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I Wish You All the Best

(I Wish You All the Best #1)

4.19  ·  Rating details ·  24,272 ratings  ·  4,769 reviews
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When Ben De Backer comes out to their parents as nonbinary, they're thrown out of their house and forced to move in with their estranged older sister, Hannah, and her husband, Thomas, whom Ben has never even met. Struggling with an anxiety disorder compounded by their parents' rejection, they come out only to H
Hardcover, 329 pages
Published May 14th 2019 by Push
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chai ♡
The beginning of I Wish You All the Best jarred me. It kicked up a riot of emotions; each word a lash, wrenching out your breath and dealing blows to your insides. Benjamin De Backer, buoyant with hopes of swift acceptance, is planning on coming out as non-binary to their parents. The reader is spared the immediate fallout—but the imagination conjures up enough horrors. What we see is Benjamin’s life as if held aloft by their own hand, and in an instant, it spun away from them. Benjamin, barefoo ...more
Nov 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: owned, important, queer
"Don't ignore the problems. Learn from them. But also don't knock what you get right. Every success deserves a celebration."

Oh the feeling of mile-high expectations actually being fulfilled: pure bliss. I have waited so long for this book to be released and it checks every single box. A wonderful, emotional, important and romantic read.

I Wish You All the Best tells the story of Ben, who is nonbinary, who uses they & them pronouns, who, after coming out to their parents, is kicked out of the hous
Alice Oseman
A soft, sweet, and incredibly important story about a non-binary teen finding their voice. This book is going to be so important to so many people.
Miranda Reads
May 19, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Miranda by: Jana Jones griner
Shelves: audiobook

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I don't know whether to cry or scream or do both. It feels like I've done more than enough of both. And it feels like I haven't done enough.
Ben De Backer after much debating and worrying comes out to their parents as nonbinary.
Bodies are fucking weird, especially wh
Jan 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
this was a powerful read about identity, complex family issues and more. i loved it so much. it was pretty hard for me to read since it was a little triggering (the anxiety and depression rep is so accurate) so i had to read it slowly, but this story means a lot to me and i know it means a lot to so many others too, especially non-binary teens. i highly recommend it!

cw: anxiety, depression, child abuse, misgendering, homophobia
Cece (ProblemsOfaBookNerd)
I am finally going to be able to read Mason’s book. CAN YOU BELIEVE??!

Update after reading - December 3rd, 2018
This book has not been undersold in the least. It is heartfelt, loving, difficult, and wonderful in every way. Becky’s blurb isn’t lying - it is indeed quietly groundbreaking and will, without a doubt, save lives. Prepare yourselves for an incredible, beautiful debut in 2019, friends.
Chelsea (chelseadolling reads)
May 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was suUuUuUuUuch a great read. I learned so much and also just fell head over heels for these characters. What an important book!

TW: misgendering, homophobia, anxiety, depression
Virginia Ronan ♥ Herondale ♥
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”If you're queer, your life has the potential to become one long coming-out moment. If I ever want to be called the right pronouns, I'll have to correct people and put myself out there first and who knows what could happen.”

When I first heard about “I Wish You All the Best” it was August 2019 and I desperately wanted to get my fingers on a copy. Unfortunately at first the book was only sold as an expensive hardcover on Amazon and considering the fact that I don’t have all
✨    jami   ✨
"whatever happens, I wish you all the best, Ben De Backer

THIS WAS EVERYTHING. This is such a groundbreaking YA book following a non-binary teen that is genuinely going to change lives. It was sadder than I expected, with more of a family focus rather than romance, but I really loved what it was doing and how it covered so much in such a short time.

Ben was a great main character, I liked that their reactions seemed realistic for the situation, and I felt they were a character that 'existed'
C.G. Drews
Jun 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Am so here for books that quietly open the door to my heart and then yell "I'M NEVER LEAVINGGGG". Because yes. This book. Yes. It was so heartfelt and vulnerable, with characters I quickly decided I'd die for (I am nothing if not lowkey, obviously) and so many scenes that made me want to cry (in the best possible way).

I just...I sincerely think everyone should read this, ok? Like I say that for so many books, but not only am I internally screaming because I just love it as a book and story, but
Larry H
May 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Yes, yes, YES. I loved this book so much!

Ben De Backer has finally decided it's time they come out to their parents as nonbinary. While Ben knows their parents, particularly their father, are difficult and have strong religious beliefs, in the end Ben thinks that their parents should be okay with their coming out. Ben is their child after all, right?

Ben couldn't have been more wrong. Their parents kick Ben out of the house and with nowhere to turn, not even shoes on their feet, Ben turns to thei
Kayla Dawn
I initially rated this 4 stars but after reading a few reviews I changed my mind..

I enjoyed the overall story a lot but the side characters were all incredibly boring and have little to no personality (except for Mariam but even they didn't really get much. Whenever Ben talked to them it was always about Ben's problems. From what we got to see it felt like a pretty one-sided friendship to me tbh)
This book is important. This is the first book I've ever read with a non-binary main character and even better that it's written by a non-binary author. I learned so much from this book about what it means to identify as non-binary and I am very happy I read this, and I am so happy this book was published because I feel like a lot of people will relate to this book and find comfort in this book. As for my personal reading taste though, I thought this story was okay.

This story follows Ben who com
April (Aprilius Maximus)
Jun 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favourites, anxiety, 2019
1.) I Wish You All The Best ★★★★★
1.5.) I'll Be Home For Christmas ★★★★


"Sometimes the world is too loud."

