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Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive

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The mental well-being of children and adults is shockingly poor. Marc Brackett, author of Permission to Feel, knows why. And he knows what we can do.
"We have a crisis on our hands, and its victims are our children."

Marc Brackett is a professor in Yale University’s Child Study Center and founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In his 25 years as an
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published September 3rd 2019 by Celadon Books
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Jennifer ~ TarHeelReader
Aug 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Permission to Feel is a thoughtful, well-searched book about emotional intelligence and how it helps adults and children alike.

I wish Dr. Brackett’s program was available locally so I could see it in action because I have loved what I read about so far. He has designed a program called RULER, which is a prescription for healthy children, and includes healthier parents, teachers, and children. The focus is emotional health, and I love that.

I’m so grateful I read this, and I hope parents and teac
Heidi The Reader
"And when we can't recognize, understand, or put into words what we feel, it's impossible for us to do anything about it: to master our feelings — not to deny them but to accept them all, even embrace them — and learn to make our emotions work for us, not against us." pg 2

Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In this book, Permission to Feel, he has given the world a new set of tools to learn more about ourselves through our emotions, to facilitate
Jon(athan) Nakapalau
One of the best books on emotional balance I have read in quite some time. Mark Brackett does a fantastic job of 'mapping' all the problem territories one encounters when emotional boundaries are explored. The advice that Mark gives is based on his extensive experience (25 years as an emotion scientist) but is centered on a specific steps that can be taken and applied. Many of the issues facing our children today are covered with a rare applicability that translates smoothly into specific situat ...more
Jenny (Reading Envy)
Earlier this year, I read Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and took the accompanying test, testing lower than I would have liked to. Reading Permission to Feel helped me understand that emotional intelligence is something that must be modeled and taught intentionally (so that explains a lot.)

I appreciate this book because it can be read from a lot of perspectives - for personal growth, as a parent, an educator, or just a human in the world. Brackett unpacks emotional intelligence in the first part of
Amber Lea
Aug 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
I received an ARC (advanced reader copy) of this book which I was pretty excited about because everyone knows I have a self-help book addiction.

First, I’m going to address what we’re probably all thinking: the title isn’t the best. I was too embarrassed to read this on the subway or in the waiting room at my doctor’s office. To me, it conjures up images of weird touchy-feely group therapy sessions where people do things like punch pillows while yelling, “I HATE YOU DAD!” or dudes in pleated khak
Aug 07, 2019 rated it really liked it
Thank you to @celadonbooks for the Advance Reading Copy of Permission to Feel. Please look past the "touchy-feely, warm and fuzzy" title, if you're inclined to be turned off by it. This is a thought-provoking and very relatable read that should inspire teenagers through adults to take a hard look at the role emotional intelligence plays in our society. You don't have to get too far into it before the relevance becomes evident. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a significant other, a co-worker ...more
Genevieve Trono
Aug 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Permission to Feel is a wonderful guide to recognizing our own emotions and those of others. Author Marc Brackett has spent years researching this important topic after his experiences as a child showed him how life-changing it was to have someone see, listen and truly recognize the things you have gone through as an individual.

While Brackett has spent decades studying this important topic, he presents the information in this book in an attainable and accessible manner for his readers. The first
Aug 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
“When I tell audiences how extreme reactions, over the course of time, can actually alter the brain structure of their children, the room goes quiet. Everyone is silently totaling up the times they lost their temper and went crazy on their kids, sizing up how much permanent damage they did.”

Ignore the questionable title and go read this book. The focus of Brackett’s study is on emotional intelligence, and that we, as a society, need to improve the way we recognize, understand, label, express, an
Jul 26, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction-read

Feelings are complicated. On one hand, we’re supposed to understand what triggers them. On the other, we’re not supposed to let them create obstacles in our lives. It’s an impossible ask: have your feelings, but don’t react to them. This is why we need emotional intelligence.

Backed by 50 years of research, Permission to Feel is full of fascinating classroom and workplace success stories, along with facts about how stress and joy affect us biologically and
Aug 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing

When it is hot as heck outside and there is nothing "cool" to do but reading sitting in front of the a/c as everything else makes you end up a sweaty mess, it is the perfect day for a speed reader. (Yes it is hot and humid in Canada!)

I received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do 😸.

The mental well-
Aug 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is an extremely important book that everyone should read, and especially educators because our emotional lives are the foundation of our good health and well-being. It is highly readable and the author uses real life situations and stories as well as scientific research and facts that clearly illustrate how vital it is for all of us,parents, teachers and children alike, to be aware of and able to regulate and accept our emotions.

Thanks to NetGalley, the author and publisher for an advanced
Aug 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I love books that help us better understand and connect with our human psyche and emotions. Permission To Feel by Marc Brackett, Ph. D. does that in such an insightful and meaningful way. A big thank you to Celadon Books for the advanced copy. This is an exceptionally honest, compelling, eye opening and very necessary book. The author really explains to us how the importance of emotional learning is conducive to the wellness of our society. This brilliant book is one that everyone should read.⭐⭐ ...more
If you read one book on Emotional Intelligence, Permission to Feel is it. Based on decades of research and his own personal and professional experience Brackett guides the reader to understand why not recognizing and finding a healthy way to deal with emotions is a fundamental cause of so much stress/misery and mental illness in the U.S. Brackett lays out his own program ("RULER") that helps people understand and resolve their own emotional issues. If you want a tool to help you understand and d ...more
Aug 30, 2019 rated it really liked it
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Permission To Feel by Marc Brackett is a fascinating look at emotions and how better communications and expression of said emotions have the ability to change your life. This book should be required reading for all business leaders, bosses and school teachers. I really enjoyed this book even though I am not the target audience. I am able to easily see how these concepts would have helped me had a teacher employed them while I was in school.
I highly recommend this book.
I received a complim
Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Permission to feel is a very good book and explains ALOT on mental health. This is a great book to read for anyone that is studying psychology, knows someone with a issue or just wants a better understanding. You will be very happy you read this. There’s a lot of knowledge put into this book. Happy reading!!!
Christina Potter Bieloh
Aug 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Permission to Feel is an engaging, inspiring book. I took many notes and have made a list of ideas that I want to immediately incorporate into my classroom as a result of reading this book. What I learned from Marc Brackett's work will help me to become a better teacher.

