Stephen Hayes was born in Durban, South Africa, and educated at the University of KwaZulu-Natal in Pietermaritzburg, the University of Durham in England, and the University of South Africa.
He has had varied work experience, having been a bus driver in Johannesburg and London, a waterworks attendant in Windhoek, Namibia, a chaplain at the Missions to Seamen in Durban (sacked from the last two).
He was also Director of Training for Ministry in the Anglican Diocese of Zululand, Director of Mission and Evangelism in the Anglican Diocese of Pretoria, and an Editor and lecturer in Missiology at the University of South Africa.
He lives with his wife and two sons in the City of Tshwane, South Africa, while his daughter is an ikonographer in Athens, Greece.
He is retired, but serves as a deacon in the Orthodox Church and spends his time reading, writing. and doing historical research.