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Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

4.30  ·  Rating details ·  14,468 ratings  ·  1,685 reviews
The highly anticipated first book by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, the voices behind the #1 hit podcast My Favorite Murder!

Sharing never-before-heard stories ranging from their struggles with depression, eating disorders, and addiction, Karen and Georgia irreverently recount their biggest mistakes and deepest fears, reflecting on the formative life events that sha
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published May 28th 2019 by Forge Books
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Alysha Listening to the podcasts or the audio book a second time is always great.

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Caroline Vericker
I will always be a little bit heartbroken, I think, that I don't get to actually be best friends with Karen and Georgia
Brandon Forsyth
Feb 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Here’s what you do. You make a thousand signs.

You put them up on street corners and community bulletin boards. You hang them from ornate balconies and make them look like the flag of a new country. Drag them behind planes and make them circle the cities of the world like you’re announcing a new global superpower. You turn the signs into clothing like those weird toilet paper ads.

Donna Backshall
I know I'm in the minority, but Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide didn't resonate with me.

I much prefer the podcasts, with discussions of true crime and impromptu jokes and antics. Not that their how-I-got-here stories weren't interesting, it's more that they simply weren't what I wanted from this comedic duo. It seemed like they were trying to get real, but I could have done without the feel of the written, almost bloggy stories.

Oh well. I couldn't relate even th
pre-read 8/14/18: I've deeply suspected and profoundly hoped that this (no doubt) beautiful ode to true crime, anxiety, and the freedom of how to stop worrying and learning to love your weird self would happen. I was so very pleased—and proud with absolutely no foundation—to hear them announce the publication date. I will be stalking all the sites for an ARC as well as pre-ordering.

Yay murderinos!
Natasha Niezgoda
A MUST READ FOR ALL - 5 “I really needed to hear that” stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ for Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered!


Words cannot describe how perfectly pertinent this book was to my present life. And if I can get real with you, it’s kinda like walking into a deeply personal therapy session. And I know the word “therapy” is weird and scary and defeating, but it shouldn’t be. I’ve gone. For 6 years in fact. And it changed my life. And this book makes you realize that life is messy and hard and you need an a
Janelle • She Reads with Cats
I was fortunate enough to receive a partial early copy from Forge. I loved every single page I read and cried at the end. It’s that good. Full review to come.
Jun 02, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, humor
Hate to say this but... I didn't really enjoy this book. I have listened to K&G's podcast for a couple of years now and love it, but I didn't feel like their speaking voices translated well to writing. Unfortunately, that really is how this book was written; it's very informal and sounds like something you would read on a blog, not in a book. I know that many people do enjoy that type of writing style (which is fine), but it's not my cup of tea. One other disappointing thing about the writin ...more
Elyse Walters
Jun 04, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Audiobook.... read by Karen
Kilgariff, Georgia Hardstark, and Paul Giamatti.

Parts were recorded in front of a live audience. The energy from the people in the room during the ‘live’ sections were explosive... adding a contagious - “I HEAR YA” & “WOMEN ROCK”, energy.

I enjoyed these women... and their life stories about being young- scared - insecure with themselves - confused- depressed - and dealings with anxiety.

If Karen heard her parents fighting or felt the stress from their divorce she
Jan 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
It doesn't matter if you fail. Your trying is what sets the tone for your whole life story. Think of everything you do as being chapters in your future autobiographical self-help book about murder. Your “career” is just another word to help you categorize your journey through life. Why not start brave and bold and believing in yourself?

