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My Dad Thinks I’m a Boy?!: A Trans Positive Children's Book

3.98  ·  Rating details ·  40 ratings  ·  35 reviews
'My Dad thinks I'm a boy named Stephen who likes wrestling and fishing. But that's what my Dad likes.' Stephie is 7 years old. She likes bugs, books and spaghetti. Also, she's a girl... which should be pretty easy to understand, right? Well, not for her Dad! He's been mistaking her for a boy since she was born and struggles to see her for who she is. This powerful and ...more
Paperback, 48 pages
Published February 21st 2020 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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Steff Pasciuti
Jul 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My Dad Thinks I'm a Boy by own voices Sophie Labelleis one of those uplifting, yet heartbreaking stories. You love it, but ithurts.And truthfully, I did expect that going in. After all, this is a book about a transgender girl whose father cannot let go of the belief that his daughter is actually his son. It's a story that I'm sure a number of trans children might have gone through, themselves. In that, I am grateful that this book exists.

The story follows Stephie who is seven years old. But her
Sep 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My Dad Thinks I’m a Boy needs to be added to classroom and school libraries across the country.

This story is told with so much tenderness, grace, and self-assuredness that it just made me want to give Stephie a virtual high five. Readers who may be experiencing circumstances that similar to Stephie’s will read this and feel safe. Honored. Heard.

As other reviewers have said, the book doesn’t have an ending that is tied up in a neat, little bow…and I’m ok with that…because that is not always the
Aug 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
There are a few books that I will buy for every picture book age child in my life. This one just made the cut.
Making trans awareness not just available, but understandable and NORMAL for children not only shows trans children an image of themselves, but that it is just another fact. Like the colour of your hair. It is so very, very, very necessary.
Extra points for having divorced parents, for using the word transgender, and for having an ending that is not a perfect resolution.

5 glorious stars
Hélène Louise
I liked the main idea, which is a clever way to expose the situation: the little girl knows she's a girl, her problem isn't being in the wrong body (she's still very young and probably doesn't care about that yet), it is that her father thinks she's a boy. The error if his!
One point is also very good: Stephie is a girl, and likes girly things. Understanding that all girls don't like girly things should also be understanding that some girls may like them all the same! The important point is that
Jul 02, 2019 rated it liked it
As a parent it is important to read NEW children’s books. The classics will always be there, and we will always be able to pick up the books our parents read to us as kids. But personally, I feel it is important to read to our children what is new and relevant to our daily lives and the lives of others around us.

My favorite thing about Stephie is the fact that her favorite things where HER favorites - bugs scary movies etc - and not what the world says ‘girls’ like. (Dolls, bows etc)

Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
What a lovely book! I read this with Sophie (aged 6) and Jack (aged 10), who are both cisgender children (cisgender is a term for people who's gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth). I felt the story might be a bit young for Jack, but he enjoyed it and had a lot of questions.

The first half of the book is told from Stephie's point of view; as she explains her frustrations of having a dad who does not understand that although she was born with a body that looks like a
Jul 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: lgbt, netgalley
Thank you to Sophie Labelle, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, and NetGalley for this e-ARC.

I'm going to start by saying: I LOVE THIS BOOK. Let me tell you why. When I first read the description, I thought the premise was great, but I was skeptical about how good it would be since I've had mixed experiences with authors trying and failing to tackle topics like this before. I was so so so pleasantly surprised. More than that, this book has wonderful representation and the illustrations are gorgeous.

It is so hard to find LGBTQ+ books for children. Finding books for children that represent transgender people is almost unheard of. When I finally found one, My Dad Thinks I'm a Boy, I knew I had to get a copy to read. I try to keep resources in case someone I know might be transitioning, or thinking of transitioning, and needed the books to help with that. I think this is a great resource that will help people understand what it's like to be transgender.

