Thank you Netgalley for providing me a free copy of this book in exchange of a honest review
First of all ,I would like to say I am very vocal about this issue and my opinions might hurt the male community.
Why the fuck does it always happen that the victim is portrayed as wrong and system sides with the culprit?
I thought this is the case of Indian society but this is everywhere.
"I could have been wearing a
burlap sack and I still would have been raped. This is just a part
of the story and it’s my story, so I can include whatever I want.
Also, think of all the countries where women wear saris or
burkas and rape is still prevalent. What someone was wearing
is just a ridiculous excuse."
What is this bullshit?Don't tell me a girl to not wear clothes of her choice but lower your eyes when she walks .The world would be a better place .
"If you are in position
of power, you always have an opportunity to be a helper and
not a hurter and you can always change the way you conduct
yourself. Maybe he really did realize that protecting a school at
all costs was not how he wanted to live his life. If he has changed,
maybe this shows that deans and schools can change. Things
don’t have to continue the way they are"
This is a story about Laurie who is sexually assaulted and is denied justice. Guess what? She was portrayed as wrong and was shown as culprit here .
This is our mentality .When a girl says we won't regard it and then we are the only ones who show double standards .
“nice guy” is the guy
who you study with, and when you won’t have sex with him he
gets angry and complains that, “girls never want the nice guy.”
Their niceness means the world owes them, and to “friendzone”
at all. “Nice guys” have a similar mentality to rapists. It’s not
about the phone number or the kiss or sex, it’s about needing
power over another person.
The concept of nice guy has become an illusion. I am not denying there might be still some decent guys but some incidents degrade the whole male community.
Rape culture or the normalization of rape is disturbingly
widespread, and so much of what we do to “prevent” rapes
is born from this mindset that rape is inevitable. So much of
the rhetoric about campus rape or rape in general is “don’t
drink, and if you do, watch your drink. Always walk home with
a friend, and carry pepper spray.” Yes, always be as careful as
simple. Stop putting the burden of preventing sexual assault
and the blame on the victim. And maybe when we start taking
these crimes seriously, having genuine conversations about
consent, and holding the perpetrators accountable these
crimes will stop.
"Why is it that an assault is okay to talk about, but when you add
Victim blaming does not just apply to sexual crimes. I think
it makes us feel some control over our lives"
This is the biggest question .People will click pictures and take videos but no one will help .Atleast in name of the humanity help .
Stop normalizing that rape is inevitable. Stop normalizing that
perpetrators will not be held accountable. Stop normalizing
suicide after rape. Normalize therapy and medication. Normalize
that schools and judges and the public believe victims. Most of
all, we need to normalize the idea that you can live a normal life
after being raped.