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Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!)

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Your baby sleeps in your bed, and you love it. Except for those nagging worries about safety. ("She's so small, I'm so big!") And what your relatives are saying. ("She'll never leave your bed!") And that little foot that always ends up on your face.

Worry no more! Good Nights puts your concerns about the family bed to rest, with fun and easy-to-use guidance on safety, copin
Paperback, 256 pages
Published July 24th 2002 by St. Martin's Griffin (first published January 1st 2002)
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Jan 01, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting, kindle
This is not a should-I or shouldn't-I book -- the author is firmly in favor of co-sleeping. That can be nice if you're looking for reassurance that you're doing the right thing. Or it can be worrisome if you feel you're maybe just getting half the picture. For example, (unless I missed it) they presented what was *wrong* with the 1999 CPSC report against co-sleeping without mentioning the report's actual findings.

I was mainly looking for safety advice, which was just one chapter. The rest of the
Sep 23, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: all parents or expecting parents
Fantastic book which opened my eyes to the beautiful world of co-sleeping. Offers helpful suggestions on making it work for all kinds of family situations. Provided solace that the choice to cosleep was right, nurturing, and it helps children develop a strong sense of independence over time, in stark opposition to a book I had just read that stated a child must learn to cry-it-out in order to have a strong, confident upbringing! Provided research showing that crying it out not only severed a bit ...more
Dec 06, 2016 rated it it was ok
Most of the book is anecdotal, co-sleeping propaganda. If you're considering co-sleeping, it might be worth checking out for some of the reasons for co-sleeping, but this is definitely not unbiased so you might want to check out other sources also. I read it looking for a solution to all-night nursing, which was getting out of control and my husband and I are not comfortable with cry-it-out. We did find practical and humane tips in the chapter on extending periods of sleep in between nursing . W ...more
Dec 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Another one of those books that I REALLY wish I had read prior to our first daughter's birth. It's so great to know I am not alone and the choices my husband and I made as (then) new parents were not only loving and instinctual, but also a unique gift to give our daughter! Although it is a highly personal decision, co-sleeping and bed sharing was so right for my daughter and our family from the beginning. Literally the very first night at home! (although, I admit that I had NO idea at all what " ...more
Feb 07, 2011 rated it really liked it
Are you feeling like you're the only person who loves cuddling with your baby at night? You're not alone, and this book, written by a pediatrician, has statistics, stories, and scenarios to give you comfort and confidence in your choice. While co-sleeping isn't for everyone, those who are curious about the concept and those wanting to give it a try will find useful advice here. If you already co-sleep, you'll find facts and encouragement in the face of people who don't agree with your decision. ...more
Molly Taylor
Dec 16, 2013 rated it it was ok
Picked this up at LLL meeting after asking the group for their thoughts on night weaning. Read the whole book (it's short) even though there were all of ten pages on how to night wean(which incidentally are prefaced by the authors stating you really shouldn't do it, but if you feel you must, here's how to do it humanely). I'm certainly not a cry-it-out momma and I will confess that one baby makes her way into my bed most nights for a little while. But I also feel like I have limits and needs mys ...more
Christy Ford
Mar 23, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: parenting
This is really a book on 'why not to use cry it out techniques'. If I was considering those, I probably wouldn't have picked up a book subtitled 'Guide to the Family Bed', now would I?
It spent significantly more time explaining and rebutting arguments from the opposition than it did on how to actually implement what it does recommend. Practical information was preciously thin - pretty much one chapter, which contained nothing that isn't already easily available on James McKenna's website.
Sep 05, 2015 rated it liked it
I have read so damn many sleep books. My review here really isn't about the advice in this book - if you want to cosleep (which we do) it offers some helpful tips and is really supportive. If you want to let your kids CIO, then this is not the book for you.

However, of all the sleep books, the actual writing is good - cohesive, cogent, and not repetitive, like some of the other books on the market. It's clearly well edited, as well (as opposed to say, Weissbluth's book).

Anyway, like most baby s
Aug 20, 2009 rated it liked it
Let's say, hypothetically speaking, that you went with the family bed because your baby would not sleep in a crib to save your life, and now you've gotten used to it, but your child continues to wake up approximately one million times per night to nurse and you are tired of being a 24 hour all night wet bar? This book offers this helpful advice: Cosleeping babies nurse a lot; learn to live with it.


