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4.39  ·  Rating details ·  143 ratings  ·  91 reviews
Lana Martin is a strong, hot-tempered businesswoman working in Tokyo. On a whim, she accepts the indecent proposal of her martial arts instructor to become his submissive according to very special rules.

Their affair sets fire to another blaze, this time between her and Honda’s wife, Yuki. Her powerful gentleness is the perfect balance to Honda's harsh demands, and Lana em
Kindle Edition, 222 pages
Published March 9th 2019 by Fierce Editions (first published March 8th 2019)
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Evie Drae
Hot mama, y’all… this week’s read was utterly phenomenal. It also left me with some major grabby hands because Temper: Deference by Lila Mina is book one in a trilogy… and it ends with a gotta-know-more cliffhanger. 😱💕

I’m not sure where to start with this review. Mina’s eloquence and handle on the writing craft is splendid. She has an enchanting ability to create characters who both jump off the page and suck you in all at once. Plus, her rich world building had me in Tokyo. I’ve never been, but
Jan 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This was a fantastic read. The vivid writing takes the reader to the streets of Japan and provides insight into the nitty-gritty of martial arts along with the simmering love story between the two protagonists. Thumbs up for this one!
Sep 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Review by Puss'n'Books Reviewing the darkest erotic books we can find.

Ok, so this book starts out looking like it might end up being just like hundreds of other books out there. Nice girl, meets a dominant man and he introduces her to the BDSM lifestyle, some angst etc. but then it all works out.


You very quickly realise this is one of those books that just gets better and better with every page.
Just when I thought that I’d figured out where it was going, I was proven
Zeena Becks
Jan 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Love, love, LOVE the whole series!!!
Mind-blowing, horizon-broadening, eye-opening! Honestly an amazing story.

We have Lana, a multicultural woman with a strong mind and the cutest language. I'll never get over moans of "dios mio" when it's getting heated (which it does like every third chapter and you will love it). I mean, Shades Of Grey, go pack your bags and go to church, bring us the holy water to clear our minds (and ovaries) once we're done reading. I don't even know what to say, let me pu
Lexxi James
A highly provocative experience that is truly hard to describe in words. Set in the beautiful backdrop of Japan, young, tough, and defiant Lana takes us on a uniquely sensual journey as she is abruptly lured into an extreme BDSM relationship with her aikido master and his wife. The author is truly gifted in leading us down a path which is both alluring and disturbing, and brings a genuine credibility to the heroine's perspective. There were times as I read the words, I wondered as Lana did if I ...more
Kayla Krantz
Passion is certainly a huge theme within this book.

Lana has a lot of trauma to work through, and she’s not sure how to go about it. Her martial arts instructor, Honda, has ideas. When his wife, Yuki, gets involved, the trio grows a truly interesting bond.

I love the way that the author mixed Japanese culture along with that of the dom/sub. All the characters were uniquely written, but I think the way that the author highlighted all their wishes and desires made them all the more believable. Whil
Jan 23, 2020 marked it as to-read
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Laura Holland
Jul 04, 2019 rated it liked it
So you are probably wondering why I gave this phenomenal author's book a 3 star...Now stay with me and all will be explained. It has nothing to do with the book, as it has been perfectly crafted and written in such a way that I have absolutely no doubt that books 2 and 3 will carry on being super.
It all boils down to the fact its just not my sort of genre. I give huge credit to the very talented Lila for the marvellous story that herself and her characters created. But alas BDSM has always been
Jaime Reynolds
Feb 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A story that opened my eyes and broadened horizons. I am so glad I took a chance and read this book. It was phenomenal. Japanese culture is one I never fully understood but with this story I felt as though I was right there in the midst. There was so much passion and understanding between these characters that at times I felt I was intruding on private, learning moments. This should be on everyone’s must read list. It certainly surprised me and I found myself learning quite a lot about culture a ...more
Jan 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
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Extraordinary read!

Only a few chapters into this book I knew I found a real gem. Unique storytelling and a great writing style, phenomenal characters, complex and unusual relations and interactions, and well structured, seamles character development. This book is reshaping genre boundaries with strong, powerful story of unconventional love and diverse ethical, spiritual, and cultural norms. Highly recommended.
Mar 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Lila Mina is for me one of the most talented woman’s fictions writers I have ever come across.

