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You Matter.: Learning to Love Who You Really Are

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Transform the way you live your life with a message of unexpected hope, radical joy, and deep connection.

You matter. Not because of what you earn or how you look or what you've achieved, but because you are inherently valuable. Author Matthew Emerzian takes this seemingly simple premise and shows readers how truly understanding their own worth will change every aspect of
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published February 11th 2020 by St. Martin's Essentials
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Oct 24, 2019 rated it did not like it
Trigger warnings: murderers/ criminals, suicide,

This is not a self help book. It’s more like a memoir with journal prompts. Nonetheless I enjoyed it up until chapter 13. He had me up until this point, but I completely disagree with what he’s preaching in this chapter. First, anyone who works in the mental health field will tell you NEVER use the word “commit” when referring to suicide. It’s either “complete” or “considering” or even “died by suicide” It invalidates a persons feelings and makes
Nov 18, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: ng, selfhelp, dnf
If Brent from The Good Place ever wrote a self-help book instead of a Chip Driver mystery, it might turn out something like this one. It's more of a memoir about writing a different self-help book and starting a "movement." Actually, it sounds like the author and another person and also the author's dad came up with a list of ideas based on the author's therapist's advice, and published it as Every Monday Matters. When a reader of that book assists someone contemplating suicide, the author says, ...more
Dec 01, 2019 rated it really liked it
An interesting and very well written mix of memoir and self help book. This book came in the right time in my life that I am suffering from anxiety and it was exactly what I need to read. This book motivate the reader to change their life and see themselves in a different way. I highly recommend it
Heidi Lengenfelder
Dec 02, 2019 rated it liked it
You Matter is a manifesto of self-esteem & call to action for people to find their meaning and live fully and to change the world while doing so. The book is set up into three sections - "I Matter", "You Matter" and "We Matter", with journal prompts, exercises and conversation starters to help you dive deeper.

The message of this book is clear - You Matter and you need to hear it and hear it often. This book was very helpful for me as a person with anxiety. I related to it. The author's
Dec 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book! I spent the entire time reading it doing a deep dive into who I am and the decisions I make on a daily basis and want to strive now to live my daily life a little more like Matt. He has such an awareness of the world and the people around him and the stories he told all either warmed my heart and or gave me a giggle. I really love how the book is broken down into the different chapters of "I Matter, You Matter, and We Matter" and how we are given tips for our own daily lives. ...more
Lynn M
Nov 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I really believe the first review is very unfair. Triggers? Really? Where does it ever mention rape? The previous reviewer is going for pure shock value and this book has none of that. It's a warm and uplifting book filled with inspiring stories. The murder aspect is when the author visits convicted inmates in a high security prison and meets a man convicted of murder. It is actually a heartwarming story if you open your mind. In regards to suicide. The author is not a therapist and does not ...more
Romi Sigma
Nov 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
You Matter is a quick read that will make you smile, laugh at times and think about your life. The book begins with the experience that lead the author to reconsider the way he was living and the journey towards healing. The answer he found was: you matter but it's not all about you.
The book is divided into three main parts: I matter, you matter and we matter.
As I read, I kept bookmarking pages to go back to later because they resonated with me or because I want to give them some more thought.
Taylor (TaysInfiniteThougts)
Feb 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing
You Matter is about learning about how to love yourself, but also about loving others. I enjoy reading self-help books like these, not because I necessarily need a self-help book, but because I like learning new ways to better myself and how to better treat others. I say ‘these type of self-help books’ because they are not just about bettering yourself, you also get to learn about how the author figured out all the things they are trying to teach you. You get to learn about them and why they ...more
Dec 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
This is a great book about realizing how much you matter to the world and then taking that realization out into the world and making it about the world and the people in it. it is broken down into 3 sections that allows a focus on each step of the process. The realization that came to to the author is told in small stories and then brought around to make his point effectively. A good book on your place in this world.
Nancy Armstrong
Dec 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I was very fortunate to win an advance copy of this book! The universal ideas in this book are genuine, thought-provoking, and inspirational. I am moving forward and know that I matter to myself, my family, my students, my friends, and my community. I was so inspired that I wrote a grant for books for Kindergarten-3rd grade students for $800 and it was fully funded in one day! So many kids will benefit from having books in their home libraries. They will acquire skills that will enable them to ...more
Huguette Larochelle
Dec 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
i win this book. i know some people that need to read this book. you matter , some peoples cannot think they can change the direction of the life they have if something not right.a quick read, that make you smile and make you think for yourself.
I'll start with a caveat, that being I swore off self help books some years ago, and in particular organizational pep-talks. (Who Moved My Cheese?, Fish: A Proven Way to Boost Morale and Improve Results). All empty talk.
But this was a well put together book with exercises akin to those given in a conference. He is not overly syrupy and admits it is not an easy sort of transformation. Seems that he has been there/done that with the subjects on which he speaks. And some simple things might
Dec 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book about the power of friendship and living authentically. It helped me recognize how important it is to be intentional in everything I do -- everything has a purpose and meaning and shapes your life even in the smallest of moments. I loved the stories the author shared and his call to actions and convo starters. It truly sparked a light in me! I highly recommend the read :)
Faith 09
Nov 18, 2019 rated it really liked it
It's literally just another self-help book. It serves it's purpose.
Oct 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I matter, this is a message that all of us need to hear at some point in our lives.

My life has been a huge roller coaster ride from the time I was diagnosed with GAD. I, therefore, could relate to author's panic attacks and how he was compelled to write Every Monday Matters.

This book has a simple message - We matter but it's not all about us.

