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The Love Dare

4.37  ·  Rating details ·  55,378 ratings  ·  571 reviews
The #1 New York Times best seller. More than 5 million units sold. Now available in a heat-burnished, simulated leather, keepsake gift edition.
Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

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Leather Bound, 224 pages
Published January 1st 2009 by B Books (first published January 1st 2008)
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The movie that this book was birthed out of, Fireproof, starring Kirk Cameron, was amazing!! My husband and I both enjoyed it more than any movie we have seen in a long time. It was so nice to see a clear moral and Christian message for a change, rather than the filth that fills our eyes and ears on a daily basis. We ordered the book before we even saw the movie and were so glad that we did! We are not through the entire thing, but I highly recommend both the movie and the book for any one who i ...more
May 16, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I worked through the 40 Dares in this book over the last month and a half, and it completely changed the way that I look at my spouse.

I have always loved her, but now I have found a better way to love her.

A very powerful dare asked me to visualize two rooms in my heart (one APPRECIATION and one DEPRECIATION) for my spouse. It asked me how often I go in the APPRECIATION room and how often I visit the DEPRECIATION room.

I made a three page list of things that I love about my wife, Nancy, and I gave
Cherlynn Gates
Jan 20, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
it honestly takes 2 people to make a marriage work. doing all the items in this book did not save my ten year marriage because the substance from both sides wasnt there to save. since my marriage ended after catching my ex and sister in bed and her burning down my house, I'd say my marriage wasnt "fireproof", but heres the kicker because I put into practice these lessons, I had no regrets in leaving my ex cause I did all I could to save the marriage in the 6 months before the fire and I learned ...more
Feb 28, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: marriage
From the cheesiest, most powerful movie I ever loved, the 40 day love dare. I am on Day 27, and I am flunking my way through this book. This one is a good spiritual practic of a king not much in vogue - ministering to your spouse, because just like firemen don't abandon their partners in a firestorm, you don't abandon your spouse in a firestorm.

I have a friend in a recovery group who says "some days you stay married one day at a time just like you stay sober one day at a time." This is a book t
Jun 08, 2016 rated it liked it
I have mixed feelings about this one. On the positive side, reading this book with my husband gave us a set time in the day to focus on our marriage through the lens of faith.
On the negative side (for me), the authors are pretty conservative, and some maddeningly old fashioned ideas of gender roles and the nature of men and women shine through in the writing.
If you can shake that off, or if you simply agree with their views, there are good ideas to be found about how to treat your loved one an
Mar 02, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am on Day 29 Love's Motivation

When God is your reason for loving, your abitlity to love is guaranteed.

The love that's demanded from you in marriage is not dependent on your mate's sweetness or suitability. The love between a husband and wife should have one chief objective: honoring the Lord with devotion and sincerity. The fact that it blesses our beloved in the process is simply a wonderful additional benefit.
Jan 14, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So far--EXCELLENT. This movie was EXCELLENT. Thank you Stephen Kendrick for creating this book. I am fortunate to be able to say that my husband and I have an excellent marriage, but in the 20 years we have been together there have been tough times, for sure. Now, with people we know doing destructive things in their marriages (speaking negatively about their spouses and to their spouses, rampant pornography, not prioritizing time with each other, etc.) marriages are not being nurtured and are f ...more
Katt Hansen

It's taken me forever to get through this book, mostly because I wasn't ready for it.

Yeah, I'm being honest in my review. Go figure.

The first half was good. I did the challenges daily, and saw results. I saw more results than I ever thought possible. My husband was responding, hey even I was responding. The second half though...well it got harder. The Christian things, praying and making a commitment to God, that went ok. But the deeper commitments I wasn't ready for.

