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Somebody Told Me

3.54  ·  Rating details ·  205 ratings  ·  86 reviews
A novel of trauma, identity, and survival.

After an assault, bigender seventeen-year-old Aleks/Alexis is looking for a fresh start―so they voluntarily move in with their uncle, a Catholic priest. In their new bedroom, Aleks/Alexis discovers they can overhear parishioners in the church confessional. Moved by the struggles of these "sinners," Aleks/Alexis decides to anonymous
Published April 7th 2020 by Lerner/Carolrhoda
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Whitney Atkinson
Thanks Mia for the review copy!
*Disclaimer: the author and I are friends, but thoughts are my own.

I loved this book as a commentary on being bigender, recovering from sexual assault, and pointing out the hypocrisy in some church leadership. But in the end, I think it attempted to confront a topic far too massive to fit within a 250-page book.

I loved Alexis/Aleks's voice, and I especially thought their relationship with their mom and dad was sweet. It's nice to read a book that isn't really a c
NAT.orious reads ☾
somebody told me this is a terrific book and since I've been on a "want to read spree" for like an hour, why not add another one?

4.5 stars

I received this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review

It's been almost a month since I finished this book, and I still have no idea how to review it. I think this is for two reasons. (1) reading Somebody Told Me was honestly such a surreal experience and I don't entirely know what to make of it, and (2) this book focused so heavily on extremely personal experiences that I quite frankly cannot speak on

That said, this book was utterly fantastic, so while I'm going to keep th
Caleb Roehrig
SOMEBODY TOLD ME is one of the most thoughtful books I’ve ever read about gender and religion, and what they mean to a person’s sense of self. Through a protagonist whose gender is not fixed, Siegert does a magnificent job of exploring how expectations—from within and without—shape the interaction between identity and society.

This book is also just a really compelling and well-balanced slow-burn thriller, full of complex and fully-realized characters. (And I LIVE for LGBTQIA thrillers!) I’m so
Kate (Feathered Turtle Press)
I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that given their scarce representation, trans people, people on the nonbinary spectrum and genderqueer people want better representation than Aleks/Alexis. Much, much better.

The Good
– Clean, readable writing style
– Great concept with the confessions
– Bigender representation
– Lots of LGBT+ characters
– Supporting cast characterized decently

The Bad
– Aleks/Alexis is strongly unlikeable
– The bigender representation is questionable
– Doesn't address any of Aleks/
Hannah | Katarama Reads
I really, really, REALLY wanted to like this book. Unfortunately, it just fell very, very flat for me.


After an assault, bigender seventeen-year-old Aleks/Alexis is looking for a fresh start. They voluntarily move in with their uncle, a Catholic priest. In their new bedroom, Aleks/Alexis discovers they can overhear parishioners in the church confessional. Moved by the struggles of these "sinners," Aleks/Alexis decides to anonymously help them, finding solace in their secret identity: a g
what the fuck is this shit

content/trigger warnings; ableism, trauma, transphobia, non-binaryphobia, misgendering, religion, mentions of domestic abuse, slut shaming, invasion of privacy, stalking, sexual assault, objectification, fetishization, homophobia, racism, disordered eating/unhealthy body image, body dysmorphia, menstruation, mentions of cancer, aphobia, f slur, internalized transphobia, internalized homophobia, kissing, sexual abuse, child sexual abuse, molestation, pedophilia, pedophil
Alice Reeds
Dec 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I was very lucky to have read this when it was still a draft and let me tell you, I immediately knew it had what it takes to make its way into readers hands. Mia has gotten even better and this story will blow you away.

Somebody Told Me is a thought provoking story that doesn't shy away from asking all the hard hitting questions, a look behind the curtains of cosplay and the dark sides of fandom and teens, as well as offering a unique view on one of the most discussed and controversial topics eve
Apr 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: lgbtq, young-adult
3.5 maybe?

