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I'm Fine and Neither Are You

3.82  ·  Rating details ·  8,493 ratings  ·  789 reviews
Honesty is the best policy…except maybe when it comes to marriage in this brilliant, funny novel about the high price of perfection from bestselling author Camille Pagán.

Wife. Mother. Breadwinner. Penelope Ruiz-Kar is doing it all—and barely keeping it together. Meanwhile, her best friend, Jenny Sweet, appears to be sailing through life. As close as the two women are, Jenn
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Published April 1st 2019 by Brilliance Audio
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Jill Taraskiewicz Lyon Realistic fiction. It's not light - the topics covered are a little heavy in my opinion. The cover art is way off, and doesn't set the mood for the…moreRealistic fiction. It's not light - the topics covered are a little heavy in my opinion. The cover art is way off, and doesn't set the mood for the story!(less)
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Larry H
Mar 02, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: kindle-first
"It takes courage to be yourself when everyone expects you to be someone else."

Penelope Ruiz-Kar is the glue holding her family together. She's the breadwinner, working in the development office of a medical school. But much to her chagrin, she's also the disciplinarian of her two children, and often the cook, cleaner, and organizer, despite the fact that her husband Sanjay is a stay-at-home dad while picking up some freelance writing jobs.

All too often she's frustrated with everything and every
2 at best...
I actually just skimmed through to the end of this one. I chose this, my mistake, as my Amazon First Reads for March. I assume I am not the "target" audience, although I'm growing weary of authors writing specifically for a "target" audience. While certainly not every genre is for every person when you start writing specifically for a select group of people something is just "off." Of course that's also just me being cranky, never the less, it still is a sign of a lack of talent. I
Elyse Walters
Audiobook... read by Amy McFadden

I’ve listen to ‘too much’
of this one.
I have the kindle ebook/ sync. The last 30% I switched to the written words. But by that time - I just didn’t care.

Amy’s voice was irritating, and annoying.
This was the first time I’ve ever listen to a book by Camille Pagan and was ‘totally’ turned off by the voice narration.
Each book I’ve read has gradually gone downhill. The book I enjoyed best was “Woman Last Seen in Her Thirties”.

And honestly- I wasn’t crazy about th
Camille Pagan has written the story of every woman who hides their real feelings and puts on a brave front. When asked, "how are you?", many of us always answer, "I'm fine" simply because we don't want others to know of our insecurities and weaknesses. As a woman, we all have our struggles balancing work, kids, relationships and life in general. I'm Fine and Neither Are You really drives home the meaning behind "the grass is always greener on the other side". I love Camille Pagan's writing and t ...more
⭐⭐⭐⭐ / 5

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán is a witty, but moving look at what it's like to be a wife and mother while also holding down a full-time job.

What it's about: Penelope Ruiz-Kar is married with 2 little kids and while she is out working 50+ hours a week and barely holding it together as the main breadwinner, her husband is at home with the kids, 'working on his writing,' and going to practice with his band. Meanwhile, her best friend Jenny Sweet seems like she doesn't have
Mar 09, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A totally realistic and relatable story as women today struggle to reach perfection in their life.

Wife. Mother. Breadwinner. Penelope Ruiz-Kar is doing it all—and barely keeping it together. Meanwhile, her best friend, Jenny Sweet, appears to be sailing through life. As close as the two women are, Jenny’s passionate marriage, pristine house, and ultra-polite child stand in stark contrast to Penelope’s underemployed husband, Sanjay, their unruly brood, and the daily grind she calls a caree
Mar 20, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Penelope is working hard to keep her family together. She's also beyond stressed with her work and home life. When her best friend dies, Penelope realizes other people's lives aren't as perfect as they appear. Penelope and her husband agree to make a list of things they want from the other. Despite the problems and secrets, they work to improve their relationship.

