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Wow, No Thank You.

3.88  ·  Rating details ·  28,348 ratings  ·  3,743 reviews
A new essay collection from Samantha Irby about aging, marriage, settling down with step-children in white, small-town America.

Irby is turning forty, and increasingly uncomfortable in her own skin. She has left her job as a receptionist at a veterinary clinic, has published successful books and is courted by Hollywood, left Chicago, and moved into a house with a garden tha
Paperback, 319 pages
Published March 31st 2020 by Vintage
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Kat Yes - especially if you are over 40! I listened to the audiobook - she reads it herself-- and laughed so hard while walking my dog. People at the park…moreYes - especially if you are over 40! I listened to the audiobook - she reads it herself-- and laughed so hard while walking my dog. People at the park wanted to know what I was listening to since there isn't too much to laugh at these days.(less)
Lauren There isn't an f-bomb on every line, but a nice sprinkling of them. Plus quite a few diarrhea stories. I like this book because it feels very honest a…moreThere isn't an f-bomb on every line, but a nice sprinkling of them. Plus quite a few diarrhea stories. I like this book because it feels very honest and with no pretense, but if you are worried about crudeness, you should probably read something else because Irby gives no f***s. XD <3(less)

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Apr 22, 2020 rated it really liked it
This was smart, funny and charming as with Irby’s other books. I enjoyed reading it. Few writers do self deprecation to elucidate a larger point as well as she does.

Also white people. Y’all must stop confusing Samantha and I. Each time she mentioned it here I was embarrassed for you guys. She’s awesome. I am decent. We look nothing alike! There is more than one big black woman writer with tattoos.

I just blew your mind, I am sure.
Samantha Irby
Jan 18, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
incredible, truly.
Dec 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
i will quite literally read anything that samantha irby slaps her name on, and i can almost guarantee it will make me laugh right the fuck out loud. this book was a hoot, and it only took me so long to finish because of FINALS HELL (but it made said finals hell a bit more bearable so WOW, THANK YOU)
oooh, goodreads choice awards finalist for best humor 2020! what will happen?

this book made me love samantha irby as much as the rest of you already do.

'cuz i admit—i was not crazy about We Are Never Meeting In Real Life. i went on and on about why in my review, but you're already here, so to summarize: i'd never read her before and a few too many of the essays came across as self-conscious and overworked, like she was trying to shove humor/memoir pieces through a short story filter. it felt 'o
Nat K

"Convenience is the number one driver of everything I do."

It's been a tough few weeks. Working from home and social distancing was starting to mess with my mojo. Even as a natural born introvert, I could understand why Tom Hanks' character was talking to a coconut* called Wilson in the movie "Castaway". My incarceration had its moments. I was starting to get Stockholm Syndrome with myself.

So thank goodness for the fabliss Sam Irby. What better way to spend the last day of the Easter long weekend
Diane S ☔
May 05, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nfr-2020
We all need some humor, but maybe even more so during this time. Funny, heck yes, but also so much with with I could identify. Out with friends and wishing to be home. Making plans on a certain day but when the day comes wondering what you were thinking. Looking in your closet and wondering what pod bought some of these clothes. Her Crohn's disease and lamenting her partners penchant for buying healthy snacks. So much more is included, her comic delivery is top notch.

Sometimes raunchy, honest an
Jasmine Guillory
Feb 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Samantha Irby’s writing cracks me up on a consistent basis so I went into this book ready to be entertained. And I was, but it was also so much more than that — touching, emotional, relatable, surprising. And on top of all of that, just tons of fun.
Kelly (and the Book Boar)
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Back when I had feelings, my self-esteem was a toilet.

Dear Sam Irby . . . . .

YMMV because her stories are about things like dropping hamsters due to aggressive menstrual cycles and shitting her pants and various other “swimsuit area” issues women sometimes have . . . .

But she also talks about marriage and step-parenting and her cats and everything else that isn’t quite so in-your-face and also . . . . .

Barry knows boo
3.7 (rounded up)

Well, is there such a thing as being too self-deprecating?

Irby is the queen of anxiety (and occasionally, poop), and she is not shy about baring all. Honest, funny, and overly self-deprecating, this collection of essays grabbed my attention.

This book is about getting old (ha, to Irby this means turning 40! Gawd!). It’s about not fitting in, and having crippling anxiety and physical pain to make matters worse. It’s about trying to survive as a married, lesbian, black woman living
Apr 16, 2020 rated it did not like it
The title says it all. Clearly I am not the target audience for this piece, but I can only give my opinion. My general impression was the author is trying too hard. The rapid-fire barrage of self-deprecating insults and trying-to-shock situations came off as embarrassing, rather than provocative. I had hoped this would provide amusement in our COVID-19 time,, but the world of the author was too distant from my own to make connections. Readers from a different generation and place may have a diff ...more
Jun 19, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: audio
Wow, ok.
It's very possible that I have reached my limit with essay collections. I really loved We Are Never Meeting in Real fact, I just reread my review of that one and man, I wish I could relive that feeling. I loved that book.
Moving on...this one had some laugh out loud moments for me and a few essays I really liked, but it was repetitive and more of a mixed bag. Also, it bears repeating that those offended by profanity should look elsewhere.
3 stars, possibly influenced by my lov
Oct 04, 2020 rated it liked it
I've been listening to Irby's essays over the last month, usually one at a time. There are some very funny lines in this book but the groan to laugh ratio was not in favor of the laughs. I'm not a fan of bathroom humor. I felt like a prudish grandmother driving a car with an anxious, rowdy adolescent in the back seat. I wanted to just shout out, Shhh, calm down. ...more
Julie Ehlers
Jul 21, 2020 rated it liked it
It pains me to say that this wasn't great. After loving (and laughing my face off at) Irby's first two collections, I was sure the awesomely titled Wow, No Thank You. would be the perfect spirits-lifting quarantine read, but for me it just wasn't. First, it covered a lot of the same ground as her previous two books; her rough past was really interesting to read about the first two times, but three was too many. She's also just as self-deprecating as ever, and while self-deprecation is usually gr ...more
Jenny Lawson
Aug 18, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Samantha Irby is a goddess of humor. The end.
Gretchen Rubin
Hilarious, fascinating. I read the essay "The Worst Friend Date I Ever Had" on The Cut website, and immediately tracked down the book. ...more
Skyler Autumn
Jul 26, 2020 rated it liked it
2.5 Stars

A collection of "comedic" essays that fell short of my high expectations.