I'll begin by saying that I'm not a “Murderino”, but my daughter is and we've listened to a few episodes of the My Favorite Murder podcast together; I know who
Jun 15, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
3.5 stars
I know I'm in the minority of readers who didn't absolutely love this book, but it just wasn't quite what I hoped it would be. I heard great things and and was excited to read it, and though it's entertaining, it wasn't as engaging as I hoped it would be. I found the authors to be a little irritating, even as I wasn't left unaffected by their stories and what they went through. Obviously, this is a personal thing and many other readers will feel quite differently and really enjoy. If yo
Feb 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
OK I WAS NOT READY—don’t misunderstand me; being a listener who frequently back tracks the podcast to hear Karen wake me up to my “sweet angel baby-ness” or Georgia amping me up to assert my own Riot Grrrl Courage, I was puuuuumped for this to come out (and lucky enough to snag an ARC). But less than 12 hours later, I’m ready to read it again... too soon? SSDGM!!!!!!
Jun 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
I HIGHLY recommend you listen to the audiobook version of this book because it is narrated by the writers and you'll miss a lot of the emotion in the words if you don't hear them tell it. I also suggest that you only pick it up only if you are a fan of the My Favorite Murder podcast - otherwise you might not get what it is all about and you'll probably be very disappointed and will be left scratching your head at the title. It's not a guidebook instructing you how to "Stay Sexy & Don't Murde ...more
Caidyn (SEMI-HIATUS; BW Reviews; he/him/his)
Definitely five stars with the audiobook. So, read it with the audiobook!!


I love MFM. I'm a solid murderino and always will be one thanks to them giving a name for us. And, I really loved this book and how candidly they discussed things that they have mentioned in passing. Reading Karen's part in chapter one about her mom about killed me because I kept thinking about my sister who passed away in April this year.

Still, it wasn't perfect. I think that this will really shine as an audiobook --
Jenna | JennaStopReading
I still can’t believe I managed to get my grimy little hands on a partial ARC of this book, but I am SO glad I did. I can’t wait to read the rest when it comes out in May.

As always, Karen and Georgia are authentic, hilarious, straight forward and passionate. This book reads very similarly to the way they speak in their podcast, but does a deeper dive on who they are as people and the events that made them the way they are.

I don’t cry much, but I found myself getting choked up as Karen describe
Feb 18, 2019 marked it as not-released-tbr  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: reviewed
O MG! I was just listening to My Favorite Murder in my MRI. I'm so excited!
Jan 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019, audio
I cannot wait to listen to the audiobook (and buy a finished copies because they weren't many pictures).

I've always been a true crime fan, but I kept it on the down low so as not to creep people out. Finding My Favorite Murder podcast was a revelation.

In their book, Karen and Georgia open up even more about their lives and their murderino ways. It's so them and so funny and familar that it feels like Karen and Georgia's first lunch together- where you grab food with a new friend and find out yo
SSDGM Cross Stitch by Papercranestitches

My copy of Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide has shipped and waiting for it to arrive is liking being a kid on Christmas Eve (but with more swearing).

Check back for a full review soon and, of course, SSDGM! :)

SSDGM Cross Stitch by Papercranestitches
Leah Nadeau
This book was like listening to Ellen DeGeneres or watching a stand up comedian give good life advice.
It was like chit chatting with a best friend; deep, insightful, meaningful, and honest.
It was enjoyable and filled with little stories of their lives.
It wasn't like I was writing down a bunch of things to remember though.

Advice nuggets:
fuck politeness
go pro on therapy, don't go only when you are in dire need, everyone should go
Feb 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, 2019, arc
This book is exactly what I expected it to be. I’m unsure how “Skippers” will feel because there’s a reason this is shelved as Biography and not True Crime. There is mention of murders, but the essays focus on Karen and Georgia’s childhood and struggles with mental health and addiction and how grateful they are for the community MFM has become. I enjoyed Georgia’s writing more than Karen’s, which I found surprising because I enjoy Karen more on the MFM podcast. Any MFM fan will be thrilled to ge ...more
Feb 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This one gave me all the feelings. I laughed. I cried. I feel like Karen and Georgia are my best friends who are also award-winning psychologists with senses of humour of the entire cast of SCTV combined. I'm so glad they wrote this... It's the memoir/humour/self-help book of my dreams. And you really should read it. SSDGM
Mar 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ok.... I LOVED this book SO much. I laughed, I shed a tear or two and not to sound CORNY but Georgia and Karen's anecdotes came at exactly the right time. Sooooooo good. I was lucky enough to read an ARC but I'm excited to buy this when it comes out because it is definitely worthy of a re-read
Like so many others, I'm a fan of the MFM podcast, and even took my daughters to see them live. I had middle-of-the-road expectations for this book and it absolutely exceeded every one. Both are great writers, which isn't much of a surprise for Karen, as she's made a living as a writer for years, but the strength and salience of Georgia's prose surprised me. I don't mean that as a backhanded compliment--I expected it to be fine and, let's be honest, most celebrity memoirs utilize ghost writers ( ...more
May 31, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks
Stay sexy and dont get murdered 3.5⭐
Im actually not a fan of the podcast but i really enjoyed the book. I listened to the book and I liked Georgias chapters more than Karen at times. But Karens also felt like a comdey special so i felt split murder and comedy but i liked it. They each give words of how to survive life and still look good while doing it. It was funny but also completely serious.
Lauren Hopkins
May 29, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Unlike probably every other MFM fan, I wasn't super excited for this book because I've read a looooot of celeb essay memoir books and they're mostly scattered, disjointed, and rushed, which makes them kinda funny or interesting at parts, but not meaty or overwhelmingly enjoyable at the highest level. I don't want to read a whole book just for "kinda good sometimes," and I've learned not to get my hopes up about books like these, especially when the book is going to be a joint production like thi ...more
Livia Linhares Miller

