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The Relationship Principles of Jesus

4.12  ·  Rating details ·  426 ratings  ·  54 reviews
What would you give to radically improve, even transform, what matters most in your relationships?How about forty days of your time?In forty days, bring new depth and health to your marriage, your family, and your friendships. Six weeks to explore and implement six foundational principles that Jesus taught and lived. You’ll be equipped with insights and a practical path fo ...more
Hardcover, 334 pages
Published September 28th 2008 by Zondervan (first published September 16th 2008)
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Kevin Lucia
May 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A lot of good stuff in here, especially when it comes to relating to other people. I do have to say, however - it's really apparent that most our very visible "Christian leaders" do not practice these principles in any real way.

Especially convicting was the concluding section on humility in our relationships with others. I can confess with all transparency that as a writer - especially after experiencing even a modicum of success - I've struggled to maintain an attitude of humility internally,
I finished this book yesterday. I went on a 40 day fast and every day I read one chapter. It was an AMAZING journey.
The concepts will stay with me for the rest of my life. I feel transformed, renewed. Don't miss this adventure.

During this process, I confessed so many things I didn't even know were sins. I gave forgiveness in places where I didn't even know I was holding unforgiveness. I saw people, relationships, life in a whole new light.
I kept a journal throughout the last
Dec 09, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2015
I read this book at just the right time. I have come to realize that not everyone will understand us, even Jesus was misunderstood at times, but he continued, he kept going. People fail us, but in those moments let us remember that Jesus faced the worst kinds of betrayal yet he persevered in the greatest ways. How? Because of his relationship with his Father. I don't think Jesus expected us to be best friends with everyone, even he had his closest friends, but he does expect us to care, to love. ...more
Oct 20, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help, religion
my dad's church is supporting "40 days of love" a month-long program in how to improve your relationships and connect with love in your life. as part of the course, they are selling these books as a companion piece to the 4 weekly services that encompass the program. i bought the book and have been reading a chapter every night as designated. let me start by saying that this book is not a religious text but a self-help workbook and as such i believe it's a good one. regardless of whether or not ...more
JD' D'Souza
Ernest Hemingway was the survivor of World War I, the Spanish War, 2 plane wrecks and 3 divorces. At the end of his life he was treated with electroschock therapy. Paranoid that J Edgar Hoover and the FBI was out to get him, the Pulitzer and Nobel prize winning author committed suicide like his father and brother. There another Ernest who was also shot and killed in the same decade. Albeit this Ernest is less well known. The missionary to the Motilon Indians in South America was robbed by 7 brut ...more
Oct 04, 2009 rated it it was amazing
This book was the best for me personally of the three devotional books(The Purpose Driven Life and Better Together were the first two) that our church has read and discussed in small groups. It challenged me to look at my own way of relating to God and others and to make a choice with each chapter to live more like Jesus whose example of how to love, communicate, forgive, not judge others, serve, and live with humility serves as God's standard for each of us. Of the 3 books I've read in this ser ...more
Aug 11, 2011 rated it really liked it
This was a well written book about Relationship Principles that Jesus taught. Starting with the two greatest commandments, Love the Lord Your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as your self. This book also talks about the Golden Rule. I like how this author wrote about these tough topics in any relationship. I believe it will be a BIG challenge to follow through with, but I know relationships are worth the sacrifice of my own pride, selfi ...more
May 14, 2013 rated it liked it
There were many aspects of this book that were challenging and practical, which I found very helpful. Through studying this book with my friend Stephanie, I was able to pin-point some of the things I do that are completely selfish in my marriage, some patterns of thought that are completely judgmental and spent the past 6 weeks focusing on relationships and how I can love better.

