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Ties That Tether

3.84  ·  Rating details ·  4,754 ratings  ·  893 reviews
When a Nigerian woman falls for a man she knows will break her mother’s heart, she must choose between love and her family.

At twelve years old, Azere promised her dying father she would marry a Nigerian man and preserve her culture even after emigrating to Canada. Her mother has been vigilant about helping--forcing--her to stay well within the Nigerian dating pool ever sin
Paperback, 336 pages
Published September 29th 2020 by Berkley
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Nilufer Ozmekik
Jul 02, 2020 rated it really liked it
This is a promising debut and I’m really happy to have a chance to read it because learning more about different cultures, their traditions, approaches, perspectives turned me into a excited child who is happy to discover new, colorful worlds and appreciates the knowledge is power.

Most of our ancestors have migrated from other countries and sometimes respecting your ancestors’ wishes and protecting your cultural identity might be one of the most challenging thing to achieve because when you adj
2.5 stars. Trigger warning for surprise pregnancy, loss of a child, loss of a loved one, and traumatic childbirth.

**I would like to clarify that these triggers do not happen to the same people and do not happen at the same time. People are assuming these happen all at the end and that I am spoiling the ending. This is not spoiling the ending. Certain people in here discuss death of a loved one and death of a child. That is why there is that trigger. I also think that it's important that people
Loved IT! Jane Igharo’s debut is one of my favorite reads of 2020. this is the story of Azere, who immigrated to Canada from Nigeria as a child. she is constantly feeling the pole between her Nigerian culture and emvracing her new Canadian home. she made a promise to her father on his deathbed that she would Mary a Nigerian man. A promise that her mother reminds her of on a regular basis. when Azere meets Rafael she is instantly drawn to him even though he is definitely not Nigerian. A one night ...more
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by Helen Hoang

As a second-generation Vietnamese-American, I heard my mom’s “coming to America” stories countless times while growing up, but they never grew boring. I always wanted to know more. What was it like adjusting to a new country and new culture? What was it like entering an interracial relationship with my dad? Ties That Tether offers a revelatory glimpse into this type of immigrant experience—from a Nigerian perspective.

After immigrating to Canada, Azere is under pressure
Elyse  Walters
Dec 18, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
“I wasn’t on a date. I was being interviewed for the position of dutiful Edo wife by a man who couldn’t chew with his mouth closed”.

Azere ( pronounced A-zay-ray), knew how to cook Edo food. She learned when she was a kid— back in Nigeria.
She and her family moved to Canada when she was twelve. Azere was twenty-five now—so that was a long time ago.
She was a creative director at an advertising agency.
Her date was impressed with her job, but said....”you would quit once you had a family to take
Larry H
Oct 27, 2020 rated it really liked it
Does love always have to require sacrifices and hard choices? Jane Igharo analyzes that question in her great debut novel, Ties That Tether .

When Azere was 12, her father died, and she moved with her mother and sister from Nigeria to Canada. Just before he died, she promised her father she’d marry a Nigerian man and preserve their culture.

Since then, she’s been dutiful about keeping that promise, even as her mother becomes more domineering and essentially forces her to go on dates with eligib
Sep 27, 2020 rated it liked it
This is an interesting romantic debut from a Nigerian-Canadian author. Being Nigerian myself, and a lover of Nigerian romance, this seemed like it would be an excellent match for me. I’ve read this with mixed emotions, the summary of which is that on the balance of things, I think it’s alright and I appreciate the story the author wanted to tell and really respected the own voices nature of that story about culture and love and assimilation and the fear of losing your heritage and disappointing ...more
Lily Herman
Jun 13, 2020 rated it liked it
Okay, um, I can't get into this review until we acknowledge how RIDICULOUSLY GORGEOUS this cover is. Oh? My? God? It's one of my favorites of 2020, hands down.

Jane Igharo's Ties That Tether is a wonderful debut with a powerful underlying message about trying to figure out who you are when straddling completely different cultures that can, at the surface, seem totally incompatible. I rooted for Azere almost immediately (and not just because she's a huge rom-com fan like moi), and Rafael was a cha
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Dec 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I’m in love with this book! The only thing I can honestly compare it to is Beach Read - these two books are not your average romance but Ties that Tether is my favourite of the two)!