I want to add this book to my own library as a reference book to which I know I would come back to over and over again. I can better learn to understand how I am feeling. I need to revisit and study the parts of "RULER".I can't
Catherine A.
Aug 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Marc Brackett provides a clear method for identifying, understanding, and teaching emotional intelligence. As a high school teacher, I see the increase of depression and anxiety among students. Brackett provides practical applications that enhance personal and professional environments. The author includes extensive research that supports his methods and his results. I will definitely recommend this book for professional development, and I will definitely begin utilizing Brackett's methods in my ...more
Jessica Adolfo
Jul 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I received this book as an ARC, in exchange for an honest review.

Before I begin, just know this is not a mushy book about feelings. It’s about understanding HOW you feel, understanding your triggers and how you project your feelings. It’s about becoming more successful at work and at home. It’s about how understanding the way emotions work and applying a very common sense approach that can even help children to learn and thrive in a more emotionally intelligent environment.

This is a book that
Tasha Driver
Sep 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: misc-nonfiction

Permission To Feel by Marc Brackett, Ph. D is one of those books that can easily be called a game-changer.

It was the subtitle that hooked me:

Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive

I am a PTSD survivor and my son is autistic, so you can imagine that emotions run pretty high in this home. As I was just preparing to write this review, my son rushed in, in tears and incredibly distraught, because a neighborhood kid had thrown a dead cicada a

Lyssa deHart
Sep 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I just finished reading Permission to Feel, by Marc Brackett, and I loved it.

First this book was a great reminder of the power of emotions to be our guides and as places to be curious. I often see people being swept by emotional roller coaster rides, who also go along for the ride versus getting curious about what these powerful indicators are trying to tell them.

In chapter 6 Brackett shares a great story about presenting to a group in Napa Valley. When asked about how they felt he was presente
Merrilee Gibson
Sep 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
As a licensed psychotherapist, I am interested in books that might be of help in my practice, so I chose to read and review this advance copy.

Seeing the title, I expected a self-help book on accessing feelings. I know that it is beneficial to become aware of and identify feelings, as otherwise feelings unacknowledged feelings can get in the way of other processes.

But Dr. Brackett’s message goes much further, and the assistance he offers is much greater. Feelings, we learn, are a central componen
Lauren Mendez
Sep 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-books-read
This book was a wonderful read and I would highly recommend it to educators. A key concept within this book is being able to identify our emotions in a more detailed and honest way. There is community built when educators are able to support students in understanding their emotions and also for educators to recognize their own emotions. It was powerful reading what it would look like to live in a world where emotional expression is encouraged particularly for emotions that are often seen as nega ...more
Leslie M.
Aug 05, 2019 rated it liked it
Many books about feelings come across as mushy, but that's not the case with this one. This one is about emotional intelligence, and it's based on fifty years of research. It contains classroom and workplace stories, which make it more relatable. The book shares details on how society is impacted by things such as stressful and joyful events. We can change some things just by paying attention to our emotions. The book is designed to help readers understand how they feel, as well as their trigger ...more
Jackie D
Sep 02, 2019 rated it really liked it
Being on the fence with "self-help" styles of writing, I contemplated whether or not this book would be a good fit for me. After reading the detailed blurb a few times, I knew I had to give a try.
I am glad I took the plunge!
Marc Bracketts down to earth, easy to read message comes out loud and clear- especially with tales of his childhood and how they laid the framework for who he is now.
What the RULER system is, how beneficial it is to the well being of not only our children but adults alike.
Rick Lunkenheimer
Sep 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Emotional Intelligence is a skill you learn

This is a brilliant book that got me thinking about how I deal with my own emotions and how I deal with others around me. For years I have been reading about people high emotional intelligence, like it was a trait one is born with. It is not. It is a skill that can be learned and honed to help you recognize your own past, current patterns of thought and behavior, and how to make them work to your advantage. The author’s RULER method - Recognizing, Under
Sara Smith
Sep 08, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: early-reads
I received a free ARC of this book from Netgalley.

As someone who works in an elementary school, I was glad to see that a lot of the examples are based in classrooms so I could imagine these dynamics personally. I'm sure some teachers feel like there isn't time to do these feeling moments with students, but if little-to-no-learning is taking place now, it seems like it would be worth investing the time in connecting with students to get them invested in their learning. I'm going to recommend this
Joy Matteson
Sep 16, 2019 rated it really liked it
An excellent deep dive into the effects of making space for our emotions. Being somewhat emotionally stunted for a large part of my childhood, it's refreshing to take a closer look at how teachers, parents, and other grownups can help themselves and the small ones in their care learn to emotionally regulate themselves and make it okay to be not okay. A great book, I think especially for educators and therapists, it's a must read.
Ali Foito
Sep 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This a wonderful book at shows us why it is ok to feel or emotions additionally the rule method he discusses is very helpful.
Mercer Smith
Sep 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This was so, so, so, so good. I feel like I should read this again every few months.
Kelsey Breseman
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Sep 06, 2019
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