The Temper Series is like no other I have read. Each book took me places no book has ever and reignited more than just my love for the written word and books. The exploration of Japan - cultural, culinary, its people and places are so immersive I felt as if I had been on a trip. Getting to meet Lana, Honda and Yuki was a pleasure, they became close friends along their road, it was an honour to follow t
Donna Till
Feb 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I wasn't sure what to expect when I first started reading this book but I can say that this was a brilliant read. From the very first chapter this book draws you in.
This book is set in Japan and the author has gone into great detail with the setting and Japan's culture and customs.
The three main characters are all so different but connect together so well. There are many layers to each character that it feels like you are only just beginning to understand them. Lana's unknown past is intriguing
Jan 15, 2020 rated it really liked it
EDIT AFTER READING the whole trilogy (it's finished) as well as book 1 of the sequel trilogy:

Attention dear reader, this series is GOOD. I know, committing to reading yet another series can be hard and annoying an a leap of faith. I often read a first book in a series and then just give up. In this case, Temper book 1, Deference, was good enough to keep my interest. Which is great because book 2 was better than book 1 and book 3 was again better than book 2 and book 4 really put the cherry on to
Margaret Adelle
Aug 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I received a copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.

I was intrigued about this book from the get-go. I've been wanting to get more into polyamorous relationships and this one seemed like the ticket.

The author explained that she does live in Japan and the fact is obvious from the way the characters act within the space. There's mentions of the different parts of Tokyo and standard procedures after earthquakes. Admittedly, a lot of the terminology made things difficult to imagine easi
J.B. Trepagnier
May 28, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was an enjoyable read, but I have to admit being confused by Lana and Honda's relationship as Master and Submissive at first. I had to have a dom explain to me that the kink here would be described as roping from the bottom since it's not the traditional submissive relationship I'm used to and I wasn't aware of that kink.

Once explained to me, the book, relationship, and terms used made more sense. It was an enjoyable read with a lot of cultural aspects thrown in that I really enjoyed. From
Erin Figueiredo
Mar 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I really wasn’t sure how I was going to feel about this story. I really didn’t think it was something that I would be interested in. But after reading the first few chapters it had me hooked.

This story is intense, hot, sexy and suspenseful. An all-around great read.

The author did an amazing job interweaving Japanese culture and customs into the story.

In this first book the characters are only just developing into what is sure to be an interesting and intense love story with intriguing aspects
Carrie S
Sep 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing

Wow, wow, wow, I don’t know what else to say! I love it! It’s fascinating and not for the faint of heart. Her words flow seamlessly and she brings the Japanese culture to life. I am fascinated with the paranormal aspect and learning about the Japanese yokai(supernatural creatures of Japanese folklore). There is BDSM and a MFF relationship. While it is intense, it does not come off as crude or over the top at all. It fits with this story and I can’t wait to read the next book!! This is a t
Dorothea Lynne
Mar 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Unlike anything I've read before. The intense relationships in this story are handled respectfully. The author has included an incredible setting and the culture is explored well. This first book is a perfect lead in to more, and I look forward to it. This book will not be for everyone...but if you are open minded and interested in a hot (I mean smoking hot), intriguing, well-written story...then this book is for you. If you're not sure, give it a chance, you won't be disappointed.
India Kells
Mar 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
Fascinatingly unconventional
Temper is a white-hot sexy story that will pull you into a storm of lust. An intense sub/dom relationship where limits are tested, have a wide and tolerant mind as you will jump into BDSM and polyamory. It's not only about sex, but about relationships and how we interact in intense situations with one another. Add in an exotic location, and unknown culture dynamics, and you have one unique of a ride.
As a reader who struggles to find well-written FFM stories, I grabbed this book based on that alone. Sadly, those parts of the story turned my stomach.

To me, this book defines the difference between erotica and male-focused spank-bank material. Having one woman suck your d*&k while the other licks you a$$, then making one like your jizz off the other's breasts after you dump your load (and share said load between their mouths) is not sexy.

Nor is a rather cringe-worthy fisting scene (MF) very ear
Claire Cronin
Feb 27, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was my first book by Lila, I was very intrigued by the blurb and very glad I gave it a chance because this has been one of the most original and different stories I have read in a long time.