I love that this takes place in Toronto, I loved the characters, and the wild ride it takes you on. From holding on to your culture to making comprises that aren’t fair, this book was so real and heartbreaking all at once.

One of my favourites of 2020! :)
Amanda Hupe
Sep 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2020-reads, netgalley
Thank you, NetGalley, Berkley Publishing Group, and Jane Igharo for the opportunity to read this book!

Ties that Tether by Jane Igharo started off as a cover request. I mean, come on, just look at this stunning cover! No one could pass on it. Well, there is an added bonus…the story is also stunning. Azere moved to Canada from Nigeria at the age of 12. Before her father died, she promised him that she would marry a Nigerian man to preserve her culture. She has always been a good daughter, but she
Dec 26, 2020 rated it liked it
[2.5]. Started out fizzy and sweet but soon became flat and syrupy.
Precious ✨
I have nothing.
Nothing could have been changed.
Nothing could have enhanced this story more.
Nothing could be better.
Nothing can change my mind.


So two months later and this book is still leaving me a bit tongue tied.
Ties That Tether was such a fantastic read, that I devoured. I felt for both of the main characters. Over the course of it's 300 sum pages it gets into identity, loss, traditions, love, and the gilded cages that can come from each.

That's how I pictured both A
Cortney Evans
Jul 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was absolutely beautiful! I loved it so so much! I enjoyed getting to know Azere and learn about her Nigerian culture. The Ties That Tether did an amazing job of bringing to light the beauty and the richness that comes from in an intercultural relationship. This book really made you question how well do you know yourself and what makes you, you? This book gets all the stars from me! A must read! I want to thank Netgalley and Berkley Publishing Group for an advanced copy of this book!
Christi (christireadsalot)
Ties That Tether is a debut book about Azere, a Nigerian woman who at 12-years-old promised her dying father she would marry a Nigerian man even after emigrating to Canada. So from the blurb/synopsis this is a story of preserving your culture, attempting to abide by your family’s wishes and the balance of also finding your own happiness in life. Instead this story takes a turn very early on that the entire plot centers around and becomes the actual story. After her mom’s latest matchmaking fails ...more
Aug 15, 2020 rated it liked it
2.5 stars

Ties That Tether grabbed my attention because it promised a love story while balancing parental expectations. While Ties That Tether paid homage to romance by referencing romance movies, I struggled to place the genre.

Azere’s mother was deadset on marrying Azere off to a nice Edo man and Azere didn’t know how to live her life without disappointing her parents. I liked the discussions on struggling to keep your culture in a new country and the expectations parents can have, but the roman
2.5 stars rounded up!

I have a lot of mixed feelings about this one, tbh. This was a book I went into with a lot of expectation and hope. I've been wanting to read this for months. Like a lot of my anticipated reads, I saw this first on Netgalley and it was so enticing. I waited till it was available on audio, and I listened to it immediately, dumping my current read at the time. It was, to put it lightly, disappointing. I'll discuss what I liked and what I didn't in this review.

What I Liked
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mindful.librarian ☀️
(free review copy) 5 stars for originality in romance - AMEN for a voice and story from a culture (Nigerian-Canadian) not seen often (if at all) in contemporary romance 🙌🏼 3 stars for parts of the writing that seemed like they glossed over some characters and situations that I wanted to be a lot deeper. Overall, I’m excited to read more from this author and am very happy to have read this story.
Lisa Wolf
At first glance, Ties That Tether might seem to be just another contemporary romance. But really, it’s so much more.

Right off the bat, we know that Azere has done something completely out of character. After a terrible first date with yet another mom-approved man, Azere decides to cool off by having a drink in the hotel bar… where an attractive stranger strikes up a conversation with her. After talking for hours, they end up in bed and have a fantastic night together — but Azere leaves quietly t
Nov 02, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: black-authors, botm
Ties That Tether is a debut romance following a Nigerian-Canadian woman who falls for a white man and must contend with the expectations of her immigrant family versus what she might want for herself. You should also know that the plot revolves around an unexpected pregnancy- that isn't in the description but it happens early on and readers often have strong feelings about that trope. Given that this happens in practically the BEGINNING of the book, it really should have been in the description. ...more
Ezinwanyi Chinyere
I was really excited to read this book as a first generation Nigerian American. I knew this story will resonate with me and feel as personal as it ended up being. This story wasn't as much a love story as it was a Coming of Age story where the heroine had to find her own way in life.