This is an important message. It was made even more poignant through the stories that the author shared. He certainly has lived an interesting life - such
Oct 22, 2019 rated it liked it
This is a memoir that wants to be a self-help book.
Author Matthew Emerzian describes his own struggles with anxiety and depression with open honesty.
Sections at the end of each chapter - take action, journal prompt and conversation starters - are the "self help" part, with questions to inspire you to delve deeper into your own thoughts and actions.
Oct 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
Well written, interesting.
Between a memoir and self help book.
I don't read enough of these.
Different, interesting, well put together.

ARC received through NetGalley. This is my honest review. All opinions are my own.
Jennifer Frost
Oct 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Amazing book. Life-changing! I suffer from anxiety and this was just the book I needed, just at the right time. Highly recommend for everyone whether you suffer from anxiety or not. This is a how-to life your life to the fullest book.

I was given a copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for my honest review. The book is coming out in Feb. 2020, cannot wait! I will be buying a hardcopy!

Jan 14, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: netgalley
I think that the best thing about this book is its title. I recommend that if you are browsing self-help books and this book sparks your interest that you purchase the print copy, rather than the kindle version.The whole purpose of this book is in its title: You matter. The author constantly reminds his audience of this phrase. I have not read many self-help books like this, so I don't know if repetition is common for this this type of book (personally, I was not a big fan of it). But I ...more
Feb 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing
You Matter is a self-help book on understanding your own worthy, valuing your uniqueness, and finally realizing all you have to offer the world. It is divided into three different sections; "I Matter," "You Matter," and "We Matter." At the end of each chapter, the reader will find exercises, journal prompts and conversation starters that will help with fully grasping who and what truly makes the reader happy.

This book and its stories made me smile, laugh, cry, dream, and above all else believe
Feb 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I received an ARC through NetGalley, provided by the publisher, in exchange for an honest review.

Transform the way you live your life with a message of unexpected hope, radical joy, and deep connection.

You matter. Not because of what you earn or how you look or what you've achieved, but because you are inherently valuable. Author Matthew Emerzian takes this seemingly simple premise and shows readers how truly understanding their own worth will change every aspect of their lives. You
Nov 21, 2019 rated it did not like it
I won an advanced copy of this book on Goodreads. I went from liking this book to disliking it in a heartbeat. The book itself is not exactly a self-help book which the author acknowledges but more of a memoir. It all falls apart after the author starts getting into the look at me and look what I did, and it is all about what I did type stories. The author would do well to eliminate everything after chapter 10. The author name drops and says he knows the Kardashians to saying he spoke at the ...more
Oct 26, 2019 rated it liked it
You Matter.: Learning to Love Who You Really Are by Matthew Emerzian is a self-help book to help readers discover their meaning and live a more fulfilling life. The title is powerful and important to remember, "You [I] Matter." I added the "I" because it's important to put in a personal context.

The vivid description of his panic attack is powerful from his sense of dread, tunnel vision, and heart racing. I was drawn to this book because I often feel I don't matter. In going through my life
Feb 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
If Santa wrote self-help, he would sound like this book. Lucky for us, Matthew Emerzian wrote this book instead and I can't love it enough! This book starts off ordinary enough and I thought it sounded charming. But as Emerzian proceeds to tell his story, he has the most amazing experiences and outlook on life. This guy has obviously worked hard and found himself in situations that would make most of us feel uncertain and possibly terrified. Yet it's so clear that Emerzian is living from his ...more
Dec 19, 2019 rated it really liked it
Solid 4,5 stars (it was a 5 stars book until the last few chapters of the book, where I felt the anecdotes and stories were shorter and less inspiring - maybe the author was running out of space and didn't have the time to go as in depth as before).

This book is utterly inspiring, every time I read it, it brought me a sense of joy to be alive and to be able to experience the world. It calls for action, both internally and externally. And it gives hope, and faith that a better world is possible.

Jan 21, 2020 rated it liked it
Before I get to my review, I want to say you truly do matter. If at times where you don't feel like you do reach out and get help. it could be as simple as making a phone call to a friend or family member or you can call the national suicide line at 1800-27308255. They also have an online chat option if you don't want to speak to someone. You can find out more information here on their website . The crisis text line is also a great resource. Just text ...more
Feb 23, 2020 rated it did not like it
This was a quick read, but I found myself feeling irritated the entire time. This book seemed like more of a memoir with an opportunity to name drop and emphasize his status than it did to communicate to people their worth. It read like a series of blog posts or a transcript from a cheesy expensive seminar under the guise to better yourself. I recognize that this is a harsh review, but I don't think there is anything about this book that stands apart from what is not only already out there, but ...more
You Matter is a memoir, self pat on the back, by a man who says he wants to help others learn how to pat themselves on the back as well (thus its inclusion in the self-help genre).

Matthew Emerzian may in fact have genuinely turned his life around, and if so, I'm very happy for him. I also understand his excitement and zeal in wanting to help others. But in reading this book, I felt it had a strong tone of self-aggrandizing, and that grew to be really irritating. For me, this definitely skewed
Feb 14, 2020 rated it really liked it
In You Matter, Matthew Emerzian shares personal stories, suggested activities, journal prompts, and conversation starters to help you understand how much you and your actions matter. Some of the stories resonated with me more than others, but overall, I found this an inspiring read. I particularly enjoyed some of the inspirational quotes included throughout the text.

To get the most from this book, you need to allow plenty of time to try the suggested activities. Some may feel quite challenging,
Feb 11, 2020 rated it it was ok
Shelves: arc-s, net-galley
*I received this book from NetGalley in return for a honest review*

I enjoy a good self help book as much as the next person, but unfortunately this was more of a memoir, and more of a "here are things that I have done in my life that don't really relate to self help". I found the stories not very engaging and go more and more off topic throughout the book.

Most of the book can be summed up in "spend time with other people and make them feel like they matter, and then you will feel like you
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