I just cannot get over the fact that nothing about this book’s marketing seems to mention the fact that it’s very heavily about cosplay/conventions/fandom. The cosplay community is such an integral part of this book that the “past trauma” Aleks/Alexis has to come to terms with is something that could really only have happened to them at a convention. Which is not to say there aren’t still important takeaways from learning about that experience, because there are, but the situation pres
Somebody told me this book had a non-binary MC, and honestly, that was all I needed to know. The rep was unlike anything I've read before and I loved it. It was a very prominent part of the book as well, because Aleks/Alexis changes gender quite frequently, and they discussed their gender feels a lot, which was amazing to see represented.

I did feel like this book was really slow to start. Halfway into it, I still had no clue what direction the book would take, or what exactly the plot was.

That s
Parag Kapadia
Disclaimer: The author and i are good buddies. At least i'd like to think so. I hope we still are after this review at least. Oh boy....

Let's start off with what i liked. Every scene where Alexis/Aleks was by themselves was impactful and insightful. Every time they confronted themselves in the mirror, or during unavoidable physiological events, felt illuminating. And as someone who has absolutely no point of reference for those living as bigender, i really liked those scenes. I liked seeing the
Mae Crowe
Received a physical ARC from the publisher.

Somebody Told Me is an absolute masterpiece of tone and introspection. If you're looking for a book that focuses primarily on the outward, this probably isn't the book for you. If you're looking for a book that centers on the inward and the thought processes behind our responses to the outward... It most certainly is the book for you.

What does that mean?

Essentially, it means that despite the very real world conflicts that occur in this novel, they're no
Mar 25, 2020 rated it it was ok
E-arc provided by Netgalley.

I was immediately pretty sucked into this book, but as I kept reading I wondered when we were going to finally get to what I expected to be the main plot based off of the summary. Well that plot of overhearing a priest making a confession doesn’t start to over 60% in the book, and while I had enjoyed most of what I read in the first 60% it quickly went downhill from there. I do think most of my dislike was a me thing but dislike it I did.

The plan to catch this priest
Mar 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley, ya-books
I really enjoyed this book right from the beginning. I don't read a lot of novels that feature trans teens so it was an interesting chance of pace from what I'm used to. One of the things that I really enjoyed was how supportive Alex/Alexis' mother was in their transition, and how fiercely she stood up for her child against anyone even her own family. This gave it another nice change since I"m used to trans teens being oppressed in the few stories I read with them. This book starts off with a hu ...more
Anwen Hayward
Hoo boy. I... no. I was so, so excited for this one (bigender rep! An author who worked as a costume designer on my favourite TV show!) and it just did not work for me at all. I hate to give a poor review, especially to a book which has rep that we've never seen before, and I wouldn't do it if I thought a book was just not my cup of tea, but parts of this were disturbing and possibly harmful, so here we go.

The good:
- bigender rep, which I've never seen before in a book. I'd love to see more of i
Apr 08, 2020 rated it liked it
actual rating: 3.5/5

if you're in the right state of mind to read about themes of sexual assault, homophobia, and transphobia in catholicism, then i highly recommend this one! not an easy read in the slightest, but very powerful in its message.
Mar 06, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I really, really admire and appreciate all the things that Mia writes about. She takes a lot of risks in her writing, and I hope that other readers will see that just as much as I do. So many interesting and important topics are brought ip in this book, and I think that's why it was so important and impactful for me. Here's to seeing more bigender characters in books! This was the first one I had ever read! ...more
Dill Werner
Dec 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: queer-reads
I am so fortunate to have been a critique partner and all-around writing buddy cheerleader alongside Mia for over two years now. We're the kind of friends that come to each other with plot help, and when she told me the concept of this book, how it would unfold, and the twists...I was hooked!

I was excited to consult on certain issues, but also to learn more. How would this person relate to that person? Okay, but who is the one you really need to look out for? This is a story about a teen wanting
Jun 09, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
*arc provided by Netgalley*

I really struggled to finish this one.
It‘s quite some time before the main story begins and until then there’s a lot of internal monologue that got kind of repetitive and unfortunately couldn’t get me invested in the story.
When the main plot gets going, it is kind of all over the place with the main character making ridiculous assumptions based off of no evidence and then acting so stupidly, it was a pain to read.
I thought the romance was also quite weird. They talk
3 stars

note: Aleks/Alexis is bigender and uses both she/her and he/him pronouns at different points throughout the story, but for the clarity of this review I'll refer to him as Aleks and he/him.

