Why Him? Why Her?: Understanding Your Personality Type and Finding the Perfect Match
A groundbreaking book about how your personality type determines who you love.
Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? In this fascinating and informative book, Helen Fisher, one of the world’s leading experts on romantic love, unlocks the hidden code of desire and attachment. Each of us, it turns out, primarily expresses one of
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I didn’t listen to it so I could find my “perfect match” -- but the psychology and biology behind attraction and love interest me. And perhaps to a greater extent, personality typing interests me; particularly th ...more
I hesitate to ...more
It centres around the supposition that there are four basic personality types, controlled by the dominant chemical element in the body.
The author begins with the statement that scientists now believe that some 50% of the variations in human personality are associated with genetic factors and we inherit much of the factors of the mind.
She however further reminds us that ones person ...more
You seek adventures of the mind and senses. You are very curious and creative, and you are willing to take some risks to pursue your interests. Adaptable and optimistic, you can be easily bored when you’re not doing something interesting. You have a lot of energy, and you tend to be spontaneous or even impulsive.
You are more creative than other p ...more
The book begins with a brief personality test and then introduces the reader to the four primary personality types: Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator. This structure allows the reader to compare their own experience with that of each arche ...more
Anyway, I've had to deal with crushes and love in the past 3 years and I've made so many huge mistakes, but I think I can say that I do know what love is. (Sort of. A little bit.)
First of all, it's kind of interesting how there's a book about such a thing because love is so freakis ...more
While Helen Fischer's categorization of people's personalities into four types based on neurotransmitters and hormones is interesting, it ultimately succumbs to simplification, though to her credit she does admit the complexity of personalities by qualifying her statements and presenting other factors influencing your personality. The simplification, however, works sometimes (though I'm not sure if it's just theory-induced blindness coupled with confirmation bias), and you realize ther ...more
Despite the failures this simple model looks quite applicable to the real world for a very basic categorisation ...more
The premise is that the hormones in our body cause people to fall into four personality types based on serotonin, estrogen, testosterone, and dopamine. The four types are
Explorer - dopamine, example, Helen Keller
Builder - serotonin, example, George Washington
Director - testosterone, example most CEOs
Negotiator - estrogen, ex ...more
I can't wait to read more books written by Dr. Fisher. ...more
Fisher is a highly qualified biological anthropologist. She describes four archetypes of the human race. She scientifically discusses w ...more
PRO of the book: It really sunk in for me that there truly are radically different personality types that each function and thrive in differen ...more
Helen Fisher's sequel to Why We Love has all the same characteristics of the original book: an extraordinary amount of cultural references combined with many academic references to psychological and anthropological studies. In my opinion, she is more careful to address issues with transexuals and homosexuals than she was in her first book. However, unlike her first book she is not laying out ...more
I heard Helen Fisher's TED talk and found it very interesting, so I decided to read her book.
Being that she is an academic that studies romantic love form an inter-disciplinary angle, I was eager to hear her thoughts.
I'd say I walked away from the book with a much stronger understanding of myself in relationships, the people around me and ...more
Here’s a quick overview of each type:
- builder: values tradition and order
- explorer: values spontaneity and adventure
- negotiator: values emotions and philosophy
- Director: values power and sex
Other things that stood out:
- iris of the eye, crypts or pits signal warm-hearted and tender negotiator traits and furrows, those line ...more
The first link to H. Fisher test is about the current state of your love life, and the second link tests your personality. ...more
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author is the scientific adviser to Chemistry.com, a division of Match.com
I write HelenFisherPersonalityType.html to test personality type.
Some points that excludes in this book
1. p 39 Extroversion vs. Introversion, often ignore in definition of difference: how you get your energy. Extroversion get energy from others. Introvert are oriented inward, become relax and rested and reward when turns to inwards.
2. p41 neuroticism and anxiety.
Notes in this book:
1. Personality ...more
However, there are some problems with 'Why Him? Why Her'. While I do believe that personality is governed by brain chemicals, I feel that Fisher relies too heavily on her surveys and research in generalising personality traits to dopamine, serotonin, estrogen and testosterone. According to Fisher, creativity is associated ...more
By many accounts, Fisher is considered the world’s leading expe ...more