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Rules for Moving

3.85  ·  Rating details ·  27 ratings  ·  24 reviews
From bestselling author Nancy Star comes a deeply moving novel about the truths we hide from others and the lies we tell ourselves.

To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. What no one knows is that she also has a secret: her life is a disaster, and it’s just gotten worse. Her husband, whom she was planning to leave, has died in a
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Expected publication: May 19th 2020 by Lake Union Publishing
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Jan 20, 2020 rated it really liked it
Lane’s husband Aaron has died in a crash, his car crashed into another killing the occupants and the mystery woman in his car. Lane is now left to bring up their six year old son Henry and juggle her job writing Ask Roxie, an agony aunts column.

After Aaron’s funeral Henry stops talking to everybody except his mother. Lana decides that they should move from their apartment and rents a property from Nathan in New Jersey. Unfortunately the house has many flaws and needs a lot of repairs so Nathan
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Dec 26, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book tells the story of an advice columnist going through some stuff herself. You could say she is in need of some advice and guiding herself.
Used to moving as a kid, Lane decides to move with her kid after a traumatic event. Henry doesn’t speak to anyone because of the things that happened. As the story unfolds you get a real understanding for this family and Lane’s not so great childhood.
The book is a pretty good read and I really enjoyed it. I did find there were some gaps and some
Jan 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Rules for Moving is a delightful, moving, touching story that almost had me in tears several times throughout the story..

Lane’s husband, Aaron, is killed in a car accident, leaving herself and her son, Henry, suddenly without the third member of their family. Lane believes her husband was drunk and on his way to see the woman with whom she thought he was having an affair, as he had stormed out of the house after one of their all too frequent fights; in fact, both Lane and Aaron were pretty sure
Donna Hines
Feb 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, netgalley
How not to lose your voice, how to speak out, how to save yourself and others! To new beginnings!
Well, lets begin with Henry a 6 yr old who stopped talking to everyone but his mom Lane prior to a disaster that took his fathers life.
The fact that Lane has been living a perfect shell of her former self should be no surprise.
These two characters now do all they can to courageously battle back to a life free of terror and fear.
One that will be sure to warm the hearts of readers everywhere.
I truly
Jan 09, 2020 rated it really liked it
Rules for Moving by Nancy Star is a stand-alone contemporary romance novel.
The story is told in a dual pov.
Meet Lane. She's an advice columnist, blogger, married withan adorable son. After a traumatic event, she decides to move and start over. Only that is quite not the best idea. The move brings back memories better not revealed. Her son stops speaking to everyone except her.
Both have a lot of healing to do.
Rules for Moving is a heart-wrenching touching read that gave me all the feels. The
Jan 11, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: net-galley
Tender, moving, great insight into the mind and reactions of a child. Frustratingly dysfunctional family was necessary, but the only real downside to the story.

Thanks to Net Galley for the Advanced Reader Copy
Sue Fernandez
Jan 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Thank you to Lake Union Publishing (they never steer me wrong) and Net Galley for an e ARC of this exchange for my honest review. I really loved this book. It started out in a way I didn't expect, but watching the path of advice columnist Lane Meckler go through grief that is messy...her husband, with whom she was about to separate, was killed. Her young son stops speaking to everyone but her. She decides to move, but that brings back many memories of moving multiple times when she was ...more
Dec 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
You can run, but you cannot hide.
This is the theme of this novel of heartache, fear, guilt, family, friendship and love.

"She was a Meckler after all; the Mecklers could move at speed. It was staying that was the problem."
Lane is a columnist who helps to solve problems. Yet, she cannot solve her own. Will running help?
Moving has always been the way to "move on" and hide lies and problems.
Can she and her son Henry move on when tragedy strikes? Will the truth come out in her own family?
This is an
Lauren Woods
Jan 31, 2020 rated it liked it
Rules for Moving follows Lane, advice columnist by day, unhappily wedded mother by night. When her husband dies in a sudden and tragic accident, Lane’s son, six year old Henry, inexplicably stops speaking to everyone but her. In the aftermath of the funeral, Lane must juggle her grieving son, a job on rocky ground, and a flood of memories dredged up by her complicated family. With only her sister as an ally (and a sporadic one at that), Lane struggles to be seen while drowning under the weight ...more
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Adult fiction isn't usually my thing, but I felt like trying it out this time, with the story of Lane and her son Henry, while they go through grief, moving and self-discovery after Lane's husband died.

While I was not captivated by the beginning of the book, the way Nancy Star writes the grieving process and all the psychology behind all the events in the story ended up getting to me. I feel like this is a simple plot, involving the death of a loved one, that got interesting with a few turning
Lauren Kaznowski
Jan 01, 2020 rated it really liked it
Whew! A lot happened in this book. In Rules for Moving, Lane Meckler is an advice columnist with all of the answers for her readers, but when it comes to navigating issues in real life, she struggles. After being thrown a massive curve ball, she has to learn to help her six-year-old son, Henry, navigate through grief and change, especially after he stops speaking to anyone besides her.

