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Who I Was with Her

4.13  ·  Rating details ·  158 ratings  ·  93 reviews
There are two things that Corinne Parker knows to be true: that she is in love with Maggie Bailey, the captain of the rival high school’s cross-country team and her secret girlfriend of a year, and that she isn’t ready for anyone to know she’s bisexual.

But then Maggie dies, and Corinne quickly learns that the only thing worse than losing Maggie is being left heartbroken ov
Hardcover, 352 pages
Published September 15th 2020 by HarperTeen
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May 24, 2019 added it  ·  (Review from the author)
Well I wrote it, so!
I can’t wait for all of you to meet Corinne, my messy, complicated protagonist whom I love.
Lea (drumsofautumn)
the cover of Who I Was With Her on an ipad, lying on top of a blanket with simple fairy lights around it, the cover is pink with two girls on it, one slightly faded

“Now my heart is with a girl in a coffin in the ground. But that girl wanted me to be better, she wanted my heart to be in it, so I could keep running with her. So for her, I’ll try.”

Who I Was With Her is an incredibly powerful YA Contemporary about grief and figuring out what you want from life.

This story is about 17-year old Corinne, whose girlfriend, Maggie, suddenly dies in a car accident. But because both girls were still in the closet, nobody knew that they were in a relationsh
Aug 05, 2019 marked it as anticipated-2020
safe to say all 2020 releases can step aside now, a story with a bisexual mc dealing with grief? my kink i guess.
Nov 07, 2019 marked it as to-read
anyways I just started crying reading something the author tweeted about this so I think the book itself is going to BREAK me
destiny ♡⚔♡ [howling libraries]
This sounds like it’s going to wreck every inch of me and I’m going to love it 😬
Aug 27, 2020 rated it liked it
Corinne always expected a nightly text from Maggie. The text never came. The next day at school, her cross country teammates were causally discussing the death of girl from a car crash. The girl was the captain on the cross country team from their rival school. Maggie was the captain of that team from their rival school. Corinne heard Maggie’s name. Maggie was dead. Her secret girlfriend of almost a year was dead… and Corinne had to hide her tears and grief for the girl she loved and could no lo ...more
anna grace
i, too, have fallen for my ex’s ex 😔✌️
Apr 15, 2020 marked it as to-read

First off -

For the love of all things good and holy, why does this sound so much like a book idea I've been nursing and working on? Why does this always happen?

I have to say I don't like the added element of the MC falling for her dead girlfriend's ex, that just sounds like a major crapstorm. And really, when someone they both loved just died would they really be in a good place to genuinely fall in love? Really? *coughClockworkPrincesscough*

I'm interested, but this looks like it's goin
Cody Roecker
Jun 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Occasionally a book sinks it's teeth in you and doesn't let you go until you finish it - this one chewed me up and spit me out. WHO I WAS WITH HER follows Corinne, who has to deal with the aftermath of her girlfriend's death. But, nobody know's she's bi, or that she had a girlfriend.

This is a BEAUTIFUL and intimate portrayal of grief and the messiness that can accompany grief. The writing is fluid and emotional and I loved every moment.

Also we get bi rep and ace rep in this one and my heart is
Bookphenomena (Micky)
I went from being unsure about this book to being impressed by the end. This was definitely the kind of story that built into a fuller appreciation of the characters. WHO I WAS WITH HER was a story of loss, grief, discovery, confusion and pressure to come-out. There were definitely difficult themes here but they were written with sensitivity and realism in terms of the age of the characters.

The story plunged the reader into the immediate death of Corrine’s girlfriend, Maggie and it was a tough s
This book really just ripped my heart out of my chest -- repeatedly. The premise of this book tells you that it's going to be painful to read, but going into it, I don't think I quite realised just how much this book would hit me. This story is stunning, captivating and the pain and grief is so, so raw. The dual timeline was super helpful to driving the story forward and giving us some insight into the characters and how they got to where they are now.

A gorgeous, heart-wrenching story about gri
May 28, 2020 marked it as dnf
didnt love the mc and thought she was selfish and shallow
Jul 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
This a beautiful and heart-wrenching story of grief and loss. When Corinne's girlfriend dies, she has no one to turn to because she's in the closet. No one knew she loved Maggie, and now she's forced to face her grief alone. Until Maggie's brother puts her in touch with someone who understands what she's going through.

The way this story progressed was really interesting, I'm glad Corinne had the chance to figure out who she was without other people. Coming to terms with being bisexual and being
Sep 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: wlw, edelweiss, lgbt, bi-rep
“For the girls who hide their hearts.”

The dedication to Who I Was With Her by Nita Tyndall does a perfect job of setting the tone for the journey ahead. When I requested an advanced copy of this novel, I knew it would be sad and poignant, but I can honestly say I wasn’t expecting it to resonate so hard with me on a personal level. Who I Was With Her follows Corinne Parker as she navigates the traumatic, sudden death of her girlfriend—who no one even knew she was dating, because Corrine hasn’t co
Sep 05, 2020 rated it liked it
Thank you to Harper Teen for sending me this eARC in exchange for an honest review.
This book follows the main character Corinne, who at the start of the book finds out that her secret girlfriend of a year, Maggie, has died in a car crash. From there, the story follows Corinne as she finds ways to grieve in private as she is not "out" as a bisexual. She connects with Maggie's ex-girlfriend, Elissa, and she keeps pushing herself harder at running as that was how she met Maggie.
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madeline ♡
Aug 11, 2020 marked it as to-read
cross country gay gals IT ME !!!!!!!
Vee_Bookish // YA Book Blogger
Aug 23, 2020 marked it as want-to-read-new
Once you notice that 'with' is not capitalised it'll bug the sh*t out of you
Rachel 007
May 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: beta-read
I read an early early draft as a beta reader. Nita’s writing is so strong and vivid, Corinne’s voice so alive despite her sadness, and this book is absolutely perfect for fans of Nina LaCour.
Sep 11, 2020 rated it really liked it
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I got an ARC of this book.

