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The Ungrateful Refugee

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A Finalist for the 2019 Kirkus Prize in Nonfiction

"Nayeri combines her own experience with those of refugees she meets as an adult, telling their stories with tenderness and reverence.” ―The New York Times Book Review

"Nayeri weaves her empowering personal story with those of the ‘feared swarms’ . . . Her family’s escape from Isfahan to Oklahoma, which involved waiting in D
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Hardcover, 368 pages
Published September 3rd 2019 by Catapult
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Elyse  Walters
Sep 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Holy moly...
wow wow wow!!!!
WORTH READING...
WORTH DISCUSSIONS ...
but I’m not exactly on the same page with Dina on everything.

I listened to this book from the wonders of Hoopla...
...reminded by just how far technology has come... in supporting instant availability in reading a book ( or listening in this case)...
The author’s ‘voice’ - her intensity of emotions -
was the very first thing I noticed.
Her RAGE was what I noticed.
There was an urgency in her voice that propelled me to keep listening t
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Diane S ☔
Sep 25, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 5000-2019, lor-2019
Dina was right years old when she, her brother and mother fled Iran. As a Christian convert, her mother was spreading pamphlets around the country, an act that brought death threats from the morality authorities. They became refugees.

Told in alternating chapters, Dina chronicles her family's struggles as refugees, with interviews taken later at a camp in Greece. She writes honestly, and with unflinching candor. Highlighting government bureaucracies, stories refugees must tell to be granted asylu
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Jenna
Jun 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
"You never forget the moment you were part of a shivering horde, when another human threw you your food, when you slept in mud alongside your confused children, when you shoved and grunted beside other faceless people, some of them former architects, doctors, teachers. It can break your spirit as fast as hunger."

I simply cannot imagine what it is like to be forced to leave your country, the only home you've ever known, the place you grew up and that nourished your soul. To leave behind all t
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Barbara
I'm very torn on what rating to give this book. On the one hand, some parts of it are so beautifully written that it should be praised to the rooftops. On the other, it rambles about and loses its sense of direction far more often than I liked.

I found the concept of the 'ungrateful' refugee very compelling. Why should the West treat immigrants as if they somehow hit the jackpot when they arrive in a nice 'safe-ish' democracy and we lock them up in detainment camps and assume everything they tel
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Paltia
Oct 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
An electrifying essential read. Nayeri describes the West as “as a mother who once adopted us, the exiles and outcasts, and now needs us to intervene as calluses harden fast around her heart.” This is her story as well as the story of the many. She sets out to volunteer on Lesbos and finds the stories of the people there bring her past tumbling back. While working in a “store” handing out donations she encounters the rotten attitude of those who will only give to the worthy poor. Those that dese ...more
Ellie
Jan 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book blew me away. Nayeri combines her personal experience and the larger political situation and experiences of refugees in the world at present. She visits detention camps, talks with people trying to find asylum (fleeing from unbearable situations that people from other cultures cannot--and often do not try to--understand.

Although I thought I had some knowledge of this current crisis, Nayeri's book made me aware of just how superficial that knowledge is. She also made me examine my own a
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Ayala Levinger
Feb 10, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
another MUST READ book about European immigration policies, refugees camps and about how dutch immigration treat refugees and asylum applicants😩
It is a MUST READ for everyone living in a western country, who hear politicians dehumanizing people who happened to become refugees, who give teddy bears for refugees in Greece. The story of Kambiz Roustayi is heartbreaking in its ununiqueness💔
Mehrsa
Oct 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
I LOVED Dina Nayeri's novel, Refugee, and I bought a copy for everyone I know. It was just so beautiful. This is sort of a memoir, but it's really not. If it had been a polemic, a memoir, or an analysis of the refugee experience, I think it would have been a clearer a story. The book is a series of interviews with refugees and then bits of memoir and then her observations on refugee life. I couldn't figure out who the audience was. I loved the memoir portions because I relate to them completely, ...more
Jaclyn (sixminutesforme)
Aug 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was a book that really grappled with the refugee and asylum seeker experience, from someone who has lived this experience first hand and has worked with those in the process. There is lots to unpack in what this book covers, and I think for that reason this would be a wonderful choice for a book club read. For me, one thing that particularly stood out was the discussion about language in both the way people are described, and the way in which people need to wield it to navigate the process. ...more
Bookworm
Sep 04, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The title got my interest especially as I know a little bit of the author's backstory and had read other works by her. I was intrigued to read what she had to say, especially in light of the ongoing conversation of refugees seeking a better life, safety and hope for the future.

The author lays out her own journey from being a refugee to living in a new life in an unfamiliar and strange land that is not at all like what the media might have portrayed it as. Interwoven are also the stories of other
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Robert Sheard
Jan 31, 2020 rated it liked it
I had a mixed experience with this. The journalistic parts about others' refugee stories were powerful and engaging. The sections on her own refugee experience and her feelings about that experience today were a little less engaging for me. Her reactions to her grandmother's experience, and then to her mother's attitude, and then in the very end, her half-sister's wishes, seem very much reminiscent of the views she condemns throughout the book in others. I think this might have worked well as tw ...more
Hannah
Jul 22, 2019 added it
Shelves: adult, 2019
"you have to understand, / no one puts their children in a boat / unless the water is safer than the land." -Warsan Shire, "Home"

THE UNGRATEFUL REFUGEE is a clarion call for human dignity, especially for those who have been forced from their home countries. Nayeri details her experience fleeing Iran as a child and ties it to several other refugees' stories--people who fled persecution and certain death to give themselves and their families a better life. She tears the flimsy distinction between
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Catapult
Feb 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019, fall-2019
In her first work of nonfiction, winner of the 2018 UNESCO City of Literature Paul Engle Prize Dina Nayeri—an author whose “exploration of the exile’s predicament is tender and urgent” (The New Yorker)—examines what it means to be a refugee through her own story of childhood escape from Iran, and through the stories of other refugees and asylum seekers.

