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Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls

4.28  ·  Rating details ·  672 ratings  ·  124 reviews
Nobody's Victim is an unflinching look at a hidden world most people don't know exists--one of stalking, blackmail, and sexual violence, online and off--and the incredible story of how one lawyer, determined to fight back, turned her own hell into a revolution.

"We are all a moment away from having our life overtaken by somebody hell-bent on our destruction." That grim
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Kindle Edition, 304 pages
Published August 13th 2019 by Plume
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Sarah Andersen
Aug 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I consider this required reading for everyone. EVERYONE.
As "Nobody's Victim" shows, justice for victims of abuse in the online era has been agonizingly slow. Platforms, law enforcement, and law makers have failed to protect those who are at risk. I was shocked by just how little was being done against a form of abuse that is psychologically and sometimes physically devastating. Indeed Carrie Goldberg is one of the first to fight back in court, having established her law firm that specializes in
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Petra-X
Feb 14, 2020 is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
This is the US version of honour killings. (view spoiler) ...more
Caroline
In the internet age, victimizing people has evolved to a complicated, sometimes confusing, level. This is why the world needs as many Carrie Goldbergs as it can get. Goldberg is a victims’ rights lawyer in New York City specializing in sexual-privacy violations. In Nobody’s Victim, she argues for a massive change in internet laws so, among other malicious behaviors, cyber-stalking and harassment, posting of “revenge porn,” and cyber-blackmail, can be punished swiftly and strictly.

Anyone who’s
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Molly
I really want to give this book five stars, but the persistent use of "psycho" and crazy" to describe terrible, violent men was a little hard to overlook as someone who is trying to work on improving my language so as not to further stigmatize the mentally ill. The book is a vitally important one, though, as Goldberg writes clearly and passionately about the current legal landscape that sets up women to be victimized and revictimized by cyberstalkers, trolls, and plain old jerks. The resource ...more
Laura Noggle
Oct 21, 2019 rated it really liked it
Powerful read—Carrie Goldberg is fighting the good fight.

Having had to overcome her own stalkers/aggressive men in the past, she is helping other women take back their lives and fight for their rights.
Karen
If you have ever been the victim of revenge porn, sexual harassment, sextortion, sexual assault, have a friend or family member who has been victim of these crimes, use dating sites, dating apps, have ever made comments anywhere online, you should read this book. Please be aware that reading this book may be triggering for survivors of these crimes. Carrie Goldberg is an attorney who specializes on fighting for victims of these crimes. As a survivor, she speaks about individual’s stories and ...more
Donna Hines
Jun 17, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: arc, netgalley
Don't get bitter get better!
For me this showed just how damaging releasing trust into the world can become and how to fight fire with fire to get revenge.
Sure many of these relationships were quickly consumed.
The relationships were often centered upon sexual abuse in general, sexual photos placed online w/o consent, and sexual abuse cases.
As a survivor of abuse while I applaud the author for taking these cases to get relief for clients, I'm dismayed at the anger portrayed throughout the book,
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Samantha
May 29, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wow. Nobody's Victim is part memoir, part exploration victim protection in the internet age, and part call to arms.

Seriously. there are few things more badass than the lines Goldberg opens her cease and desist letters with. "I represent [my client]. I'll be taking over negotiations from here. Negotiations just ended."

It is a difficult book to read. There are predators of every type - pedophiles, white supremacists, rapists. But there is an undercurrent of strength, of fighting for what's right
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Ava Budavari
Thank you to Leah from Changing Hands Tempe for an early copy of this book!

(Before I get into this review I want to state that there are MAJOR content warnings in this book for rape, emotional abuse, physical abuse, childhood sexual abuse, sexual harassment, stalking, cyberstalking, sexploitation, revenge porn, trolling, and suicide. There are real life legal cases involving all of these described in detail in this book, so please be aware, and if you are not in a place where you can read about
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Bryan Summers
Jul 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I finished the book in tears. Get this book and read it!

