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Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption

4.24  ·  Rating details ·  6,198 ratings  ·  637 reviews
The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery

A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in t
Paperback, Revised and Updated, 304 pages
Published September 3rd 2019 by Crown Publishing Group (NY)
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Books are better than everything for a million reasons but the number one reason they’ll forever be the best form of content?


I just read a couple dozen New York Times articles with no subscription, baby.

That’s the best thing about this book. I get to cheat the system.

(Don’t ask me about how much I paid for it. Let me have this.)

The second best thing, you may ask?

I love people’s stories. It’s why I devour memoirs of people I know and don’t, why I search for money diaries and Grub Str
Larry H
Sep 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Boy, did this book hit the spot so perfectly!!

"Because real love, once blossomed, never disappears. It may get lost with a piece of paper, or transform into art, books, or children, or trigger another couple’s union while failing to cement your own. But it’s always there, lying in wait for a ray of sun, pushing through thawing soil, insisting upon its rightful existence in our hearts and on earth."

A column that has appeared in the New York Times since 2004, "Modern Love" is an exploration of
This is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve ever read. I’m fascinated by love stories of all kinds, and this book really is inspired by modern love. It’s true stories (that are apparently based off a podcast) which are all written about people’s real experiences with love. And not just romantic love, but the love of a parent, a child, and not even all the good - but all the bad and the ugly and the heartbreak too. These stories are divided into sections: so we get stories specifically about fi ...more
Reading_ Tam_ Ishly
Nov 03, 2019 rated it liked it
I simply could not enjoy this collection after two stories. It was kind of bland and abrupt. I couldn't continue reading this. ...more
Literary Redhead
As a former relationship coach who helped clients attract true love, I snatched up this amazing book in a sec — and I’m thrilled I did! Its stories of love and loss published originally as essays in The New York Times “Modern Love” column tickled, saddened, angered, perplexed, and exhilarated me.

Two stories especially gobsmacked. Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s “You May Want to Marry My Husband,” urging readers to wed her perfect spouse after her impending death. And Ann Hoo
Sep 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
A collection of heartfelt and unforgettable essays that reads like short stories and are life/love stories of real people! Every essay is in a different tone and style, plus it's not just about romantic love but that plus family, friend and filial love. Really, it doesn't even feel like reading non-fiction. I devoured it in a few days and would recommend it if short stories/essays are your jam!

**A free finished was provided by Random House. All opinions are my own.**
Jenny (Reading Envy)
This is a complication of Modern Love columns from the New York Times, in preparation of some Netflix show that comes out in October. I was a little disappointed by the sparse diversity but liked the variety of topics within love, from dating to marriage to divorce to children to loss. An easy read of short personal stories.

I received a copy from the publisher through Edelweiss, and it came out Sept. 3, 2019.
Oct 10, 2019 rated it liked it
it was fine. i dont know, i found that most, if not all, of the stories weren't very memorable. nothing egregiously bad, but nothing impressionable either. ...more
If you are like me who lives outside if the US and basically under a rock, the New York Times does a column called Modern Love. The book Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption is a collection of the some of the best essays that appeared in the column over the last ten years. This is an insanely cohesive, well put together collection of essays that explores modern love in the most hilarious, deeply personal, moving, vulnerable, and heartfelt way. I could not have enough of this ...more
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I love the WBUR podcast so I want to read the book.
Madeleine (Top Shelf Text)
Mar 14, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2020, essays
Thank you to Random House for my free review copy! All opinions are my own.

These essays are reflections on dating, marriage, and modern relationships between family and friends. No matter which season of life you’re in, there is an essay in this book that will make you smile, tear up, or laugh. I sped through this book and can’t wait to pass it on to my girlfriends. Highly recommended.
Basic B's Guide
Sep 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
A collection of essays featured in the NY Times “Modern Love” column since its debut, this is now an original streaming series on Amazon Prime. Having a pretty traditional love life, I wasn’t sure how much I would relate to a book about modern love but boy was I wrong. Like most essays you will connect with some on a deeper level than others but the overall sense I was left with was that love is only fully achieved through vulnerability. We must completely surrender ourselves and often times at ...more
Girish Joshi
Dec 04, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Rating: 3.7/5

Spotify recommended to me a song called Days Aren't Long Enough by Thomas Dybdahl. I loved the song so much that I streamed it for the entire year. On the cover of the song, it was written: music from the amazon original series modern love. So when the days did start feeling long enough for me, I decided to watch the series. This series was based on the New York Times column by the same name, Modern Love. And guess what? To my surprise, there was a book as well. So I watched the ser
Brittany Viklund
Feb 21, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Beautiful in so many ways, the honesty, the courage, the wide-range of love stories poured out of the pages as I read. I loved every piece, some more than others— some resonated with me, some astounded me, some made me cry, some broke my heart & all of them taught me something. The book grew with depth & intensity & I’m grateful to the editor for curating a vast range of the human experience as it pertains to love.
Feb 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
At the end of the day, Love is Love, in all its complicated wonderful ness. And I am nothing, if not a sucker for love.
Rachel A.  Dawson
Sep 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-rad-reads
This one is a great collection of Modern Love columns (plz tell me you know about this column from the @nytimes or the podcast!!) — heart-wrenching, humorous, poignant, wistful, wise, and just so, so very human. These are stories of love gained and lost and everything in between, and they are such a beautiful picture of humanity and emotions and just life. Big fan.
Olivia Garrett
Nov 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I flew through this book, devouring each sweet story. I loved it so much I couldn’t keep it to myself.. I read some essays aloud to the people I love, and I sent the link to about four people. I laughed, I cried.. So touching.
Dec 23, 2019 rated it liked it
The average rating I have each story was around ~3.84
I am marking as 3 stars though just because I really don't feel like any of them were that memorable. It was sweet, and some are moving, but overall it was just okay.
Kris - My Novelesque Life
2019; Crown Publishing/Broadway Books