Jodi
Oct 05, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019-read
Parts of this were really great, and some the refugee stories were amazing, but overall it's really scattered and hard to follow.
Kinga
Mar 17, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: pub-2019
In turns fascinating and self-indulgent. Part reportage, part memoir which very occasionally becomes too neurotic for my sensibilities.

Nonetheless, a very solid piece of work that focuses on the questions of gratitude that the refugees are asked to perform in front of the native inhabitants of the country, usually those who had nothing to do with their rescue and the only thing they have over the refugees is the accident of birth.

The other leitmotif of this book is the subject of storytelling
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Inna
Jun 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This is a truly amazing book about the experience and the feeling of being a refugee. Nayeri is incredibly honest and direct. She is also unrelenting in demanding people in the West to recognize their routine dehumanization of the refugees.
Judyw
Oct 05, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: dina-nayeri
I was torn on what rating to give to this story.
I will share a few things that made me give it three stars instead of four.

Listening to the audio-book narrated by the author is always a great way to get the proper emotion from a book. I felt Dina Nayeri's passion and concern as she tells her story. Dina seemed to initially be comfortable with who she was, until other kids (who can be really mean) gave her reason to question herself. Dina left Iran with her mother for a better life. She recalls
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Annie
Aug 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
When she was eight years old, Dina Nayeri’s mother began to be harassed by members of Iran’s Revolutionary Guard and morality police. It wasn’t long before thing got so bad that she packed up her two children and fled Isfahan. The Ungrateful Refugee is a blend of memoir and nonfiction that recounts Nayeri’s experiences as a young refugee, with additional narratives from other refugees from Iran who looked to Europe and the United States as safe havens only to go through years of brutal hardship ...more
Toffee Mama
Nov 25, 2019 rated it it was ok
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Nev
Aug 12, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, 2020
This is a really enlightening book about the traumatic experiences that refugees face when trying to escape their home countries and seek asylum. Dina Nayeri shares her own experience fleeing Iran with her brother and mother, the various countries and refugee camps where they stayed on their journey, and then eventually being granted asylum in the US.

A couple of years ago I read Nayeri’s novel Refuge and I absolutely loved it. So it was really interesting to read this non-fiction account of her
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cloudear
May 18, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
SO PERFECT. Literally learnt more than in my MA in Advanced Migration Studies. Never have I ever highlighted so much in a book I read for pleasure. Thank you - a truly eye-opening and thought-provoking read.
Hong
Sep 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I don’t usually write reviews but this phenomenally defiant book is just a thing of beauty. A must-read, regardless of who you are or what you care about.
Senshin
Sep 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I wish that everyone, but especially everyone from my home country and any other northern European countries, would read this book. It opens your eyes and your heart, makes you rethink what you think you know about refugees, and it is beautifully written!
Dina
Mar 02, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Thanks to Edelweiss for the review copy. I know it took me a while to finish it but the subject matter could be hard to read at times. I love Nayeri’s style of writing. I enjoyed learning more about this author. I learned a lot about what all refugees go through.
Susie Finkbeiner
There’s so much that I do not know about the experiences of those seeking refuge in different countries. But I want to learn. I’m glad that I found this book. Beautifully written, starkly realistic, and immensely vulnerable, this work is well worth the read.
Emily Elliott
Sep 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Wow. I encourage as many people as possible to read this book, which encompasses not only the plight and battle of our sisters and brothers who are forced to seek refuge in a country that is not ‘home’, but also sheds light on the superficial dominance of Western culture, as well as raises discussion about what it really means to embrace diversity and culture.

One of those rare books that shapes and changes your worldview; I’ll continue to come back to the ideas weaved throughout the poignant na
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Tracey
Sep 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
The author, a refugee herself when she was a child, tells about her experiences and those of other refugees she met as an adult. The most interesting part of the book was her explanations of the difficulty refugees have in describing their situations because of the differences in cultures between themselves and those deciding who gets to stay in the countries they have escaped to.
Gerry
Oct 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Dina Nayeri left Iran as an eight-year-old child, fleeing with her mother and younger brother from an oppressive regime and her mother's oppressive marriage. Her mother's conversion from Islam to Christianity had brought her to the attention of authorities and endangered her life. Moving from place to place, never settled, never sure of their status, the little family eventually found refuge in Oklahoma, and Dina was able to complete her education and gain admittance to Princeton University. In ...more
Ann D’Aleandro
Jun 09, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nayeri’s candid work about her own and other refugees’ experiences is eye opening and inspiring as she gives voice to those who have none. She describes her family’s journey from Iran, to Europe and to the US as well as the deeply psychic journey for those seeking refuge or asylum.

Clearly, much needs to be changed in this process by world governments. Our expectations of what it means for people to assimilate and what that looks like to the native born, also needs a reality check.

Dina is a passi
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Marissa Michael
Jul 16, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm deeply inspired by this book and it has been such an eye opening to me: to make something happen while in waiting period. Being a refugee means leaving behind the old life and embarking to an unknown path to the future filled with uncertainties and waiting period.

If you are curious about the struggles of the refugee in general, then this book is for you. The story of this author and Kaweh will be forever the motivational ones for me in striving the best for future and to make the full use o
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Dina Nayeri is a graduate of Princeton, Harvard Business School, and the Iowa Writers Workshop. She spends her time in New York and Iowa City.

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