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Pigen de sendte tilbage

4.08  ·  Rating details ·  3,793 ratings  ·  507 reviews
”Jeg var tretten, og jeg kendte ikke længere min anden mor.”
Sådan begynder fortællingen om en ung pige, der bliver afleveret med en kuffert og en pose fuld af sko hos en familie, hun slet ikke kender. Den eneste forklaring, hun får af de to, hun hidtil har kaldt far og mor, er, at hendes rigtige forældre gerne vil have hende tilbage. Men ingen synes at vente hende i den fr
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Hardcover, 1. udgave, 224 pages
Published 2019 by C&K Forlag / Politikens Forlag (first published February 14th 2017)
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Angela M
Jun 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
4.5 stars rounding up
The girl is sent from a comfortable life with parents who weren’t really hers and returned to the family that was hers by blood, to a home very different from the one in which she was raised, a home of dysfunction and discomfort, where slaps were plentiful but not food. She is sent back without knowing why and the truth is not known to her until close to the end. It’s not difficult to feel her heartbreak and confusion, sense of loss and identity. The unnamed narrator was 13
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Elyse Walters
Jun 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Update....THE REVIEW...... ( Sunday morning - Sunshine in Northern California)

The year was 1975. A small town in Italy.
Yet.....this story is being told 20 years later....looking back on a childhood. It’s a thin quiet introspective novel. Very heartfelt story.

She was thirteen. We never learn her name.
She didn’t know her other mother, the mother who conceived her.
A distant uncle dropped the girl off with her biological mother and their family. The uncle explained that they - he and his wife, Ad
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Ines
Jul 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
“I was the Arminuta, the girl returned. I spoke another language, I no longer knew who I belonged to. The word ‘mama’ stuck in my throat like a toad. And, nowadays, I really have no idea what kind of place mother is. It is not mine in the way one might have good health, a safe place, certainty.”

I finished a few hours ago to read this book, read it exactly in a day, and it is there nailed in my mind...... I remember very well when it came out in Italy and the many heated discussions that followed
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Fran
May 08, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
In 1975, "I was the Arminuta, the girl returned." A thirteen year old girl once lived near the sea in Southern Italy. "From my house near the beach, you could hear the sound of the waves." Fish dinners eaten in the garden and walks to the ice cream shop were commonplace. She attended swimming lessons and dancing school. Her best friend was Patrizia. One day without warning, her parents said, "I'm sorry, but we can't keep you anymore..." She was whisked away to the country, to the chaotic home of ...more
Roman Clodia
Apr 18, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was an orphan with two living mothers. One had given me up with her milk still on my tongue, the other had given me back at the age of thirteen. I was a child of separations, false or unspoken kinships, distances.

Remember that section in Austen's 'Mansfield Park' where Fanny Price returns to her ramshackle family in Portsmouth who gave her away? This book takes that premise (slightly more complicated here) and explores the tensions via the unnamed narrator caught between the poverty-stricken
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Anna Luce
★★★★✰ 4.5 stars (rounded up because the audiobook edition is fantastic)

In spite of its short length Arminuta packs a real punch. I was almost hypnotised by the narrative. Although Di Pietrantonio uses a seemingly direct and unadorned languageshe is able to brilliantly evoke the narrator's world. However stark and unpleasant, everything was depicted in such a sharp and vivid way that I was entranced even by those scenes which held no beauty (view spoiler)
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Biljana
Jul 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019, netgalley
This was a slim novel that felt like it was greater than the sum of its parts. I think that those who have read and loved the Neopolitan series by Elena Ferrante are likely to enjoy this one, as well.

