The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
This book is about how we have relationships with our children, what gets in the way of a good connection and what can enhance it
The most influential relationships are between parents and children. Yet for so many families, these relationships go can wrong and it may be difficult to get back on track.
In The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will B...more
I feel like I understand the children in my life - and myself when I was a child - better after reading this. On the whole, society doesn't encourage us to see things from a child's point of view - we are quick to dismiss their feelings as "being silly" and so on. I will never do that again after re ...more
I often try to read books on parenting, more for insight really, but if I can take some tips from it - great! This relatively short book is broken into sections, each detailing how to engage with your child and approach various situations. I found it to be both interesting and practical, and I really appreciated Perry's approach of trying to understand things from your child's perspective before you act.
I particularly enjoyed the section on socialisation and the qualities children (and ...more
This is not a book providing quick fixes and solutions, but rather one which will increase your understanding of what yo ...more
I found myself muttering, "OK Boomer" at all the anecdata and groundless assertions. Seriously, there's a dramatized argument between a 60-year-old man and his 22-year-old son over a leather jacket that is the most Boomer-vs.-Gen Z thing ever. And o ...more
Philippa Perry uses the wisdom of many years as a psychotherapist, agony aunt, wife and mother to guide us through the frankly intimidating role of “parent”, with a focus on the early years. Her sage theories are interspersed with case studies from ...more
The book starts well with a section about your parenting legacy. This encourages the reader to unpack one's childhood experiences and traumas and see how they can affect one's parenting. I found this fascinating and it would be good to see this topic expanded into a full book.
The following chapters went downhill. Perry starts ...more
It's very well written and has quite a few examples on how to deal with certain situations, for example when your kid is throwing a tantrum, or how you can build trust, or how a parent should tackle difficult conversations/topics. This book challenged quite a few of my ...more
Firstly, it’s so easy to read, meaning difficult concepts are explained throughly and great examples used.
Secondly, good to read for all ages, pregnancy to adulthood.
Thirdly, great advice.
It does not matter whether you are expecting a child or not, Philippa Perry helps you to understand your own feelings and behaviours, which are so deeply rooted in the relationship with our parents. And why, eventually, we tend to copy the same behaviour with our own children.
This book shaped my point of view on how I want to behave not only as a parent but also as a ...more
The main takeaways, in my opinion, are
- When you get distressed about your child, look for triggers in your past. Does that situation resonate with your childhood? You need to open yourself up to someone (even yourself) about your childhood. Decide what you want to learn from your parents ...more