We all have room for improvement in this area, because we are all flawed. And I hope these scripture verses and lesson
Jul 22, 2011 rated it it was amazing
For anyone involved in Christian education, small group or cell group study, or just personal self-help in Christian growth and maturity, I would highly recommend this book!! Tom Hollady has written a wonderful guide to relationship building. But be warned! The reader is continually invited in each chapter to take honest reflection of themselves in an effort to bring healing and reconciliation to bruised, broken relationships, whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, parent, child, or boss. ...more
Apr 19, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Someone sold me this book for less than two dollars, and regardless of the circumstance under which I bought it, I had great expectations. Those great expectations diminished after beginning the book, because it had a slow beginning and I was not pleased. However, as I continued reading the book, it got better and better. It definitely had an impact on me that I believe will last a lifetime. Great book.
Jan 17, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: biblical-living
This book is very easy to read regardless of whether you are a new or seasoned Christian but some of the concepts are quite challenging for even mature Christians. There are seven daily chapters to read for each of the six principles addressed in this book. It also contains memory verses and actions to take. We used this book in conjunction with the workbook, 40 Days of Love, but it could easily be used alone as a book club discussion.
Apr 11, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Loved the day to day exercises. Learned, and am still trying to put into practice, how to better communicate with my daughters. Also learned its best to be humble, and try to be kind to others without always expecting anything in return. Has helped me become a more frequent volunteer.
Sep 04, 2009 rated it it was amazing
This book was so relevant and applicable. Each day I read a new chapter, I could relate it to a situation with a friend/coworker/relative I was presently dealing with in my life. I feel I should read this book every day of my life.
Nov 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
I can clearly see how my decision making process changed while I was reading this book...Relationships worth so much more than any other things we can name. It was Jesus' priority when he was on earth. Now, it is my priority. Thank God I came across this book in my 20s!! ...more
Kirk Weikart
Aug 15, 2018 rated it liked it
This is part of the Saddleback Church's 40 day series. The book starts strong with good ideas well presented, but there are many days that were not memorable. The concepts presented were important, but either should have been truncated, or additional concepts introduced and developed. ...more
Apr 12, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Will read it over and over. <3
Scott Wison
Aug 10, 2011 rated it really liked it
I read this as a course with our church and family. I found it interesting, it's a easy hand book some may find it to simple, I feel this was intentional so all could participate. ...more
Jun Sung Lee
Feb 10, 2019 rated it liked it
3.5 stars. A purposefully slowed down meditation on the importance of relationships. Holladay’s chapters on humility and abiding are simple and powerful.
Madison Cox
Jun 20, 2020 rated it liked it
This book was written to be used as a 40 day study on relationships. I believe I may have missed out on the power of many of the points because I was not reading along with a group of people to discuss it with. A large majority of the examples were targeted at married people with children so at times it was hard to relate to the content. The author was conversational and presented scriptures in a way that made sense to the context. I especially enjoyed the takeaways that were included in the end ...more
Sep 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Discovering the meaning of a true disciple of Jesus.

I have read this book with a group of men who used it as a model of contemporary Christ-following discipleship. It launched many heartfelt real revelations of what each of us face. Iron sharpens iron. I highly recommend this book to anyone desiring a real life with Jesus and not afraid of the power of transparency.
Mar 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This was a wonderful way to celebrate Lent! There are 40 readings and it is about improving your life spiritually. Happy Easter everyone!
Daniel Supimpa
Oct 25, 2018 rated it liked it
A good entry point for someone seeking to understand basic principles of the Christian faith, but much oriented towards "evangelical culture". ...more
May 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
A simple book that can be a great introduction to Christianity / how to live like a Christian in the aspect of your relationships.
Kyle Ellis
Jul 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Very good read! Inspiring and captivating!
Kevin Johnson
Apr 01, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Read with my Pinnacle Group partners during our Friday morning national prayer calls. Very opening!
Jeff Earnhardt
Jun 30, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: spiritual-dev
Over 40 great ideas to add to your daily life. Three stood out the most for where I am right now.

H.I.M. Hypocrisy can be replaced with Integrity and Mercy
Daily Greatness Quiz- will I exalt myself or humble myself in today's opportunities
Grab the initiative and meet someone else's needs.



Melisa sopke
Apr 16, 2009 rated it it was amazing
So far I find this book to be amazing. I would recommend this to everyone. I thought I knew how to communicate well... I have found out in past 8 months I do not! :)
This book and Rick Warren videos on the 40 day to better relationships is worth investing in.
I now am learning healthy ways to communicate with friends and family.
(not sure that videos are called?)
Ciera Nicole
Oct 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I received this book for our Bible study class. Everyday, I made it a goal to read a chapter a day. This book is inspiring, touching, gives a great perspective of every principle the bible encourages us to do daily. Rick Warren is great at how he writes, he makes it relatable and enjoyable. It was a true 40 day journey getting closer to jesus.
Oct 28, 2009 rated it really liked it
Read this with my Bible study. I like how the Rick Warren family of books is very grounded in practical application, and also studying each one takes you on a 40-day journey. Thanks to that structure, I was able to build up a memory bank of the 40 verses by the time I was done.
May 11, 2013 rated it liked it
This book is about making love your greatest goal in life. Since that is already my goal, I found this book reassuring that I'm getting a lot right. This book is basic, and I found myself thinking of all the people who would benefit from implementing these ideals. ...more
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