The narrator of the story is looking back at her childhood when she was the arminuta or "a girl returned." At 13, the arminuta learns that she was being raised by distant relatives and that she must go back to live with her biological family. She moves from a wealthy life to a life of poverty cramm
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Sam
Jul 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What a wonderfully economical novel by an author who knows the difference between show and tell and a a translator, Ann Goldstein, who gives it such clear English expression. A teenage girl, having been raised by a relative since infancy, is being unwillingly returned to her original birth mother without explanation. The potential ramifications of this plot device would be enough to encourage one to read it but the author is very clever with the book, emphasizing the poignancy, developing the my ...more
SueLucie
May 01, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
A slim volume packed with emotion. A wealthy, urban, childless couple make an arrangement with a relative in the country, poor and with an overabundance of children, to raise one of their daughters as their own. For 13 years she has a life filled with love, her parents’ undivided attention, a best friend at school, dancing classes, beautiful things, until the day she finds herself unceremoniously dumped back with her birth parents and five siblings, none of whom she knew existed. Shock enough, b ...more
Francesca Marciano
Pretty amazing story, and what a great voice. Sadly, only in italian, so far.
Lolly K Dandeneau
May 13, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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'I had nothing else, in that darkness inhabited by breath.'

After thirteen years, a young girl who has lived with the love and privileges of an adored single child learns that she is being returned to another mother. No more will she live by the ocean, with beautiful clothes and clean bedding, now her sleep will be warmed by the body of a sister and bed-wetting. Her life is like a dark fairy-tale, a princess forced to live in poverty, as if punis
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Stuart
A young Italian teen of privilege gets sent to her birth mother, who lives in squalor and poverty with an awful husband and too many children. This is a small, simple premise novel that resonates. I shouldn’t be lazy and I should struggle to read it in the original Italian. It reads like the sparse, anxiety-filled novels that came out in Europe and America shortly after WWII; like those novels it works well as both a metaphor and a realistic, emotion-filled story. While a knowledge of Italian cu ...more
Mary
Jul 28, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Yet another book touted for Ferrante fans, and I think the comparisons has some merit.
Jessica
3,5 stars
Hannah
Set in the author’s native Abruzzo, Italy, a thirteen year old girl is suddenly given up by her adoptive mother to her birth family that she has never met. As she is removed from her comfortable life by the seaside and thrust into a world of poverty, she struggles to make sense of what has happened to her and who she really is. As she grieves her former life, she becomes close to her feisty younger sister, Adriana, who helps her navigate her new life. It’s a moving story about motherhood and sis ...more
Jodi
May 24, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The premise is intriguing: a 13-year-old girl in late 1970s Italy is told that the people who she thought were her parents were not, and that she is to be returned to her real family. The unnamed narrator is heartbroken at the loss of the people and town she loved. Worse yet, the new family is large and extremely poor. Her life of dance lessons, swimming, decent clothing, and weekends by the sea with friends is over. The devastated narrator is not exactly sure about why she is being forced to li ...more
Anjana
Jul 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is not a book for the faint of heart or people on the lookout for something breezy to read. It is a very short book but packs so much emotion into the pages that it is hard to look away.

We meet the girl who was 'returned' in the very beginning, she is conflicted about her new surroundings and life. She does not understand the reason for any of the current circumstances. Despite all her best efforts, she finds herself fighting nightmares and all other levels of questions. It is a matter of s
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Brita
I'm tempted to guess that A Girl Returned reminded me of Elena Ferrante's books because they share a translator. It's true that it shares, especially early on, the spare language and gritty realness of the Neapolitan novels. But I suspect that any other perceived similarity can be chalked up to my American ignorance of Italian (and, indeed, world) literature, though I wouldn't fault the publisher for riding on the Ferrante wave in selling this book.

I'm not as ignorant where translation is concer
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freckledbibliophile