I have a love/hate relationship with these girls. I love their podcast and normally enjoy listening to them, I love how casual the whole thing feels and I think they’re intelligent and hilarious.

but, I must say: I hate how problematic, eye-rolling, cringeworthy and privileged some of their comments are.

with that being said, I wanted to love this book SO BAD. but did I? no, I did not. I somewhat liked it, at best.

I enjoyed some of the chapters (and shed a tear when Karen described her ex
Jun 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019, memoir
This is basically an extended version of a podcast episode. And I loooooved it! Specifically the front half of their episodes where they talk about mental health, their pasts, and everything else that people tend to hide about themselves.

The chapter titles are inside jokes for everyone who's been listening to mfm from the beginning. If you don't recognize them from their origin story, you've definitely seen them on some of their merch.

I would 100% recommend listening to the audiobook bc (if you
Jun 07, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I expected this to be more memoir than self-help book, but it ended up being 50-50. I actually liked that a lot. I listen to the audiobook, and it felt like one long, glorious podcast episode where I got to hang out with Karen and Georgia more than normal. This is a must read for Murderinos and had some very heartfelt stories that would entertain and touch a non-Murderino, too.
I first heard of the MY FAVORITE MURDER podcast in early 2017. It was kind of an emotionally difficult time in my life; I was feeling stagnant at the job I was at, I was feeling anxious about the future, and my aunt was dying of cancer. One of my dear friends randomly asked me if I had heard of the podcast, as like her I am a HUGE true crime junkie. I hadn't, but decided to give it a go while on the plane out to spend time with my aunt/help my other family members work out some things regarding ...more
Hi there, fellow Murderino talking. Show of hands, who loved this book? Good, so it wasn't just me. Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide is probably not what most people expected it to be. Sure, at first I thought it was a book discussing their favorite murders and how they became obsessed with it and all those fun things they talk about in the podcast. And for the most part, yest it is like the podcast- but it's more like that first 30 minutes where they talk about li ...more
May 30, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark are the hosts of the part-humor-part-true-crime podcast My Favorite Murder. Their podcast is a regular accompaniment to my commute and has made D.C. traffic infinitely more bearable since I've become a regular listener. And now, much to my delight, they've written a book.

This book is a real reflection of the podcast and community Karen and Georgia have built together, each chapter is framed by one of the iconic quotes that sprouted from the podcast and two e
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Known for her biting wit and musical prowess, Karen Kilgariff has been a staple in the comedy world for decades. As a performer, she has appeared on Mr. Show, The Book Group and Conan. She was the head writer for the first five years of The Ellen DeGeneres Show, then transitioned to scripted, writing for shows like Other Space, Portlandia, and Baskets. Her musical comedy album Live At The Bootleg ...more
“Politeness doesn’t require actual humanity. It’s just cultural ritual...
Politeness is fancy curtains in your front window. Kindness is the home-cooked meal on your dinner table.”
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