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Dear Girls: Intimate Tales, Untold Secrets, & Advice for Living Your Best Life

3.88  ·  Rating details ·  81,461 ratings  ·  7,989 reviews
Ali Wong's heartfelt and hilarious letters to her daughters (the two she put to work while they were still in utero), covering everything they need to know in life, like the unpleasant details of dating, how to be a working mom in a male-dominated profession, and how she trapped their dad.

In her hit Netflix comedy special Baby Cobra, an eight-month pregnant Ali Wong resona
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published October 15th 2019 by Random House
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Sara As long as you use your lady talk decoder device, you should be able to understand.
Rachael Unless you are ready to have a conversation about eating a**, I would say no. Also, there are some other great YA female empowerment books out there. …moreUnless you are ready to have a conversation about eating a**, I would say no. Also, there are some other great YA female empowerment books out there. If you want something by a female comic, I'd try Bossypants or a Mindy Kaling. (less)

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Emily May
Oct 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
I've felt an increasing amount of jealousy and resentment from certain white male comics... I hear that line a lot: 'Me, I'm just another white guy.' Here's a solution: Try being a funnier white guy.

I had such a fun time reading this book!

Dear Girls was given to me as a gift and, at first, I wasn't sure how much it was really my thing, or even if I was going to read it. I like Ali Wong's stand-up just fine, but I don't read many books by comedians (just Born a Crime, which you definitely sh
Jul 07, 2020 rated it liked it
3.5 stars. I enjoyed listening to Ali Wong narrate her audiobook - it made me want to rewatch her standup again. She’s a rad person and I’m glad there’s more visibility for raunchy Asian women with a potty sense of humor. I appreciated her points about motherhood, culture, and going outside of your comfort zone in order to grow as a person. If she had explored these themes in a deeper way, I would have rated the book higher.
Miranda Reads
Oct 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars
Right off the bat - a quick PSA to Mari and Nikki (the "girls" that Ali refers to in the story) - your mother was right.

Do not (ABSOLUTELY DO NOT) read this book before you're 21. In fact, deeply consider reading it at all.

There are things that are objectively hilarious (abso-freaking-lutely hilarious) but horrifying (stunningly so) when you learn it's your own mother in the center of the story.

*ahem* onto the review!
That day, my co-workers found out my secret: I'm a fucking id
Jeffrey Keeten
Aug 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
”I often think about what it would be like for my grandfather to see me now. What would he think about me saying all of the disgusting things I say onstage? How he would feel about his granddaughter talking about what she lusts after? How I obsess over the most trivial problems. How I make a living by talking about what I want. How people pay to see his granddaughter just talk. He’d probably think I was some sort of magician with ancient powers, derived from behaving very well in a past life. Or ...more
Chelsea Humphrey
Oct 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
CONGRATULATIONS-Goodreads Choice Awards Humor Winner!

This was such a reprieve from what turned out to be a heavy month. I can't remember the last time I've laughed so hard, and my only gripe is that I wish there was more! Seriously, I could listen to Ali Wong and her personal brand of female humor all day every day. This was excellent as an audio book read by Wong! Highly recommended.
Nilufer Ozmekik
Jan 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Wow! This is brave! This hilarious! I haven’t laughed so much since I’ve seen my husband wear tights and thinks he’s hottie in his Robin Hood costume for Halloween. (Of course the entire people who were passing through Hollywood Boulevard agreed with me with their howling laughs. Case closed!)

I’m a big fan of this evil genius and needs her own thrown at Comedy Kingdom. She is smart. She is relentless. She is ugly honest. She is so confident. She is shining when she takes her place at the stage.
Oct 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley
4.5 Stars

Dear Girls is a book made up of Ali Wong writing letters (chapters) to her young daughters. The letters are hilarious, cautionary candid tales telling of Ali's life experiences from childhood through adulthood and cumulating into her becoming a mother. She is frank, candid, vulgar and hilariously real about all aspects of her life. She is not afraid to take risks and encourages her daughters to do so but to also learn from the mistakes their mother has made.

