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Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption

4.25  ·  Rating details ·  1,711 ratings  ·  193 reviews
The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery

A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in
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Published September 3rd 2019 by Broadway Books
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Larry H
Sep 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Boy, did this book hit the spot so perfectly!!

"Because real love, once blossomed, never disappears. It may get lost with a piece of paper, or transform into art, books, or children, or trigger another couple’s union while failing to cement your own. But it’s always there, lying in wait for a ray of sun, pushing through thawing soil, insisting upon its rightful existence in our hearts and on earth."

A column that has appeared in the New York Times since 2004, "Modern Love" is an exploration of
okay so maybe humanity isn't ENTIRELY a garbage fire.

review to come / 4 stars


dear this book,

i'd like my faith in humanity restored, please.

sincerely, me
This is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve ever read. I’m fascinated by love stories of all kinds, and this book really is inspired by modern love. It’s true stories (that are apparently based off a podcast) which are all written about people’s real experiences with love. And not just romantic love, but the love of a parent, a child, and not even all the good - but all the bad and the ugly and the heartbreak too. These stories are divided into sections: so we get stories specifically about ...more
Reading_ Tam_ Ishly
Nov 03, 2019 rated it liked it
I simply could not enjoy this collection after two stories. It was kind of bland and abrupt. I couldn't continue reading this.
Literary Soirée
As a former relationship coach who helped clients attract true love, I snatched up this amazing book in a sec — and I’m thrilled I did! Its stories of love and loss published originally as essays in The New York Times “Modern Love” column tickled, saddened, angered, perplexed, and exhilarated me.

Two stories especially gobsmacked. Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s “You May Want to Marry My Husband,” urging readers to wed her perfect spouse after her impending death. And Ann
Sep 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
A collection of heartfelt and unforgettable essays that reads like short stories and are life/love stories of real people! Every essay is in a different tone and style, plus it's not just about romantic love but that plus family, friend and filial love. Really, it doesn't even feel like reading non-fiction. I devoured it in a few days and would recommend it if short stories/essays are your jam!

**A free finished was provided by Random House. All opinions are my own.**
Jenny (Reading Envy)
This is a complication of Modern Love columns from the New York Times, in preparation of some Netflix show that comes out in October. I was a little disappointed by the sparse diversity but liked the variety of topics within love, from dating to marriage to divorce to children to loss. An easy read of short personal stories.

I received a copy from the publisher through Edelweiss, and it came out Sept. 3, 2019.
If you are like me who lives outside if the US and basically under a rock, the New York Times does a column called Modern Love. The book Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption is a collection of the some of the best essays that appeared in the column over the last ten years. This is an insanely cohesive, well put together collection of essays that explores modern love in the most hilarious, deeply personal, moving, vulnerable, and heartfelt way. I could not have enough of this ...more
Basic B's Guide
Sep 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
A collection of essays featured in the NY Times “Modern Love” column since its debut, this is now an original streaming series on Amazon Prime. Having a pretty traditional love life, I wasn’t sure how much I would relate to a book about modern love but boy was I wrong. Like most essays you will connect with some on a deeper level than others but the overall sense I was left with was that love is only fully achieved through vulnerability. We must completely surrender ourselves and often times at ...more
Oct 10, 2019 rated it liked it
it was fine. i dont know, i found that most, if not all, of the stories weren't very memorable. nothing egregiously bad, but nothing impressionable either.
Dec 23, 2019 rated it liked it
The average rating I have each story was around ~3.84
I am marking as 3 stars though just because I really don't feel like any of them were that memorable. It was sweet, and some are moving, but overall it was just okay.
Rachel A.  Dawson
Sep 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-rad-reads
This one is a great collection of Modern Love columns (plz tell me you know about this column from the @nytimes or the podcast!!) — heart-wrenching, humorous, poignant, wistful, wise, and just so, so very human. These are stories of love gained and lost and everything in between, and they are such a beautiful picture of humanity and emotions and just life. Big fan.
Olivia Garrett
Nov 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I flew through this book, devouring each sweet story. I loved it so much I couldn’t keep it to myself.. I read some essays aloud to the people I love, and I sent the link to about four people. I laughed, I cried.. So touching.
Oct 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
I love reading the Modern Love essays in the Times and it was nice to have a bunch of them compiled here. I had read a few of them, but not too many.
Ellie Straub
Nov 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Wow loved this one! Such a good collection of stories about love in its many forms. The Amazon series is amazing too!
Feb 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
Great collection ! Much diverse ! Love can grow in so many places ! If you want a cheat sheet, here's a list of my favorite essays from the collection that you can look up and listen to on the Modern Love podcast for F R E E:

1. At the Hospital, An Interlude of Clarity
2. The Five Stages of Ghosting Grief
3. No? No? No? Let Me Read Between the Lines
4. When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist
5. The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap
6. When Eve and Eve Bit the Apple
7. You May Want to Marry My Husband
Nov 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book makes your heart smile Love takes form in an infinite number of ways and it was intoxicating to hear others’ experiences with love

“We hoped the stories would explore the darkness as much as the light, plumb both the joys and the pain that spring from our lifelong efforts to be intimate with other human beings......Vulnerability is the animating quality of all love stories, and if can take many forms. In every case, though, vulnerability means exposing ourselves to the possibility of
Jan 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
Loved this book. Little snippets of people’s lives, and lives, in all forms. It’s also an Amazon Series. So I started watching and it’s interesting to see how the true stories were adapted for the series. I just started the series, but love reading the story that the episode is based on right before watching the episode. Such a perfect read before bed because they are bite sized stories. Took me way longer to read than it should have because of that.
Gail (The Knight Reader)
There are a lot of essays in this collection. A LOT. Unfortunately, many were average and not very memorable. If you ask me about this in a week’s time I am pretty sure these few lines will be all I have as proof that I even read Modern Love. A handful of stories were touching (usually the ones that involved death), some read like self help (grrrr) and some could be skipped altogether. I’d recommend this collection be read in short bits, lest repetition and boredom may seep in.