Not only is this book a great resource
Alicia Bayer
Jun 22, 2019 rated it liked it
This is a simple children's book told from the perspective of Stephie, who identifies as a girl and whose mother is supportive and whose father tries to insist that she dress and act like a boy. The book does a good job of showing some of the issues that Stephie deals with at home, like her dad trying to make her go fishing and wear the Halloween costumes he prefers, and shows how selfish he is. Ultimately, this isn't resolved and her father never does try to understand her. The end of the book ...more
Jun 25, 2019 rated it did not like it
This book is about how a transgender child is not accepted by her father. It talks about the activities that the child does to make the father happy. The book was very choppy and had an ending that seemed to just stop with no conclusion. As a parent of a transgender child, I would prefer a book that had an ending that showed how over time, the father was able to accept the child. I would also like to see the main character to be stronger. She should be able to tell her dad what she wants. Have ...more
Feb 21, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Early Tales of Stephie

I've been a fan of Sophie Labelle's online comic, 'Assigned Male' since I first came across it, some years agoq, a year or so into the story.
While the earlier history has been hinted at in pieces, this is the first real look at her early life. It's not a "Stephie Tells All" type of book. It's not intended to be. It's a very low key introduction to the realities of transgender children, and how their families respond - some be acceptance, some by denial. The question
Carmen (TheReadingTrashQueen)
"No one except me gets to decide who I am."

In just 40-odd pages Sophie Labelle paints a very clear picture about what it's like to be transgender, and to explain it to kids reading without getting too technical about it. It shows how parents can deal with it, whether it be accepting, or struggling, and the pain that comes with the latter. It shows the 'simplicity' of being trans, and most importantly, it shows the happiness that comes with being able to be who you really are.

Also extra kudos for
Addie Stevens
Feb 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I absolutely loved this book! It was very informational, but in a way that is easy for kids to understand. The book recommendations at the end of the book were a great touch as well. I think the discussion questions were great for continuing the discussion with young readers and adults alike. The illustrations were colorful and added to the story content. I would recommend this book for all school libraries.
Em (Diversify Your Shelf)
*I chose this book on Net Galley*

TW: misgendering

I have been following Sophie Labelle on Instagram and Facebook for quite some time (and was so sad I couldn't see her when she visited my city!) so I requested this book the moment I saw it! I have been doing my best to try to read books that will help me with my allyship and advocacy and also just to give my attention to books and stories that tend to be marginalised. I highly recommend her comic series she did on a journalist talking to the
Jan 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book is so cute! It's simple enough for a young child to understand, it goes against gender stereotypes (Stephie likes bugs and books and spaghetti, and also wearing a pink tutu skirt), and it teaches kids about gender identity. Above all, it teaches kids to respect someone's gender identity. Stephie just wants her dad to accept her as who she is.

This book is great both to introduce young children to the idea of gender identity, so that they can understand what a friend or a family member
Bryony Indecisive Reader
I think I requested this book from NetGalley for two reasons: 1) I'm of the opinion that of course we need more diverse children's books and why not start them at a young age, and 2) My mum teaches kids (4-5 years old) and so I've always held a young children's books in a special place in my heart - and a book like this would be good to pass on to her to read in class.
This book certainly ticked the box of offering more diversity to children at a young age. The pictures are accessible, the
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I've followed Sophie Labelle online for a while and have some of her self-published books, so I was excited to see that Jessica Kingsley are publishing My Dad Thinks I'm a Boy?! (complete with class discussion questions at the back). This book is a great example of why I like Sophie Labelle so much. She makes things first and foremost for trans audiences; they're very useful for cis allies to learn more, but I like that she centres trans people in her work. Plus, she has a fun, accessible art ...more
Jun 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm not the target audience for this book (being an adult while this book is aimed at children), so I can't speak to what actual children would think of it, but I did enjoy reading it as an adult and it's certainly something I would give to a child to read. I thought it was simple and easy to read, with a clear story and a good message. Also this book is #ownvoices, which is always a plus.

It's a simple story, following a young trans girl named Stephie as she talks about herself and her
Jun 20, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: netgalley, childrens
My Dad Thinks I'm a Boy?! by Sophie Labelle is a book I was really excited to read. In my effort to have a very inclusive home library, I was excited to read my first trans positive children's book. I wasn't too excited with the result though. The description explained it to be amusing, powerful and uplifting, but for the most part, I felt more sad than amused for Stephie. I'm glad she has one parent that accepts her, but the struggle to keep her father - who insists that she is a boy - happy is ...more
annika burman
Jul 02, 2019 rated it really liked it
*I received an e-galley of this book through in exchange for an honest review.

