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Ali Wong's heartfelt and hilarious letters to her daughters (the two she put to work while they were still in utero), covering everything they need to know in life, like the unpleasant details of dating, how to be a working mom in a male-dominated profession, and how she trapped their dad.

In her hit Netflix comedy special Baby Cobra, an eight-month pregnant Ali Wong
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published October 15th 2019 by Random House
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Emily May
Oct 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Emily May by: Mimi
I've felt an increasing amount of jealousy and resentment from certain white male comics... I hear that line a lot: 'Me, I'm just another white guy.' Here's a solution: Try being a funnier white guy.

I had such a fun time reading this book!

Dear Girls was given to me as a gift and, at first, I wasn't sure how much it was really my thing, or even if I was going to read it. I like Ali Wong's stand-up just fine, but I don't read many books by comedians (just Born a Crime, which you definitely
Miranda Reads
Oct 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Miranda by: Mimi
Shelves: hardcover
4.5 stars
Right off the bat - a quick PSA to Mari and Nikki (the "girls" that Ali refers to in the story) - your mother was right.

Do not (ABSOLUTELY DO NOT) read this book before you're 21. In fact, deeply consider reading it at all.

There are things that are objectively hilarious (abso-freaking-lutely hilarious) but horrifying (stunningly so) when you learn it's your own mother in the center of the story.

*ahem* onto the review!
That day, my co-workers found out my secret: I'm a fucking idiot.
Jeffrey Keeten
Aug 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Jeffrey by: Mimi
”I often think about what it would be like for my grandfather to see me now. What would he think about me saying all of the disgusting things I say onstage? How he would feel about his granddaughter talking about what she lusts after? How I obsess over the most trivial problems. How I make a living by talking about what I want. How people pay to see his granddaughter just talk. He’d probably think I was some sort of magician with ancient powers, derived from behaving very well in a past life. Or ...more
Chelsea Humphrey
Oct 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Chelsea by: Mimi
CONGRATULATIONS-Goodreads Choice Awards Humor Winner!

This was such a reprieve from what turned out to be a heavy month. I can't remember the last time I've laughed so hard, and my only gripe is that I wish there was more! Seriously, I could listen to Ali Wong and her personal brand of female humor all day every day. This was excellent as an audio book read by Wong! Highly recommended.
Oct 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley
4.5 Stars

Dear Girls is a book made up of Ali Wong writing letters (chapters) to her young daughters. The letters are hilarious, cautionary candid tales telling of Ali's life experiences from childhood through adulthood and cumulating into her becoming a mother. She is frank, candid, vulgar and hilariously real about all aspects of her life. She is not afraid to take risks and encourages her daughters to do so but to also learn from the mistakes their mother has made.

Her book reads like her
Elyse  Walters
Sep 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Ali Wong makes me laugh....
...she is not only hilariously funny...but underneath her raunchy humor, she’s a down-to-earth sweetie-pie luv-bug!

“Dear Girls” is her memoir - -non-fiction book for her fans - ( I’m one of them), and anyone curious about her.
It’s written as a letter to her two young little girls....
with instructions: NOT TO

I loved this book... I loved reading about Ali.....
*everything Ali*!!!

We learn about Ali’s upbringing- and her personal life.... with love
Heather K (dentist in my spare time)
Let me tell you, it is such a relief to have a funny, well-written book from a comedian that I admire. Man, I've been burned so many times before with mediocre books from comedians, I barely dared to hope with this one. But Ali Wong really delivered.

If you are a fan of Ali Wong, you will like this book. I pinky-swear promise. The beginning of the book is pure Ali Wong humor, and if you think think that means vagina and pubic hair jokes, you would be 100% CORRECT.

Ali Wong is purely who she is,
If you want to enjoy this book, don't read the last chapter.

"First, do not read this book until you are over twenty-one. You should not be allowed to know these inappropriate things about me if you can’t even buy beer yet."

Dear Girls is about the messy parts of life, but ends up being a bit of a mess itself. Despite the rough bits, though, it's an enjoyable read. Once you get past the shaky opening chapters, stand-up and TV writer Ali Wong is as frank, hilarious, and graphic as you'd expect.
Feb 12, 2020 rated it it was ok
This is just not my kind of funny.
I truly feared this book would be fluff. Instead it is fearless and real.

