This book was just what I needed. For starters, it validated that I'm already on the right track with my love and support of my widowed girlfriend. I did find areas that I could stand to work on, too. Seeing her hurt in any way really tears me apart so, I have to learn how not to always be so torn because in those moments when she's hurting, sometimes, she needs the strong, supportive me and not the overly compassionate, empathetic me. I hate there aren't many books from the widow perspective in regards to how to cope and press on in life after the loss of a spouse, but I'm so appreciative to have stumbled upon this one. Thanks John for your upfront, unfiltered approach. I'll definitely be sharing this book with my girlfriend.