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Becoming the Parent You Want To Be

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Informative, inspiring, and enlightening, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be provides parents with the building blocks they need to discover their own parenting philosophy and develop effective parenting strategies.  Through in-depth information, practical suggestions, and many lively first-person stories, the authors address the many dilemmas and joys that the parent of y ...more
Paperback, 448 pages
Published February 3rd 1997 by Harmony
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Molly Westerman
I read this book as part of my research process for a writing project, and I started out mocking it--I mean, the self-help-y title invites mocking, right?, the cover and photos feel really dated, and the introductory sections are titled "The Parenting Journey" (ralph) and "Developing a Vision for Your Family" (eyeroll). But this is actually a really good book.

The authors assume very little about the reader's family structure. Its examples do not draw solely upon straight, married parenting coupl
Sep 18, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: All parents
Shelves: parenting
This "thinking outside the box" parenting book is less about child care and basics and more about dealing with your issues that affect the way you parent.

Topics within the book include
* developing a vision for your family- what are you really teaching your children?
*the dangers of praise and labeling
*anger while parenting
*emotional development of children
*helping your child deal with fear
*healthy relationship to food
*children's sexual exploration
*social play and development
*moving beyon
Gosh, writing a review for this feels so raw and weird. I just really, really love it and I read it at a moment when I desperately needed it, and I've come back to it a dozen times for guidance and support.

I love so much of what this book chooses to be: its calm tone, its unwavering commitment to being realistic (these strategies may not work for you, your baggage is going to affect your parenting, sometimes there's no way out of a tantrum, each kid is weird and unique and no one thing works all
SueAnn Eason
Feb 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone who interacts with young children
Recommended to SueAnn by: Michele McMath
This is one of the most helpful parenting books I have read. The book is fairly extensive; it goes well beyond discipline, feeding adn pooping. It looks at who youar e as a parent, who the family is, feelings, dvelopment and bahavior.

I have not read it cover to cover, and definately do not agree withe very single point in the book. But instead pick it up and read the parts I need. There is a fantastic section on alternatives to yelling. It also poses the question to mom and dad, "Why are you yel
May 14, 2009 rated it it was amazing
When Sophie turned three I smugly thought to myself, "terrible two's, what terrible two's ? That was a piece of cake!". Then the challenges REALLY began! My buttons have been pushed in ways I never imagined and I am challenged almost daily not to go to the dark side and repeat some of the mistakes my parents made. This book has been a lifeline for me. In addition to providing information about normal developmental stages and ways to cope with various challenges, it gives parents the opportunity ...more
Sep 09, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I am an avid parenting book reader. I received this before my son was born as a gift from one of the authors daughters. I have never been SO grateful for the gift of a book. The authors are frank and honest and offer an incredible range of parenting experience "stories". Excellent advice with a multitude of different possible approaches. Like going out to a cup of coffee and coming home refreshed and ready to be the best parent you can be... Which is a good enough parent.
Dec 27, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
A helpful, thorough and compassionate book that covers issues of the first 5 years of parenting. Loved it!
Oct 02, 2008 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this book and got a lot of useful information. I appreciate that the book comes from the perspective of respect for the child as a person. It did have a couple of areas that I felt gave the child too much power in the familial relationship, but the vast majority of the book gives good alternatives to the dominating, oppresive styles of many parenting books. It is a challenge to balance freedom for children with boundaries and discipline, and this book made me wonderfully concious of ho ...more
Jun 21, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I think this may be on my "currently-reading" shelf forever... it's such a great resource book and I find myself appreciating the easy reads of well-organized topics presented in a style very similar to Ann Keppler's groups... makes it comparatively easy to think about how I want to approach a multitude of specific situations~ for example, a few different ways to talk about sharing, most of which resonate with me (& I'm grateful to have a variety of approaches that I can imagine R responding ...more
Kate Turner
Jun 16, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
This book is more about identifying your family's values and following them than about parenting the author's way, and that's refreshing. I hate one-size-fits-all solutions to complex parenting problems. This book also contains great book recommendations for addressing all sorts of issues (siblings, potty training, diversity in families, fears) and a good section on how to make fun toys for toddlers out of stuff around the house.
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