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Rules for Being a Girl

4.04  ·  Rating details ·  3,808 ratings  ·  754 reviews
It starts before you can even remember: You learn the rules for being a girl. . . .

Marin has always been good at navigating these unspoken guidelines. A star student and editor of the school paper, she dreams of getting into Brown University. Marin’s future seems bright―and her young, charismatic English teacher, Mr. Beckett, is always quick to admire her writing and talk
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Published April 7th 2020 by HarperTeen
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Sam Try your local library. Most have excellent audio/ebook collections. If they don't have a specific title they usually have an option to suggest a titl…moreTry your local library. Most have excellent audio/ebook collections. If they don't have a specific title they usually have an option to suggest a title for purchase :)(less)
Devon It’s a YA book. It really wouldn’t be appropriate for anyone under 14 or so. It has cursing and the vague illusions of sex.

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Jananie (thisstoryaintover)
....that was SO GOOD. just finished this book and it's left me feeling a bit teary-eyed and hopeful and all around astounded. Went into this without thinking much of it and left it feeling utterly delighted. I loved our main character Marin, and grew to adore the friends she makes along the way. but ultimately i loved how self-aware Marin was of how little she knew of feminism at the beginning of the book and how much she's hoping to learn. Now I would just like a Gray of my own to come to my fe ...more
Dec 21, 2019 marked it as to-read
finally a book where the teacher is called out for being a fucking pedo.
this book sounds like it has moxie vibes and i'm here for it.
Rules for Being a Girl is Young Adult contemporary fiction.

This is a YA book by two authors that I enjoy. In their author's note they call it "A YA book with a feminist message for the times".

There is some romance in this book. But I would hesitate to call it a YA contemporary romance. Because this book is so much more than that.

The narrator is 17 year old Marin (high school senior - 1st person POV). Her best friend is Chloe. They are co-editors of the student newspaper together. Something happe
Umairah | Sereadipity
3.5 stars

Rules for Being a Girl was a short, sharp feminist novel about a girl navigating the expectations, constraints and rules society puts upon women whilst fighting to make her voice heard.

Plot: 4/5
Characters: 3.5/5
Writing: 3.5/5

Marin was a top student and co-editor of the school newspaper along with her best friend, Chloe. Everyone, including her, admired their interesting and charismatic English teacher, Mr Beckett (or 'Bex') but that all changed until he tried to kiss Marin. There were
alana ♡
Jun 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
“Remember, girl: It’s the best time in the history of the world to be you. You can do anything! You can do everything! You can be whatever you want to be! Just as long as you follow the rules.”

Rating: 4.5/5 stars

This was truly a fantastic read. I mean, I unintentionally started and finished this book on the same day because of how good it was. Rules for Being a Girl is equal parts infuriating and powerful but so incredibly important. It’s the type of book that women of all ages can see them
Jaye Berry
May 05, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Finally some good fucking food. I love YA feminist contemp novels so much and this little baddie right here is a prime example. This one doesn't go as hard as some others I've read, like The Nowhere Girls but it still slaps.

Rules for Being a Girl is about a girl named Marin who is in high school. She's a star student and editor of the school paper, with dreams of going to Brown University. Marin's charismatic English teacher, Mr Beckett, admires her writing and likes to talk books with her. When
Party Poison [Disco Freak Show]
This book is a lot different from the books I usually read. I don't think I've read a book like this since I was 12 or 13. I got sick of fantasy, so I decided to try something different and my friend Adela recommended it to me, so I thought, why not? The worst thing that happens is that it's bad and I don't finish. It honestly would have been more enjoyable if it hadn't been an ebook. I hate ebooks, but it wasn't very long so it was okay. And apparently I have a thing for books that make me mad. ...more
Trisha Tomy
Aug 28, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Trisha by: Em J.
And here we are again, with yet another review not written. Honestly, I don't even know if I'll remember what to write when I'm going to, because this was a really good book. The only problem I have with books like these, is that they make you think. Like good, proper thinking. They make you think, "Wow, what a wonderful ending to a wonderful book, justice was served in the end" and then you think,..... That doesn't happen most of the time in real life. There's a lot more I want to write, and I' ...more
This book is an important one for all young girls. It speaks the truth, it speaks volumes, and I will cherish it. I want my daughter to read this book when she's old enough. I want her to know that whatever happens in her life, I will ALWAYS support her, I will always be there for her. That's what I wanted to tell Marin. When no one believed her, when her life seemed to crash around her, I thought that her parents were her rock. A certain boy too, but I, as a parent, saw how important it was to ...more
Dec 01, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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📗 I was so sure that when I finished this book, I would be fist punching the air like the end of Breakfast Club, feeling so unapologetically feminist I'd break down old white men's Twitter doors and scream quotes I found on Pinterest at 2am at them, but unfortunately when I left the book I didn't really feel much of anything.

📘 The story is really about Marin and Bex, or Mr Beckett, Marin's teacher. He grooms her, and persuades her to visit his house before try
laurel [the suspected bibliophile]
DNF at something early percent

Hitting too close to home
Danielle (Life of a Literary Nerd)
"Remember, girl: It's the best time in the history of the world to be you. You can do anything! You can do everything! You can be whatever you want to be!
Just as long as you follow the rules."
I finished this so quickly (probably because it was so good)! Rules for Being a Girl is an empowering story about the difficulties women and girls face on a daily basis. Marin Lospato must face these rules after a beloved english teacher takes things too far.

