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I Know You Really Love Me: A Psychiatrist's Account of Stalking and Obsessive Love

3.47  ·  Rating details ·  110 Ratings  ·  16 Reviews
I Know You Really Love Me unfolds like a psychological thriller, as Orion first finds herself the subject of obsessive love and then unsuccessfully tries to free herself of her patient, pseudonym Fran. This demanding, calculating woman doggedly follows Orion state-to-state, and continues to stalk her to this day - eight years and counting. In this painfully honest account ...more
Mass Market Paperback, 366 pages
Published July 6th 1998 by Dell (first published June 1st 1997)
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Oct 28, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
it takes some really awful writing to make such an interesting subject so dull! i am fascinated by erotomanic delusions and yet i couldn't finish this book, which is the story of a female psychiatrist and her female, patient/stalker. it just seemed so drawn out. the french movie, 'he loves me, he loves me not' is facinating if you are also interested in erotomania.
David Williams
Sep 25, 2012 rated it really liked it
This exploration of erotomania is as interesting and valid today (I am writing this review in 2012) as when it was first published in 1997. Written with scientific authority, it's doubly powerful in that the author, psychiatrist Doreen Orion, is speaking from her personal experience of being 'stalked' by a female patient she calls Fran who clings onto the delusion that the two of them have a lesbian love relationship. At the time of publication this 'affair' had already gone on eight years and c ...more
Apr 17, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: biography-memoir
The dark subject matter and title made me think the book would be a lot more gripping and thrilling then it actually was. Although there were a few jumpy, eerie bits, the majority was not
Lisa M.
Aug 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I purchased this years ago from a used bookstore. I just finished my graduate program to become a therapist. I chose the perfect time to read this book!

It was interesting to read this book due to my professional background. I felt Dr. Orion was really brave and honest to write this book. She was open about her thoughts, feelings, and beliefs -- which at points did not represent a good "therapist." She really portrayed her own humanity well. The portrayal felt real and complex. There were times
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This is a true story told from the point of view of a psychiatrist who gets stalked by one of her patients. Fran Nightingale believes she’s in a relationship with Dr. Orion, even though there was never any suggestion of one. For eight long years Dr. Orion struggles to protect herself and her fiancée/husband Tim (they got married in the midst of all this). She attempts to get into Fran’s mind to understand how to get her
Well, if any psychiatrists have some down time then they could probably write some pretty intense horror/suspense novels based on all the stuff they've had to deal with from their patients.

I don't usually willingly pick up non fiction, but the subject of eteromania has interested me since my French teacher showed us the film He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not . This subject seems to be becoming more popular in all types of media, so I thought why not?

It is insane how much these victims were put throu
Lily McDonald
May 03, 2012 rated it really liked it
As an avid reader and addict of mental disorders and the research that goes into understanding them, I really enjoyed reading this. Its insight into the world of erotomania. You cant read something like this and look for a plot or some story to entertain you. Its INFORMATIONAL! It could save your life. I suggest people look at it for what it is, real life. Not art imitating life. REAL life. This woman suffered at the hand of some other woman who she randomly happened across. This is not Edward s ...more
Jul 24, 2014 rated it liked it
The information in this book is both interesting and important. However, there are many times (especially in the first half) where the author tries to connect events or statements that do not flow well together. There were also plenty of spelling errors throughout the book. The content is a good introduction to stalking and erotomania but it is old. The laws are different now, as is the awareness level for victims (thanks to people like the author); which deems this book a little outdated in my ...more
Tabbitha Lindsley
Jan 15, 2017 rated it really liked it
Doreen Orion's account of her experience of being stalked for 8 long years is fascinating and creepy at the same time. She tells of her experience of being stalked by a former patient who was institutionalized after having a crazed panic attack. She shares stories of well known celebrities that have been stalked even some that were murdered as well as stories she heard from ordinary people just like her. She explains the differences between erotomania(what her stalker has) and normal stalkers. T ...more
Rebecca Ford
Jun 17, 2009 rated it it was ok
This is a tough read. I didn't realize what I was getting myself into because it was a recommended book. Its a true story about a psychiatrist who's former patient start stalking her for 9 years! You'll learn a lot about erotomania, a mental disorder that leads the delusions to believe their victim is in love with them. Thus all their actions are justified. I did find it was a quick read but it also made me slightly paranoid. I had to check my doors 3 times before going to bed. So read with caut ...more
Dec 17, 2008 rated it it was ok
This was an interesting book in that I learned more about stalking than I probably cared to know. However, if I ever get stalked, I'll have some guidelines to follow. The author Doreen Orion, a psychiatrist,tells of her own experience of being stalked for years by a former patient. What I objected to is the length of the tale. It went on and on and on, a ploy,no doubt by her publisher to add length so it could charge more for the book. It was extremely repetitious. I could have written this book ...more
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Oct 29, 2008 rated it really liked it
If you picked this book and expected a scary story about a stalker you are wrong. This is more about stalking in generally and especially the stalkers that suffer from erotomania.
I thought this book was very interesting. Yes I would have enjoyed a scary book but this one was really an eye opener about stalking. I've learned a lot reading this.
Feb 19, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-in-2005
This was really a fascinating book, I thought. The author has the benefit of her education in psychiatry to help her to explain stalking. She also discusses her own feelings on being stalked, including her frusteration with the laws that were in effect at the time of her writing. (Late 1990s.) Recommended.
Bree Lark
Mar 06, 2017 rated it it was ok
This book was a pity. The subject matter was interesting and the story was really gripping and SHOULD have made a great true crime novel.

Sadly, the writer just isn't a good author or her editor seriously slacked off in this book.
Aug 20, 2012 rated it liked it
OMG! I remember needing this good to know the inside squirmy brain of a crazy person and how their thought processes you an edge.
Aug 28, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: work-related
I got sort of bored with all the info about out-of-date legislation.
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