A majority of this essay collection revolves around the fact Samantha Irby identifies as a disgusting, socially anxious, absurd human with no redeemable qualities yet she has three books under her belt, wrote for Shrill, a pool of supportive friends, had Abbi Jacobson writing a pilot with her and is married with two step kids. If her joke is she failed into an amazing life I'm not quite sure about that punchline.
Mar 29, 2020 rated it really liked it
I adore Samantha Irby. Her humour and the way she structures her essays in a way that seems effortless but surely isn't make her books a joy to read. Her third collection of essays is as good as the ones that came before and it came to me at just the right moment. It got me reading in the middle of a pandemic induced reading slump and made me happy. Irby writes about growing older, body positivity, the internet, imposter syndrome, and many things more in a way that makes these topics approachabl ...more
Nenia ✨️ I yeet my books back and forth ✨️ Campbell
Samantha Irby understands my inner curmudgeon
Feb 01, 2021 rated it really liked it
Irby is a writer who's been recommended to me by pals who know I love the funny stuff, so when her latest book was thrown in the donation box for my library's book sale, I knew I had to have a look. (Hey - we can't put just anything out at our sale - I consider my perusing this title as a quality check!)

On the whole, I liked it. I'm old enough to be Irby's mama Irby is young enough to be my daughter, so some of her references left me shrugging. She's also very candid . . . about EVERYTHING, and
Dave Schaafsma
Dec 17, 2020 rated it liked it
I am not the intended audience for this book. I felt like I was the guy at the bar who Samantha Irby was craning her neck around to talk to the woman on the stool on my other side. I am a late middle-aged guy, and almost none of my male Goodreads friends seem to have read this, but like hundreds of women, who are like her bff. I had decided to read the top three Goodreads Humor nominees of 2020, had never heard of Irby, and as opposed to my binge-listening to mysteries or intensely studying Seri ...more
Lupita Reads
Feb 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Just when I thought Samantha Irby could not get any funnier she knocks me in the gut with this essay collection making me laugh hysterically into tears.
Barbara K
Oh dear, another book that seems to be highly valued by a lot of readers, but just didn't work for me. Here are my conjectures about why that's the case:

• It took a while for me to realize that I wasn't "getting" a fair amount of the content of these essays simply because I hadn't read Irby's earlier books. That's kind of interesting because when I start in the middle of a crime novel series, I quickly catch on to the overall scope of the principal characters, their lives, and their relationship
Claire Reads Books
Apr 27, 2020 rated it really liked it
I would recommend reading this after ‘We Are Never Meeting in Real Life’ and ‘Meaty’ (I think those first two collections might be a bit funnier), but Samantha Irby remains a total, laugh-out-loud delight.
Jonathan K
Jan 14, 2021 rated it it was ok
Not at all what I'd hoped. Having read books by female humorists such as Jenny Lawson or Abbi Waxman I was disappointed by Ms. Ibry's approach which seems to be gauged for women. That said, I laughed my arse off with the books by Jenny and Abbi... As a result, I decided against finishing it. As with all things in life, 'each to their own'... ...more
Mar 04, 2020 rated it it was ok
This much buzzed about book is a short story collection about the author's life. I'm glad I read it so I can know what all the fuss is about but that's about it. It did have some humorous stories but this book was not for me. It was vulgar, depressing, and just not good. I found her un-movitation not interesting and so much of it was just gross. I wish I could have the time I spent reading it back.

Thank you to Netgalley for the free, advance copy.
Hilarious, real, and poignant. Samantha Irby has a way with self-deprecating humour and brutally honest self-awareness that somehow don't come off as depressing or cynical, but comforting (as in, I'm not the only one!) and genuinely laugh out loud funny. Topics include the perplexities of home ownership, the round about way she got published, friend dates, writing for the TV show Shrill, unsuccessfully trying to sell her own TV show, and Crohn's disease. I loved it! ...more
May 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
She never disappoints. Laugh out loud hilarity that is very needed anytime, but especially now!
Apr 25, 2020 rated it it was ok
I am new to reading essays. But everyone around me was reading essays, and completely in line with the essays in this book, I felt like I should try it. You can't have the opinion before you gave it a try. And this one had a cute rabbit on the cover.

It being my first try, I still can't say too much after reading Wow, No Thank You. Am I saying No Thank You specifically towards this book, or are essays just not my thing? It's too early too tell.

I didn't like it. Maybe it's because I am not forty
Krista Regester
Nov 27, 2020 rated it really liked it
Sure sex is fun but have you ever been through the Panera drive through?
Jessica Woodbury
I have never read Irby before because while I am an overly confessional person, I am also a delicate flower who cannot say the word "fart" out loud. I always had this worry that Irby would be too *something* for me, who knows what. But I needed something distracting and it seemed like now was as good a time as any and turns out I like Irby a lot! Even though, yes, bodily functions I prefer not to discuss in polite company (or really any company if I can at all avoid it) are involved, it isn't li ...more
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