Ali Wong says how we all feel: I'm not fine. Yet in her resilience and grit she is able to turn childhood resentment, male rejection, discrimination, getting boo'd offstage, the fear of a prenup, and a bushy pussy into the best things that could have happened to her.

I laughed out loud as I imagined Ali's exaggerated comedy voice confessing life moments like this one when she was pregnant:

After a while, I couldn't see my
Nilufer Ozmekik
Jan 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Wow! This is brave! This hilarious! I haven’t laughed so much since I’ve seen my husband wear tights and thinks he’s hottie in his Robin Hood costume for Halloween. (Of course the entire people who were passing through Hollywood Boulevard agreed with me with their howling laughs. Case closed!)

I’m a big fan of this evil genius and needs her own thrown at Comedy Kingdom. She is smart. She is relentless. She is ugly honest. She is so confident. She is shining when she takes her place at the stage.
Oct 20, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Dear Ali Wong, it's not you, it's me. I saw an interview with you and thought you were funny. It turns out that your humour is not my humour.

I'm really not picky when it comes to celebrity memoirs but this one was not for me.
Oct 07, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: humor, 2019-shelf
If any of you have enjoyed Ali Wong's stand-up, I'm sure you'll also enjoy this book. Brutal honesty, expose-all humor, and some heart mixed in with all the entrapment stuff that women are into. :)

Of course, there's always a twist.

This book is set up as a series of letters to her young daughters, but its kinda a gimmick. One that works, fortunately, by giving us a familiar outlet for her comedy. Some of the sets translate the same way from Baby Cobra or Hard Knock Wife and there's new material
Kyra Leseberg (Roots & Reads)
Dec 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
3.5 stars

In a series of letters to her two daughters (who she says cannot read the book until they're at least twenty-one), stand up comic Ali Wong provides unfiltered advice on topics like motherhood, sex, and marriage. She shares stories from her childhood, her early days in standup, her dating life, and how she met her husband.

While it's a hilariously raunchy memoir for readers, I love that it's basically a cautionary tale for her daughters full of experiences she hopes they will learn from
Jul 26, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2019
(I got my hot little hands on an ARC from secret sources.) I really liked the book except for the last chapter from the author's husband, which ended up making me like the whole book less.

First, the chapter was insipidly self-congratulatory and he is boring so I do not care what he has to say. Congratulations on being okay with being rich?

Second, the rest of the book is so funny and vulgar - a lot like Ali Wong's standup - and suffused with so much love for the titular girls. There are so many
4 Stars

Ali Wong is a force to be reckoned with. Her comedy is bawdy and no holds barred, often bordering on offensive when she’s at her filthiest, but she’s also so god damn genuine and unpretentious, completely unrepentant in the brutally honest way she talks about her relationships, sex, and the way she experiences the world around her.

This memoir is delivered in a series of letters, written to her two little girls, offering personal stories and sharing her own unique advice and wisdom on
Chihoe Ho
Aug 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Dear Ali Wong,

I want to be your best friend.

You made me laugh so hard and cry unexpectedly, separately and also simultaneously (and here is where I should insert the cry-laugh emoji). And you know why I felt what I felt? Because your voice really pierced through the pages. It was like watching you on stage in one of your Netflix stand-up specials, and sometimes even like you were addressing me personally. The content was similar to some of the themes of your specials but you poured your thoughts
Jess | thegreeneyedreader
Jan 15, 2020 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this book. I laughed a lot, I cringed some, and teared up a bit during the afterward written by the author’s husband. Definitely recommend!
Nov 08, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio, nonfiction
I really hope Ali Wong's daughters never actually read this, or they're going to be horrified.
Dec 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a much more entertaining book than I thought it would be… although I do feel like I should warn you that Ali has no filter whatsoever ;) if you are familiar with her work, maybe watched one of her Netflix specials, then you know what I am talking about… if she’s a new artist for you, then I would definitely recommend checking up her kind of humor online… don’t get me wrong, this book is so much more than just jokes and such, but when they appear they are… well, definitely hers ;) ...more
Dec 11, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'll be clapping my hands in front of my face all day from now on. *lol*

And I'm proud to say that according to Ali Wong's guide, we went to a top-notch authentic Chinese restaurant when we were in NYC. *beams*

