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Gender Queer

4.37  ·  Rating details ·  5,466 ratings  ·  1,041 reviews
In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia's intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortificat ...more
Paperback, 240 pages
Published May 28th 2019 by Oni Press
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Apr 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
I wrote this book and I am proud of it.
Maggie Stiefvater
May 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: adult, recommended
Youthfully bright, honest, uncertain, optimistic.
daph pink

"Some people are born in mountains while others are born by the sea. Some people are happy to live in the place they were born, while others must make a journey to reach the climate in which they can flourish and grow!"

As being a 18 year old teen , i am still questioning my sexual orientation and gender preferences at times I feel I am bi/ace or maybe queer so I decided to spend some time reading about them ! So here's to this book!!!

I found this book really really brave, amazing, liberating an
Tyler J Gray
I needed this book 20 years ago. Words can not describe how much I love this book. It's a memoir about growing up and figuring out that one is non-binary and asexual. While I am not asexual, I am non-binary...and while I can look back on my life now and realize I have always been this way, it took until age 30 to find the words. To realize, i'm not a freak. I'm not wrong. I'm not confused (anymore-and if I had had the words and someone else saying "me too" I never would have had to be). That i'm ...more
C.G. Drews
Jun 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I adored this! It was so heartfelt, detailed, and very deeply honest, raw and personal. I loved the page where the author was like (when e was a teen) "I'm never writing comics about my personal life!"...lolol. But honestly overall this hit me very deeply and I'm so grateful I got to read it. Absolute recommendation with my whole heart.

(It just ended too abruptly!! I was there, franticly trying to scroll further on my ecopy and I'm like !! no do not end)
A memoir by someone so much like me, yet at the same time so unlike me.

A few times I had to set it down and cry. Be forewarned that I can't even pretend to aspire to objectivity, and brace yourselves for a review that's going to be more about me than about the book. Or move along if that (understandably) doesn't appeal to you.

The graphic novel format lends itself well to Maia Kobabe's story, perhaps because it adds a playful element that complements the sheer quirkiness of eir life experience.

David Schaafsma
Jul 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
Gender Queer is a memoir comic by Maia Kobabe with a title that signals the desire to reach out to others, I think, of similar non-binary inclinations (or commitments). In this still relatively new moment of non-binary pronoun usage to signal identity, Kobabe uses the “Gayatri Spivak” system of “e, em, eir.” E also identifies as asexual, though e does have a kink or two. For part of the book Kobabe identified as bi, but really, e does not want to be either a girl or boy (so e’s, just for the sak ...more
Reading_ Tam_ Ishly
Feb 12, 2020 rated it really liked it
This memoir is so damn liberating!!! And yes, everyone deserves a family like that. Loved this one so much!
Skye Kilaen
Mini-review: FANTASTIC. Really. Read it. This graphic novel memoir about gender and identity should make top 10 lists of various kinds for a long, long time.
chan ☆
Jun 20, 2019 added it
Shelves: 2019, lgbtq
i enjoyed this!

i rarely read memoirs, but i'm thinking that i won't be rating them since it's kind of hard to rate a real person's real experiences.

i will say this was a very personal memoir that highlighted the author's journey to self acceptance and discovery. eir were constantly growing and changing and i liked that the end of this graphic novel was kind of open ended, but satisfying.

i also think that despite the simple language used and minimal text, emotion was displayed very well and i fee
Mar 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The ARC of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

This graphic memoir is very well done and I truly believe that it might be helpful for a lot of people. Here the author explores eir gender identity and how e came to be and understand who e is today. It was nice seeing a nonbinary person represented and also learning about the e, em, eir pronouns.
The illustrations are very good and I also really appreciated how eir family was present throughout
Krista Regester
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
Perhaps one of the best ways to tell your story is through pictures. Gender Queer does a beautiful job of explaining thoughts that might seem indescribable to some. Maia completely captured me from the first word to the last.
Ashley Guillory
Nov 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A brilliant and raw exploration of identity and self. A much needed voice and perspective in the area of gender expression and discussion.
I received a copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

5 hundred stars

While reading this graphic novel, my most common thought was “holy shit”, usually paired with “that’s me!”. It was like the author reached into my brain to pluck out my thoughts, memories and experiences, and turned them into drawings. Only, of course, e was doing the same with eir own memories – which happened to be hauntingly similar to mine. I firmly believe that if I had read this book before I was 18, I woul
Emily K.
May 30, 2019 rated it it was ok
Someone at work recently stopped me in the hallway and said, "Em, I think you might enjoy this," and pulled a comic memoir out of an amazon bubblepack titled Gender Queer. I immediately stifled a cringe. As an out and (for better or worse) "visible" trans person, I'm often subjected to casual acquaintance's gender feels and queer adjacent pop cultural recommendations. But I like the person who suggested it so I told him I'd check it out even tho I don't really like comics. Part of me thinks that ...more
Nov 18, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: graphic-novels
I can’t imagine writing a book where I proudly talk about being super into pederasty and writing fanfiction around incest and also real people as part of my awesome gender journey but I’m also not a moneyed queer academic. Glad you work with “afabs” and not younger boys. Yikes.
Schizanthus Nerd
Jun 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Definitely rereading this ASAP!
“Will I ever feel like I’ve completely explained myself?”
Clem (the villain's quest)

