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Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (And More Life to Live)

3.65  ·  Rating details ·  319 ratings  ·  80 reviews

"A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with."--Reese Witherspoon

A revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long.

It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" p
Kindle Edition, 352 pages
Published October 1st 2019 by G.P. Putnam's Sons
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    Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was ok
    An interesting book, and somewhat comforting to read. As a DINK I don't have a lot of these issues talked about in the book, but it has struck me that even though I have a full time job, with a half hour commute on either end, I end up doing all the housework, grocery shopping, meal execution, household repairs, budgeting, etc. while my husband uses his spare time to volunteer, attend political forums, have coffee "meetings" with every mover and shaker in the city, and play on his Ipad. And get ...more
    Alexis Jemal
    Aug 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    Before reading Fair Play, I wondered what would happen to my children if I died. Would they grow up in squalor, never having their hair combed and teeth brushed, or clean clothes to wear? Would they never see the doctor or dentist again for their regular check-ups? After reading Fair Play, I realized that of course not…my kids would be absolutely fine, because my husband is a reasonable and smart man, and thus, he would simply remarry.

    Simply stated, Fair Play is about equitably restructuring th
    Genevieve Trono
    Sep 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    If you follow me on social media, you know I have been going on and on about Fair Play but I am just so excited about it. I love parenting books, I love self-help and relationship books and as soon as I saw the premise of this I knew I needed to read it ASAP!

    The adjustment to parenthood did not happen super easily for us both personally and in our relationship together. It was a huge transition and we struggled in many ways as we navigated our new roles and expectations of one anothe
    Oct 10, 2019 rated it did not like it
    I’m hesitant to say too much about this or rate it because I’m not the intended audience. As such I’m surprised Reese Witherspoon would select a book that alienates a large percentage of her book club readers. This book did make me appreciate all that parents, in particular moms, do. If I didn’t want kids or marriage before I certainly don’t want it now. This sealed the deal.

    This is hetero-normative and gendered to the hilt and that’s a real missed opportunity. While same sex couples
    Jennifer Berry
    Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    This book is a marvel! It reads like a gripping novel while packed with historical references, funny antidotes, and most importantly a practical game plan for change! Ms. Rodsky taps into the place where even the most liberated of women find it hard to fight: their own homes. This book will transform our current culture’s hold on female resource and give women and men back our most valuable comity: TIME. For anyone thinking about making a relationship with a true equality, this book is for you. ...more
    Aug 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
    Anyone who has been in a relationship where they are sharing their lives under one roof will find something of interest in Fair Play. I can't speak for everyone, but for most of my friends and my relationship, the scale never seems balanced when it comes to taking care of the place called home(and the children or fur babies). Fair Play presents a plan for a more even distribution of the myriad of tasks that have to be dealt with on an ongoing basis. It is written in a thought-provoking and engag ...more
    Isley Forrester
    Sep 05, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
    I enjoyed! Hubs needs to read it!!
    Monica Leed
    Jun 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    My friend Julie, a mom and business owner said recently, "If I lean in any more, I will fall over." It stuck right to the heart of what so many women I know are dealing with as they strive for balance in career and family, always on the brink of falling off the edge. What if we had the opportunity to balance the scales at home? What if my husband and I decided to plan out the division of labor at home before we had kids? What if I could actually quantify my domestic workload and give my husband ...more
    Jillian Doherty
    Jun 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    Seriously - whether you're married or cohabitating, child-free, gay or straight - there is something in this book for every relationship - give it a try to see why it's going to be a total game changer!

    Eve Rodsky created the Fair Play system in response to her own struggle to balance work and family life with her two children. Rodsky has worked with 500+ couples from all walks of life to develop its core principles - bringing a wealth of perspectives and accessibility.

