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An introvert spends a year trying to live like an extrovert with hilarious results and advice for readers along the way.

What would happen if a shy introvert lived like a gregarious extrovert for one year? If she knowingly and willingly put herself in perilous social situations that she’d normally avoid at all costs? Writer Jessica Pan intends to find out. With the help of
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Expected publication: May 28th 2019 by Andrews McMeel Publishing
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carol.
Apr 18, 2019 marked it as don-t-count
This sounds ghastly.
Jenny (Reading Envy)
I don't know if I'm an introvert. I know I'm perceived as an extrovert, so much so that when I moved into my current job, one of the librarians who would have to report to me sent me an article about how to care for introverts (ha!) But I have my own hill to climb to actually go out or show up. And I usually enjoy myself if I can hole up with a small group or one person (Gallup calls this the relator strength and doesn't bother with the E/I dichotomy.)

I enjoyed this book where Jessica Pan spent
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Kath Elizabeth
Apr 25, 2019 marked it as dnf
I didn't end up finishing this book, because it just started to make me anxious and uncomfortable. As an introvert myself, I could relate to a lot of what the author said. However I didn't like that she kept pushing herself to be more extroverted even though it made her very stressed and worried. I understand the concept of the book is an introvert saying yes to more things, but she pushed herself to do public speaking and was so anxious beforehand that she didn't sleep for weeks and was on the ...more
Genevieve Trono
May 08, 2019 marked it as to-read
I was totally intrigued when I saw the title of this book. I am a social introvert and I enjoyed this lighthearted but relatable non-fiction book that read like an engaging novel.

As a shy introvert frequently known as a "shintrovert", Jessica Pan decided to take a year to step out of her shell and enter the "extroverted world". After a family crisis in her family turned into a light bulb moment she realized she was lacking in the friend's department. She decided to take this time to focus on co
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Montzalee Wittmann
Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come
One Introvert's Year of Saying Yes
by Jessica Pan
This is a book I requested from NetGalley and the review is voluntary.
This is a witty and clever book that I enjoyed reading. I can say relate to some of it. It has humor and is a good feeling book. I did find she repeated herself a lot. Worth the read.
Rachel
*thank you to to Netgalley and Andrews McMeel Publishing for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review*

3 stars.

As an introvert I thought that this would be right up my alley. And to some degree it was. I could relate to certain parts of it but there was still alot that made me realise just how much of an introvert I am as I felt that the people in these short stories were more outgoing than I am, so for that reason there was alot that didn't interest me or that I could relate to. Stil
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Danielle Locklair
Apr 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Oh man I devoured this story from the very beginning!!! It was hilarious and very relatable! Highly recommend! I will be buying this in hard copy when it comes out.
Sara Tucker
May 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
As an introvert with occasionally crippling social anxiety, I regarded Jess Pan's book warily. I saw the cover online, laughed at the icing-on-the-cake image, and then gave the subtitle a little side-eye. An introvert… saying yes… for a whole year? Say it ain't so.

Alas, Pan pulled me in with enticing  hopes of being more extroverted without it costing me my sanity, and I'm very happy I gave this one a chance.

I'll start off by saying that motivational, inspirational books like  You Are a Badass:
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Jeannette
Apr 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Introverts and Extroverts who want to understand Introverts
Shelves: netgalley, reviewed
Upfront, I received a free copy of this book from Net Galley in exchange for possibly reviewing it.

I LOVED this book. I am an Introvert with a Myers-Briggs I. This book was on my TBR as soon as I saw the title. I'm not a shintrovert like the author. I have to pretend to be an extrovert for work, and it is exhausting! What's a shintrovert? Read the book. Still, I could relate to her story on so many levels. Oddly enough, I have also lived in Beijing and London. I know exactly the challenges she's
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Karen
Apr 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
As a fellow introvert, I can definitely relate to a lot of Jessica Pan's experiences and struggles. Pan had a goal of breaking out of her shell and enlisted the help and advice of some experts along the way. Her story is shared with lots of insight and plenty of humor. This book was a lot of fun to read and I learned a few things too. While I won't be signing up for stand-up classes anytime soon, I definitely could benefit from breaking out of my own shell a bit more often. Thanks, Jessica, for ...more
Michelle
May 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Jessica Pan is an introvert and it is extremely difficult for her to make friends. She bails on engagements, is terrible at small talk, and the only friend she really has his her husband Sam.

