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Raising the Challenging Child: How to Minimize Meltdowns, Reduce Conflict, and Increase Cooperation

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What's the worst you've ever faced as a parent? An all-out tantrum at the mall? A son who won't take out his earbuds to listen to you? A daughter who's failing at school and won't do her homework? A teen who constantly breaks curfew? A call from the police? Whatever you're dealing with, Raising the Challenging Child will help.

Building on their work at Chaddock, a nonprofit
Hardcover, 272 pages
Published January 7th 2020 by Fleming H. Revell Company
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Sabra Ferreira-Starnes
Nov 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
So much you just need to help with parenting a child from hard places this is a must book to help, empower and encourage parents to see beyond the behavior!
Connie Cannon bracey
Dec 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is filled with excellent research-based strategies to improve EVERY relationship! As a school counselor, I have parents often seeking how to best deal with a variety of issues. “Raising the Challenging Child” eloquently addresses how parents or anyone can navigate and help change challenging behaviors. I will be encouraging many of my students’ parents to buy this book!

A great analogy from the book, to make more deposits in the relationship “bank” (specific genuine compliments, spendin
Wendy Lim-Yeap
Nov 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The book is written in a style that is easy to read. I like the numerous TIPs, which are useful one-line summaries, and the many anecdotes that were shared. At the end of each chapter there is a “Perhaps you’ve done this... Instead, try this... section”. It helps with self-reflection.
Danielle Urban
Dec 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Raising the Challenging Child by Buckwalter, Reed, Sunshine is the best tool not only for parents, going-to-be-parents, but also for teachers. I cannot tell you how many times, this book would have came in handy when dealing with difficult students. Knowing what to say, how to say what we should have said, and how to promote better attitudes is exactly what teachers need.

There are always going to the group of kids every year that behave differently and need a different softer but firm approach u
Connie Saunders
Jan 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book is titled Raising the Challenging Child but I believe that it offers excellent advice for rasing all children. Parenting is never easy and guiding a child to adulthood can seem overwhelming but this book offers a wealth of information. Divided in three parts, it focuses on (1) the parent or caregiver; (2) the child; and (3) the steps for parent and child to follow so that conflict can be reduced and cooperation will increase. I was impressed with the excellent advice in the thirty chap ...more
Dec 06, 2019 rated it liked it
A very well put together, practical book. I particularly like how often natural consequences are used, as I’m a big proponent of those. This is a simple, straight forward toolbox for the overwhelmed parent. The scenarios and tips are helpful, as are the tried and true methods that are explained in detail. I think this is a great book for every parent, and not necessarily one with a challenging child. Thank you to the publisher for the free review copy in exchange for my honest review.
Ruth Puy
Dec 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Raising the Challenging Child is an invaluable resource for parents, caregivers, educators, and counselors alike. Filled with practical advice and new and varied strategies to apply to any type of challenging behavior, this is a toolbox that I will revisit over and over.

The authors focus on warm connection and providing a stable place for children to land in an increasingly unstable and disconnected culture. The practical application within every chapter provides wonderful “at-a-glance” expert
Jane Samuel
Dec 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
To often we read, or offer to friends or clients a book to read to help them with parenting that is hard to access for various reasons: 1) too long, 2) too clinical, 3) too unrealistic. This book is not one of those! It is simple and straightforward in both its explanations and examples. I can see parents first reading this in one go, but then returning to it again and again as a resource and reminder at key ages and stages. Most importantly perhaps is the fact that it’s guidance is applicable t ...more
Marci Wallace
Feb 24, 2022 rated it it was amazing
Of all the parenting books I’ve read (and I’ve read a LOT) this is my favorite! It’s like all the best things I’ve pulled from other parenting books compacted into one book. My ideal parenting style. It’s respectful but firm & consistent parenting and the tips and examples in this book are so good. Also, it applies to all ages of kids - toddlers through teens. If you only pick up one parenting book ever, make it this. I don’t know how it’s not more popular!
Liz Wine
Jan 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing
As a clinical social worker who is also an RPT (registered play therapist), and has been through Level 1 Theraplay training, I love how this book is readable and will be a great book to recommend to parents and teachers.