No, this book is not a very deep work of literary art. That, however, doesn't mean that it's not great. The author has a very down-to-earth style that made me like her two stand-up comedy programs on Netflix so much and she's using it to talk about everything from dating and conceiving to
Arpita Shrivastava
Dec 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: netgalley
Dear Girls is a compilation of the letters written by an American actress, stand-up comedian, and writer Ali Wong to her young daughters Mari and Nikki. Her letters are about her life as a child and a teenager, her struggles as an aspiring stand-up comedian, advice for living best life, confessions, food, dating, education, family, how she met her husband and how much she is proud of her Vietnamese and Chinese heritage and hence requested her girls to read this book only when they turn 21 years ...more
Laura • lauralovestoread
Looking for a hilarious memoir to binge read? Look no further. I FLEW through Dear Girls, and laughed so hard while reading this hilarious novel by Ali Wong. To be honest, I haven’t seen many of the Netflix shows that she mentions, but after reading each chapter I feel that it’s my duty to binge watch them all now.

Told with such hilarity and honesty, but also heartfelt as she explains everything to her two young girls from getting ready for a date, to childbirth and the rough days postpartum. I
Not too much to say except I really loved this collection of essays by Ali Wong. I got to know a little bit more about her, her family, her husband, and how she started off in comedy. She manages to infuse her essays to her daughters with love, laughter, and sometimes tears. I did love how this collection ended with a letter from her husband to their daughters too. The family seems very tight-knit, slightly manic at times, but ready to pull a knife on you if you screw with one of their own.

Oct 17, 2019 rated it liked it
I suspect this book would be a huge hit with parents of small children. For me, it was just okay. Also, since I didn't see any reviews mention this, TW for miscarriage and pregnancy complications.
I knew I would love this book, because few things have made me laugh as hard as Ali Wong’s Netflix specials: she is honest and, somehow, sweet and gross at the same time, and I found her endearing and relatable, so I got “Dear Girls” on Audible for our traditional Holiday “roadtrip”.

For those who, like me, knew her mostly through her stand up work, this will definitely hit the spot, because her sense of self-deprecating and over-sharing humour is present throughout, but what really impressed me
Krista Regester
Feb 11, 2020 rated it liked it
Some parts: GREAT
Other parts: What?
Most parts: Meh.
I had always been a huge fan of Ali Wong, enjoying her Netflix Stand up specials, Baby Cobra while she was 8 months pregnant, and her recent Always Be My Maybe. In this book, each chapter is a letter dedicated to her girls Mari and Nikki, detailing her most intimate feelings and advice to her daughters regarding dating and sex life, going through the stand-up circuit through the comedy clubs and late night shows, and as an Asian American woman in a male dominated industry. She talks about how ...more
Lisa Leone-campbell
Oct 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
Comedian Ali Wong has been a hilarious stand-up comedian, a writer for Fresh Off The Boat, as well as an actress. Now she can add writing a hysterical memoir to her list of accomplishments.

Dear Girls is an incredibly funny, heartfelt, sometimes raunchy, love letter to her two daughters, both of whom make appearances in Wong's two Netflix specials (she is pregnant in each special), the first Baby Cobra (with daughter Mari) and Hard Knock Wife (with daughter Nikki). Each chapter starts out Dear
Jamay Lau
Oct 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
You have to listen to this as an audiobook. It's Ali Wong. But I loved it so much I bought the hardcover too.
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Alexandra "Ali" Wong is an American actress, stand-up comedian, and writer. She is noted for her Netflix stand-up specials Baby Cobra and Hard Knock Wife, as well as her television appearances in American Housewife, Are You There, Chelsea?, Inside Amy Schumer, and Black Box.
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“My mom was never the type to write me long letters or birthday cards. We never got mani-pedis together, she never gave me a locket with our picture in it. She wouldn't tell me I looked beautiful, or soothe me when a boy broke my heart. But she was there. She kept me safe. She did her best to make me tough. She fed me the most delicious home-cooked meals. For lunch, she'd pack me rare sliced steak over white rice and steamed broccoli. She sent me to private school from kindergarten through twelfth grade. She is still there for me. She will always be there for me, as long as she's able. That's a great mom.” 11 likes
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