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Healing Together: A Guide to Supporting Sexual Abuse Survivors

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Sex is such an intimate topic historically wrapped in shame and when someone shares they were sexually abused, we may not know how to respond.

With recent #MeToo and #ChurchToo movements, we are learning just how many men, women, boys, and girls have suffered sexual abuse at the hands of a trusted person, often family members or leaders in the church. Sexual abu
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Paperback, 208 pages
Published June 4th 2019 by B Books
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Jay
Oct 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I have received a copy of this book from the author and read it prior to publication.

Healing Together is an excellent, eminently readable, and extremely valuable resource for people who are putting their lives together after abuse or those who want to help them do so. It's well worth the investment of time, and I would imagine that most readers will mark it up heavily so that they can refer back to it. The content can be difficult and challenging to read because Anne exposes herself
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Christi Bragg
Oct 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I got our copy of HEALING TOGETHER by @girlnamedanne today in the mail. Yes! Yes! Yes! As both a sexual abuse survivor as well as currently navigating the criminal legal process with our daughter it is important to understand the clinical aspects of trauma as well as other ways to be supportive for survivors of abuse. I find myself continuing to hold out hope with each book that addresses sexual abuse and abuse responses.. having read it, I’m looking forward to reading this again with her as our ...more
Chris Logan
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm a seminary graduate and a worship pastor, and it's a book I didn't know I needed. Think "Mandated Reporter Training 101 and 201" plus a ton of helpful tips for how to help survivors of abuse, all wrapped in Anne's beautiful and accessible writing. It's a vulnerable, authentic book, for sure; she's been through all this. In sharing her story, she makes the suffering and courage of survivors real and tangible for those of us that love them. Then she walks us through how to be helpful without c ...more
Heather
This book is part of a much needed conversation, dare I say, part of a much needed movement in the church today. It is full of wisdom, experience, and tips. This is a an excellent resource. I definitely recommend it. I think everyone who is involved in a church should read this book, because we need to be prepared, unfortunately.
Thank you so much, Anne, for stepping out in faith and writing this book.
Richard Propes
Oct 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I first encountered "Healing Together: A Guide to Supporting Sexual Abuse Survivors" author Anne Marie Miller after having read her book "Lean On Me" and subsequently immediately yet another of her books.

I followed the author on Goodreads, which I think is the hipster way of saying "I really dig this author and connect with their writing," and subsequently have had some social media contacts. We'd had some discussion of my receiving an early copy of "Healing Together" but, quite honestly, I pre
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Ryan
Oct 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I sit in awe of this book and its author.

For one, Ms. Miller is extremely vulnerable and open throughout this work. She shares with us not only the story of her own sexual abuse, but also the reactions and consequences of her trauma with which she has lived for nearly 25 years. She is real, authentic, and yet personable, for the subject matter is one which is not easy for any of us to read, but she thankfully is able to sprinkle in her own humor at just the right time.

The second reason for my
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Diana Hoekstra
Oct 15, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Anne Marie Miller has turned a horrific experience in her life into healing and helpful words for sexual assault survivors and those who want to support us. Surviving sexual assault leaves the victim/survivor in a traumatic and fragile state for what can be years on the journey to healing. As a survivor, I can attest to the fact that while, in general, people's hearts are good and they want to be helpful, there are things that help and there are things that hurt. Anne has provided her insight an ...more
Steph Cherry
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I have been following Anne’s writing for over a decade. I have been on several of her launch teams and I can unwaveringly say that she has a voice we need to listen to. This book is no exception. She has given the church a gift.

In the first section we learn about trauma and hear about her own trauma. She has had quite a bit of pain turning in her abuser. Well-meaning Christian women basically called her a tramp and said she should have known better...even though she was a child and her abuser w
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Mary
Oct 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I have been a fan of Anne Marie Miller's writing since the release of "Permission to Speak Freely", which gave me just that. Her writing style is so readable and relatable you just keep reading, like having a conversation with a friend. This book is long overdue in the #metoo and #churchtoo movements. When one survivor comes forward, more come forward, and more come forward. Chances are you will hear, "I was sexually assaulted" from someone in your circle. Now instead of panicking, feeling lost ...more
Carole Turner
Oct 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book comes out tomorrow. I’ve had the honor of reading it already. To say it’s had an impact on me is an understatement. With this book, @girlnamedanne gives to the church and to individuals, a resource that is desperately needed right now. Let me repeat that, desperately needed! I can’t tell you how many people I know right now who’ve been sexually abused, who are sitting in churches every Sunday for years, not getting the support and healing they need. This book will help them and the chu ...more
Michael Mcilwain
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I received this book from the author and have read it in full.

Anne's book "Healing Togther" is an excellent resource for all who desire to help survivors of sexual abuse. Anne has experienced this trauma herself and shares with the reader ways that sexual abuse victims can be supported as they heal from the trauma of abuse. In addition to sharing her own story Anne has done much research and has also received medical training and mental health training to help her provide healing to
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Jenny Walley
Oct 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is so necessary to the conversation about sexual abuse. It is a topic that we all know about but most of us don't know how to talk about, or to appropriately be with our friends and loved ones who have experienced this unspeakable crime. I appreciated the author's honesty and vulnerability about her own experience, which really helped me step into the shoes of a survivor. The book was practical in so many ways, and yet beautifully written. She addressed what it feels like to move throu ...more
Chris Logan
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm a seminary graduate and a worship pastor, and it's a book I didn't know I needed. Think "Mandated Reporter Training 101 and 201" plus a ton of helpful tips for how to help survivors of abuse, all wrapped in Anne's beautiful and accessible writing. It's a vulnerable, authentic book, for sure; she's been through all this. In sharing her story, she makes the suffering and courage of survivors real and tangible for those of us that love them. Then she walks us through how to be helpful without c ...more
Joe Sewell
Oct 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In the interest of full disclosure, I received a free printed copy of this book as part of the volunteer launch team. That obligates an honest review.

