks about singleness in your 30s without telling you how to find a husband or to embrace being single for life as a gift.”
Provocatively titled, Getting Naked Later is for those who are dating, waiting, and feeling frustrated. While Kate speaks rather frankly at times, there is nothing vulgar or inappropriate in the book. I especially appreciated her observations and comments on dating. The book gives singles permission to grieve over their unmet expectations while opening their hearts and lives to the unforeseen possibilities of a different kind of love story. Like Kate, the longing may never go away, but she explains how one can learn how to long and let go at the very same time. It would be especially beneficial to ladies, but guy can find good in it too. Much of the material was previously published in 2013 as Cupid Is a Procrastinator. One reviewer noted, “It’s rare to read a Christian book that honestly talks about singleness in your 30s without telling you how to find a husband or to embrace being single for life as a gift.”
September 25, 2020
"Getting Naked Later: Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life" is a well-written and thoughtful book about what it's like to be single when your peers are all already married and having children. It covers many aspects of what single women feel and experience on a daily basis, and does so in an entertaining, approachable manner.
I appreciated the Biblical perspective, along with the relevant Bible verses that were provided. I also appreciated that this is NOT a book about "how to get a husband" or dating advice. Instead, the focus is on discussing and validating the experiences of a single woman. I liked the positivity the author brings to her subject matter.
One other thing....this book is NOT depressing! Despite the sometimes difficult subject matter, Ms. Hurley is often downright hilarious! I enjoyed getting to laugh a bit through the tears as I read.
Small note: I'd recommend a slight title change. The second half (Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life) implies that this book is more for women who have suddenly become single (ie through widowhood or divorce/break-up). Instead, it is geared more to women who have not yet embarked on a special relationship.
Regardless, I found a lot to admire in this book, and highly recommend it to any woman in her 30s or beyond who finds herself single.
I appreciated the Biblical perspective, along with the relevant Bible verses that were provided. I also appreciated that this is NOT a book about "how to get a husband" or dating advice. Instead, the focus is on discussing and validating the experiences of a single woman. I liked the positivity the author brings to her subject matter.
One other thing....this book is NOT depressing! Despite the sometimes difficult subject matter, Ms. Hurley is often downright hilarious! I enjoyed getting to laugh a bit through the tears as I read.
Small note: I'd recommend a slight title change. The second half (Making Sense of the Unexpected Single Life) implies that this book is more for women who have suddenly become single (ie through widowhood or divorce/break-up). Instead, it is geared more to women who have not yet embarked on a special relationship.
Regardless, I found a lot to admire in this book, and highly recommend it to any woman in her 30s or beyond who finds herself single.
May 19, 2020
I couldn't put this book down. As a thirty something single I could have written this book myself. Hurley articulates everything I've ever thought. The entire book I kept thinking, yep, yep...yeahhh.
All the "advice" people like to give, the fact that there's no formula to meeting the right person. The idea that living in community is super important. I love the people she quotes, even obscure ones like Shane Claibourne or Graham Cooke. And the whole culture of the 90s kissing dating good-bye that ruined my perspective on dating, she addresses that in a healthy way. The book is humorous at times and tackles difficult topics about singleness in a really positive light. If you're feeling a little down about your singleness I strongly recommend reading this. It's a fast easy read and will encourage you that someone else has been walking the same road with you. And honestly I want to be friends with this author after reading this book. Lol. If you’re familiar with Enter the Worship Circle from back in the day then you’ve heard her sing. I pulled up her songs on iTunes while I was reading just to see and was pleasantly impressed.
I received this book via netgalley for my honest review and all opinions are my own.
All the "advice" people like to give, the fact that there's no formula to meeting the right person. The idea that living in community is super important. I love the people she quotes, even obscure ones like Shane Claibourne or Graham Cooke. And the whole culture of the 90s kissing dating good-bye that ruined my perspective on dating, she addresses that in a healthy way. The book is humorous at times and tackles difficult topics about singleness in a really positive light. If you're feeling a little down about your singleness I strongly recommend reading this. It's a fast easy read and will encourage you that someone else has been walking the same road with you. And honestly I want to be friends with this author after reading this book. Lol. If you’re familiar with Enter the Worship Circle from back in the day then you’ve heard her sing. I pulled up her songs on iTunes while I was reading just to see and was pleasantly impressed.
I received this book via netgalley for my honest review and all opinions are my own.