Set in Japan and the author has gone into a hell of a lot of detail in local culture, language, customs and legends. Whilst this was brilliant in the story telling and really drew you into the story, it also didn't help that I didn't know the terminology being used and had to refer to the glossory at ti
Angela Armstrong
Mar 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing

Ms Mina has crafted a book that takes you right into Japan. Not only is the story awesome, but the attention to detail, the explanation of Japanese culture and the reality of life there has your feeling like you were THERE!
So many stories are either written in the western world for the western world or in the eastern world for the eastern world. This book is set in the eastern world but written for both.
Mina has gifted us with a tale that draws you in and holds you there and the he
Clarity Townsend
Mar 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Temper: Deference is a gripping and compelling paranormal erotic romance. Ms. Mina does a superb job representing a healthy and proper dom/sub relationship, which is so often misrepresented into today's literature. The setting of Japan and its culture is a character in and of itself. It calls to you and holds you in its grasp.

All the characters are well developed, but the one that stands out to me and drew me in the most is Yuki. A powerhouse of a woman who knows what she wants and how to get i
Within The Pages Book Blog
Mar 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a story unlike one I’ve ever read before. When I started reading this story it was addicting and quickly became one I could not put down. The cultural aspect alone was brilliant and telling of Japanese traditions and demands. I was transported to a world of passion, obedience and acceptance of what may be misunderstood. Beautifully written and one that everyone should read. It’s certainly a story that will bring you more awareness and possibly teach you something.
Jan 29, 2020 rated it really liked it
Wonderful story

I truly enjoyed this book see the inside of life in Japan and Lana been half Italian and half Canadian bring this story a very interesting dynamics.
Patti Jean
Mar 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm going to start out by saying, for this being Ms. Mina's first book, she knocked it out of the park! This was easily a 5 star read in the first few chapters alone. That's saying a lot!

The author's ability to describe the world in which our characters are a part of, Japan, allowed me, the reader, who had never been there before to fully see through their eyes and feel as though I'd lived there, or at least visited enough to think of myself familiar with the surroundings.

The characters were wri
Edie Baylis
Dec 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm all for reading dark or different cross-genre books and this book is a great read! To label it as just another erotic/BDSM/fifty shades type book would be a gross injustice because it is a LOT more than that.

The story and intense passion between Lana and Honda is one thing, but when Yuki, Honda's wife, joins them then it takes it to another level.

The book is well-written and had amazing character and world building. A great writing style.
I thought the take on unconventional love was great an
Romancing the Book
Oct 07, 2019 rated it liked it
Reviewed by Amy W
Book provided by the author

Since this is the first book in the series by Lila Mina, the author provided insight into the characters to be developed more in depth in future installments. While that is important, I’ll also point out that I was not very happy with a cliffhanger ending.

The story focuses on Lana Martin, who is now living in Tokyo. She has a number of demons she’s trying to fight, so she turns to Honda, her martial arts instructor. Because the story takes place in Jap
Ruchika Pahwa
Jul 18, 2019 rated it really liked it
Temper Deference is book 1 in the Temper trilogy. I’d say that it has set the plot very well with its trio characters - Lana, Honda, and Yuki. The setup of Japan is inviting. I was hardly aware of the culture but this book brings a holistic feel.

The story revolves around Lana, a martial arts practitioner, and her aikido master Honda. They soon develop a uniquely controlled intimate relationship, based on their own dominance/submission training rule, which brings out their suppressed shades of te
Ellie Midwood
Apr 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
“Temper: Deference” is a fascinating, steamy story set in Japan, which only adds more spice to an already compelling narrative. Honda was Lana’s martial arts instructor until he became something more - her Dom who promised to test her limits and help her heal from past trauma at the same time. Eventually, Yuki, Honda’s wife finds her way into their relationship and the trio grows even closer together.
I found the setting itself positively fascinating. Vivid descriptions of Japan, certain cultura
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An avid reader of thrillers, science-fiction, horror and romance, I have been writing for nearly 25 years. Lila Mina is one of my pen names.

I am a firm believer in cross-genre literature. Life is too complex, too rich and surprising to limit stories to one genre only. I love blending genres to create powerful characters, emotional plots and exciting stories that hopefully will stay a long time wit

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