Anne's story presented here is difficult to read. It should be for anyone that has any form of empathy for another. As she has done in the past she is as transparent as is legally warranted in telling her story. She also provides hope for all survivors, with the reality check that healing doesn't come quickly or easily, but it can happe
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Ralph Helm
Oct 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
"Healing Together" is a difficult, challenging, and extremely important read. It provides practical advice, as well as many important tools to help individuals, families, and organizations navigate the brutally painful process of helping someone going through the horrifying experience of being sexually assaulted/abused. I would recommend it to families and friends who have had experience with this, and honestly, I feel like every staff and administration of every church, school, and organization ...more
Jenny
I wish I had read this years ago. As it starts out in the author's notes, this is not a comfortable book to read. I frequently had to put it down and process what I had just read before picking it back up and continuing. But this is a very important book to read. I will go as far as to say that this book should be read by everyone. While the title refers to sexual assault, it covers assault and trauma in general and I really don't think that there is anyone who has not been touched by assault, i ...more
Carm
Oct 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is very helpful and provides great information without being boring or dry. This book is for anyone and everyone... probably the first person that someone will tell about abuse will not be a counselor, psychologist, or investigator... it will be a friend, an aunt, a co-worker. So we would all do
Well to be prepared to respond wisely. Tragically, we all know someone who has been abused. Our words and actions can help them heal (or help them to seek help) or can cause more harm and
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Pamela Hunter
Oct 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I was sent a copy of Healing Together by the Author .for the purpose of reading and writing a review of it.

It is my belief that Healing Together has the capability to help every victim of sexual abuse or rape. It also is an incredible tool to enable any mandated reporter, family member or friend who is in the untenable position of knowing their person has been victimized and they aren't quite sure how to help.

Healing Together is so user friendly and and full of data, so y
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Lois
Oct 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Sexual abuse of any kind is not an easy subject to address and there are aspects of it that are misrepresented by some and misunderstood by others. Anne Marie Miller shares her own story of abuse and attempts to help people to better understand what a survivor experiences in order for them to know how to, and how not to, respond. She doesn't pretend to have all the answers or a cure all, but she does share solid advice that can help advocates to better support survivors. She shows how the trauma ...more
Josh Tharp
Oct 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is a must read for anyone in church leadership! It is a real life view of what a church abuse survivor walks through and where we have failed collectively. It is awe inspiring the courage to put this account into words and a published book. It will both break your heart and cause a righteous indignation at the lengths that have been taken to avoid accountability within the church and more importantly actual healing for victims/survivors.

Please read this and together let's w
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Tina
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Anne pens a powerful narrative of hope in this much needed resource for survivors and supporters of sexual abuse. This is an extraordinarily well written book and deserves a very wide audience. The author does a fantastic job not only defining trauma and how it effects the body, heart, mind, and spirit of each person uniquely, but goes a step further in guiding supporters through the process of preventing, recognizing, and properly responding to sexual abuse. I highly recommend this easy to navi ...more
Lois
Oct 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Sexual abuse of any kind is not an easy subject to address and there are aspects of it that are misrepresented by some and misunderstood by others. Anne Marie Miller shares her own story of abuse and attempts to help people to better understand what a survivor experiences in order for them to know how to, and how not to, respond. She doesn't pretend to have all the answers or a cure all, but she does share solid advice that can help advocates to better support survivors. She shows how the trauma ...more
Steven Russell
Oct 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
It isn't very often that a book comes along at a perfect time and fills a void that needs to be filled.

This book is exactly that. Something everyone needs to read. Something everyone can benefit from.

Unfortunately, most of us know someone that has been affected by sexual abuse. This book offers you a chance to learn how to better walk alongside them as they heal.

Cannot recommend it enough.
Amanda Bedard
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In our day and age with the realities of #metoo and #church too, I’m grateful for Anne’s vulnerability to share her story. She is lending her voice to help provide resources for supporting individuals who are survivors of sexual abuse.
I am myself a survivor of sexual abuse and I’m also a pastor. This book was helpful for not only my occupation but also to understand the facets of my own traumatic experiences.
I’m so thankful this resource is available and I hope that many people will find it us
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Elisabeth
Oct 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Readable, practical and very quick way to get up to speed on the issues around sexual abuse. The more correct, compassionate and timely our response to the victim of sexual abuse, the less damage to the victims psyche, loved ones and church family. The knowledge shared by Anne Marie Miller will go a long way to increasing understanding and compassion, and reducing mishandling of abuse disclosures. This book will assist Christians to truly follow Jesus Christ in ministering to victims of sexual a ...more
Bethany
Oct 21, 2019 rated it liked it
Good overview for Christians on how to walk alongside victims of sexual assault
Carl Leake
Oct 18, 2019 rated it really liked it
Good information for persons new to how to respond and support persons who have had sexual abuse.
Tracey
Oct 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Another helpful well written book by Anne. I finished it in two days. It covers a serious topic and would be a great resource for anyone who is on church staff or actively involved in ministry.
Candice
Oct 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Incredibly helpful resource for the lay person trying to walk with someone through the trauma of sexual abuse. Great tips as well as gentle reminders for what not to do.
Christen Bordenkircher
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Anne Marie Miller is the author of five books and speaks at colleges, conventions, and churches on the topics of social justice, sexuality, health, addiction, and biblical themes like grace and restoration. She also writes for various publications, studied family sociology, and is currently pursuing her DMS at Rockbridge Seminary. She lives with her husband Tim, in a small town in Iowa. They are e ...more