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»Die neue Stimme der französischen Literatur.« ZEITmagazin

Kann man sich zu seinem Glück zwingen? Prix Goncourt-Preisträgerin Leïla Slimani erzählt von der Zerrissenheit einer Frau und schafft eine »moderne Madame Bovary« (Libération).

Nach außen hin führt Adèle ein Leben, dem es an nichts fehlt. Sie arbeitet für eine Pariser Tageszeitung, ist unabhängig. Mit ihrem Ehemann,
Kindle Edition, 224 pages
Published May 13th 2019 by Luchterhand Literaturverlag (first published August 28th 2014)
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'Female sexuality is more often associated with lasciviousness and motherhood than with perversion. This is unexplored territory.' Explaining why she chose female sexual addiction as a subject for her debut novel, Leïla Slimani, the French-Moroccan author of the Prix Goncourt winning novel Chanson douce (translated into English as The Perfect Nanny/Lullaby) asserted it was the DSK affair and her bewilderment on how such a strong sexual drive can manage to bring someone down, that inspired her to ...more
j e w e l s

Adèle is about a doctor’s wife who is a mother to a young son. She appears so happy with all the pleasures of financial success and a career as a journalist. She appreciates her role in life for the social status it affords her and, most importantly, for the useful cover it provides for her secret compulsion.

As in The Perfect Nanny, Leila Slimani dives way below the surface to expose the nakedness, the self that controls our desires, obsessions, and motivations. THE PERFECT NANNY was
People who are never satisfied destroy everything around them.

The story of the dissatisfied wife isn't a new one. Flaubert and Tolstoy cinched the market on that topic over 150 years ago. But it's still a relevant one, and some might say more authentic when written from the perspective of a female author.

Adèle is a beautiful journalist living in Paris with her doctor husband and young son. On the surface, it is the life of dreams. In reality, she is in hell, feeling dissatisfaction and alien
Elyse  Walters
Feb 25, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Drab...dreary...formulaic writing!
I kept reading hoping for something to grab me emotionally or intellectually....
I was ‘surprised’ - really surprised - that a potentially intriguing topic could possibly be so down right dull and boring!

Maybe that’s the point of empty meaningless sex...

Sep 18, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction, france, paris
Slimani claims she wrote this novel after being inspired by the Dominique Strauss-Kahn scandal, wanting, she said, to look at the phenomenon of sex addiction through a female perspective. I'm not sure I believe her. And even if I did, I'm not sure that would be a useful lens through which to examine this book: for one thing, I doubt whether Strauss-Kahn was really a sex addict, rather than just a sleazy politician comfortable with abusing his power; and for another thing, I think in the DSK case ...more
Sep 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It's been a long time since a book has left me bereft of words. For reasons unknown to me, I was immediately drawn to this book from the moment I read the synopsis and as soon as I downloaded it I abandoned the book I was previously reading, hell, I abandoned my life, and found myself immersed in this book, finishing it in one sitting.

Adèle is, seemingly, the contented wife of a surgeon, raising a son that she adores while excelling at her job as a journalist. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, could
Mar 21, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
After reading “The Perfect Nanny”, I was captivated by Leila Slimani’s writing style. She writes with a direct and edgy style that is straight to the point. Slimani follows up with an exploration of sexual addiction and another character that feels compelled to detach herself from reality. “Adele” is different than “The Perfect Nanny”. In “The Perfect Nanny” she examines a woman who most people wouldn’t consider successful; a nanny that doesn’t have a “traditional” life. In contrast, “Adele” fol ...more
Jan 02, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley-arcs
Oh me, oh my! What did I just read???

This is a story about a young Parisian woman married to her surgeon husband with whom she has a young son. She is a successful journalist and her life appears to be perfect to anyone that may cast a glance her way, however, there is something stirring within Adele that she is unable to resist.