The story is predominantly told from Lane's point of view, but there were a few endearing chapters in Henry's
Jennifer Newell
Feb 10, 2020 rated it liked it
There are parts of this book that are very interesting. I enjoyed Lane the columnist providing advice to others. I found this story to be slow and at times hard to get through. The thoughts and plot of the story were good and interesting. The execution of the story seem to be long and drawn-out. I don’t think it took as long as it did to get the substance of the matter.
Lane was a likable character. Her ability to provide advice to others yet struggled when it came to her own life rang true to
Lu Etchells
Feb 21, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2020, netgalley
This story follows Lane aka Roxie (agony aunt), who has to come to terms with life after her husband’s sudden death, a matter complicated by the fact she wanted to leave him.

Following his death, their six year old son, Henry, stops talking to anyone other than her, and Lane must find a way to become a single parent, support her child, and handle the fact her job might be at risk. With a family history of moving when things get tricky, Lane packs her bags and finds herself starting again.

I really
Jan 26, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: netgalley
Thank you to the publisher and author for providing me with a digital ARC of this title via Netgalley in exchange for my honest review.

I found this title to be mediocre. Nothing to really complain about, but neither can I really think about anything that I really liked about it. It was a nice story, with some interesting characters. I did like the background of the main character writing an advice column and how that plays in to her own life and feelings. I was confused by the relationship with
Kate Morgan
Feb 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this book. The main character, Lane Meckler is flawed but extremely relatable. Lane's self-discovery and journey as she tries to understand herself and her surroundings is beautiful. Nancy Star captures intense self-reflection very well in "Rules for Moving".

"To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. What no one knows is that she also has a secret: her life is a disaster, and it’s just gotten worse. Her husband, whom she was planning to
Dec 26, 2019 rated it really liked it
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Jan 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I was so pleasantly surprised by this book. I had the advantage of going into it without really knowing anything about it and I would suggest doing that. It wasn't a twisty mystery but a well-written family dramady with quirky characters and unpredictable plot points- in other words, my favorite kind of book.
Lane is an advice column journalist who isn't a people person. She grew up moving a lot. Her son Henry is a mix of her introvert personality and his dad's fun-loving, social side. That's
Olivia L
Feb 24, 2020 rated it liked it
With respect to Henry's perspective, the writing was wonderful. His inner voice was honest and pure. I found Lane difficult to relate to, especially with her general aversion toward the entire human race. She was severe, intractable, and cloaked in misery long before Aaron's death. It was difficult to fathom how she could have so many uncharitable thoughts about everyone (Aaron, Sylvie, Marshall, etc) save Henry. After my third attempt, I finally put the book down for good. Lane was not a ...more
Jan 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
"The Rules for Moving" was a wonderful, sad, sometimes funny read.

"Here's what I love. A blank slate. Waiting to be transformed. You see bare walls. I see a magical playroom."

Lane Meckler is Roxie, a professional advice columnist. She grew up moving around alot and is really antisocial.
Lane's husband is killed in a car accident and their son stops talking to everyone but her. She thinks a change will be good for them all.
You won't put this book down until the last page. Not anything like
Jan 29, 2020 rated it really liked it
Lane Meckler, aka advice columnist 'Ask Roxie,' has all the answers for her readers, but readers would be surprised to know her own home life and family don't function well. With a philandering husband who drinks a lot, parents who are secretive and a past full of frequent moves, Lane wonders how she can give such popular advice.

After the unexpected death of her husband, she moves her son to a new home where he has difficulty making friends, particularly because he no longer speaks. The house
Romi Sigma
Jan 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Rules For Moving is a very well written and thought provoking story that captured my attention from the first chapter and had me reading way past my bedtime because I wanted to know what was going to happen!
My only complaint would be that some of the story lines are hard to understand, for example, why do Lane's parents behave so strangely? The way they treat Lane is very strange and I can't understand her responses.

With thanks to Netgalley and Lake Union Publishing for the complimentary
Feb 18, 2020 rated it it was ok
I received an ARC through NetGalley.

I thought the premise of this book was great. However, it did not all come together for me. It seemed as though all of the issues were glossed over, and swept under a rug. The explanations given quickly at the end seemed thrown together without any substance. It just all seemed very strange to me, but I am looking forward to reading other books from this author.
Feb 05, 2020 rated it liked it
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I read an ARC of this book from Netgalley.

I found it a lot more moving than I expected! The conceit of the advice columnist needing advice in her own life could have been clunky, but it was actually really tenderly done, and the plot was interesting. Some subplots seemed to have got a bit lost along the way, and I was expecting certain characters to play far more of a role than they actually did. But in general, it was quite a sensitively written book.
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Nancy Star is the bestselling author of Sisters One, Two Three and five other novels including her latest, Rules For Moving, coming this Spring. Star’s novels have been translated into many languages, optioned for television, and chosen as Literary Guild and Mystery Guild Signature Series selections. In addition to her novels, Star’s essays have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, ...more