Her book reads like her stan
Jananie (thisstoryaintover)
AHH that was so good!! Could not stop pee-in-my-pants laughing during this one! Loved how she held nothing back and really examines her relationship with her sexuality, motherhood, and being Asian American. Highly recommend the audiobook if you're planning to pick this up because Ali Wong narrates it herself. Also that afterword from her husband? the cutest thing 😭 ...more
Ali Wong for president. This rules.

That's the review.

4.5 stars


taking lily's idea and reading only books by asian authors this month!

book 1: the incendiaries
book 2: last night at the telegraph club
book 3: dear girls
Babbity Kate
Jun 08, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
If you want to enjoy this book, don't read the last chapter.

"First, do not read this book until you are over twenty-one. You should not be allowed to know these inappropriate things about me if you can’t even buy beer yet."

Dear Girls is about the messy parts of life, but ends up being a bit of a mess itself. Despite the rough bits, though, it's an enjoyable read. Once you get past the shaky opening chapters, stand-up and TV writer Ali Wong is as frank, hilarious, and graphic as you'd expect.
Elyse Walters
Sep 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Ali Wong makes me laugh....
...she is not only hilariously funny...but underneath her raunchy humor, she’s a down-to-earth sweetie-pie luv-bug!

“Dear Girls” is her memoir - -non-fiction book for her fans - ( I’m one of them), and anyone curious about her.
It’s written as a letter to her two young little girls....
with instructions: NOT TO

I loved this book... I loved reading about Ali.....
*everything Ali*!!!

We learn about Ali’s upbringing- and her personal life.... with love
Heather K (dentist in my spare time)
Let me tell you, it is such a relief to have a funny, well-written book from a comedian that I admire. Man, I've been burned so many times before with mediocre books from comedians, I barely dared to hope with this one. But Ali Wong really delivered.

If you are a fan of Ali Wong, you will like this book. I pinky-swear promise. The beginning of the book is pure Ali Wong humor, and if you think think that means vagina and pubic hair jokes, you would be 100% CORRECT.

Ali Wong is purely who she is,
Oct 20, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Dear Ali Wong, it's not you, it's me. I saw an interview with you and thought you were funny. It turns out that your humour is not my humour.

I'm really not picky when it comes to celebrity memoirs but this one was not for me.
I truly feared this book would be fluff. Instead it is fearless and real.

Ali Wong says how we all feel: I'm not fine. Yet in her resilience and grit she is able to turn childhood resentment, male rejection, discrimination, getting boo'd offstage, the fear of a prenup, and a bushy pussy into the best things that could have happened to her.

I laughed out loud as I imagined Ali's exaggerated comedy voice confessing life moments like this one when she was pregnant:

After a while, I couldn't see my
Krista Regester
Feb 11, 2020 rated it liked it
Some parts: GREAT
Other parts: What?
Most parts: Meh.
May 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing
***5 stars***

I’ve been a fan of Ali Wong ever since my brother and sister-in-law introduced me to her first Netflix special. That's why I had to read her book as soon as I found out about it and let me tell you it is amazing! It's personal, hilarious, brutally honest and also beautifully written.

I laughed out loud so many times, but by the end of it I also kind of felt enlightened. I especially loved her views and comments on motherhood (fiiiiiiinally someone who dosen't gloss over how hard it a
Nov 08, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio, nonfiction
I really hope Ali Wong's daughters never actually read this, or they're going to be horrified. ...more
Apr 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
If you enjoy Ali Wong’s stand up specials, you’ll probably enjoy this collection of essays. Unlike Tina Fey’s Bossypants or Mindy Kaling’s books, this book does not spend much time on Ms. Wong’s professional success; the story there is pretty much work really hard and persevere though the failures. Instead, Ms. Wong focuses much more on her personal and family history, which was both unusual and interesting. Throughout, she dispenses life advice to her daughters, advice which is easily applicab ...more
Nov 19, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
As a fan of Ali Wong's comedy, I was looking forward to this audiobook. I was expecting something akin to a comedy performance. I was wrong. I found this book disgusting.
Oct 07, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-shelf, humor
If any of you have enjoyed Ali Wong's stand-up, I'm sure you'll also enjoy this book. Brutal honesty, expose-all humor, and some heart mixed in with all the entrapment stuff that women are into. :)

Of course, there's always a twist.