July 12, 2020
I very much appreciate this book. It’s rare to read a Christian book that honestly talks about singleness in your 30s without telling you how to find a husband or to embrace being single for life as a gift. Kate is honest about her experience and shares relatable stories. I left the book thinking a lot about intentional community and what kind of life I want to create for myself. I read the book when it was first released in 2013 and re-read the updated edition with additional chapters and technology updates. I’m in a different place in life these years later, yet I found the book to be just as helpful, encouraging and a fast read as I did years ago.
September 13, 2020
I received an ARC from Harvest House Publisher via NetGalley. This review is my opinion.
I must say when I read the title I found it interesting, being over thirty and single I truly wanted to hear and know great advice for someone who knows what is to be there. Although well written, Kate Hurley in many of the parts of the books sounds more like a teenager than an adult. I think that she is hurt and that pain has colored her speech. In many parts of the book feels like reading someone else diary, who complains in different ways through each chapter. Giving a mixed message and many incongruency. I sadly say this is not a book I’ll recommend.
I must say when I read the title I found it interesting, being over thirty and single I truly wanted to hear and know great advice for someone who knows what is to be there. Although well written, Kate Hurley in many of the parts of the books sounds more like a teenager than an adult. I think that she is hurt and that pain has colored her speech. In many parts of the book feels like reading someone else diary, who complains in different ways through each chapter. Giving a mixed message and many incongruency. I sadly say this is not a book I’ll recommend.
August 5, 2020
Kate Hurley's Getting Naked Later is a clever and personable look at the fears and frustrations that come when your fairy-tale ending doesn't show up on schedule. Kate doesn't shy away from uncomfortable topics or sugar-coat her experience as a single woman. By acknowledging that life can come with unexpected trials and unexpected blessings at the same time, without diminishing the pain of the trials, Kate gives the reader permission to cry, rant, rave, or pray as needed to cope with the struggles they are facing.
March 4, 2021
Well... this started out expressing my feelings exactly! She says earlier on she doesn’t want to sound like other Christian dating books that almost preach at you and say if you just have faith and pray hard enough it will happen for you. In the second half of the book, in my opinion, that’s exactly what she does. Because of that I give it two stars. Started good, ended up being just like all other preachy Christian singleness books.
**I received a copy from Netgalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review**
**I received a copy from Netgalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review**
July 12, 2020
What a refreshing book on singleness! No pat answers, no silver bullets. Just an honest look at many of the dynamics of living as a single. In each chapter, Kate paints a picture of a different aspect – both by reflecting on her own story and by listening to other voices. You are invited to reflect on your own experience, to look at it from a different perspective, to learn and grow.
Highly recommend it for singles of all ages, as well for anyone who has single friends!
Highly recommend it for singles of all ages, as well for anyone who has single friends!
July 28, 2020
I really needed to read this book - as a single person it is hard to feel completely known and Kate had a knack for doing just that. She was vulnerable in areas that it can be hard to share but is so needed. I don't want to be cliche but I really did laugh out loud at some of her stories and cried in a few. I am a single woman in my thirties and appreciated this book so much! It is fun and good read!
August 9, 2020
I was sent a copy of this book to read and review and I'm grateful for this opportunity. The book made me profoundly sad. It reflects a woman/women in turmoil looking for answers without strong models of women around her to support and encourage. I would not feel able to recommend this book to a young single woman as it could only discourage and distress given the tone of "hopelessness" in the text. I hope the author can find peace in the storms she describes.
November 12, 2020
This is a book for singles, but it has lots of good insights for others as well...not singles, once married, about to get married...etc.
It gets a little preachy in places, I wish she had a better editor to help her "hone" her ideas. But it is also engagingly funny and honest and generally a good read.
It made me think about some things differently, it challenged me, I learned new stuff.
So that's a good book!
It gets a little preachy in places, I wish she had a better editor to help her "hone" her ideas. But it is also engagingly funny and honest and generally a good read.
It made me think about some things differently, it challenged me, I learned new stuff.
So that's a good book!
July 11, 2020
I laughed. I cried. In between the laughter and the tears there are gems which will help singles come to terms with their singleness, married people understand singles, singles understand married people. This is an excellent book to promote unity and understanding among God's people. Highly recommended!
I received a copy of this book from the author for my honest review.
I received a copy of this book from the author for my honest review.
July 30, 2020
I almost love loved loved this book, but about 2/3 of the way it kinda fell apart. If you're single or single again it's still worth the read. It always helps to know that you're not alone and other people "get it".
August 24, 2020
Hi Kate we have a mutual friend Joy Larson she recommended your book to me I can’t say enough good things about it I felt like you were talking directly to me thank you so much for writing this book I absolutely loved it!
May 20, 2022
Recommended by a friend - overall a good read with some good perspectives and things to consider
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