This collection of essays are a revised and updated edition. It has been reissued for the release of the Amazon Prime show by the same name. While I am interested in watching the TV series at some point (it has amazing actors), it was not the reason I choose to read this book. I am interested in the personal essays surrounding dating, love, relationships and the psychology and science behind it. I am working on a writing project and am trying t
I guess my review is that I'm too overwhelmed to write one. So much love that my heart was full of a warm, fuzzy feeling. ...more
Oct 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
I love reading the Modern Love essays in the Times and it was nice to have a bunch of them compiled here. I had read a few of them, but not too many.
Feb 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
Great collection ! Much diverse ! Love can grow in so many places ! If you want a cheat sheet, here's a list of my favorite essays from the collection that you can look up and listen to on the Modern Love podcast for F R E E:

1. At the Hospital, An Interlude of Clarity
2. The Five Stages of Ghosting Grief
3. No? No? No? Let Me Read Between the Lines
4. When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist
5. The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap
6. When Eve and Eve Bit the Apple
7. You May Want to Marry My Husband
Ellie Straub
Nov 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Wow loved this one! Such a good collection of stories about love in its many forms. The Amazon series is amazing too!
Dec 12, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love the Modern Love column and podcast. It was great to read some that I missed and revisit my favorite. The story of Guzim will always be my favorite.
Cherlynn (cherreading)
Nov 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
"It's the big moments, maybe, but it's the little moments as much or even more." — Hear That Wedding March Often Enough, You Fall In Step

This is so perfectly wholesome and heartwarming and heartbreaking all at the same time. I adored most of the essays, didn't understand a few, and loved quite a few of them. I've always been a fan of the New York Times column and was pleased to see some of the essays that I remember so fondly; they left such an impact on me when I first read them on the webs
Kloyde Caday
Apr 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
As a hopeless romantic, I am a fan of the The New York Times’s Modern Love column. Not only do I read it monthly. I also listen to its podcast. Then the Amazon series adaptation (trivia: on my 26th birthday, my celebration was shutting off all my social media to watch the episode ‘Take me as I am, whoever I am,’ starring Anne Hathaway and bawled my eyes out, but don’t worry as the tears are more cathartic than it’s tragic.).
It was a perfect companion to bring along during the month of February.
Jul 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
As a fan of the Modern Love NY Times column, I was excited to get a collection of the short stories in print form. Overall, the collection is a great mix of different types of love stories, whether it be love between a parent and child, love that holds friendships together, a love that is fleeting in time yet still impactful, or a love meant for the ages. Each story is unique, and the depth in the conclusion of each story (the last 1-2 lines) is powerful. Overall, I would recommend this book but ...more
Oct 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Eat my heart out and serve it on a silver platter. This collection of essays was phenomenal. I am not a fan of romance novels. I find them to be either to cheesy, unrealistic or extremely lacking depth.

I have come to the conclusion I am a HUGE fan of real modern love stories. So raw and honest. These stories made me feel a varying of emotions, all well deserved in their own right.

I am not going to go over each essay or the entire book but will list my FAVORITE essays below.

When Mr. Reliable B
Nov 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book makes your heart smile☺️♥️ Love takes form in an infinite number of ways and it was intoxicating to hear others’ experiences with love

“We hoped the stories would explore the darkness as much as the light, plumb both the joys and the pain that spring from our lifelong efforts to be intimate with other human beings......Vulnerability is the animating quality of all love stories, and if can take many forms. In every case, though, vulnerability means exposing ourselves to the possibility
Astrid Lim
I'm a huge fan of Modern Love column at NYTimes, and I'm so happy when I found out that they have an anthology of some of the best works. What makes it better is, the stories here are mostly from the earlier years of Modern Column, that I haven't read before.

I love almost all of the stories here, as usual very enlightening, real, and diverse. You can find all kinds of love stories: heterosexual couple, same sex couple, families, adopted children with their adoptive parents, adoptive children wi
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Daniel Jones has edited the Modern Love column in The New York Times since its inception in 2004. His books include “Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject (with the Help of 50,000 Strangers),” “The Bastard on the Couch,” and the novel “After Lucy.” Jones appears weekly on the Modern Love podcast and is a consulting producer for Amazon Studios’ show “Modern Love.” He lives in N ...more

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