When I was younger, I never used the word evil. The phrase was clearly outdated and judgmental. People were generally well meaning, if wrong. Sometimes they would hurt others, true, but it was either a misunderstanding or in horrible situations, no doubt something that happened in childhood.

I'm older now but I use the term evil. For some acts there is no other word.

Carrie Goldberg and her law firm specialize in helping victim's of revenge
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Mel
Aug 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-it
Attorney Carrie Goldberg is truly a special, passionate woman and I'm so thankful that she is doing the work that she is making such a big difference in the lives of individual victims while also taking part in adopting laws that will catch us up to present day technology. It is my hope that in the future more victims and their lawyers will be able to more easily bring charges against their aggressors without having to spend far too long being traumatized in order to build a case. I was ...more
chantel nouseforaname
Very impressed with Carrie Goldberg and what she's done helping people fight violence online. It's a topic that's of interest to me for numerous reasons.

One of the most despicable things is how little the American government has done to ensure that new comprehensive legislation is put into effect to protect vulnerable populations, such as kids and teens, enduring things like sextortion online. Then again, they didn't do shit when all them kids were killed in Newtown either, so I can't be
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Camille McCarthy
Nov 10, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book is written by a lawyer who covers sexual harassment, stalking, "revenge porn," and similar issues. She is one of the lawyers for the Weinstein cases. I appreciated her unapologetic attitude, her intelligence, and her honesty. She often goes after abusers in civil suits, which means her clients actually get some compensation for their suffering. She does not seem to be a fan of carceral feminism, despite being a lawyer, and I also appreciate that. This book talks a lot about modern ...more
Gokulakrishnan Saravanan
There are books which shift our paradigm on certain issues. This book is that type for me.
Shelleyrae at Book'd Out
“My name is Carrie Goldberg and I’m a victims’ rights lawyer. Some people call me a “passionate advocate” or a “social justice warrior.” I’d rather be called a ruthless motherf*cker.”

This is how Carrie Goldberg introduces herself in the bold and utterly compelling Nobody’s Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls. Goldberg is a lawyer whose firm, C.A. Goldberg, PLLC, specialises in representing those who are targeted by offenders that use the internet to stalk, harass, intimidate,
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Jo-Ann Duff (Duffy The Writer)
Nobody’s Victim is a must-read for anyone who has gone through the trauma of online trolling and harassment or works in law. Carrie Goldberg shares her career journey, firstly supporting victims of Nazi Germany before becoming a victims’ rights lawyer in Brooklyn, litigating for victims of stalking, sexual assault, and blackmail. In Nobody’s Victim, Goldberg shares the frustrating, gut-wrenching and tragic cases involving the people she has fought and won for and continues to support.

I had an
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‘”We are all a moment away from having our life overtaken by somebody hell-bent on our destruction.” That grim reality – gleaned from personal experience and twenty years of trauma work – is a fundamental principle of Carrie Goldberg’s cutting-edge victims’ rights law firm.
Riveting and an essential timely conversation-starter, NOBODY’S VICTIM invites readers to join Carrie on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as she fights for revenge porn and sextortion
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Sharon S
Jun 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a phenomenal reference source for anyone and everyone that has an internet following. I have friends that reach a popular point and always get stalked. The book offers real life shocking experiences with narcisst psychopaths with a goal to ruin your life. There's a list of multiple resources with phone numbers and how to contact specific agencies for help. I found that the most valuable because it's difficult to find the right person or agency when you have a stalker tormenting you. ...more
Jordan
Sep 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of the greatest nonfiction books I've ever read. Carrie Goldberg, a victims' rights lawyer focused on fighting sexual assault, internet-based sexual harassment, and stalking, has created a powerful account of the legal battleground surrounding these types of offenses. Describing herself as a "ruthless motherfucker," Goldberg lays bare the realities of how technology is being used diabolically by some to ruin lives, as well as the laws in place that protect the abuser instead of the ...more
Echo C
Dec 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
I’ve done it! I’ve finally finished this book!