Finally I just gave up
Feb 03, 2009 rated it liked it
If you are married, and want your relationship to work out, this is the book to read. It speaks about Love, how God views love, and oneness--togetherness--and unity. It is a forty-day journey to see your spouse for who they are, who they have become, and who you love the most underneath God's leadership. God is the third thread in a marriage, there is a difference between a marriage contract and covenant with God. I take the covenant with God more so than marriage contract. I want to be married ...more
Oct 31, 2011 rated it did not like it

I wanted to like this book and I know no book has all the answers when it comes to all relationships because each relationship is unique. This book is also split in 40 days of advice... it starts out as little things you can change or do to make your partner's life better and hopefully improve the bond between the two of you.

However about halfway through until the end it turns into "how to be a doormat". This becomes one big guilt trip and becomes very centered on men must always give in to thei
May 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a really great book. Although a lot of people I know had this book on their shelves, none of them had actually worked their way through it or even read the first page. The reason? It's seen as a resource for when your relationship is in crisis.

I felt like I didn't really need to do this book but it turned out I was wrong.

It was very useful to have a challenge to complete. Some dares took longer to complete than others depending on my pride levels. I also really liked how simple and clear
May 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Challenging book in terms of it urges you to look at issues and deal with them from a Christian view and biblically so.
Britt B
Oct 18, 2020 rated it really liked it
This started out as being something that Alex and I would read together before bed but with long distance it started being a just me thing. It has valuable knowledge and insight and is something I would love to revisit once a year - to read it in its entirety or just to reference. I also would love the chance to reread it with Alex. We were given this as a bridal shower gift and it was so thoughtful and appreciated❤️
Joseph Wetterling
Mar 17, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: marriage
The accompanying movie, Fireproof, really hit home for my wife and I. We watched it together, and we saw ourselves in some of the scenes. After that, we worked through the 40 day Love Dare.

We found that working through it together, on the same day, made things more difficult. We both knew what "dare" the other person was on, and there was a sense of expectation that neither of us intended. "She's on day three today. I wonder where my present is?" That's the entirely wrong idea! (Sin does, indeed
Sherrie Conkel
Feb 07, 2009 rated it it was amazing
The movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron is excellent and will help you relationship immensely. It is very anointed and has moved even the toughest guys I know to tears at the end. Very touching and inspirational.

The book that the movie is based on is called "The Love Dare" and it takes a lot of dedication and discipline to do, but, well worth every bit of the effort. I DARE You to try to make it through without blowing it! I dare you!

Sherrie Conkel
Jan 27, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book changed my life! A wonderful lesson in love. I read it in the hope of becoming the best wife to my husband and I got way more out of it than that. The descriptions of love as a choice and a commitment were beautifully portrayed with examples from the Bible. The biggest surprise was that somehow I was left feeling like before reading I mustn't have known the fullness of God's love for me. I have known God loves me for 25 years but something shifted as I read this and the reality hit me ...more
Jul 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Despite the semi cheesy movie that this book was born out of...this has to be one of the best marriage books we have gone through together. So glad it was recommended to us!
Chris Gamble
Jul 25, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I just finished this book today, and thought I'd talk a little about it.

The book The Love Dare was shown on the movie Fireproof. The movie is about a fireman who is struggiling through a failing marriage headed for divorce, when his father hands him a book. The Love Dare. The husband reads the book and takes the journey, finding love, happiness, and unity with his wife. It is a very inspiring and But the book is even more so.

I found this book while at the library. You see, I have
Paul Liburd
Feb 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My wife and I, watched the movie ‘Fireproof’ which accompanied this book, I then purchased the book without telling her and began reading it and following the 40 day challenge. The daily challenges required much discipline and holding my tongue, especially when I wanted to vent or complain. By day 25 I began to feel like a different person. I was calmer and more in control of my emotions and I actually felt happier and more content with my marriage and my life. On day 30, my wife exclaimed that ...more
Oct 24, 2016 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Christian married couples
I finished reading "The Love Dare," but this does not mean I followed instructions. This book is meant to be a 40 day plan for a husband and wife to take on a dare, a covenant to read, respond, journal, and put into practice with the goal of rekindling love and marriage. Since I embarked on reading this solo, on a Kindle, I did not fill out the journal entries or take the suggested actions. I wanted to read the book myself and form a conclusion as to whether it was well-written or likely to succ ...more
Oct 23, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I read this because I loved the movie and I know this is a great tool for improving one's marriage. I first heard about it from a couple who used this to get past some really hard times and fix their marriage; it worked for them and it can work for you! It will not fix all marriages and it may be very difficult since one person has to take the dare and meet the challeges, but it can help rekindle a marriage and draw a couple closer to eachother and God. I would also recommend this to all couples ...more
Bryant Cornett
Sep 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book woke me up.