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A Girl Returned by Donatella Di Pietrantonio may have just become my number one read so far. I laughed, ugly cried, meditated on my own life and laughed and ugly cried anew. The story instantly seized me.
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The central protagonist; a girl returned narrated the novel. This young girl subjectively taught me the essence of vitality, forgiveness, and perseverance. Most importantly, she showed that love is action, not an emotion.
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The story too dealt with the dysfunctionalities of families. Neverth
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freckledbibliophile
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A Girl Returned by Donatella Di Pietrantonio may have just become my number one read so far. I laughed, ugly cried, meditated on my own life and laughed and ugly cried anew. The story instantly seized me.
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The central protagonist; a girl returned narrated the novel. This young girl subjectively taught me the essence of vitality, forgiveness, and perseverance. Most importantly, she showed that love is action, not an emotion.
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The story too dealt with the dysfunctionalities of families. Neverth
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Trish
Jan 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Brilliant book. Deserves to be translated so it can have wider appreciation.
I was hooked from the start - what’s going on here, an adolescent dumped with few belongings and no explanation, from the only life she remembers- comfortable, middle-class - on the family she is now told is her own, living in squalor close to starvation, overcrowded and sharing a bed with a sister (top to toe - as I sometimes had to on family holidays in the ‘50s - not fun, I can tell you, and my sister was not a bed w
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Amy
A Girl Returned is a short, strong, brilliant novel. In 1975, a 13-year-old girl is returned to her birth family, a family she doesn’t know at all. She’d been living in the city with the only mother she’d known. It’s unclear why her adoptive mother sent her back. We know early on that the wealthy mother wanted a child and the other mother could hardly afford to have another child and it was best all-around if this girl went off to live on the shore. The narrator is looking back on her life twent ...more
Pedro Stadtler
Apr 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of the most beautiful books I have ever read.

I don’t think I have a lot to say about it, because I’m still trying to understand what it meant to me. First off, although it’s a short book, it is a truly remarkable one with a story that I probably won’t forget.

The unnamed protagonist is unnamed due to her own internal conflict: she’s lost her own identity. Who we are sometimes rely too much on our family and, by the end of the book, we realise she has yet to figure out who is part of her tru
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Miriam Downey
Read my full review here: https://mimi-cyberlibrarian.blogspot....

A Girl Returned is the totally spellbinding coming-of-age story of a 13-year-old, unnamed Italian girl, who is forced to leave the home in which she was raised and return to her birth family—a family that she has never met. She is left totally in the dark as to why this is happening; she believes that the woman who raised her is dying and that is why she has to leave.

The couple who have raised her have considerable money; the fami
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Esther
Nov 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: italian
Very strong text about a girl who loses the family that she believed to be her parents, and who gains a family who are in fact her biological parents and siblings.
From a comfortable life at the seaside as a single and sheltered child in a well-off family, the first person narrator is “sent back” to a life in poverty on the countryside among a multitude of siblings, where her own person and her ambitions and problems seem to count very little, where she finds a daily struggle for food and financ
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Rosalyn Stewart
Jul 15, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A Girl Returned by Donatella Di Piertrantonio

The unnamed narrator of this novel is 13 years old when she is taken by the man she thought was her father to live with her birth family. The story follows her through confusion and feelings of abandonment as she struggles to understand why she is no longer wanted by the people she knew as her parents. Her birth mother is cold towards her and she must adjust from being an only child to being one of many siblings and from a comfortable life to poverty.
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Emi Bevacqua
I read the English version for Kindle, entitled A Girl Returned and translated from the Italian by Ann Goldstein. The main character suddenly finds out her parents aren’t actually her parents, when she is removed from from her normal, upper middle-class life of beach house vacations and Barbie dolls, to a chaotic squalid house filled with dirty kids and parents she used to consider an aunt and uncle. She goes from referring to “the woman who conceived me” as “the mother” until a jarring switch a ...more
Jennie Dorny
I read this book in French (La Revenue).

The narrator is a 13 year old teenager who learns that she is not her parents' biological daughter when they send her back to her "real" family. She moves from a city to a remote village, from a wealthy family to a poor one, from being a single child to being one among five siblings.

She defines herself as the "orphan of two mothers" and throughout the novel tries to come to terms with what this entails. She questions herself, and questions her biological
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Maria
May 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here.
Judy
Aug 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not a mystery but a sort of mystery runs through it. I like the following comment by someone else on this unusual book translated from the Italian:

"Di Pietrantonio's feverish, powerful writing finds its perfect subject in a main character who refuses to resign herself to her destiny, who will not, by any means, stay in a place chosen for her by others."--Corriere della Sera

A young girl is suddenly sent by her adoptive parents, people of means, to live with her birth mother, in a poor family, not
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Donatella was born and grew up in Arsita, a small village in the province of Teramo, and now lives in Penne where she practises as a paediatric dentist. From the age of nice she has been writing stories, fables, poems, and now novels. My Mother Is a River is her first novel. It was first published in Italy in 2011, where it won the Tropea and the John Fante literary prizes , and was translated int ...more
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