Help! My Spouse Committed Adultery: First Steps for Dealing with Betrayal

CCEF Minibooks

by Winston T. Smith

Your spouse was unfaithful. Those four words don't begin to do justice to the horror you are experiencing. Rage, fear, grief, and even numbness are all normal responses to the shock of betrayal. The pain of betrayal is like touching a hot stove. Your instinct is to move away fast. But marriage and family counselor Winston T. Smith urges you to not make any quick decisions about the future of your marriage, to instead go to God with your hurt and pain. In Help! My Spouse Committed Adultery, Smith offers practical, biblical advice on how to talk with your spouse about the adultery, how to set boundaries, and how to process your emotions in a godly way. All New Growth Press minibooks offer gospel-centered hope for everyday issues like parenting, marriage, and personal change. These easy-to-read discipleship and biblical counseling resources tackle lifes toughest issues in 30 minutes or less. Minibooks are frequently used by pastors and ministry leaders to help others apply biblical wisdom to specific life issues. Churches, biblical counseling ministries, and missional organizations make the minibooks available in their acrylic display cases to further discipleship and gospel-centered living.

Genres: Counselling

24 pages, Paperback

First published June 30, 1905

About the author

Winston T. Smith (MDiv, Westminster Theological Seminary) is the rector at Saint Anne's Church in Abington, Pennsylvania. He is the author of Marriage Matters.

Reviews

[Abbie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good place to start on the topic, but a couple going through this will have a long process of healing and forgiveness ahead.

[Mike E. · Rating 3 out of 5]

These mini-books (or pamphlets) are outstanding.

I am in the process of reading all of them. Concise. Biblical. Practical.

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Forgiveness is a process.


As a rule of thumb, getting the general facts is important, but any details that make the adultery vivid make recovery difficult. Sharing details about sexual behavior is very destructive. These details create images that intrude at the worst possible moments and a remarkably persistent.

[Jonathan Roberts · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read this to prepare for some counseling. I think this would be a good pamphlet to start the discussion. This booklet focuses on what to do first when the affair becomes known. I look forward to using some of the suggestions and principles in the future

[Daniel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good sound wisdom. A bit brief. I expected more practice step to be given.

[Daniel Pandolph · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good starting point for counselees.

[Andre Luiz · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dicas simples e pontuais para iniciar o processo de cura de um adultério.

[William]

Um livro introdutório, porém com conselhos úteis tanto ao aconselhado quanto ao conselheiro.