You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters
On social media, we shape our personal narratives.
At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We’re not listening.
And no one is listening to us.
Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. ...more
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This is one of the most impactful books I have read all year. The message of true listening in You’re Not Listening serves to emphatically renovate the way we interact with each other. Kate Murphy’s words can revolutionize your conversations and ...more
Informative. Eye-opening. Thought-provoking.
This was a well researched, enlightening read that made me sit and ponder many points. I love books that make me think! The author presents her research in an easy, well organized manner with chapters breaking down her theories. I liked how the information was presented.
I found the beginning chapters more interesting than the latter chapters which felt a bit drawn out. However, there were countless ideas and theories presented throughout the ...more
The World is just too noisy for me with everyone talking and no one listening so I jumped at the chance to read and discuss this one with some members of our group. We highlighted ...more
Publication day: January 7, 2020
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Kate Murphy has interviewed many people and states that we are becoming more and more isolated, which leads to depression, which leads to a tragic rise in suicide rates all over the world.
She believes that we do not really communicate effectively anymore, as a result of being overly connected to devices instead of each other. People are getting more used to texting than face to face conversations and are forgetting how to ...more
I felt intrigued when I heard the title. I thought, it must be something related to people and why they should listen or maybe why they are not listening. I also thought about maybe there are some tips to actually listen to people.
Nowadays, people are getting distracted wiith gadgets and work. We are active in social media sharing our opinions and people agreed with out opinions but are they ...more
Much of our world exists in a constant state of distraction, with phones in hands, laptops at coffee shops, and multitasking at work and at home. We shout our opinions on social media and hit 'like' on the posts with which we agree. We hear each other, but we aren't listening. And because of this, we're lonelier than we've ever been.
Kate Murphy has given us a gift ...more
This was very easy to read and approachable. I feel like I learned a few things from this book and there were some things I already was aware of. Overall I enjoyed this book but by the last few chapters I found my attention waning and was ready to be done reading.
I received this book free for review from Celadon Books. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
I wasn’t expecting to receive an ARC for this book in the mail, but it couldn’t have been more perfectly timed. My boss had just transferred to a new job, and her boss asked to talk to me, or rather just wanted to tell me that he thought my new team would be better for my career. I’d mentioned to him that I was trying for a promotion and just didn’t want to lose momentum on that process, and ...more
In You’re Not Listening, author Kate Murphy explains what listening truly is and isn’t, and how important it is to our connection with ourselves and one another. Not only is this book super fascinating but it is always making me rethink so many things!
In our technology-filled world, there are so many new ways for us to interact, yet we are all longing for connection more than ever before. Many of us long ...more
I requested and received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley, and a hard copy of this book from the publisher and the author in exchange for an honest review.
From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do .
"When was the last time you ...more
It's fascinating, accessible, and full of facts I'll be repeating to people for years to come. For example? If someone is listening and paying attention to the *emotions* of what you're saying, they will overwhelmingly tilt their head to the right, pushing their left ear forward. If someone is focused on the meaning of what you're saying, they push their right ear forward. It's because of the way the brain is ...more
A great book about the lost art of listening. In today’s day and age where technology is turning people into rude, self-absorbed A-holes, this book is a primer on how to be a better listener, which in turn makes you a better communicator. Kate Murphy did excellent research for her book and offers practical tips on how to get back to what really matters - using your two ears more often than your one mouth. Don’t be an A-hole; read this book and then go out and listen to others. Thank you to ...more
I knew I struggled holding conversations with some people. I discovered a lot of the time I mentally predicted what people will say and thus feel the conversation will become boring. So I quickly end it. Turns out I ask a lot of closed questions and need to work on correcting it.
This book gives me tools and examples that I need to stay more curious and not being afraid to ask questions.
I will soon go back ...more
I have identified times when I have been a bad ...more
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January 7, 2020 release date.
I really enjoyed reading You're Not Listening. Kate Murphy has a great "voice" for this as I enjoyed not only the concept but the execution of how not listening affects us as people. From the talker or the listener there is void in the absence of our attention. We all want to be heard, but in order to be full we need to be not only ...more
The framework of this work is logical and the examples given are good and often humorous. It is hard to get the ...more
What I Liked:
Writing Style. I was worried about going into this nonfiction novel that the terminology or writing would be beyond my knowledge level. However, I found Kate Murphy's writing relatable and easy to follow. I found myself completely invested in the novel from chapter one.
Subject/Knowledge. I learned a lot about listening, how our ears actually work, and how to be a better listener. I found the topic interesting because how listening has changed a lot since cell phones were ...more
I don't think I can find the words to describe just how insightful and important this book is. Truly, it should be on everybody's required reading list.
I have to admit that when I first saw this book, I knew that it would be good, as Celadon is gaining a reputation for producing excellent books. But I didn't think that it would resonate that much with me: how exciting could a book about listening be?
How wrong I was. Kate Murphy has created an intriguing and ...more
“People get lonely for lack of listening.” “Psychology and sociology researchers have begun warning of an epidemic of loneliness in the United States.....loneliness increases the risk of death as much as obesity, alcoholism, and heart disease combined.”
This should be a must read for everyone! Breaking down listening skills into perfect sized bites of research and empirical evidence, the author has succinctly and thoroughly examined why listening is so important and what real listening looks ...more
Listening is not about teaching, shaping, critiquing, appraising, or showing how it should be done (“Here, let me show you.” “Don’t be shy.” “That’s awesome!” “Smile for Daddy.”). Listening is about the experience of being experienced. It’s when someone takes an interest in who you are and what you are doing. The lack of being known and accepted in this way leads to feelings of inadequacy and emptiness. What makes us feel most lonely and isolated in life is less often the result of a devastating traumatic event than the accumulation of occasions when nothing happened but something profitably could have. It’s the missed opportunity to connect when you weren’t listening or someone wasn’t really listening to you.”