I was really excited for this one because I thought it had the potential to become one of my favorite reads of the year. I really, really wanted to like this one, especially because it has a bigender MC (!!) and it sounded like it dealt with themes of religion and queerness and how the two intersected.

Jason Fischbach
Mar 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This was a really fun one for me. It read quickly, which was impressive given how much of the subject matter was really foreign to me (I'm not so familiar with Catholicism or cosplay, or really any of the hobbies of anyone in the story). In fact, my favorite part was the opportunity to learn about some of the things I'm not so familiar with, especially the bigender protagonist. While I consider myself to be open-minded and allied, this was one self-identification that I just wasn't as familiar w ...more
Billie Parsons
Mar 23, 2020 rated it really liked it
I will be honest this book isn't the genre I typically read, however, I think that Mia Siegert did a great job and I look forward to more of her work.
Gender and religion are two very complex topics of discussion in today's culture and In Somebody Told Me not only does the main character have to battle themselves with one of them, but they have to do it with both.
Siegert takes risks with her writing and she does it right.
Mar 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Wow. This book was just fantastic. The writing is great, and the story is enthralling.

Alexis/ks is a great main character. This was my first exposure to a bigender character, and reading about Alexis/ks's struggle to fit in and deal with past trauma really added depth to the story.

As a self-described "recovering Catholic" who went to school with nuns, I loved the way Bernie and Joey were portrayed here. Their friendship, their easy rapport, the fact that they weren't always formal all brought
Feb 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
I was given an e-ARC of this book, this in no way affected my opinion.

The author’s note in the end of the book started with this:

“I wanted to write a book about the ongoing problems in the Catholic Church without attacking Catholics for their faith.”

That’s exactly what the author did.

There’s plenty of themes, and aspects to this book: it discusses religion, gender (more specifically being bigender in today’s society), military parent, fandoms and cosplays, social media, trauma, abuse, to name
Feb 25, 2020 rated it really liked it
A lot going on in this book. Definitely worth reading as it makes the reader question many things which is a very good thing.
Feb 19, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really liked this book, it was eye opening to many issues and it told me more about the catholic faith. The fact that Aleks/Alexis is bigender also was interesting as it showed the change between the two and the difference in the person themselves when they are each person.
I found that the blurb was quite deceptive though as the point in the blurb didn't come up in the book until I was 62% into the book.
Overall I thought it was a really good book and definitely would read again if I had the ti
Mar 05, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Aleks/Alexis is a troubled and complex character who is dealing with their own trauma while also trying to help other people after overhearing confessions. At first, they try to help people who are struggling, but by the end of the book they are trying to bring down someone who committed and awful crime that was being covered up by the church. Their inner turmoil throughout the book was a big deal and they had a lot to overcome, I think the topics of gender and trauma were dealt with delicately. ...more
Mindy Floyd
Feb 06, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book interested me from the very beginning just because I personally don’t think there’s a lot of LBGTQIA+ stories out on the market right now. It was very interesting getting to read a book from their state of mind and learn more about them. This story was pretty great and opened my eyes up to a lot of things that they face in life and it also had a few twists & turns along the way!
May 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
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I received this book as an eARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

This book gave me all the feels and maybe the first book hangover I’ve had in a while.
I self identify as a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, being bi/pan, so I am always looking for more books which tell stories about the community. Years ago, a couple of LGBTQIA+ members of a D&D group I was a part of were vocal about the need for there to be more books about Queer poeple, that weren’t soley Coming O
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Mia Siegert's sophomore novel SOMEBODY TOLD ME released in Spring 2020 with great trade reviews (SLJ's verdict was "Highly Recommended Read") and features in Teen Vogue, Book Riot, Buzzfeed, and many more.

Siegert's debut JERKBAIT made Goodreads Best YA of May 2016, Top 12 Indie YA from Barnes & Noble Teen Blog, Top 10 YA of 2016 from AndPop!, and gained attention from SB Nation, Publishers Weekly,

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