Penelope is faced with some harsh realities when her best friend, who seemed perfect, is gone. Her best friend had a lifestyle blog, a
Apr 21, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
3.25 stars

I’m Fine and Neither Are You is better than 3 stars, but nowhere close to 4 stars. I would say this novel falls into the “domestic angst” genre. Penelope hits a crisis point in her life when her best friend dies, and she realizes that she may not want to stay married to the father of her two young demanding children. Penelope’s feelings are a somewhat typical trope in contemporary domestic fiction. The twist if that she is the breadwinner and her husband is at home. Also Penelope’s hus
Mar 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm Fine and Neither Are You is a witty and honest book about modern marriage and motherhood. It's smart and relevant, and it tackles many important issues that so many women and families can relate to. I loved the writing style and I enjoyed the characters, I could easy see myself in Penelope and relate to her struggles. I laughed and I cried while reading this book. I flew through it in two sittings, and even though it was a breezy read, it was also a thought-provoking story. I'm Fine and Neit ...more
Kate Olson
(free review copy) Oh my goodness. As a 38-year-old married mother of three, I am the sweet spot of the target audience for this book and it more than hit its mark. I inhaled it in less than a day and I will be thinking about it for a very very long time. A story of friendship and marriage and making the most of the wild and messy "normal" lives that we all lead, this book was more effective at making me reevaluate my current life and priorities than any self help book has ever been. If you are ...more
Crystal Marcela
A book about nothing special

This was an overall disappointment. It started interesting enough, but the whole story felt like it was leading somewhere and nothing. When you read what this book is about it doesn't really say. I thought it would be about a murder cover up, an affair, a ghost, what?!

Nothing! It's about nothing. Pen complains the whole time about her husband and when they talk and is agreeing with her she backtrack and "feels" bad. The story makes you think there something with the c
Mar 01, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Just what the doctor ordered...

A suspense/thriller junky, I often find myself feeling a little less than inspired as I read the same tired story lines over and over and over again. Today, I needed a break.

Having read several other Camille Pagán novels in the past couple years, and loving every one, I was so excited to dive into I'm Fine and Neither Are You this morning. Yes, I said this morning. I read the entire book in just a few hours. I couldn't put it down.

If it's action and intense exc
Mar 29, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am SO the target audience for this book, I’m just an average mom and wife trying to keep my family running and stay sane while juggling more balls than I should be, and the main character, Penny is doing exactly the same thing, and she’s struggling in a major way. #relatable So if you’re a middle aged wife/mom grab this one because I have a feeling that you’ll see a piece of yourself in Penny as well. And if you’re not, grab it anyway because it was a great read.

Penny and her husband Sanjay de
I loved this book so much!!
Kate Vocke
Feb 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, netgalley
Being a woman is HARD. There's expectations upon expectations and your spirit can be crushed by the weight of keeping your home together, keeping your significant other happy, keeping your kids alive, keeping a job - the pressure can be paralyzing. But WHILE all those monkeys are jumping on your back, the hardest thing of all, is to pretend like you've got all of your sh*t together. Keep a smile on your face. Keep going.

Penny is desperately trying to keep it all together, and watching her pictur
Apr 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is my first time reading one of Camille Pagán's novels and I was drawn in right away. The first scene involved morning chaos and not having toilet paper in the bathroom, making it instantly relatable. Then there was the scene at the end of Penny's workday that clinched it for me even more. The entire story resonated with me a lot and spoke volumes. I felt an instant kinship with Penny. It makes you think about what goes on behind closed doors in a marriage and home and that what things look ...more
Apr 04, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: meh
I don’t really know what to say about this book. I’m not sure how I feel. Nothing really happens. It’s realistic and has a good message so there’s that. Oh and I absolutely LOVE the title. But overall It sort of felt like I was just listening to a coworker talk about her problems and family life that I don’t particularly care about. Not entertaining but not completely boring. Just. Meh. Life, Plain and simple.

2.5 stars.
Laurie • The Baking Bookworm
This book's clever title drew my attention and but its blurb describing a story about a woman who struggles with secrets, loss and how to get her life back on track is what sold it to me.