The short chapters have great content with highlighted tips and examples of age-appropriate ways to talk to kids at the end of each chapter.
Dec 23, 2019 rated it liked it
I have read so many parenting books over the past 5 years since becoming a parent. Therefore, I can attest to what is helpful and not helpful advice. Most of what I read in "Raising the Challenging Child" is advice I heard from other sources. It is a very comprehensive book and you can tell the authors did a lot of research and took from their own experience. I think most of the advice is applicable and helpful especially if you are a first time parent. However, I think the title is misleading. ...more
Teresa Kander
Dec 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
This is one of the best parenting books I have ever read. The scenarios presented are very realistic, as are the tips and techniques suggested (most of which are explained in detail for those who may never have used them before). I love that natural consequences are encouraged, as I have used those with all of my children and grandchildren for over 30 years now.
Not only did I find the book useful for myself, but I also passed it onto my oldest grandson's other grandmother, and she has been using
Melissa Corkum
This book is full of practical examples for handling common challenging behaviors. If you feel like you've read every trauma-informed parenting book known to man, there's not too much new here. If you are raising a really hard child, you may feel like this book is too simple and doubt that it will actually work. However, if you're a fan of The Connected Child and feel like your life revolves around your child, Raising the Challenging Child will help you raise structure. To be successful our kids ...more
Sarah Poling
Nov 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: launch
I’m an avid reader of parenting and classroom management books for 20 plus years. This resource with the examples and scripts built in is exactly what tired weary parents and teachers need. The tips. Seal the deal.

This is the parenting book for the non-reader. Achievable. Simple. Clear to understand. Takes a heart focused on serving and growing kids to achieve. And do overs galore. Grace as it’s best modeled for us.

This is the parenting book for the reader. Well formatted. Clear strategies. A b
Jalynn Patterson
Jan 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
**Disclosure**This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from the publisher. All opinions are my own.

About the Book:

What's the worst you've ever faced as a parent? An all-out tantrum at the mall? A son who won't take out his earbuds to listen to you? A daughter who's failing at school and won't do her homework? A teen who constantly breaks curfew? A call from the police? Whatever you're dealing with, Raising the Challenging Child will help.

Building on their work at Chaddock, a
Jan 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
*I received a complimentary copy of this book from Revell at Baker Publishing Group in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts below are my own.

I chose this book to read and review because as newly licensed foster parents, I thought this would perhaps provide us with some insight on parenting children who’ve faced trauma, changes and challenges in their young lives. Upon reading this new, nonfiction release from Revell, I was delighted to find a valuable resource with practical tips, tried a
Lisa Marie
Jan 05, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Raising the Challenging Child was a wonderful read. First of all, there are hundreds of parenting books out there. However, this one presents in a way that is extremely informative and clear, yet does not have a judgmental sort of tone that some take on. As a parent who is struggling with their child in any capacity, it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help or try to look outward for answers. The authors did a beautiful job of balancing their knowledge of the top things that would benefit ...more
Rachel DeVaughn
Jan 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book is divided into 3 parts: Be a Leader, Dig Deeper, and Prepare for Success. “Be a Leader” focuses on the parent, “Dig Deeper” focuses of the child, and “Prepare for Success” lays out steps for child and parent to help reduce trigger points.

First, I was very impressed with the three authors experiences and insight to this topic. Alot of times we don’t want to “label” or even think that our child(ren) can be difficult or challenging. But the reality is, that every child is different and w
Jan 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: my-books
If you have a child, work with children, or work with families who have children you know you don't have a lot of time on your hands. You don't have time to manage difficult behaviors and emotional outbursts but you also don't have time to spend hours reading a textbook on how to do this effectively.

Refreshingly, Raising the Challenging Child is not that textbook. Full of easy-to-implement strategies based upon years of research and first-hand experience of some of the most challenging children
Aurelia Mast-glick
Mar 02, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: mothering
I started reading this book pretty cynically, thinking this was going to be all about talking in the right tone of voice and feeling like my child would walk all over me because I couldn't actually give consequences for bad behavior. And if I would just talk right my children would all listen.

