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The More or Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care: From A to Z

3.83  ·  Rating details ·  564 ratings  ·  92 reviews
Some days you need a pick-me-up, some days you need a life preserver.

“For most of us,” writes Anna Borges, “self-care is a wide spectrum of decisions and actions that soothe and fortify us against all the shit we deal with.” You may already practice some form of self-care, whether it’s taking an extra-long shower after a stressful day, splurging on a ~fancy~ dinner, or ch
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published November 1st 2019 by The Experiment
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Anna Borges
Aug 08, 2019 added it  ·  (Review from the author)
i'm marking this as "read" so it counts towards my goodreads challenge and no one can stop me #selfcare ...more
Jul 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
This is the kind of book that I’m going to read multiple times - at least once from cover to cover, as I already have, and in bits and pieces many times in the future, I’m sure. As somebody who not only struggles with making time for self-care, but also with figuring out what might make me feel better once I do take time for myself, the map at the end of the book is going to function as an excellent starting point for discovering and remembering all the little things that might make any given si ...more
Aug 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arcs-2019
I think I've finally found a self-help book that's actually helpful for me.

I love that this book pours light on how the differences in gender, class, determine what self-care is for an individual. A lot of self-care tips are usually banking on capitalism, making self care a commodity that certain people can’t attain but Anne Borges addresses that.

The More or Less Definitive Guide to Self Care is the type of book that I’d like to read over and over until the pages are bent in my favourite places.
Tess Malone
Nov 10, 2019 rated it really liked it
This is not a book with a lot of pop science on why self-care works. It’s also not a book masking consumerism as self-care. But if you’re looking for something middle of the road—not a deep dive into why self-care matters but still with practical tips that acknowledge mental health—this is a great resource. None of the suggestions were new to me, but seeing them all laid out was a helpful reminder of all the tools I have at my disposal. I’ve already sent this to one friend.
Ashley Peterson
Nov 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The More Or Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care by Anna Borges is an A-Z listing of a wide variety of different self-care strategies. The book is visually appealing, with illustrations and an easy to read layout. Parts of the book are targeted specifically at people with mental illness, but it would still be relevant to people who don’t have a mental illness.

The author explains that she sees four types of self-care that involve nourishing the body, mind, relationships, and spirit. She makes it cl
Nov 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I have been in various forms of therapy and medical intervention for my mental illness for five years now - and I was unwell for many years before that. I have taken innumerable classes, received every hand-out and info sheet, and read many many self-help books on the subject of mental health. Some of them were directed to my condition specifically, but others were for health-conscious folks of all backgrounds. Sometimes I feel that I have read everything and have seen everything and that nothin ...more
Mar 08, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book and will recommend it to everyone!
I bought this immediately after reading Borges' article "I'm not always very attached to being alive". This is one of the best books on self care and mental health I've every read. It's quick, comforting, and easy to read. Definitely one to keep rereading when things are hard. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go rearrange my houseplants and poke my cat to let her know I love her. ...more
May 18, 2020 rated it did not like it
This reads like a long, poorly researched Buzzfeed article.

I'd say it's target audience should be 14-18 year olds. The lack of depth is frustrating as there's a few nuggets of good advice in there. The lack of depth on any advice means it just falls a bit flat. There is also some pretty poorly thought out, potentially harmful advice. Disappointing.
Mara (marasfoldedpages)
Jan 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019-releases
Thank you so much to Manda Group, and publishers The Experiment for sending me the book in exchange for an honest review!

I loved this self help book. The pages were filled with advice in a textbook style, but never dry, format along with colour illustrations. There are also many real life examples from both men and women of all ages who have gone through similar experiences. I found this to be the most interesting part of the book.

In the back, the author also included frequently asked questions
Jul 14, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I did read this book from start to finish, but that is not the only way to approach this guide. It is full of grounded (free or inexpensive) ideas for self-care, both practical and more esoteric. What garners the 5 stars for me is that it clearly lays out at the beginning of the book that the entire notion of self-care is steeped in privilege and it does not have to be. Having said that, the author Anna Borges owns this and attempts to address it throughout the book.

I have a new Audre Lorde quo
Becka Woodard
Sep 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
This was such a great book! I loved reading bits and pieces of it on a (nearly) daily basis. It's so nice to have this discussion of self-care in the back of your head when you're going about your day. Even if you already know a lot of this, it's still nice to just be reminded of the ways you can take care of yourself.

What I really enjoyed is that the author talks about how self-care can often exclude people of non-white races, people with disabilities, people of different sexual orientations.
Molly Ahern
Apr 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was brilliant and I’ll definitely be purchasing a copy of my own when I am able

I’d highly recommend it to anyone who wants to practice self care but can’t get behind the flowery stuff.

From using proven therapy techniques on your own time to practicing tarot reading, Borges has compiled a brilliant collection of self care methods. No matter what your type of self care is, you’ll find it in this book.

There’s a heavy focus on realistic self care and mental health. In the time it took me t
Jun 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: z-2020-f-w
This is a wonderful guide that provides tons of options that can be done at any time. The guide is very honest that sometimes we have different levels of energy for self-care, and have different self-care needs. The guide is also written with a lot of warmth and humor which makes it even better. No matter what you feel about the concept of "self-care" this book is for you. It balances being clear that self-care is very personal while still giving lots of concrete possibilities. ...more
Mar 29, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: library-reads
For someone who is looking for a concise and realistic overview of the types of self care out there, this is a fantastic book. It provides a great starting point to a multitude of tools one can use to develop a self care routine meaningful to them; I particularly appreciate the lack of expensive and unrealistic solutions that can often propagate other well being books.