She decides to change all of this by going out into the world and researching the best ways to connect to people and gives herself a year to really make a change.

This books takes her from Improv to learning how to have a meaningful conversation with another person.

It’s lighthearted, funny, and a bit of a s
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Lavender Lazarus
May 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
I haven't finished a book this quickly for a while. I started and finished it within a day. The writing is conversational and reading it feels like you're hearing a friend talk. The book is grounded by cultural references that made me relate to the author a lot. I could feel the anxiety and the fears of doing all those extroverted things as an introvert, but the accounts also are very inspiring. Jessica doesn't sugarcoat the bad stuff, you get to see the embarrassing moments just as truthfully a ...more
Jennifer
May 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is the EXACTLY the book I needed.

I don't think I have ever written a book, but reading this one makes me think I have. I too am a 30 something, shy, introverted, small town Texas girl who has no idea how to have a conversation (that doesn't involve ghosts or dogs) or make friends. I'm not Chinese, Aries or named Jessica (Pan) but I would have been if my cousin hadn't been born first, forcing my Mom to "get creative" and name me Jennifer (Ann) instead. The title of this book caught my attent
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MP
Apr 23, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wanted to immediately give this book to several people as I was reading this laugh out loud memoir by a 30ish “shintrovert” (shy introvert) who decides to undertake a year long experiment being more like an extrovert. It was such a refreshing lesson on connecting with other humans face to face, even when it means having to deal with intimidating strangers in unfamiliar surroundings. Jessica Pan is an American transplant in England. Feeling friendless (aside from her husband), she subjects hers ...more
Madalina Negrea
Apr 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arcs
How far would you go in order to make friends (in a foreign country, in a busy city)?
Jessica Pan goes the whole nine yards, which is admirable. She challenges herself to overcome her natural shyness, to leave her comfort zone and live as an extrovert for a year. And she does it by the book: she sets her target, does research (sometimes on Google!), talks to specialists (not necessarily licensed, anyone with a vast experience should do!), puts the ideas in practice and then quantifies the results
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Megan Byrd
Apr 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019-books-read
A self-proclaimed "shintrovert" (shy introvert), Jessica is living in London with her husband and feeling lonely now that all of her good friends moved away. She decides to try to live more like an extrovert for a year to see if she can find new good friends. She tries things like talking to strangers, public speaking, an improv class, and hosting a dinner party.

I enjoyed hearing her research and experiences. Some of them made my heart rate increase as some of her activities are high in my avoi
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Amanda Taddey
Apr 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really liked this book! Jessica spends a year of her life doing things that scare her in hopes of breaking through her shyness. I was so impressed by the steps she took to make new friends and put herself out there. I found this book to be so relatable and was inspired by Jessica’s year of living like an extrovert.
She includes tips and lessons learned by her mentors along the way and I love that she invited all her new friends and acquaintances to a dinner party at the end of her year-long jo
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Heather Wood
Apr 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If the title of this book speaks to you, you absolutely need to get a copy! Pan tells her story of stepping out of her introvert shell with relatable and laugh out loud humor. While reading there were so many things that made me think, made me stop because I was laughing so hard, or made me say "Oh my goodness, me too!"!
Really looking forward to the audiobook version of this, I'll be snapping that up ASAP!

I recieved an ARC of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

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Susanne
May 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019, netgalley
Thank you to Andrews McMeel Publishing and NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I really enjoyed this book - Jessica Pan takes us into her world as a "shintrovert" (shy introvert) and what she experienced during a year of trying to live more like an extrovert. Her writing style is warm, witty and personable, and it's hard to believe that she really is introverted and shy. I am definitely more of an extrovert, and found hearing her side of the story very illuminating, in terms o
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Katinstockholm
May 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
A funny and charming account of how shy introvert Jessica Pan spent one year living as an extrovert. This is an easy read as Jessica has the ability to carry you along in her story. You feel as if you are there with her when she climbs on stage and attends networking events to get over her fears. As a fellow introvert (although maybe not to the same extent as Jessica), I really enjoyed learning the mechanics behind how she overcame her anxiety and worries.
Cate
Apr 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
This is a book that any introvert can relate to! I enjoyed the light hearted writing style. I'm not a big memoir or confessional reader but I picked this one up based on the premise. I'm an introvert and the idea of saying yes and faking extrovertism sounded so terrifying! I think this could have easily been a series of blog posts or a shorter book. But still a recommended read.