I loved this book so, so, so, so, SO much. Knowing this book will mean so much to non-binary folks (teens especially!) fills my heart with so much happiness. Thank you for this beautiful story, Mason! <3
May 26, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
“Be sad, hell, sit in bed all weekend and just watch Netflix. I’ve had those times too. But don’t stop living your life for them.”

This may not seem much compared to the many other heartwarming things in this book but I cannot really emphasize enough how much these particular lines meant to me. I read I Wish You All The Best at a time where I wasn't exactly at my best and these words - just how mental health was tackled here - I really needed to hear read those words. While I do not s
Nathan is such a sweetheart. ♡
Tyler J Gray

Honestly words will not be able to describe how much I love this book and how important it is. Why is it 4.5 instead of 5 then? Small quibbles. A couple things I wish were a bit more fleshed out (but I didn't dislike at all, just wanted more) and some "you know you are 18...right?" moments.

Also something that is very much a me thing in that I got sad at parts that shouldn't have been sad. Because I am non-binary but I am also disabled and can not live on my own because of physical disabilit
Jun 12, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019
I feel like it’s really important for me to address my issues in an actual review because of /how much/ I wanted to love this book.

The own voices representation for a nonbinary main character is SO! IMPORTANT! and this book definitely deserves praise for that alone, because this is what the world needs. My issues are NOT with the representation or the ways in which Ben deals with their identity or coming to terms with that & the impact on their relationships. I’m not trying to invalidate any of
Tucker  (TuckerTheReader)
Jun 12, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Tucker by: Miranda Reads
"'Whatever happens'—his grip tightens a little—'I wish you all the best, Benjamin De Backer.' He says it with a smile. 'You deserve it.'"

I actually almost DNF-ed this book because it was not just pulling on my heartstrings... It was knitting them into a sweater of pain, tears, and bright hope.

So, what's this book about?
When Ben De Backer comes out to their parents as nonbinary, they're thrown out of their house and forced to move in with their estranged older sister, Hannah, and
Apr 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favourites
The ARC of this book was provided by Scholastic via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review.

Full review here

I think this book is going to mean so much for so many people.
First of all, I think it's important to say that this book is own voices so the author surely knows what they are talking about.
This book tells the story of Ben, a teenager who identifies as non-binary. After coming out to their parents Ben is kicked out of their home. Thankfully their sister Hannah takes them in and help
Jananie (thisstoryaintover)
May 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: books-i-own
THIS WAS SO WHOLESOME OMG. such good non-binary rep, but also a super cute romance and a really emotional family story
kav (xreadingsolacex)
disclaimer: i received an ARC in exchange for an honest review, this in no way impacted my review.

trigger warnings: rejection from parents after coming out (challenged), panic attacks

Finally, after my third time reading this brilliant gift to the young-adult world, I can share my review of I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver.

I Wish You All the Best is a young-adult contemporary about Ben De Backer, a non-binary teen who is thrown out of their house after coming out to their parents,
Sara ➽ Ink Is My Sword
The representation in this book makes my soul so warm. 💗
I am dating a non-binary person and seeing this book made them so happy.
Olivia (Stories For Coffee)
What a lovely, quick contemporary exploring so many different aspects of a teenager’s life when their world is constantly changing. Ben is such a sweetheart who deserves the world, and Nathan is one of the kindest love interests I’ve ever read about. I’m so proud of Mason for writing this book after being friends with them online for so many years and seeing how hard they worked to create this story.

This is going to give so much hope to other nonbinary teens, and I wish them all the best in the
4.5 stars.

I LOVED this. Great representation, pacing, and I haven't shipped two people together in such a long time!

This is 4.5 for me though because for some reason, while the writing is great, I felt myself not feeling as emotionally attached to the characters as I'd like to be, but I'm positive that the very minor problem will fixed in Mason's second novel.

This is SUCH an important novel (it being the first own voices non-binary experience I've ever read), and Deaver will soon be an even bigg
Jun 01, 2021 rated it really liked it
this book is so heartwarming and amazing. it is about a nonbinary teen named ben who is trying to figure themselves out after their parents kick them out for being nonbinary. they have to move in with their sister who they haven’t talked to in years and attend a new school, where they meet nathan who is just a great character. i really liked him too.

this is a great book that discusses important topics like coming out, acceptance, and found families. the romance was just the cherry on top of thi
Fadwa (Word Wonders)
I read this one twice already and i can tell y'all it's a game changer.

Get on it !!!!!
This book was... wow. I don't even have words for this book. It was fantastic. It was beautiful and heartbreaking and so so so important. I cannot recommend it enough. ...more
h o l l i s
I'm leaving this one unrated because I honestly don't know what to give it. In so many ways it's such an important and relevant read and I'm so happy this'll be out in the world soon and that people will see themselves in it or identify with aspects of the journey described within. But at the same time.. it's not happy, it's often hard, and it's far from your typical fluffy YA -- which, to be fair, was something I knew going into this so I'm not throwing shade or anything; and not that I need al ...more
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Born and raised in a small North Carolina town, Mason Deaver is an award-winning, bestselling author and designer living in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Besides writing, they’re an active fan of horror movies and video games. As you can see from the photo above, they’re a big fan of plants as well.

I Wish You All the Best is their first novel, and their second novel The Ghosts We Keep is expected in

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