Adele suffers from sex addiction which she keeps hidden away from everyone except her very best friend, Lauren, who is growing weary with covering up for Adele's infide

Strangely disturbing read. It deals with sex but it’s not a porn though it’s no use to seek erotic tension either. The main protagonist, Adele, is a young woman. Rather unfulfilled journalist, mother of little Lucien and devoted wife to her husband, Richard. This is her face she shows to the world. Adele is addicted to sex. Hotel rooms, stairwells, back alleys, restrooms. The dirtier and uglier places the better to get what her body wants. The young, the old, handsome or revolting, stranger or n
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- Disjointedness. -1 star
- Background / insights lacking: the what, the why, the how, the what for? - 1 star
- Seriously? No one ever noticed anything? Ouch. And she never got any illnesses? Not even some mild gonorrhea case? -1 star
- While this is an interesting vignette of a nymphomaniac being her sex addicted self, it's not engaging or giving enough background or even an interconnected plot. We got a male parade, which is a chore to read, which is probably the way it was intended to be
Emily B
Jun 13, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There is something about leila slimani’s writing and stories that seem to resonate with me. Something I can’t quite put my finger on. Her writing is honest and unglamorous and just makes sense to me.

Similar to her previous novel, this one also seemed to be more of a character study. A very interesting one that wasn’t happy but nonetheless honest and realistic.
Umut Rados
I think there are things I loved about the book, and then there are parts I couldn't care less. Therefore I settled for a 3.
First of all, Slimani's talent for personification is super. Adele was very real to me. I felt sympathy, anger, pity for her at times. She was a very realistic portrayal of a woman, that's not so common to see.
Adele is a sex addict and it affects everything she does in her life. She also a wife and mother, and it definitely shows there’s not one type of person, woman or mo
Barry Pierce
When Adèle was first published in France in 2014 it boasted the incredibly strange title of Dans le jardin de l’ogre or, In The Ogre’s Garden. Now freshly translated and ready for Anglophone audiences, Leïla Slimani’s follow-up to Lullaby (which was actually published after this novel) follows Adèle, a wife and mother with an insatiable addiction to sex. The novel has been called ‘an erotic and daring story’ and it genuinely is both of those things. However, when you finish Adèle you end up feel ...more
May 14, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2019-read, france
English: Adèle; French Original: Dans le jardin de l'ogre
The protagonist of this book is a sex addict, but this should not mislead you into thinking that this is a novel about sex or that it is in any way erotic: As with every other addiction, it's less about the kind of behavior or substance the addict clings to, but about a person compulsively repeating destructive patterns, desperately trying to fight an emptiness. Although Adèle grew up experiencing her parents' marriage as ordinary and suf
Roman Clodia
Jan 29, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
She wants to be a doll in an ogre's garden

An enigmatic book that seems to be re-writing Madame Bovary with an eye on the paradoxes and conundrums of a modern woman. Where Emma Bovary wants life to be as sweepingly lush as the romance novels she's devoured, Adele desires something far more complex, something that she - and we - are hard pressed to identify and delineate.

Bored of her bourgeois lifestyle, burdened by a doctor husband she doesn't love, a son who demands things of her she finds
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Privileged psycho she-beast in a shitty marriage sleeps with half of Paris but the sex is weird and boring and then her husband finds out and then the marriage becomes even shittier, but they stay together anyway and so what?
Sam Quixote
Adele’s public life seems perfect: a journalist married to a doctor, mother to their three year old son, living the cosmopolitan life in Paris. Her private life though is bleak: a secret sex addict, she joylessly sleeps with any and almost every man she comes across, each degrading coupling becoming more desperate and unfulfilling. With no end in sight from her increasingly out-of-control behaviour, how long can she keep her private life from being exposed?

Like her previous novel Lullaby, Leila
Fiona MacDonald
I went into this blindly, thinking it would be a thriller like 'Lullaby'. It was nothing like that, and turned out to be a story about a sexually obsessed woman named Adele who can't stop having affairs under her trusting husband's nose.
Nothing much happens throughout the book, and it becomes more and more smutty as time goes by...
The translation was good, but nothing amazing.
Good thing it’s a short book. It started off interesting and then I got bored.
Linda Strong
Adele seems to have a great life. She is married to a surgeon; they have a healthy young son. She's a successful journalist. She has everything she ever wanted. But she's grown bored with her job and distant from her husband. She loves her son, but hates that he is keeping her tied to a life she no longer wants.