In all my life, I've never seen a children's book with a transgender character. Different people come into their skin at different times, but I have heard so many stories where kids knew from an early age that they were in the wrong body. They just didn't have words for it. I genuinely think this book could help young transgender kids understand themselves without having to wait years until they find out
Sarah -  All The Book Blog Names Are Taken
Full review on my blog: https://allthebookblognamesaretaken.b...

The message is fantastic and super positive for kiddos, but the ending is kind of abrupt. I think it is good that the ending didn't show the dad suddenly accepting that who he thought was his son is actually his daughter, because we know that is not reality. And the character seemed a little old for seven - i.e. staying up late to watch scary movies. But overall this is a good contribution to children's literature to help both the
Jes Smith
Sep 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My Dad Thinks I'm a Boy?! is a great book to use with kids who are confident in who they are, but feel like they have disappointed the grown-ups in their life. Also, a great book to use with siblings, classmates or friends, who might have a hard time understanding the transgender people in their life.

What I appreciate most about Labelle's book, is she doesn't shame the dad who has a hard time accepting his daughter. She leaves it open with questions and space for the very real fear all kids have
Jan 10, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Such a sweet book about being a trans kid and I loved how it focused on the parent's struggles, too. I wish it had been a little longer though. As a trans person, I appreciate this book a ton!
Content warning: misgendering

I think this is a great book to show to young children to help them understand themselves and others better. As a genderqueer person, I always knew from a young age that I wasn’t a girl. I didn’t have the language to identify who I was or why I felt different from other little girls, but if I had this book shown to me, I think I would have been in a better place through my childhood and teenage years. Gender is very easy to understand, and surprisingly enough,
Sally Birkitt
Jul 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I read this book with my eight year old granddaughter. The pictures were colourful and the text simple. My granddaughter understood the point of the book which was some children are born a certain gender but that is not what they necessarily are. Adults need to be more accessible to different ideas. We liked the fact that in the story the child was more adult than the adults. Children are very mature about different ideas and do accept ideas about transgender without all the drama that some ...more
Jul 15, 2019 rated it it was ok
Stephie is 7 years old. She likes bugs, books and spaghetti. Her favorite thing to do is to stay up late and watch scary movies. Also, she's a girl formally known as a Stephen. Stephie’s dad had been mistaking her for a boy since she was born and struggles to see her as who she is or wants to be. Stephie just wants to who she sees herself to be and be loved.
I think this is a needed book today where this is a more common concern among our population. My but is that I thought the illustrations a
Mattie Richards
Jan 02, 2020 rated it it was ok
Shelves: childrens, 2020
2.5 stars.

Thanks to NetGalley for sending me this book to read in advance!
Transgender awareness is something that is important to me and parental acceptance is something that should be talked about. Displaying grown people having tantrums on the floor because their child wants to wear a Halloween costume is damaging to the conversations that need to be had. I found that the way the father is described to be defeating and hypocritical, and the lack of real discussion makes the story one sided
Rebecca Ambrose
Jul 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
A very sweet book, which is a no-nonsense, first person look at what it is to be a transgender girl with a focus on those around her who are struggling with the concept.
It is written in very simple language with relevant illustrations and is incredibly easy to understand.
It would be an ideal starter book for younger readers to explain what transgender is and how life can be upset and complicated for that person.
Jul 02, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: netgalley
A short, colorful, simple children's book, that is a good read for adults too. It has a few pages at the end that might offer some questions for discussion regarding this subject. I think it's a real good book...very well done! The title is totally appropriate.
This e-ARC was provided to me by Jessica Kingsley Publishers via NetGalley, in return for my reading it & posting my own fair & honest review.
Jul 30, 2019 rated it it was ok
Trans positive books are critical, and I applaud the intent of sharing this character's story in a matter-of-fact, kid level manner. Discussion questions and suggested reading in the back matter are also helpful. However, I find some of the humor confusing and jarring. For example, the image of the child in the coffin because "Dad felt like his son named Stephen died" when Stephanie transitioned felt both scary and misleading.
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The unique transgender cartoonist, the author of Assigned Male. She is from Montreal, Quebec. She is active in the transgender rights movement and speaks on the subjects of trans history and transfeminism.