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Abba's Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging

4.30  ·  Rating details ·  8,410 ratings  ·  397 reviews
Many Christians feel broken and angry but don't think they can express these real feelings around others--or to God. So we put on a mask to hide our identity. Feelings of embarrassment and shame make us hide from the One who truly loves us. Author Brennan Manning encourages you to let go of this stressful, unreal impostor lifestyle and freely accept your identity as a chil ...more
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Published September 19th 2002 by NavPress Publishing Group (first published 1994)
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Mike (the Paladin)
Encouraging, enlightening and positive. Our Sunday morning class (most would probably call it Sunday School but we call it "Grace Discipleship Class") just spent several weeks reading and discussing this book. Of course you can read it in less than week (at least I assume most of you can) and I'd say it's worth your time.

Mr. Manning is a Roman Catholic...I'm not. I can and do recommend this book as it (mostly) transcends denominational concerns. It is a book I believe most Christians can/may fin
Sep 30, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Maybe i missed something but this book in my opinion deserves a wowzers!
it exposed the imposter within me without beating me into the ground, leaving me helpless fully aware of my wretchedness.
instead it helped me to face myself in the mirror, accept that, & feel DAD's love for me regardless who im staring at in the mirror, & then provided courage to step into the world with the good news.
the need for intimate belonging pushes us to look for it in so many different places & become someone else d
Jul 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
First read, not likey. Second read, AWESOME! At first I felt the book condoned all forms of licentious behavior. Your inner King Baby compels you to commit adultery? That's okay just give ol' King Baby a hug, ask your mate for forgiveness saying "King Baby made me do it" and pray for God's grace and you're good to go! Oh but we're it that simple. It's not. What the book does not speak about is God's holiness and our need for reverence for God. A religious self-help book that speaks of both issue ...more
Brian Stevenson
May 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
Self-hatred is the dominant malaise crippling Christians and stifling their growth in the Holy Spirit. The cause of self-hatred is disparaging words from family members, moralizing from the church, and pressure to be successful in the world’s eyes. Alcoholism, workaholism, other addictive behaviors, and escalating suicide rates reflect the magnitude of the problem. To complicate things, our self-rejection leads to the creation of a false self (“the imposter”) to protect us against pain. It’s the ...more
Nina Donkin
Mar 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I found Abba's Child to be a very thought provoking book. It presents to us a picture of what it can look like for a Christian to truly know the love of our Heavenly Father.

One of the issues presented in the book is how, often, we create an "Imposter" - a false self who we live through, either trying to be accepted by people or trying to hide our sinful nature. But this is not how we are called to live - we are not called to live falsely, in a masquerade of "goodness" - instead we are called to
Sep 26, 2007 rated it liked it
Poignant Quotes:

The sorrow of God lies in our fear of Him, our fear of life, and our fear of ourselves.

In my experience, self-hatred is the dominant malaise crippling Christians and stifling their growth in the Holy Spirit.

Often breakdowns lead to breakthroughs.

If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others…but when we dare to live as forgiven men and women, we join the wounded healers and draw closer to Jesus.

Living ou
Jul 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: best-of-2017
This really spoke to my heart. :)
Oct 31, 2013 rated it really liked it
A pastor friend of mine gave me this book to read. I am not sure what prompted it, perhaps he saw something in me that would be helped by reading the book.

If that was his goal, he hit a home run!

I remember the night vividly that I found Christ, really found Him. There were some days after that when I knew my life was different, richer and far better than it had been. I began feeling unworthy and said so in my daily prayer walks. Then one morning when I uttered that word - unworthy - He spoke to
Bailey Steinmuller
This book is SO. GOOD. Manning taught me so much about my identity as Abba’s Child and what it looks like to truly live out of this identity. Every believer should read this book!
Oct 03, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Abba's Child is a very thought provoking book about what it might look like for a Christian to truly believe and then live life as one dearly and eternally loved by God (our Heavenly Father; our Abba).

I really liked the section about living falsely as The Imposter vs. the truth that as a Christian, it is Christ's life, Chist's love that is to flow through me to others, no matter who they are or in what condition I meet them. He talks a lot about living in the present reality that Christ is sliv
Sarah Wolfe
Jun 25, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
While there are definitely a few gems of encouraging truth in here, they're couched in spiritualism, encouragement to look for extrabiblical revelation, and even talk of communication with the dead (by asserting the resurrection of bodies has already taken place, no less).

I read it because my father asked me to as he found it encouraging, but I cannot recommend it to anyone and if you insist you must read it with a whole shakerful of salt.
Shari McCullough
May 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Brennan Manning, as only he can, through his own vulnerability and illustrations from his life and other sources reminds us that we have a God who indeed loves us, like a daddy, an abba. The book is an invitation to each reader to lean against the Abba's chest, so to speak, and listen to the heartbeat of God's love. ...more
Samantha Barnes
It’s been a long time since a book stirred my heart the way this book did. I more fully grasp God’s love for me and yet, I feel that I don’t grasp it at all, as it is deeper than I can comprehend.
Camelia Sighiartau
Nov 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing
It’s one of those books that make you feel like you fit in. I’ve been fighting my impostor for a long long time and it was hard to even articulate the issue. However, when I picked up this book ... it was like the author was writing about me. And it was liberating to understand that I am not crazy and others have been fighting their own impostors.
And above all ... it teaches us Abba’s great love for us, His children!
I would totally recommend this book, BUT it’s one of those books ... for a spe
Maddie Dreffer
Jan 09, 2021 rated it really liked it
Very interesting read about our inner imposter and the way God calls us to be His child. Challenging and enlightening. Some quotes that I loved from this book:

“The imposter demands to be noticed. His craving for compliments energizes his futile quest for carnal satisfaction. His bandages are his identity. Appearances are everything. He convolutes esse quam videri (to be rather than to seem to be) so that “seeming to be” becomes his modus operandi.”