I did appreciate the section on safety (cosleeping is as safe or safer than crib sleeping) and
Sonya Feher
Aug 27, 2008 rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting, nonfiction
• Good Nights’ first chapter is the best answer I’ve ever read as to why one should bed-share. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who was questioning whether co-sleeping or bed-sharing was for them. My reservation with this book is that the chapter on how to safely bed-share actually makes it sound like nothing is really safe and might actually scare people out of bed-sharing. Since I’d been bed-sharing for a year and a half before reading this book, I didn’t feel like it had anyth ...more
Nov 22, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting
I got this because I was getting a lot of unsolicited advice about sleeping habits and the cry-it-out method. We had decided to co-sleep and were loving it but still working out some of the kinks.
I liked the advice they gave but didn't feel like it was anything new from what I had already read online or discussed with co-sleeping friends. He devotes a great deal of page space to intimacy with your partner which seemed to muddle the questions I had about my baby's sleeping habits. Also, and this
Lea Minniti
Dec 29, 2010 rated it liked it
It offered a lot of positive and important educational information about co-sleeping, but painted too rosy of a picture of it, in my opinion. What about babies who don't blissfully sleep through the night in mom's arms? What about 9 month old babies who thrash and cry and wake up 5 or more times per night and do not simply nurse without rousing mama then fall back asleep? I wanted some tactics for challenges when co-sleeping, but didn't really get them. So, in a way, it affirmed our decision to ...more
Jan 19, 2009 rated it really liked it
I was looking for a co-sleeping book that included practical advice for making the transition out of the family bed. This book has plenty of practical advice on that topic and many other common co-sleeping concerns! I got it from the library, but I'm going to order a copy to own so we can have it as a reference if we need it.[return][return]My favorite parts are a FAQ with common questions about co-sleeping issues and advice on how to address them, a chapter about how to maintain intimacy with y ...more
Jun 29, 2009 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: any soon-to-be parent, new parent, or already co-sleeping parents.
Shelves: 2009, parenting, own
I enjoyed this book. It was a quick read. I'll be keeping it just for a few references (i.e. transitioning out of the family bed). Much of the advice offered seemed common sense, at least for me, but it's reassuring to know that our parenting choices aren't completely out of line with other people. I think it would have been more meaningful for me if I would have read it before the baby came, though.
Feb 23, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting-books
Again, I enjoyed the book because it made me feel good and well grounded in our parenting approach; however, it didn't give any new info or advice for parents who enjoy co sleeping but also want their baby to learn to sleep better. We do a part crib part family bed approach at our house and they didn't mention this once. The testimonials from "family bed graduates" were very fun to read. Oh well, I tried!
Jan 22, 2008 rated it liked it
Shelves: own
Thought this was good book for the most part. A definate read if you are considering the family bed. I like his take on there being middle ground and LOTS of suggestions for how to do things. Very respectful - he says right out that if anyone in the family is uncomfortable with the concept or can't sleep that you should reconcider if the family bed is right for you. Some chapters I found less helpful but enjoyed the book as a whole.
Feb 28, 2008 rated it really liked it
at the time, I wanted this book to offer a look into the future of what the family bed would be like over time, and answer any unanswered questions I had. looking back at it now, I think it did a great job of cementing my belief- and helping my case when trying to convince my husband that we should stick with it as well. : )
Mindee Boling
Feb 08, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I LOVE this book! It teaches all about the physical, emotional and psychological needs of a baby and the benefits of the family bed. Even if you think co-sleeping with your baby isn't for you, I recommend reading the book and learning what you can; it may just change your mind, and get you a better night's sleep in the process.
Apr 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Awesome book with plenty of scientific references that backs up co-sleeping. This book says co-sleeping is the best thing for the baby and how there is no such thing as 'teaching' the baby to sleep on their own.
Sep 04, 2015 rated it liked it
This was a quick, easy read that was enjoyable. I liked the informal tone. Not a super detailed book, mostly just an overview of what the family bed is and how to implement it. Definitely had interesting and helpful information, but I wish it had more specific advice for co-sleeping.
Oct 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
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Nov 27, 2007 rated it it was amazing
This book made me feel good about the decision to let our daughter sleep with us -- instead of feeling guilty about it all the time.
Feb 20, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's nice that someone finally wrote a simple book on attachment night-time parenting that is accessible and friendly.
Feb 08, 2010 rated it really liked it
This book changed my mind about sleeping with my little one. I had no idea the impact our culture has on co-sleeping. I highly recommend for new moms and dads!
Aug 13, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Of the four books on co-sleeping I read for my term paper, I think this was the best one.
Jul 05, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: parents
Great advice for parents who want to practice attachment parenting
Jan 15, 2016 rated it it was amazing
great book for thoses parents read babies cues for sleeping
Mar 01, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2014
Nothing here that I haven't already figured out on my own w/first 3 kids.
Sep 13, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nice book written by a pediatrician about co-sleeping. Helps to feel good about the decision to sleep in a familybed and handle other people's criticism.
rated it it was ok
Sep 27, 2011
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