What a timely story! And it was so
Carly Faith
Jan 28, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020-reads, owned
god, i could go OFF about this book and how TRASH it was. i definielty think author is someone i can't read ever again.

i will leave a link to my rant review because it got me that heated.


rate: 1.5/5
Eva B.
This was a really fast read for me, I read it in one go last night and enjoyed it. I think it needed to be longer though, especially with all of the topics it covered. It attempted to cover double standards, in-school sexism, teachers who abuse their position of power over their students to make sexual advances, toxic masculinity, and how society can punish people for speaking out about assault, and some were handled a lot better than others. I also wish that Marin had had more prominent female ...more
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When Marin’s favorite teacher kisses her, she struggles whether to stay quiet or turn him in. Telling her principal doesn’t go as expected, resulting in Marin treated as the perp, and her teacher the victim.

RULES FOR BEING A GIRL is a compulsively readable story that never lets you forget its a Big Issue Book. I adored Marin, smart, strong and with good sense. Though victimized, she was never a victim. She doesn’t want others fighting her battles.

RULES FOR BEING A GIRL is more realistic than mo
Oct 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved so much about this book, I’ve recommended it for teachers to add to their YA library, and I think we need to start a feminist book club at school.
Jan 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing
**Thank you to Harper Collins Canada and HCC Frenzy for giving me an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.**

Reading the synopsis to this book, I knew that this was going to be an important book and one that I wanted to check out. In a time where it still feels like women are having to fight for all of their rights, to fight to be heard, this is a fantastic book for young girls.

Marin has a traumatic and uncomfortable experience with an authority figure, and it changes how s
Samantha (WLABB)
Feb 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: ya, contemporary, 5-stars, arcs
Marin was at the top of her game. In the running for valedictorian? Check. Popular, athletic boyfriend? Check. Co-editor of the school newspaper? Check. A shoe-in for acceptance to her dream school, Brown? Check. Everything seemed to be going according to plan, until her English teacher, Bex, made sexual advances towards her.

As she struggled with confusion and guilt over the situation, Marian also had to deal with blowback from reporting such a beloved teacher. As things began to spiral out, Mar
Sarah  :)
Jan 13, 2020 rated it it was ok
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Jay G
May 27, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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3.5/5 Stars

Marin is working hard during her senior year of high school to get into her dream college. She receives constant support from her English teacher, Mr. Bex. When he takes things a little too far one day, she becomes uncomfortable with his attention. When she reports him, most of her school do
Oct 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: AHHHHHH EVERYONE
Recommended to ally by: Em J.
eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee------I actually read this in one sitting ---han wla iug887&*(&@#^$&*^YUI@HJ#KLB
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So I might've found one of my favorite books of the year in Candace Bushnell and Katie Cotugno's "Rules for Being A Girl." Though I should preface this review by also saying that this read hurt because of how closely I identified with the themes and experiences it presents. It's not a perfectly executed book by any means, and it may take a bit to get into the thick of what this book has to say with some scenes of quirky name dropping brands and pop culture references (Candace Bushnell, I see you ...more
Sarah Perchikoff
Nov 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
Feminism alert!! If you couldn't tell, I love a book with feminism as it's theme especially when it's a YA book. I will forever be amazed at what teenagers know these days when it comes to feminism. I was still covered in internalized misogyny and they are talking about intersectionality and toxic masculinity. I LOVE to see it!

Rules for Being a Girl tells the story that is all too familiar. A teacher is inappropriate with a student and when the student comes forward, she is not believed and then
"There are so many unspoken rules for navigating high school--for navigating life, maybe--that I can't help but try to figure out which one I broke to get myself into this situation. There are so many rules for girls."

This book is definitely not my usual read--however, it was really engaging (read it in two days) and it shows a situation that a lot of young woman experience in their lifetime (no matter if it is from a teacher or another person in power in their life). Therefore, I think it is a
Apr 06, 2020 rated it liked it
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The Premise:
Marin, the protagonist, is your next door cookie-cutter female protagonist of a YA contemporary book set in high school: well-behaved, has good grades, a best friend slash co-worker slash co-editor of the school paper, a nice nuclear family, an athletic boyfriend... You get it.

Then her relatively young, attractive and oh-so-approachable teacher makes a move on her. While this is fairl
Bookphenomena (Micky)
RULES FOR BEING A GIRL is a YA contemporary with themes of feminism woven throughout. It is the kind of book that I recommend reading the synopsis before you launch in because there are triggers and difficulties for some in the context. Even though nothing in this story triggered me, I still found the story direction hugely discomforting, probably because I’m a teacher and this got me so mad at the teacher in this book.

Marin, the protagonist was very likeable to me. She was just a genuine young
Feb 05, 2020 marked it as to-read
Honestly, this sounds a lot like Amelia Westlake Was Never Here, but I'm here for it! ...more
Jul 09, 2020 rated it really liked it
Revolutionary, must read, young adult, coming of age feminist novel.

Quality of writing: 3/5
Pace: 5/5
Plot development: 5/5
Characters: 3/5
Enjoyability: 4/5

Time to complete: around 3 1/2 hours.

Score: 4 Stars out of 5


First person point of view.

The story itself is fast paced, well written, enjoyable and relevant. This book seems more like contemporary, realistic fiction than young adult. It focuses on themes of an feminism, growing up and confronting personal and social problems.

This is the t
There are so many unspoken rules for navigating high school - for navigating life, maybe - that I can't help but try to figure out which one I broke to get myself into this situation.

This book is infuriatingly relevant and important. Girls and women are told to stand up for themselves, but don't make a scene. Be confident but not aggressive.

If a teenage girl told you her male teacher tried to kiss her, how would you react? Would you tell her she misread the situation? That she's overreacting? T
Bonnie G.
A nice YA book with a great message. It felt mostly but not entirely true to the teenage voice. It also felt like a lot of other books and shows already out there. So nothing new or earthshattering but I enjoyed the listen, Julia Whelan was in top form. I am having a back problem and have not been able to hold up a book or Kindle, and this kept me good company while I suffered :).
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