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Rules for Moving

3.86  ·  Rating details ·  652 ratings  ·  142 reviews

From bestselling author Nancy Star comes a deeply moving novel about the truths we hide from others and the lies we tell ourselves.

To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. What no one knows is that she also has a secret: her life is a disaster, and it’s just gotten worse. Her husband, whom she was planning to leave, has died in a

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Published May 19th 2020 by Lake Union Publishing
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Nilufer Ozmekik
Mar 06, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I’m so furious to myself because this amazing read wait for me at least three months at my shelf and I waited too much to grab my hands into it. But finally I did and I truly enjoyed this heartfelt story.

This is one of the saddest and most realistic stories about moving on your life when you’re struggling with your past and experiencing so many traumatic setups prevents you to evolve and start a new beginning.

Lane Meckler is a columnist advising people how to gather the pieces their lives as sh
Jennifer ~ TarHeelReader
May 23, 2020 rated it really liked it
Rules for Moving explores the mother-son relationship. My family moved often while I was growing up. It’s a long story for another time, but needless to say, when I meet someone who moved often, especially as a child, I feel an immediate kinship.

Lane is an advice columnist, and she’s supposed to know it all, right? In truth, she’s a mess at home, and her world is falling apart at the seams. She was in the midst of leaving her husband when he passes away. Her son, Henry, is only six and has stopp
Jan 20, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lane’s husband Aaron has died in a crash, his car crashed into another killing the occupants and the mystery woman in his car. Lane is now left to bring up their six year old son Henry and juggle her job writing Ask Roxie, an agony aunts column.

After Aaron’s funeral Henry stops talking to everybody except his mother. Lana decides that they should move from their apartment and rents a property from Nathan in New Jersey. Unfortunately the house has many flaws and needs a lot of repairs so Nathan
This is about Lane, an advice columnist, and her son dealing with the grief of losing their husband/father. Her son stopped speaking to anyone but her. They pick up and move thinking that it would help them feel better and move on. Then Lane realizes that her problems are still there. I thought the writing was great and the plot was interesting, but I do feel like this was a bit too long and could've been better had it been shorter. I did find the mother and son relationship very relatable as I ...more
A heart-warming and memorable read.

This is my first time reading this author's work and what a pleasant experience it was! The characters leaped off the page and entered my heart. Henry was adorable and I enjoyed the way that the author portrayed him - and his thoughts.

The writing reminded my ever so slightly of the work of Fredrik Backman who is one of my favourite authors.

We follow Lane and Henry from an apartment in New York, to a old house in New Jersey, to a seaside house on Martha's Vineya
Mar 19, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This story of a mom and her son as they navigate grief was emotional and heartfelt. It was an ok read but it left me feeling very frustrated throughout the book. I’m glad I finished it, as I got answers to my many questions towards the end of the book, but I thought about putting it down many times. This covers a wide range of family issues and in my opinion, the author took on too many. Overall a fine read but it didn’t leave me feeling satisfied. Thank you to the publisher for the advance read ...more
Jan 08, 2020 rated it it was ok
**ARC provided by publisher in exchange for an honest review**

Rules of Moving was an interesting read, however I didn't really enjoy it that much. Even though there were times I wanted to put the book down, I still managed to finish it. The first half of the book was very slow, but thankfully it got more interesting towards the end. My favorite character was Lane Meckler's six year old son Henry. He went through some heavy stuff for someone his age. Lane is a bit of an anti-social person, but sh
May 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A beautiful read which had me in tears in most of the book.

Lane was a columnist who have advice to others but her own life was a disaster. Her husband had died and her son had stopped speaking. She needed a break and hence decided to move. During the summer, she looked into herself to find her inner strength. Find herself.

Author Nancy Star had written a heart wrenching realistic book which had me reaching for tissues frequently. The prose evoked all my emotions, it was poignant and inspiring. T
Jun 01, 2020 rated it liked it
This book took me 7 days to finished lol Kinda boring at first because it was pretty slow then it got more interesting.

Lane work as an advice columnist. She advise people on their life while she loses control over her life. Her husband died and her son, Henry stop speaking to everyone except her.

My favorite character is Henry goshh he is sooooo adorable and I'm glad the author show his point of view. It's interesting to read from kids pov.