    I l
    Michal Cohen-Rodsky
    Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    After having kids, I found myself being swallowed up in this new life. I felt miserable, lonely, frustrated but eager to achieve balance at home and in my personal life. Eve’s game changing plan is simple and straightforward and can work for any couple open to change. Why not take the framework of running a company and apply it to life at home. Everyone has a role and together we work as a team to carry the load. Thank you Eve!!
    Sarah Cooper
    Made some good points but mostly made me depressed about the never-ending-ness of all of this.
    Sep 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    This is a revolutionary book that not only puts into perspective the amount of hidden work that typically one partner is by default assigned (usually the female) but also provides you with an insanely detailed solution to help even out the responsibility meter. I won this book as a part of Goodreads Giveaway and will be recommending this read to everyone in a partnership so they too can maybe benefit from the painstaking research that author Eve did and then honed into a 'game' of sorts. This ga ...more
    Courtney Kaull
    Sep 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    I thoroughly enjoyed reading Fair Play! Eve Rodsky delivers a helpful, easy to understand routine for making daily tasks more balanced between spouses. I found myself laughing out loud as she offered all too familiar anecdotes and exemplars to roll out her clever, well researched plan for helping couples avoid resentment and focus on what’s important. She brings together her insight from her law and business background as well as her experience as a mother to lay out tips that speak to the busin ...more
    Kathleen Bianchi
    I won this book in a Goodreads contest. It is an absolutely great way for most women to do a fair share of the care of a household/childcare. Of course, you have to have a man that isn't stuck in the 1950s. Like my husband was in the 1970s, lol. I thought of my daughter the entire time I was reading this book She has an incredibly demanding job and then comes home and does most of the household stuff. The author explains that it isn't how much money your time is worth but that time is equal to t ...more
    I won this book in a GoodReads giveaway and wasn't sure what to expect from it. I was happy to find that it offers a real, doable solution to making life more manageable. I was also pleasantly surprised that she acknowledged the fact that even couples without children may need help in dividing up the tasks, as many authors only target parents with their books. I also like that she encourages couples to find time to do what interests them as well as maintaining friendships. While I don't currentl ...more
    Ian Nel
    Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    Fair Play is not just a book; it is a revolutionary How to guide for parents, couples, and literally anyone who has cohabitated with another person. A lot of scholarly and literary work has already discussed the gendered division of domestic labor, but Eve Rodsky goes beyond identifying the obvious inequities and delineates an ingenious system (Fair Play) where everybody truly wins.

    Fair Play's massive bibliography is also a testament to how well researched the book is and demonstrates how much
    Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework - a major source of conflict within many marriages - with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace. She has done the research, interviewing hundreds of couples and diving into the academic literature to validate her approach. Her book adopts principles from business management and psychology to settle the perennial question, "Who's doing the dishes tonight?" Not only does she explain how couples can achieve a bett ...more
    Oct 16, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
    This book reminded me of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman in how accurately it reflected my frustrations with being the default parent who has to handle everything. Some parts of the book were like they were taken directly from my own thoughts, including why it’s so maddening when husbands tell us we just need to “remind” them all the time, and how spouses respond poorly to unfulfilled dreams. Rodsky’s breakdown of tasks into Conception, Planning ...more
    Dan Gibson
    Oct 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
    Bought this on a bit of a lark, since we’re in the midst of some reorganization at our house to try to free up more time to enjoy life. Time will tell - obviously the value of this book is in whether Rodsky’s strategy works - but it’s an entertaining read and it, at least, seems like it could be promising. She’s clearly writing for women, but it was helpful to have the opportunity to be “seen” by her stories, even if I wasn’t the intended audience. Well-researched, smartly written and hopefully ...more
    Oct 02, 2019 rated it it was ok
    This is the October @reesesbookclub selection. As a single woman who lives alone, I did not relate to this book. I find this to be such a miss for RBC as it really alienated me. This was clearly a vanity project for the author and I disliked the tone of several of her statements. I found the game to be confusing, and so much of it is based on your perceived opinions of your partner that I can’t imagine this would actually go over well. Maybe if I was at a different point in life this book would ...more
    Emily at Reaching While Rooted
    So this book just didn’t apply to my experiences. Most of the premises were things I find my husband and I naturally do in an effort to split labor, so I guess that makes me a lucky girl? I enjoyed the premise of the book, and that BOTH people need a unicorn space to be fulfilled, and in our early years of marriage it would have given me the words and approaches to split the work/ask for help without all the fights and tears that accompanied it. I especially liked the concept that all 👏 time 👏 i ...more
    Marie Comeau
    Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
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    Picked up this book because of Reese’s bookclub. Although there was obviously a lot of research done and she does point out some good points. It sounds like she wants to impose this “game” to their marriage, delegate while still supervising tasks instead of making the relationship a true partnership.