I am always down to read a YA contemporary book about queer teens. Especially when the characters are bi and the bi rep is pretty decent to great. So I was excited about this.

Honestly, my biggest complaint about this book is that it is almost the exact same idea as Hold Still and written in a really similar format. So I was constantly comparing the two. The characters in this one were a bit more relatable and there was a bi
Alex Baker
Sep 14, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I honestly can't tell if I'm giving this a 4.5 or 5.

This book wrecked me. Like, full-on, ugly-crying, clutching-the-tissues-in-my-hand wrecked . I just spent like the entirety of Sunday (yesterday) in bed reading it. I definitely need some light titles after this.

Corinne is a deeply flawed protagonist, but in a supremely relatable way (kind of). She has spent so much time just trying not to make waves that it's her default setting, and anything that can throw that out of whack is a thing of g
Mariana Calderon
Wow, wow, wow. I picked up this book one evening meaning to dip into it, and then suddenly, it was 12:30 AM and I was tearstained and breathless and happy. Corinne is so flawed and her struggles to redefine herself in a way that stands apart from the expectations of her love interests, friends, and families felt very genuine because of it. You'll find no "Oh I didn't realize I'm valuable until a romance convinces me so" tropes here. Instead, you have a main character who knows what she is capabl ...more
Tom Ryan
Jan 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Loved this. Will be posting more on my social accounts over the coming months, but this is a really strong debut with a heartbreaking premise that's handled deftly and sensitively.
Jun 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
This was messy and beautiful. I loved the way it was written and the general atmosphere of everything, and I don't think I'm going to stop thinking about this book for awhile.
Jonel Marie
Sep 14, 2020 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2020-release, queer
*** received as an arc from netgalley in exchange for an honest review ***

This book is about a girl, Corinne, who finds out her (secret) girl friend has died and proceeds to make every single situation and thought from then on about herself. This is maybe the most selfish narrator I have read from in a long time. I was shocked at the beginning that she didn't go home when she found out or really truly panic / lose it / breakdown - she was just worried that somehow this poor girl, Maggie, dying
Sep 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: emotional, lgbtq
This was a hard book to go through, content wise. I'll be honest, the cover of the book was one of the reasons I read this. It did not disappoint though don't get me wrong. It was quite the opposite!

The book is about how a girl Corinne deals with her grief for the death of her girlfriend, Maggie. Throughout the story, she redefines her relationship with running which was how Maggie and her got together at first. The shifting perspectives for each chapters was done well and it definitely made eve
Sep 18, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: queer, ya, contemporary, grief
Sometimes I think that grief is an identity whole and of itself. Eventually, everyone bears a share of loss. But some griefs pass through, and others shape you. To lose the person who was your core or your balance, or to lose someone before you've had a chance to get started.. It changes who you are.

This is a book that really captured that feeling for me. The sense of loving someone, but not completely. The sense of losing her too soon, of all of the pieces you'll never get to know, and that fee
Kelsey (Bookishly Nerdy)
Sep 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
TW: alcoholism, grief, pressure of coming out

I was lucky enough to receive an ARC to review. This story follows Corinne after the death of her girlfriend. However, no one knew about their relationship. I should start off this review by saying I LOVED this book, and this is just going to be one giant gush.

The writing was amazing! And I didn’t know until after I finished that this book was a debut novel. It reads like someone who has been writing for years. The best part, in my opinion, is the ch
Sep 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
(Disclaimer: I received this book from Edelweiss. This has not impacted my review which is unbiased and honest.)

TW: grief, parental alcohol addiction, biphobia

Who I Was with Her is a deeply emotional book about queer identity, grief, and coming to terms with loss. At the same time, it's also a book about friendship, the expectations, and weights, of parents, and love. A central theme throughout Who I Was with Her was about the pieces of ourselves we show to other people. The versions of oursel
Aug 02, 2020 rated it really liked it
3.5 stars for me

There is a lot to like in this and I think it could be very meaningful for the right reader. I loved the bi and casual ace representation. I appreciated the complexities of not wanting to come out and of being pressured to do so by someone. I felt so deeply sad that Corinne wasn't able to share her grief and was hiding so much from her family (I'm a parent now). I loved that the book moved from devastation to hope.
Dawn Ferencz
Jul 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
This is an excellent portrayal of grief. I was less interested in the pieces about college recruitement and how running was or was not part of Corrinne's orbit, but the grief aspects were realistic and palpable.
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Nita is a short Southern queer with very strong opinions about the best kind of barbecue (hint: it’s vinegar-based.) They are a 2017 Lambda Literary Writer’s Retreat Fellow in YA literature. In addition to being a YA writer, they moderate for YA Pride and do literary translation from German to English. They l

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