She seems to spiral out of control .. what she wants, what she needs is to have intimate relationships. She lies to her husband, she lies to her boss, she lies to her friends about where
Jan 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019, arc
She wishes she was just an object in the midst of a horde. She wants to be devoured, sucked, swallowed whole. She wants fingers pinching her breasts, teeth digging into her belly. She wants to be a doll in an ogre's garden.

I chose the above quote to open with for two reasons: The original French title for Adèle is “Dans le jardin de l’ogre” (which is much more intriguing in my opinion), and also because it's from page one of this book – the reader knows right from the start that there's som
Jamie Rosenblit
Jan 14, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arcs
What happens when a woman with an uncontrollable sex addiction tries to lead a family life? Adele tells the story of this situation where a wife and mother is leading a double life in order to fulfill her addiction. This book is extremely unique and is interesting to read from Adele’s point of view - there are many times I wanted to reach out and shake her and say WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! but, that’s exactly what feeds this story. So short it almost reads as a novella, it’s definitely worth the read ...more
Eric Anderson
Feb 12, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
One of last year’s biggest literary breakouts was Leila Slimani’s Prix Goncourt winning novel “Lullaby” (known in the US as “The Perfect Nanny”). Her novel “Adele” was published in France before “Lullaby”, but it’s only now been translated and published in English. The heroine of this novel’s title is a journalist and mother with a steady husband. She appears normal and content, but running parallel to this stable life she has a secret existence filled with unruly passion and illicit affairs. Sh ...more
Dec 27, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction
Adèle, a contemporary novel, was a solid 3.5 stars. The book centers around Adèle, a journalist living in Paris who happens to have a beautiful young son and a successful surgeon husband. While she seems to have a perfect life, Adèle suffers from sex addiction that overtakes every aspect of her life. Adèle is a slave to her addiction and though she seems to care about her family, she simply can’t be bothered with them-she goes through her daily routine only thinking about her next “fix”.
Adèle i
"She wishes she were just an object in the midst of a horde. She wants to be devoured, sucked, swallowed whole....She wants to be a doll in an ogre's garden."

I have always been wary of literary translations, especially when they are a product of purpose and not necessity. The plot might manage to ease itself with aplomb into the narrative, but it is difficult to impose the distinctive character, rhythm, style, tone and motif of a work on another language that finds its identity in its own uniq
Dannii Elle
Sep 03, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Actual rating 4.5/5 stars.

Last year I read Leila Slimani’s first translated release, Lullaby, and promptly fell in love with her raw and confrontational style of writing. In June this year I went to Hay Festival and attended a talk delivered by the author and promptly fell in love with the woman behind the words, as well.

Slimani, in person, is as unabashed and authentic as her writing. She confronts the most caliginous and taboo topics of society and tells the stories that dwell in these dark sp
Feb 16, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
2 stars. In fact, 1.5 rounded up to 2.

Unfortunately, this book turned out to be a flop.
I expected some interesting, provoking, insightful writing.
I got flat boring patchy passages, with inconsistent content.
The writing is weak, bleak and for the most part feels like a rushed patchwork covering holes.
This book does not give you some thought provoking insight into sexuality, addiction, psychological impact of living with a sick woman. It offers a quick glance with nothing intriguing or interesti
Erin (from Long Island, NY)
Yes! I love this author! I will read anything she writes.. Her style, the way she strings the words together is beautiful & haunting. While reading i don't wonder where we're headed, or how long is left.. I'm just riveted. The only negative for me is that its over! I wish it was longer.. But after a few minutes, after my initial feelings of disappointment that there was no more, i began to realize why it ended where it did. Adele's compulsion and her relationships, as well as her husband's feeli ...more
Jul 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned, c-france, c-morocco
I deeply enjoyed this reading.
Difficult topic but written with style and elegance.
It’s official: Ms Slimani, you have a new fan!
Feb 11, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
3 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️
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Leïla Slimani is a French writer and journalist of Moroccan ancestry. In 2016 she was awarded the Prix Goncourt for her novel Chanson douce.

Slimani was born in Rabat, Morocco and studied later political science and media studies in Paris. After that she temporarily considered a career as an actress and began to work as a journalist for the magazine Jeune Afrique. In 2014 she published her first no

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