    What gave this book only two stars was the tone.
    Men are trash, woman are superior. Husband, if you don’t play this game, our whole marriage is at risks. She also make you put labels
    Sep 28, 2019 rated it liked it
    Goodreads Giveaway winner review:

    I was beyond excited to read this book as I feel that the True contribution of a woman in society, especially a working woman, gets undervalued.
    We multitask and hire out help, but our work never seems to end.
    Enter Eve Rodsky and her book, "Fair Play".

    In it are "cards" that both members of the relationship, typically wife and husband can handle. While women naturally handle a lot of these cards with ease, it helps to know and play on
    Oct 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    What a surprise! I assumed this book would just be propaganda pushing the idea that men are selfish jerks who don’t do their fair share of housework and don’t care that women do everything.

    It’s an innovative system of laying out all aspects of domestic responsibilities and clearly defining and assigning responsibilities. She really enforces the idea that it’s a win win for everyone, and I really think men and women will be so much happier when using this system.

    I love how she explains the nece
    Jackie Bergeron
    Awesome read about how to make “home life” fair. Lots of books, articles, online components and other things referenced. While I’m not truly at the right stage to apply Fair Play to my life, I think it taught me a lot for when I am at that stage. Definitely going to start handing out as a bridal shower/engagement gift!
    Laura Andrews
    Oct 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    I’m going to review this book twice. The first time now, having just finished it, for ‘content’. Five stars. The author has so accurately described the ‘domestic struggle’ and as default taker-on of all home-related responsibilities (despite full time job), I couldn’t help but cringe, realizing how many times I send myself ‘toxic time messages’ - that my time is worth less than my husband’s time. I will return in a month or so for review number two: ‘impact’. Once I attempt to execute I’ll repor ...more
    Oct 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
    I was so excited to read this book, and it turned out be much more than I expected. Eve Rodsky has created a well researched and ingenious, yet practical system to help resolve resentment and frustration in the household. But what really elevated this book for me was Eve’s personal stories that add humor and heart to this book. As a stay at home mom, I especially appreciated her thoughts on creating what she terms “Unicorn Space.” While reading this book, I kept thinking, “Eve Rodsky definitely ...more
    Elizabeth Duggan
    Oct 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    From the moment I opened Eve's book it has been so insightful! Eve's thoughts are so relatable, specifically, those highlighting the division of labor in the household and workplace - it's truly a breath of fresh air. If each person reading this book took her ideas and concepts to heart and put them into true practice we'd begin to see a change in the way responsibilities are handled and distributed. If you're looking for a great read and true insight this is a winner for you!
    Oct 05, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
    Even though I’m not currently in a relationship and I don’t have children I actually took a lot away from this book that I can incorporate into my own life. I will definitely be recommending this to all my couple friends!
    Jeff Rubenstein
    Oct 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
    My wife and I each read this book recently, and we found the simple, solution oriented plan of dividing our family’s “invisible work” to be very healing for our relationship. In truth, as the man of the house, I took for granted so much of the daily contribution my wife was making. Reading Fair Play was eye opening, and I’m a better husband and more engaged father because of this book. Great read!

    -Jeff R
    Palos Verdes, CA
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    Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.

    In her forthcoming book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), she uses her Harvard La