Nov 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
Modern Love was exactly the kind of essay collection that I needed- so relatable! There are many different kinds of love and I thought that these stories did a great job at reflecting that. I appreciate that it focused more than on just romantic love. I wish I had known about The New York Times “Modern Love” column earlier because I love getting a look into the other people’s lives in this way.

This essay collection made me feel a spectrum of emotions- everything from angry to grief. There were
Shannon Whitehead
While I live in the U.S., where the NY Times "Modern Love" column and new TV series are very popular, I wasn't familiar with either one until recently. I picked up this essay collection purely because I wanted to read about the ups and downs of love outside of my own life experience. I was sick of dwelling on my own heartache and wanted to hear about someone else's experience with love.

That's exactly what I got—an honest, beautiful look at humanity and the ways that love (in its many forms)

When it is hot as heck outside and there is nothing cool to do but reading as everything else makes you end up a sweaty mess, it is the perfect day for a speed reader.

I received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do .

The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the New York Times “
Bruin Mccon
Oct 11, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: library-ebook
I used to read ML every week and even subscribed to the podcast for several months. A book is different. The only way i can explain it is tiramisu. You have one small serving, it’s the best ever. You eat a gallon of it and you’ll never touch the stuff again.
Aug 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Living in the Midwest and not being a regular customer of the NYT, I had no idea that Modern Love was a column. But now that I do, I'll probably try to read it as often as possible. This collection of essays covers the very vast and malleable definition of what it means to love. There's platonic love, romantic love, unrequited love, love in the face of adversity, the ways that love can break us down and build us up. How we can still learn things, still find magic in relationships, after years of ...more
Brittany J. (BNJreads)
Thank you @randomhouse #partner for gifting me a copy of Modern Love by Daniel Jones.

After reading this book, I am so thankful to have found my person and still have him earth-side with me to make mistakes, grow with, change with, raise our babies and get the chance to do it all over again everyday. While I continue to hope that our love story endures all, some of these stories in this book don’t and that’s just real life. I enjoyed each of the stories and the many examples of love such as
Aug 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: biography, ng
If you kept up with the Modern Love column in the NYT, you'll remember many of these letters. If, like me, you were an occasional reader, the breadth of these stories will be striking. Writings range from tales of the banal modern issues of online dating, texting, swiping right, etc., to the uncomfortable issues of marriage and parenting to the earth-shattering losses of loved ones in death. The latter are powerful tearjerkers, while the former often seemed a bit trivial in comparison. All in ...more
Aug 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
The New York Times Modern Love column is the only column that I read consistently. After reading about politics, the recession, real estate, murder....I need something else. Often, I don't even read the other stuff because my mind and heart can't take it.

This collection is heart breaking, The collection is full of pain. This collection is full of love. It's the way we fall in love, the way we love our families, the way that people love their children.

It's Modern Love.

Thanks to NetGalley and
Karen LeBlanc
Oct 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I’ve been a fan and avid reader of the “Modern Love” column since the day I began subscribing to The New York Times a decade ago. These true-life essays are often poignant, stranger than fiction, intimate insights into love in all its iterations. As first-person accounts with dramatic story arcs that practically leap off the page, “Modern Love” begs for a more multidimensional rendering. The New York Times took note, launching a Modern Love podcast. (I’m a subscriber and enthusiastic listener) ...more
Lindy Hatch
Feb 17, 2020 rated it liked it
Ok so I feel a little silly giving this book just the stars... after all it’s real people’s lives and their stories of love. This book has many short essays on love... all types of love both platonic and romantic. One thing that it lacked, though, was the long term romantic love. The marriages that have lasted 50 years. It probably skipped out on that because it’s the “boring”, day to day, always there, and non dramatic love. Some of the stores were good and pricked at your heart as they were ...more
grace louise
For a long time now I've been tired of watching films and reading fiction books that display a picture-perfect romance, ending with a teary and satisfying 'happy ever after.' It has taken me a while (too long) to realise that the place to find realistic, honest accounts of romantic and platonic love are in books of non-fiction. Real people, real stories and real love.
This book for me was a perfect exploration into how, in a selfish world obsessed with social media and grasping aimlessly for a
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Daniel Jones has edited the Modern Love column in The New York Times since its inception in 2004. His books include “Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject (with the Help of 50,000 Strangers),” “The Bastard on the Couch,” and the novel “After Lucy.” Jones appears weekly on the Modern Love podcast and is a consulting producer for Amazon Studios’ show “Modern Love.” He lives in ...more
“I would explain that human love is a combination of three emotions or impulses: desire, vulnerability, and bravery. Desire makes one feel vulnerable, which then requires one to be brave.” 3 likes
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