It's designed to be given to a friend that's contemplating divorce (I wasn't) and asking them if they will commit to following one instruction a day for 40 days. But our Sunday school class took it and made a curriculum from it that changed my life. I wouldn't suggest it the way we did it--a day's lesson each week took nearly a year to get through it--but there's no question that it opened my eyes to what I was missing and wasting in my marriage.

I've given a number of thes
Mar 08, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2016
Let this be a testament to my newly formed book club that I read this book even though I hated it. But I did start watching the movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron that has somehow turned this "marriage devotional" book into a movie. The movie is so bad that it's good. I want to watch more of it - that's how bad/good it is. And maybe this book isn't bad if you are looking for a marriage devotional book - but I wasn't looking for a marriage devotional book and so . . . . but I can converse ab ...more
Teandra Knapp
Nov 21, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is amazing. But let me WARN will be tested in so many ways if you do this book. DON'T QUIT, DON'T STOP, FINISH IT!!!I did this 40 day study hoping to change my spouse and I was changed in the process. I have done this book several times with many women and each time its very challenging but worth it every single time. I get closer to the Lord and to my husband each and every time I do this study. Your marriage doesn't have to be falling apart for this book to benefit your ma ...more
Mar 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: religious, self-help
Finally... I'm finished. I wouldn't have done it any other way though. Reading one chapter a time till I really got it made it an amazing read. I haven't read anything that has done for for my marriage or my relationships with my children like this. The thoughtful essays read one at a time gave me strong food for thought, and completing the assignments brought me real joy. I can't recommend it highly enough. I used the scriptures as a jump off point for my scripture study and WOW. I'm sure a sin ...more
Jenny Peeples
Aug 24, 2014 rated it it was ok
I never saw the movie but I did read the book. It talks about how to work on your marriage in a way that would glorify God, however, I thought many of the views in the book weren't necessarily applicable to modern, daily life. I really was turned off by the 5 straight chapters in which the author tried to "save me". Don't get me wrong; there were many parts of the book that I used in my own marriage but I think, as with any self-help book, one should apply only what can benefit them. Every one h ...more
Tina Smith
Sep 24, 2011 rated it it was amazing
So far this book is great, it gives examples and dares that you have to try each day for 40 days, ti increase love and undestanding in your relationship, and I am happy to say my hubby is doing it with me, I read it aloud to him the night before and we do the dare the next day. Then it gives you a little area to write if during the day you felt like breaking the dare. It's really interesting so far. ...more
Jan 01, 2011 rated it really liked it
This book is from the movie "Fireproof" and I liked both. It helped me think about my marriage and even though I have a great one, there were many suggestions that I took to heart to make it even better. It gives you daily dares, using God and prayer to guide you, to increase the love and commitment in your marriage. ...more
Jan 03, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This book is awesome in the fact that most of the reference material comes from the Bible. It is a 40 day devotional used to put your spouse before yourself. It has taught me how where to find the true source of love. I only recommend this book to Christians and I also recommend watching the movie Fireproof.
Steve Vida
Mar 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I should have read/followed this book years ago, and my marriage might be safe rather than near the end.
I love my wife more than anything, but I failed to show it for far too long.
Clinging to any bit of hope I may have left, I've been reading this book and it has opened my eyes about myself.
I can only hope, and pray, that my marriage can be saved...
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