The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
Berani Tidak Disukai, yang sudah terjual lebih dari 3,5 juta eksemplar, mengungkap rahasia mengeluarkan kekuatan terpendam yang memungkinkan Anda meraih kebahagiaan yang hakiki dan menjadi sosok yang Anda idam-idamkan.
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This book talks about 'Courage'. It says we need courage to be hated. Because ...more
But this, this isn't a self-help book. And fuck it, I'm going to be brutally honest on Goodreads because you are all wonderful people. And we all need to stop hiding how we feel and have a discussion.
Disclaimer No book is a one-size-helps-all. Don't see any self-help or psychologically-directed book as the Holy Grail of "my life is now going to change." You know why? You decide to change. You did the work. The book might ...more
'All you can do with regard to your own life is choose the best path that you believe in. On the other hand, what kind of judgement do people pass on that choice? That is the task of other people, and is not a matter you can do anything about.'
This quote kinda sums up the book. It's about returning the focus to only what you can affect, and living your own life a moment at a time.
There are some ideas here that are familiar to me ...more
The worst faults for me, however, were the offensive, compassionaless, victim-blaming ideas such as 'trauma does not exist' (a heading of a sub-chapter), expanded on to state that a person suffering from agorophobia is choosing to do so to treated as special by their parents. Second worst would be the poor logic used to 'prove' these ideas.
First, the title is a bait and switch as it is all about Western Adlerian psychology, not anything Japanese.
It's outdated. It's almost incoherent if you know anything about psychological or biological research of the last 80 years. Adler has the excuse of not knowing about that because he's dead. The authors of this book do not.
So far, the book is a circular argument: ...more
It introduces the reader to so many new concepts, yet in such an approachable way, that every chapter ends with an aha-moment.
Read this book if you're into personal development, if you want to completely change your opinion about happiness.
Read it if you are struggling with your introvert personality, if you have trauma to overcome and relationships to heal (especially with your parents).
So, it's not that I'm not a fan of the Socratic Method, it's just that the particular format of this book is tiresome. It's written as a dialogue over 5 sessions between The Philosopher and The Youth, and 90% of my irritation is because of the Youth is written as both extremely abrasive in manner, and dense as a plank.
However the contents of the book are ...more
I remember me discussing with Himanshu, Abhishek and Ankit, a lot of things which are related to the book. This book gave words to those musings and structured a lot of mental models for me. It made me wonder about a lot of experiences I had and am having. One advice: start acting the way this book suggests at least for the time span of the read.
- Your past doesn't determine you, it is how you make of it.
- Don't rush for answers, arrive at them. ...more
Adlerian psychology is opposed ...more
This book is loosely based on Socrates' teachings (I'm being generous here) and the Adlerian School of Psychotherapy, born out the same movement (the Vienna Psychoanalytic Society) that gave us Sigmund Freud and Carl ...more
I dont think I agree with many of Alfred Adlers ideas as represented in this book, particularly his views on trauma, which he says does not exist. Maybe thats a helpful way of thinking for some people, but it doesnt sit well with me. His ideas might be more nuanced, but if they are, I dont think the book did much to convey that. It was all a ...more
I'd like to start by saying that I listened to this on Audible and that was a pleasant experience - as it's written as a dialogue between two people, it is read in that style. If you are going to pick this up, I highly recommend the audio version.
I found myself yelling in my car at the old philosopher several times, ...more
So why dontcha already, huh?!
Okay. Not that I'm a huge fan of Adler anyway but this is brazenly taking out of context the man's writings too.
This book read a lot like other pseudo-scientific books like this whole law of attraction stuff that's been running rampant in the past 10+ years. Ironically ...more
If you don't enjoy critical thinking and just want to brainwashed then this book is for you.
The Courage To Be Disliked is a unique book. It has taken Japan by storm, using the theories of renowned 19th century philosopher and psychiatrist Alfred Adler to create a string of conversations between a fictional philosopher and a young man. ...more
Courage to be disliked was an inward journey in identifying 'life-lies' as Adler calls them, and the power they hold in the stories I create for myself as an excuse to not act. It was quite difficult to accept certain claims of Adler's given my current state of intuitions, cemented by aetiological/Freudian philosophy of causes and effects. While there are remarkably insightful ...more
A deep explanation of Alfred Adler's "Individual Psychology Theory." LOVED IT!
If you like this book, you may like Solitude: In Pursuit of a Singular Life in a Crowded World.
I didn't know how much I needed to read this book until I read it. I know it's in the so-called "self-help" category but in my opinion, this is NOT a self-help book, at least not as we know it. Although the title implies not being concerned about what others might think of you (if they ever do), fortunately, this is not the only thing discussed here, it's actually one of the many. Yet the book isn't lost in its own context which ...more
Some of the points that this book brought up were really interesting but true. Some ideas call to mind cheesy quotes you see on the internet, but the book explains why those ideas are actually very important. And some points are pretty wild, but the logic...more
With my own background reading I was reminded of Stoicisms rejection of things you cant change in understanding the world and Adlerian Psychology often felt to my mind like a more systematic ...more
Oh and some of the tenets are what I already live by :-) ...more
M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University.
He presently ...more