I can't connect to Lane. I don't understand her at all.
Donna Hines
Feb 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley, arc
How not to lose your voice, how to speak out, how to save yourself and others! To new beginnings!
Well, lets begin with Henry a 6 yr old who stopped talking to everyone but his mom Lane prior to a disaster that took his fathers life.
The fact that Lane has been living a perfect shell of her former self should be no surprise.
These two characters now do all they can to courageously battle back to a life free of terror and fear.
One that will be sure to warm the hearts of readers everywhere.
I truly en
Nan Williams
Apr 27, 2020 rated it it was ok
The protagonist, Lane, was a well known (and syndicated?) advice columnist. Each chapter featured letters asking for her help along with her answers to be published. This, alone, would have been sufficient confirmation of the excessive wording and repetitiveness of the wording in this novel. One response to one letter was FOUR PAGES in the book! I can’t imagine how many column inches that would have been in a newspaper! All of the letters were long and all of the answers were VERY long. Certainl ...more
Colleen (Colleensreadingadventures) Scidmore
Thank You to Suzy Approved Book Tours, Nancy Star and Lake Union for this unforgettable copy!

Lane makes a living as the popular advice columnist Ask Roxie but she can’t seem to handle her own life. Her soon to be ex husband just died in a drunken car accident, her six year old son has stopped talking to everyone except for her and she doesn’t seem to fit in anywhere. So she decides to do what all Mecklers do when faced with a problem, pack up and find a new place to move.
But Lane and Henry’s ne
Booksandchinooks (Laurie)
This story focuses on Lane and her six year old son, Henry. Lane is an advice columnist for a newspaper and is in the process of separating from her alcoholic husband when he dies in a car accident. No one knows Lane was having marital trouble so she keeps it a secret to spare Henry so he will be unaware of what was really happening with his parents. So much of Lane’s life is a mess - from her job worries, to her finances, and her relationship with her parents. Lane’s childhood was always in uph ...more
Mar 25, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The novel immediately grabbed my attention. Lane and her husband, Aaron have a tumultuous marriage and have every intention of getting a divorce. Aaron is drunk more often that not. With the exception of caring for their son, the couple virtually spend no time together. Lane is the feisty writer of the beloved Roxie advice column and ironically, she doles out advice to people while she seems incapable or unable to practice what she preaches. When Henry is killed in a drunk driving accident, her ...more
Dec 26, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book tells the story of an advice columnist going through some stuff herself. You could say she is in need of some advice and guiding herself.
Used to moving as a kid, Lane decides to move with her kid after a traumatic event. Henry doesn’t speak to anyone because of the things that happened. As the story unfolds you get a real understanding for this family and Lane’s not so great childhood.
The book is a pretty good read and I really enjoyed it. I did find there were some gaps and some thing
Apr 20, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
*Thank you to Lake Union Publishing and Nancy Star for allowing me to read this ARC in exchange for an honest review*

This book mostly just confused me. I think it as a case of the author trying to fit to many these into one story. There was potential from the start but it just never quite all gelled together. I enjoyed the advice column letters at the start of each chapter and Henry was adorable. I wanted to really like this story but it all just fell short.
J.E. Rowney
I don’t know what I expected from this book, but it wasn’t what I thought it would be. It was reminiscent of Alice Hoffmann, but not quite as well written or interesting. The character of Lane seemed to have so much promise at first, but the book just didn’t grip me.
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Lane Meckler is an advice columnist who shares enlightening counsel when she is given the time to choose the letters she wants to respond to and can get guidance from appropriate experts i.e. psychologists, lawyers, etc. She is being pushed to move to a live format and podcast in order to reach younger readers, which doesn't feel right to her. She isn't skilled at speaking up for herself so the deadline for the switchover is bearing down on her like the bo
Lovemybooks2020 Cindy Ward
Oct 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: booktour, own
I’m thrilled to feature 𝙍𝙪𝙡𝙚𝙨 𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙈𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 by @nancystarauthor as part of @suzyapprovedbooktours today. Besides having an absolutely gorgeous cover, this book will grab hold of you with its family intrigue, memorable characters and important lessons.⁣

𝗦𝘂𝗺𝗺𝗮𝗿𝘆: From bestselling author Nancy Star comes a deeply moving novel about the truths we hide from others and the lies we tell ourselves.⁣

To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. What no one knows is that s
Nik's Nook
Sep 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"First Rule of Moving: Take Only What You Love."

Lane Meckler is great at giving everyone who writes into her column advice, but, when it comes to her own life, she can't figure it out. Her marriage is falling apart, and, when a police officer comes to tell her that her husband died in a tragic accident, she doesn't know what to feel. When her six-year-old son stops talking, she decides to do what the Mecklers always do: move. But, when settling in at the new home also proves difficult, Lane real
May 24, 2020 rated it really liked it
Lane Meckler and her husband Aaron were living in the same house as virtual strangers. They were on the brink of divorce but Lane, intensely private, intensely reserved had not spoken about it to anyone. Henry their little boy was very sensitive, was probably aware of the tension and in the midst of it all Aaron dies in a car accident with his supposed girl friend beside him.