While I did get a few new ideas out of this book, it felt more like an overview of things I already knew, which is the reason for
Mikyla Cleary
Dec 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was an absolutely incredible read! It is easy to read as it is blocked into sections based on the letter of the alphabet. It didn’t take too much brain power to read it, and the messages in it are great for ANYONE interested in exploring what self-care might look like for them. I would highly suggest friends, family, and clients read this book!
Jan 09, 2020 rated it really liked it
I thought this was a great book and gave many helpful tips and made mental health seem more attainable I don’t struggle especially with mental health but I found it helpful. I would definitely recommend to someone who is just looking in to self care and mental health
Mar 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nf
A lovely concise compilation of ways to take care of yourself. Not all entries are groundbreaking, but a lot of them are reminders of things I already knew but forgot to practice or reminders to be kind to myself. Some of them were true eye-openers and made me look at things in a different way. Overall the book gave me a comforting feeling and I'll be dipping in and out of it in the future. ...more
Alicia Thompson
Apr 05, 2020 rated it really liked it
Jun 19, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Typically I have a difficult time getting in to self-help books, but this one was great, with quick nuggets of wisdom--one to two paragraphs based on a word/idea/theme in alpha order. Also appreciated her humorous, direct tone. This is a book I'd referred back to in the future. ...more
Jan 04, 2020 rated it really liked it
Great reminder that the best self care is to be patient, gentle, and non-judgmental with yourself. Lovely way to start off the new year!
Karley Essington
This book was honestly everything I was looking for. It was a great starter book to diving into the self care and personal growth mindspace. I loved the way Anna Borges writes and her 100% realness. I found myself always interested and wanting to keep reading. Plus I'm sure I'm gonna use almost everyone of her tips. I recommend this book to anyone who can use a pick me up and honestly we all could. ...more
Apr 05, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
This is setup dictionary style with alphabetical entries of self car ideas. There is a nice mix of activities that may cost money and are fee.
Dec 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book caught my eye on the "new order non-fiction" list at my local public library. I think I was first in line to receive a copy. So glad about that!

Self-care is a new "meme" that has spread like wildfire. While I believe I first heard the term from my younger son, it is now virtually everywhere.

And no wonder. Life can be stressful. Bad things happen to good people pretty much all the time. From my older person perspective, I think life is particularly stressful for young people right now.
Oct 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was such an interesting book to read, with lots of infos and tips (from hobbies to self improvement) and I will definitely use it again in the future (starting now).

I found it very well structured and easy to understand, truly a good guide.
Oct 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My new favorite book recommendation is The More or Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care by Anna Borges. Every page in this book is practically perfect. The layout is easy to read, the personal stories are a lovely touch, and the facts are undeniable. The clarity of how to put the book into practice is amazing, and it covers every type of self care possible. I truly cannot recommend this book enough. Every therapist should have it in their office, every person who wants to show some kindness to the ...more
Jul 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
Self-care can be (and has been) defined many different ways. Many of the resources I've seen over the course of the last year have all been focusing on the "pampering" aspect of self-care. Things like taking baths, getting a pedicure, etc. I've also seen examples around practicing gratitude, journaling, etc. What's great about this book is that is has both and then so much more. I think it's relatively true to its title in that it's pretty exhaustive.

"The goal of self-care is an ever-morphing t
Kailey (BooksforMKs)
This book gives practical self-care ideas organizing from A to Z, including things like healthy social interaction, meditation, cleaning and decluttering, making time for hobbies, using positive affirmations, taking a walk, listening to music, and practicing compassion. There is a flow chart quiz at the back of the book to help you determine what type of self-care you need the most.

I took off one star from my rating because of the heavy profanity in the book. It was completely unnecessary, and r
Jordan Lombard
Title/Author: The More of Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care by Anna Borges
Series/Standalone: Standalone
Subject/Topic: Self-Care/Self-Help
Book Format: Hardcover
Length: 239 pages
Well Written/Editor Needed: Well written
Would I Recommend?: I want to buy a copy for pretty much everyone I know!
Personal Thoughts: Not every self-care idea out there will work for every single person, and this book acknowledges that! This is a giant A-Z list of ideas for self-care, whether you're completely down in the d
I'm attempting to work more non-fiction into my reading habits, and this was a very easy one to start with. I wanted something encouraging and potentially useful to dive into first, something that I wouldn't dread picking up to help instill the habit of reading some nonfiction in the morning right when I get up, and this fit the bill. Self-care was the right direction to go for that for sure, because this book is all about encouraging good habits and making your days work for you. It wasn't the ...more
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Anna Borges is a writer, editor, and mental health advocate. Currently, she's a senior health editor at SELF, and has previously worked at BuzzFeed and Women's Health. An Oregon native, she lives in Brooklyn with her two cats, Francis and Regulus. (She's also a Virgo sun, Aquarius moon, Libra rising, INFJ, and Enneagram Personality Type 4.) ...more

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