Disclaimer: I received this ARC from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Rachel Kapelke-Dale
Made me laugh so much! I loved the "mentors" along the way. Plus I loved the adventures in London, Paris, Edinburgh, and the forest. Funny, inspiring, brilliant.
Edna
Apr 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
n introvert spends a year trying to live like an extrovert with hilarious results and advice for readers along the way.

What would happen if a shy introvert lived like a gregarious extrovert for one year? If she knowingly and willingly put herself in perilous social situations that she’d normally avoid at all costs? Writer Jessica Pan intends to find out. With the help of various extrovert mentors, Jessica sets up a series of personal challenges (talk to strangers, perform stand-up comedy, host a
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Samantha
May 20, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-for-review
Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come follows shy introvert (or "shintrovert") Jessica Pan for one year as she seeks to make a lifestyle change. Realizing that she needs to make a serious adjustment while fully clothed in a sauna, Pan makes the decision to get out of her comfort zone by doing things she never thought she would do. Using humor and honesty Pan takes us on her one year journey of saying "yes" to all the experiences she never thought she would have.

I really wanted to enjoy this book
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Jen
May 19, 2019 rated it liked it
This is a tricky one to review, in that Jessica Pan's writing is quite good in an informal, chatty, magazine style and is clearly well researched - but I'm not really sure about the concept.

The synopsis is: "An introvert spends a year trying to live like an extrovert with hilarious results and advice for readers along the way..." In a time where we have had Susan Cain's book "Quiet", which Pan even makes reference to, it seems a shame that introverts still feel they need to try to be something
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Sharon Naylor Toris
May 19, 2019 rated it really liked it
Exactly what I hoped for in this book! If you're an introvert, you'll relate well to the habits and quirks of introverts ( and may take some comfort in knowing how common introversion is.) It's a formula that often works very well -- I'll spend a year doing x, and write a book about it -- and in this case it works well. This book also helped me understand the highly-introverted people in my life, as I added another layer of value to this book. This book deserves all the good buzz it's getting, a ...more
Bakertyl
May 20, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm an introvert who isn't shy... I can talk to strangers, public speak (I do it for my work), and host a party, it's just exhausting.  I wanted to see someone else's way of looking at the world, and Jessica Pan certainly delivered.

Shy people have always confused me.  I just can't find the give-a-damn inside me to care what a stranger thinks about me.  I don't judge shy people negatively, I know there are things about my personality that they wouldn't understand.  Pan does an admirable job of pu
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Eva
May 21, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was a charming, hilarious, poignant book. It picked me from the title because it's definitely me.

The writer is a shintrovert who finds herself in an unhappy place (cold London, all friends abroad, lonely) and decides to go through a year of extroverting.

If you ever dreaded your birthday party so much you told friends and family only the day before, or every time you had to talk to a group of people, or generally be the centre of attention, then you'll relate so much you'd think you might ha
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Ferien_uk
This book details the author’s attempts to expand her horizons by spending a year doing extroverted activities such as networking, public speaking, hosting a dinner party. I really enjoyed this book from the start as I warmed to the author immediately.

I liked that it focused mainly on personal connections rather than professional ones. The author mentions Quiet by Susan Cain which is a book I read for the second time this year. The second time reading, I felt that Quiet talked a lot about work
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Pam
May 18, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As a fellow introvert, and completely understanding where she comes from, I have to say I truly enjoyed this book. Not only was I was amazed at how many things Jessica tried during this experimental year, but I am also inspired! I laughed, I shook my head, I got a little teary towards the end. Although I liked this book a lot, there were times when it seemed to drag along. Overall this was a fun read and I'm glad I had the opportunity to read it. Thank you to NetGalley and Andrews McMeel Publish ...more
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Half-Chinese American living in London. Graduate of Brown University. Big fan of dogs, coconut smoothies and traveling.

My second book, SORRY I'M LATE, I DIDN'T WANT TO COME is out in May 2019.

It's about the year I spent: talking to strangers, performing stand-up comedy, travelling solo, trying out improv, going on friend dates and doing a bunch of extrovert-y things. I interview brilliant people
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