“The prayer of simple awareness means we don’t h
Rebekah Judd
Dec 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was a beautiful reminder of God’s great love for me. “It takes a profound conversion to accept that God is relentlessly tender and compassionate toward us just as we are - not in spite of our sins and faults...but with them. Though God does not condone or sanction evil, He does not withhold His love because there is evil in us.”
Turner Spottswood
May 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Must read. 50 times. Maybe even once a day?
Oct 10, 2015 rated it liked it
I actually didn't finish this. A dear friend, who is going through a lot of health issues, raved about it and gave me a copy. I'm ashamed that I just could not get into it. All those quotes from various writers in the first chapter was a bit overwhelming. Maybe it's me. I believe the best way to get close to God is to read the Bible, pray, and be aware of the Holy Spirit's constant presence. When I listen and open my heart, the Holy Spirit speaks, whether it be to my heart/mind or in a dream, et ...more
David Woods
Aug 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
So, so good. This book along with Life of the Beloved by Nouwen are so necessary. Lots of meditating on and internalizing required. I have and will continue to re-read especially the first 4 chapters of this book in perpetuity. For anyone who really wants/needs to grasp the depths of God’s love for you, read this. Hint: that’s all of us!
Feb 02, 2019 rated it really liked it
A really excellent and thoughtful book about how deeply you and I are loved by God.

He [God] anguishes over our self-absorption and self-sufficiency... God's sorrow lies in our refusal to approach Him when we sinned and failed.

When being is divorced from doing, pious thoughts become an adequate substitute for washing dirty feet.

In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither
Sherry Elmer
Jul 16, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: faith, inspirational, 2020
When I started to read this book at the beginning of the year, it felt like the right book at the right time. However, my interest began to fade about half way through. I still liked the book, (although I didn't agree with everything Brennan Manning had to say), but whether it was because I had started reading too many other books or whether the timing was no longer right, I rarely picked this one up and it stretched on for all these months. I'm not sorry I read it, but it I don't think I'd pick ...more
Mary Rachel Fenrick
Sep 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
3.5 stars (I rounded up). Not my favorite book by Manning but overall a good read with a message my soul needs desperately. I don’t agree with everything he says in the book and I also wish that he had used more Scripture instead of so many quotes from other people. But as an Achiever and someone who grew up with a lot of legalism, I needed the reminder that it is not my works or anything in me that can earn his love. He loves me simply because in Christ, I belong to Him.
Thomas Kuhn
Dec 24, 2020 rated it liked it
There are few writers who express the tenderness of Jesus as well as Brennan Manning. He reminds me that Jesus loves me as I am, not as I should be. Don't agree with everything he says but this book was stirring and beautiful at moments. The chapter on "The Imposter" is amazing and makes the book worth reading. Three stars because (1) the book felt all over the place and (2) he tends to paint God the Father/the OT as law and Jesus/the NT as tenderness. It's a false and unhelpful dichotomy. ...more
Jake Fraser
Aug 19, 2018 rated it liked it
There were definitely a few little nuggets that I highlighted, pondered, put in my journal, etc. But this was a slow moving book for me. I have 30 pages left and I'm calling it a day on this one (who quits a book with 30 pages left?? This girl. Life's too short). ...more
Judy G
Jul 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Take time to ponder this book. I hope to read it again sometime. Lots to reflect on in this book.
Lydia Albano
yet another Manning book I’ve underlined half of. my heart has been softened and strengthened yet again by this man’s beautiful words.
Chastidy  Parks
Jan 19, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Really enjoyed this from start to finish.
Cameron Ritter
Dec 30, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Really needed this.
Becky Giovagnoni
Jul 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
I had gotten this book from the library and halfway through this book I ordered it. I cannot wait to read it again! My favorite chapter is Present Risenness ... the truth of the present risenness of Jesus Christ is so motivating and inspirational and gives new meaning to this life.

"Living in the awareness of the risen Jesus ... is the key that unlocks the door to grasping the meaning of existence."
Suzanne Carr
Jan 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
It stretched my understanding of God's grace. I used to it research the "Ragamuffin" singer, Rich Mullins. Brennan Manning was a mentor to Rich Mullins. Brennan is explaining as if for the first time what true grace is, and compares himself Ragamuffin. ...more
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Richard Francis Xavier Manning, known as Brennan Manning (April 27, 1934 – April 12, 2013) was an American author, friar, priest, contemplative and speaker.Born and raised in Depression-era New York City, Manning finished high school, enlisted in the US Marine Corps, and fought in the Korean War. After returning to the United States, he enrolled at Saint Francis University in Loretto, Pennsylvania ...more

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