Yes, there was definitely an emphasis on changing the way you talk to a child, but there was so much more too. Respond instead of react. Hear what they are saying. Put the phone down and give the child your
Jan 22, 2020 rated it really liked it
Minimizing meltdowns, reducing conflict, and increasing cooperation. If you have ever raised a child that has spent a consistent amount of time on steroids those sound like lifelines for your desperate soul. Other than that my experiences with a “challenging child” are limited to the challenges that come with every child.

Whether you’re dealing with tantrums or a battle of wills – while also getting well-intended but conflicting advice from others and wanting to appear as if you “have it all toge
Jan 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I initially put my name down for this book with my 3yr old in mind. He's by far our most challenging child. However, I find the advice and information from this book relates more toward my older children, one being 9, and the other now 12. I wouldn't say I was disappointed at all, in fact I'm delightfully pleased!! .

My 9yr old and I tend to butt heads, this book helped me see things through his perspective a little better. My 12yr old has always been our more mellow/easy going guy, I now have a
Jan 22, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Raising the Challenging Child is perfect for anyone who has children. This book isn't just for someone who has a child who is challenging, but let's face it.. Everyone has children who can be challenging at different ages, phases and stages of life. This book is for YOU! This book is a huge resource for every SINGLE parent!
This book is filled with practical advice to apply to all types of challenging behavior and is awesome to have these tools in your tool box. I love how straight forward this
Mar 18, 2020 rated it really liked it
I realized it is not about raising a "challenging child", but learning about how to be a decent, attentive, and patient parent. There are a lot of useful and practical tips on how to avoid and resolve the tantrums of my 3 year old. This comes in very handy in times of increased social distancing in the period of COVID-19.
The tips are relevant for parents with young children and teenagers alike. Really the teenager part made me realized there are still many years of challenges in different forms
Josh Carlson
Dec 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book helps parents, caregivers and even teachers with real world tools to use with kids that may be experiencing challenging feelings and behaviors. It has ideas that are both proactive and reactive in nature. Meaning it offers ideas on how we might approach a child in a different way to help prevent the challenges in the first place but also how we might support the child if they are experiencing big feelings and challenging behaviors. It challenges us to look at what we might be bringing ...more
Michelle Robison
Jan 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Raising the Challenging Child is an easy read; chock full of lessons, tips and applicable strategies to try alongside real-life situations with all children. The book is broken down into three parts which keeps things organized and easy to find when you need to go back and re-read something. What I find most unique is "The Perhaps You’ve Done This, Now Try This" charts that are interspersed throughout the whole book. I don’t think there is anything like this book out there. This is a must read f ...more
Dec 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A book full of tools to help guide your journey. Each child is an individual and needs to have an individualized parenting strategy. After many struggles with one of my children I feel very hopeful after reading this book. I think I will be revisiting this book a few times along the way.
This book may be lengthy but worth the read. I love the way I can go back and pinpoint a section to back when the need arises.
I received a pre-release copy of this book from the publisher.
Cindy Mitchell Perkins
Dec 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is an An amazing hands on book for parents of ALL children not just challenging children!!! Easy pick up and get strategies for parents. Don’t have to read cover to cover. Can be read in pieces and change your relationship with your child
Also great strategies for teachers. Therapists and any professionals Working with families
Also Grandparents!!
Denise Tallcott
Dec 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
As a parent of two young children, I now feel better equipped for my parenting journey. I’ve gained creative ideas, resourceful tips and exciting ways to execute discipline that I wouldn’t have thought of without the book “Raising the Challenging Child.” This book caters to the average parent and would be an asset for anyone to read.
Dana Sheets
Dec 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing

So excited that I finished this book today! Just some of the amazing information imparted by this book in the photos! Thanks to Karen, Debbie and Wendy for this great resource! I not only learned about interacting and loving my kids better, but also a lot about myself! I can’t recommend it enough!
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