Much like the heroine Azere, I was often subjected to my parent's constant stressing about the importance of not losing cultural identity, traditions and language even if one is living in a foreign country. For the
Ms. Woc Reader
Sep 30, 2020 rated it liked it
This one had drama after drama and I'm not sure I would label it romance because the romance often took a backseat to the family drama taking place.

Ties that Tether is a story about cultural identity and balancing more than one culture. The main character Azere has been balancing being Nigerian and Canadian for years and then this new relationship with the Spanish Rafael has thrown yet another identity in the mix.

It's revealed fairly early on however I wish it wouldve been in the synopsis that t
Salma19 (High Lady of the Dawn Court)
1.5 stars 😕💥😟

I was so ready to love it, but I didn’t!

Ugh, my most anticipated romance release was disappointing. I didn’t enjoy this book very much.

All I can say is if you don’t like the surprise pregnancy trope, skip it. It’s not a spoiler at all. I was not aware of that before reading it because that was not mentioned in the synopsis. As a result, my reading experience was ruined. I just can’t with that trope. CATFISH!🐠

The romance was terrible, cringeworthy, and tasteless. Rafael did not have
Latanya (Crafty Scribbles)
I cannot lie. I love a good love story, including this one. There's nothing hokey or eye-roll worthy found in this book. It's a complicated love story about culture, identity, family, and finding one's own steps in life.

I highly recommend this story for anyone trying to find their way through love and familial respect.

Sep 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: kindle
I loved everything about this book!

A huge thank you to Berkley and Netgalley for my advanced copy.

Ties That Tether was my favorite book of September and is in the running for one of my favorite romances of the year. I cannot wait to see what Jane Igharo publishes next.
Nicole (Bookiesandtea)
Beautiful romance book

I absolutely fell in love with this book from the cover along. The cover is stunning! Even though this was a predictable romance novel it still held my interest quite well.
May 27, 2020 marked it as to-read
Shelves: 2020-releases
May 28, 2020: That cover! OMG. BEAUTIFUL. This is an ownvoices debut that follows a Nigerian woman who immigrates to Canada and features an interracial romance that can give you complex family and culture dynamics. I'm so excited for this one to release! ...more
Toya (the reading chemist)
Sep 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book most definitely will not be for everyone. If you go into this story thinking that this is a light and fluffy rom-com, you will be sorely disappointed.

Azere emigrated from Nigeria to Canada when she was twelve years old, and she lives in constant fear of losing herself and her culture in Canada, which is exacerbated by her father’s last wish: to marry an Edo man. This means that Azere has endured countless dates orchestrated by her mother since becoming an obedient wife and bearing chil
DNF at 50%

I can’t I just can’t! What the hell even is this ???

Chile .... where to even start with this mess of a book.... like seriously I was so excited to see a story with immigrant characters centered around a black female main character dealing with two cultures and navigating life through that. I was over the moon when I read the synopsis of the book because I can relate to this book. As a child of immigrants who came to America at the age of 12 like the main character I was beyond excite
Dec 03, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I wanted to read this book as soon as I heard about it and I’m happy to report that I loved it!

It’s about a young Nigerian-Canadian woman named Azere, who meets a man named Rafael Castellano and starts to develop feelings for him. There’s just one problem- he is not Nigerian and she promised her parents that she would marry a Nigerian man. As her feelings grow, she has to choose between love and duty, between following her heart or following her parents’ wishes.

I saw a lot of myself in Azere. Sh
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“Well.” He blinked rapidly, his glare quivering under the strain of mine. “You’re stubborn.” He knifed the steak again. “Your mother didn’t mention that. Personally, I prefer my women to be a lot more . . .” He pondered, eyes narrowed and darting as if considering some vast complexity, and then his stare stilled on me, and he said: “Submissive.” 0 likes
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