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trigger warnings: body dysmorphia, misgendering

important graphic novel that should be in every school library.

rep: gender queer, non binary, asexual
Nov 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Wow. This book was amazing. Maia is so straightforward and raw as e describes eir childhood into early adulthood, and eir constant discomfort with being A.F.A.B. - assigned female at birth. But e doesn't really want to be a boy, either -- e just wants to be gender-free. And nothing in our culture really lets em, or anyone, be that way. The personal detail and unflinching honesty of Maia's journey is both really touching, and a little hard to read because some of it is so painful.

This book is a
Nov 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019, non-fiction, lgbtq
Wow wow wow.

I wish I had read this years ago, loved everything about it.
This was exactly what I needed today, and I'm so grateful it exists. I picked it up because of a bout of intense self doubt brought on by transphobia, and it was so relatable, affirming and validating. It helped me understand myself more than I was able to before. I especially loved how accurately this grasped the intersection between being asexual and being genderqueer, both identities I share. It left me extremely emotional and I'm going to make my family read it too, so they can hopefully und ...more
Jessica Woodbury
Nov 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
It has been a real joy to see more nonbinary authors sharing their stories and expanding our ideas about gender and trans identity this year. Kobabe's graphic memoir is so effective at explaining how eir experiences with gender from childhood through adulthood were complex and hard to pin down, a slow process of discovery. E also explores asexuality as well, which can further complicate both gender and sexual identity. We are still in the beginnings of having nonbinary people tell their own stor ...more
Julia Sapphire
This is a super important read and I'm really glad this exists. This is a memoir and follows Maia and their story of being non-binary and asexual. It follows their journey and discovering sexuality and gender.

I really enjoyed the art style of this and the minimal text. I thought this story was super insightful. It is totally a great read for everyone especially people who want to learn or do identify as enby or ace.

Some of the panels are more graphic and talk about masturbation and sex in gener
Jaina Bee
[Full disclosure: it would be impossible for me to have a completely unbiased opinion here, so take that as you will.]

I laughed my ass off, i cried my heart out, i cringed with horror, i learned something new ("WTF is a 'ship?'" this old queer wondered), i remembered what was important, i felt recognized and validated, i felt like going on a rampage of gender justice, i had an immediate urge to give a copy to everyone i encounter, i wanted to hoard every copy and burrow into the center of the h
Jordan Lombard
Title/Author/Artist: Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe
Series/Standalone: Standalone
Genre/sub-genre: Memoir
Book Format: Ebook graphic novel from Netgalley
Length: 240 pages
LGBTQ+ Orientation: Gender Queer/Nonbinary & Asexual
Violence: None
Well written/Editor Needed: Well written
Art/Illustrations: Well done
Would I Recommend?: YES
Personal thoughts: I LOVED this! Mostly because this is me! It’s like someone put me in a book! OMG! I wish there’d been a book like this when I was a kid because it would have
Bogi Takács
I felt this book spoke eloquently and skilfully of a kind of non-cis experience that is often held up as the default in nonbinary circles; the anglo-American, white, AFAB non-intersex person. It will probably be resonant to many people, but I hope it won't be held up as The one genderqueer book.

I was uncomfortable with the heavily white Anglo-American focus of the kind where someone only reads white American authors and manga/manhwa; and also with the fetishization of gay men in a fanfic context
This book was extremely informative. I was amazed at all of the information that I learned from Maia's experiences. The artwork was great and I liked that Maia was so open and candid about eir's experiences. There were things that I didn't know about gender identity that I was able to learn from this graphic novel. The reason why I made the decision to make it down to three stars is because the ending was extremely abrupt. I expected more than what was provided especially considering the circums ...more
TWs: gender dysphoria, sexual content, misgendering, genital discussion, gynecology exam

Rep: bi aspec genderqueer mc, several queer side characters (including nonbinary and lesbian)
Moi  Baltazar
“Some people are born in the mountains, while others are born by the sea. Some people are happy to live in the place they were born, while others must make a journey to reach the climate in which they can flourish and grow. Between the ocean and the mountains is a wild forest. That is where I want to make my home.”
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Maia Kobabe is a graduate of the Comics MFA program at California College of the Arts. Maia is the author/illustrator of GENDER QUEER: A MEMOIR (May 2019), winner of an Alex Award, Stonewall Book Award, nominated for an Ignatz Award and the Best Graphic Novels for Teens list from YALSA. Maia Kobabe is non-binary, queer and uses e/em/eir pronouns.

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“Some people are born in the mountains, while others are born by the sea. Some people are happy to live in the place they were born, while others must make a journey to reach the climate in which they can flourish and grow. Between the ocean and the mountains is a wild forest. That is where I want to make my home.” 31 likes
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