This book is set up as a series of letters to her young daughters, but its kinda a gimmick. One that works, fortunately, by giving us a familiar outlet for her comedy. Some of the sets translate the same way from Baby Cobra or Hard Knock Wife and there's new material
Jul 26, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2019
(I got my hot little hands on an ARC from secret sources.) I really liked the book except for the last chapter from the author's husband, which ended up making me like the whole book less.

First, the chapter was insipidly self-congratulatory and he is boring so I do not care what he has to say. Congratulations on being okay with being rich?

Second, the rest of the book is so funny and vulgar - a lot like Ali Wong's standup - and suffused with so much love for the titular girls. There are so many e
Rachel Reads Ravenously
Was laughing out loud in my car listening to this on my commute. If you like Ali's stand up comedy specials, this is the book for you! ...more
Aug 08, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've come to appreciate and enjoy/love stand comedy and comedy in general, and admit to it, relatively recently (last 15 years+). It's not that I didn't enjoy comedy when I was younger - I grew up watching Charlie Chaplin, Buster Keaton, Laurel and Hardy, Norman Wisdom and a few others, but I never intentionally sought it. As you can tell from my list, all those comedians are men. I never got to watch Lucille Ball or any of the other female comedians.

These days, I make it a priority to watch fem
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Disclaimer: I love Ali Wong. Like a deep, spiritual love based on unabashed honesty, IDGAF attitude and vagina jokes.

But you don’t need to love Ali Wong the way I do to read and enjoy this book of raw, personal and unflinching essays that gives you Wong's takes on life, love and erectile dysfunction.

Speaking from my biased standpoint, you want
Elizabeth Bowyer
Nov 09, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2019-reads
Boring. I keep reading these memoirs of female comedians I love hoping for comedic stories or details about their stand ups/TV shows and am instead reading about boring stories from their day to day lives. I don't glorify celebrities and I'm guessing that is the only way you could be interested in these books. If you think they are greater than God than I guess their trip to the grocery store is interesting? ...more
Listen to this on audio because it’s so good. This book is great, gross, and generally gassy. Like Ali Wong has no filter. You get to her all about intimate details of her life and all the information she wants to pass onto her daughters. I was laughing at some parts and like oh my god too much information at others. Still, it’s really relatable when she talks about how gross being a parent is and like how you can use a c section as a way to get out of things. Haha. But seriously you just end up ...more
CYIReadBooks (Claire)
May 31, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Just a few words. Hilariously funny. Humorously irreverent. An absolute must read for a good dose of gut wrenching laughter.
Let me just give you a little taste of this book...

“...YOU can be whatever you want to be but NOT a vlogger, NEVER a vlogger. Video-ing yourself putting on make-up or unboxing candles is NOT a job...Those people don’t put their body out there.”

Really?! What about the people who struggle just to get out of bed every day? What if those videos are the absolute best that they can do? Some people hurt so much that they don’t even have the strength or energy to even film a video. How insensitive. This
Kyra Leseberg (Roots & Reads)
Dec 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
3.5 stars

In a series of letters to her two daughters (who she says cannot read the book until they're at least twenty-one), stand up comic Ali Wong provides unfiltered advice on topics like motherhood, sex, and marriage.  She shares stories from her childhood, her early days in standup, her dating life, and how she met her husband.

While it's a hilariously raunchy memoir for readers, I love that it's basically a cautionary tale for her daughters full of experiences she hopes they will learn from
NAT.orious reads ☾
⫸3.5 STARS
This book is for … fans of Ali Wong, real-talk, and bits of advice in between long stories.

Dear Girls makes me confident that should Ali and I ever meet and be forced to spend time together we'd get along extremely well. For one, her humour is amazing. I've watched snippets of her shows online and felt an instant connection to this woman who made it in the comedy world, against many odds, race and gender being two of them. She doesn't shy away from telling things as t
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Ali Wong is the writer and star of the two hit stand up specials: "Baby Cobra" and "Hard Knock Wife." Since 2016, her looks from the specials have become a popular Halloween costume. She has sold out a record-setting number of shows on her Milk and Money Tour. She also co-wrote, starred in and produced the romantic comedy Always Be My Maybe, and is the author of the NYT bestseller Dear Girls. She ...more

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