The book starts out strong and had me giggling in the first scene. A good sign. The book remains a fairly light read even though it handles some darker issues involving family, life lessons and a few side stories. Unfortunately, these issues are only touched on and readers aren't given enough time to get to kno
Kristi Lamont
Good "mom lit" genre read. Very well-written -- I felt like a friend was talking to me -- about both timely and timeless topics. Timeless: relationships, managing life in all its wonderfulness and ugliness. Timely: opioid addiction, social media and how we curate it to present a very certain image of ourselves to the world (rather than our whole selves), often to the detriment of ourselves and others. Wish I could give it 3.5 stars. Can't quite articulate why not 4; something about how the endin ...more
Dec 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I have no idea how she does it, but Camille Pagan has written another 5 star read! I read this in one sitting because I became so engrossed. Her characters are real and relatable; her stories are ones that reflect many of our own lives, and the emotions she draws forth are ones that we all feel on a daily basis. I see myself in her books and am immensely grateful that there is an author out there telling the very real stories of women trying to make sense of their lives while juggling their fami ...more
Apr 10, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Imagine- you are a busy mom, trying to survive the hamster wheel of life, struggling to keep your head afloat among work and home responsibilities, and merely coexisting with your husband. For most moms, they don’t need to imagine this because it’s their reality (including myself). Which makes I’m Fine and Neither Are You a completely relatable book that will be a breath of fresh air for many women. I’m Fine and Neither Are You is the realistic story of Penelope as she struggles to find balance ...more
Jan 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a wonderful well written novel about best friends and marriage. The characters are so real that they feel like your best friend. We see them as total people - not just their good points but their flaws as wives, mothers and friends as they try hard to have the perfect life with the perfect marriage and children.

Penelope is married to Sanjay and they have two children. What started as a hot love affair has now cooled due to the everyday stresses of marriage and raising kids. She works ful
Mar 26, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arcs
3.5 moving stars for I'm Fine and Neither Are You.

In I'm Fine, everyone is clearly anything but. While the cover may lead you to think otherwise, this novel deals with opioid addiction, loss, marriage struggles, familial relationships and trying to be your best self in the face of all of this. Pagan covers a ton of ground here through Penny - the woman trying just to get by and love and support her family. When Penny loses her best friend suddenly, her whole world is thrown into question and a
Jen Dietrich
Mar 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
4.5 stars
I was lucky enough to receive an arc of this book through Netgalley and the author herself, Camille Pagan, who I have never read even though I have two of her other books on my kindle, in exchange for an honest review.

The covers of her books have always caught my eye with their clean, bright, colorful graphics with a hinting at a heartfelt and whimsical tone that, in this case at least, is consistent with the story telling. This is what I'd call contemporary women's fiction - some heav
Linda Zagon
Feb 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Linda’s Book Obsession Reviews “I’m Fine and Neither Are You” by Camille Pagan, Lake Union Publishing, 2019

Camille Pagan, Author of” I’m Fine and Neither Are You” has written a thought-provoking, intriguing, intense and heart-warming novel. The Genres for this story are Fiction, and Women’s Fiction. The time-line of this story is in the present and goes to the past when it pertains to the characters or events in the story. The author describes her characters as average everyday people who could
Mar 08, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
main character's too whiny. and i know i've been reading too many crime with a twist books because i fully expected the death to have actually been a murder
Sonja Yoerg
Jan 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A tragedy sends a shockwave through Penny Ruis-Kar's life, and what were narrow fissures in her relationships become gaping chasms. Given that her mantra is that everything is unequivocally fine, how will she find a way to make her world whole again?

She decides upon radical honesty as a courageous prescription for an ailing marriage and a fraught worklife. And in telling this story, Camille Pagan's own radical honest is the key to its success. The portrayal of Penny and Sanjay's marriage is as u
When I read in the first pages of a mom/wife stuck on the toilet discovering there is zero toilet paper in the house and one of her young children won't let her use the bathroom alone and in peace, I knew I had to choose this as my Amazon First Reads selection for this month. The messages in this novel were so applicable to so many women and indeed being a woman naturally has sociological adversities that are different than being a man. I am not trying to be misandrist to men, because as a mothe ...more
Kailey C
3.5 stars - review to come.

Thanks to the publisher for sending me this book #partner I heard the author, Camille on Moms don't have time to read books podcast & really loved her interview, so I was looking forward to reading this one. I’ll admit, I don’t think I was the target audience of this novel, but I can appreciate this story and the overall themes. This was a realistic look at what life is life for a working mother of two - at times, it was not all sunshine & rainbows. If you’ve e
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Camille Pagán is the #1 Amazon Kindle bestselling author of five novels, including Life and Other Near-Death Experiences, which has been optioned for film, and Woman Last Seen In Her Thirties. Visit her online at
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I’m the author of Woman Last Seen in Her Thirties (out 2/27/18), Forever is the Worst Long Time, The Art of Forgetting, and the #1 Kindle bestseller Life and Other Near-Death Experiences, which was recently optioned for film. My novels have been translated into twelve languages.

In another life, I was a health editor at Real Simple and Fitness magazines; these days, I write for publications like F
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