Lane did not experience the outpouring of grief that is expected of a young widow and she also did not know how to cope w
May 03, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a beautifully slow book. I was swept away in the story of Lane and Henry as they navigated their way through the shock and grief of losing Aaron, Henry's father.

While Lane is being a supportive mother to her son, she is also dealing with her own battles. The battles of buried childhood trauma, the battles of difficult family conversations and the battles of deciding between dredging something up from the past or keeping quiet because things that should have been said were instead buried
Sep 30, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lane is a local advice columnist, but her life is a mess right now. She is suffering from childhood trauma for constantly moving. Her husband decided to leave her before he died in a drunk-driving accident. Her son, Henry is not talking to anyone but her. Lane has to do something to put everything together and help her son to talk again.
She decides to move to a new house in New Jersey. The house needs construction, and Lane’s mom, Sylvia, suddenly shows up with no explanation. So, Nathan, her la
Oct 15, 2020 rated it really liked it
Lane Meckler appears to have the perfect life, she writes an advice column called Ask Roxie, and is married with a son, Henry. In truth, her life is a wreck. Her marriage is falling apart, her husband is an alcoholic and is probably having an affair. After her husband dies in a drunk driving accident he caused, killing numerous people, including a woman he was with, and then a disastrous trip home to see her parents, Henry stops speaking to anyone but her. Lane decides to do what her family typi ...more
Charlotte Lynn
May 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
From the very beginning I could tell that there were many layers to this story. Each layer seems to play into another layer and as those layers start coming apart there are many ah-huh moments. For some reason, with this story I did not try to solve the story. I let Nancy Star tell the story and I happily followed along with it. There were times that I was surprised at where I was taken and times that I was shocked that I did not see what was happening coming.
Henry was “the character” for me. I
Addie BookCrazyBlogger
May 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc-s
Lane Meckler is supposed to have it all with a loving family and a job as the local advice columnist. Unfortunately she has childhood trauma from moving constantly, her husband (who she was planning on divorcing) dies in a drunk-driving incident and her son , Henry, won’t speak to anyone but her. So she does what the Meckler family does best: she picks up sticks in New York City and moves her Henry to New Jersey. When the house starts to break down, when the school kids turn out to be mean, when ...more
Jun 01, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lane Meckler is an advice columnist for Ask Roxie, with a six year old son, Henry.
As she is planning on leaving her husband, he dies in a car accident. Henry stops speaking to everyone except her.
Lane needs a new place to live and wants something different in her life so she decides to move. She finds a rental in New Jersey, but it always seems like something is breaking or needing repair.
Her landlord Nathan feels bad that things keep going wrong, so he offers a place to stay on his property i
Shannon (The Book Club Mom)
Oct 05, 2020 rated it really liked it

Every so often, I come across a character in a novel that I just want to hug. Like, a long, gigantic bear hug. Lane Meckler in Nancy Star’s latest, Rules for Moving is exactly that kind of character. My heart broke for the woman. Lane’s life is currently in shambles. Her husband just died in a freak accident, her son has stopped speaking to everyone but her, and she doesn’t really have anyone to lean on. So, what’s her solution? Move. Things can only get better, right? (Insert hug here.) The rea
Randi (randi_reads)
Sep 26, 2020 rated it really liked it
Lane Meckler is an advice columnist who us used to handing out the advice, but now finds that she could really use some advice for herself. She wanted to divorce her husband when is he killed in a car crash. Their son, Henry, is six years old and he suddenly stops talking to anyone but her.

Together, Lane and Henry decide to move out of their apartment thinking it will help them move on from their grief. Lane is used to this, because she moved around a lot with her parents as a child. But, in fac
David Morgan
Oct 12, 2020 rated it really liked it
A heartfelt and emotional story.
Growing up, when Lane's family had difficulties they just moved and her mother established rules while doing so. Lane is an advise columnist as her profession but struggles with her own life. After her husband dies her six year old son, Henry, stops speaking to everyone but her. So Lane does what they've always done and moved, hoping things will get better. What she finds after moving is that nothing has improved and in order for Henry to find his voice she must f
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Nancy Star is the bestselling author of Sisters One, Two Three and five other novels including her latest, Rules For Moving, coming this Spring. Star’s novels have been translated into many languages, optioned for television, and chosen as Literary Guild and Mystery Guild Signature Series selections. In addition to her novels, Star’s essays have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, ...more

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