Lawyer (and real life superhero, IMO) Carrie Goldberg writes about her experiences in fighting against sexual violence and privacy violations. In this book, she reveals what led her to become a part of the fight against trolls, pervs, and all sorts of creeps. “Nobody’s Victim” also covers the various pieces of legislation surrounding these issues and how they led to the clusterfrick we currently have on our hands (countless online attacks and no real
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Genni Eccles
Jul 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
Nobody's Victim is one of the most powerful books I've read, of this year, and of all time. Carrie Goldberg, an established lawyer and activist against sexual violence, stalking, blackmail, and more, gives readers an inside look into the intricacies of her work. Her stories will anger and appall you, but will also inspire you to fight back. Goldberg is a warrior, and so are her clients. Nobody's Victim will surely create some more.
Paul
Oct 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a great, take-no-prisoners book written by a lawyer who was both a subject of revenge porn and has now become a leader in the movement to stop it. She describes the four types of people (90 percent of them men) who troll women on Facebook or other social media. I read this book just after I finished Ronan Farrow's book Catch and Kill, and it's a perfect continuation of what he wrote about. The author pulls no punches and swears like a sailor, which is both funny and refreshing. She is a ...more
Mary
Aug 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
I heard about Carrie Goldberg’s new book, Nobody’s Victim, from The Cut’s podcast, The Cut on Tuesdays. From the moment she started talking, I was incredibly intrigued. I knew I had to get my hands on this book. The book did not disappoint. Carrie Goldberg is a lawyer who specializes in cases of harassment, revenge porn, sexual violence, and much more. This book is part call to arms, part manifesto, part resource guide for women. Carrie tells the stories of a number of her clients, stringing ...more
Deedi (DeediReads) Brown
All my reviews live at https://deedispeaking.com/reads/.

I picked up this book on recommendation from my friend Mel (@melannrosenthal), and I’m so glad I did. It was FANTASTIC. There are a lot of nonfiction books out there that end up being pretty good, but ultimately not very memorable. This is NOT one of those books. In fact, I liked it so much that after I finished my library’s audiobook copy, I bought a physical copy so I could loan it out to friends.

Warning, though: If you are a victim of
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Aimee Loyet
Aug 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Carrie Goldberg's book is a powerful, must-read. Sharing her intimate and thoughtful insight into the world of revenge porn, sexual abuse/assault and privacy violation is inspiring. I hope this book serves as a key reminder to all survivors -- and as Goldberg reminds us -- "even if you don't know what to call [what happened to you]'-- that you're a survivor and a warrior.

The work that Goldberg's law firm is doing is life-changing and life-saving. As this book details the very real legal cases in
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Natalie
Nov 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
THIS WAS AMAZING AND SO NECESSARY READING SOME OF THE PARTS MADE ME WANT TO BARF AND ALSO STAB SOME PEOPLE BUT !!! this thanksgiving i am thankful that people like carrie goldberg exist and do this work !!

no but seriously, i was aware of a lot of this stuff because we'd learnt about it in my LLM, or from the reading i'd done previously (like zoe quinn's memoir), and i'd attended her talk at politics & prose, but this was really great. highly recommended to everyone
Kira
Feb 12, 2020 marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
I received this book in exchange for a honest review from NetGalley.

This book is powerful, informative and one of the most difficult books I have ever read. It is a very frank discussion about the world we live in and the many ways that people can be sexually victimized. I think that everyone, especially anyone making decisions about out laws should read this book and be informed of what is going on.
Ryan Mishap
Adding another two dozen reasons to hate patriarchal, misogynist men, this is an excellent, on-the-ground introduction to the monsters who put others through hell by weaponizing the internet and social media.

Luckily, it also shows how we can fight back and reclaim our power.
Sarah -  All The Book Blog Names Are Taken
This book is fucking amazing. Review to come.
Ryan
Sep 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing
One day, I hope this selection is considered "ancient history"...until then, we have a LOT of work to do.
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Carrie Goldberg is the owner of the Brooklyn victims' rights law firm C.A. Goldberg, PLLC, which litigates for targets of harassment, sexual assault, blackmail, and revenge porn. She is from Aberdeen, Washington.

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