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How to Make Friends with the Dark

4.14  ·  Rating details ·  7,976 ratings  ·  1,530 reviews
Here is what happens when your mother dies.

It’s the brightest day of summer and it’s dark outside. It’s dark in your house, dark in your room, and dark in your heart. You feel like the darkness is going to split you apart.

That’s how it feels for Tiger. It’s always been Tiger and her mother against the world. Then, on a day like any other, Tiger’s mother dies. And now it’s
Hardcover, 421 pages
Published April 9th 2019 by Delacorte Press
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Jan 17, 2020 rated it really liked it
i cried. this was beautiful. one of the best books about grief i’ve ever read. highly recommend.
Nilufer Ozmekik
Apr 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Darkest, full of grief and heartbreaking five stars!
There are too many scary things outside world. You may loose your loved ones, you can hurt yourself in several ways. You can lose your possessions, your social circles, your carrier or your dignity, patience, reputation.
But the scariest thing in life is loosing your inner light , turn it off forever and surrender to the dark!
This book is really pessimistic, depressing, heart wrenching! Too many times I thought to stop reading but I pushed my
Melissa ♥ Dog/Wolf Lover ♥ Martin

this book
is for the grievers
this book
is for the left behind
this book
is for every broken heart
searching for a home

Kathleen Glasgow

This book broke my damn heart! That’s all! The end!

Mel 🖤🐶🐺🐾

Tucker  (TuckerTheReader)

Many thanks to Delacorte Books for sending me a copy in exchange for an honest review

I got to meet Kathleen at the National Book Festival!!

Oh my god. I don't think I have EVER read a book better than this one. It made me giggle. It made me cry. This is a book that everyone needs to read. And then read again. And again.

This book but me with a tsunami of emotions. Stronger than anything a book has ever made me feel in a while.

Grief is a very hard thing to put on to paper. I mean having
Kathleen Glasgow
Jul 25, 2018 added it  ·  (Review from the author)
This book is now a thing! It's about a girl named Tiger Tolliver who has to learn how to live with loss. It's about learning what family means. What it means to take care of someone and let yourself be cared for. Feel free to ask me questions about it and I'll do my best to answer. ...more
jaime ⭐️
Jun 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
times i cried during this book: six
times i texted my mum and my dad to tell them i love them while reading parts of this book: countless
Irena BookDustMagic
Sep 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
Going into How to Make Friends with the Dark I knew I was dealing with heart hitting, emotional prose that will leave me feel low, but nothing prepared me for the amount of emotions I feltl.
This book was heart wrenching in all it means!

I picked this book during a readathon, which was a HUGE mistake. You see, because so many bad things happened to our main character Tiger, it was really hard for me to speed through the story.
So I failed the readathon, but I got so much from this novel, that I’m n
Feb 04, 2021 rated it really liked it
Heartbreaking but beautiful. I felt like I went on a journey reading this book. It made me smile but more often it made me cry. It was such an honest depiction of grief and several individuals journey as they are forced to navigate it.
Jenny Jo Weir
Jul 02, 2020 rated it really liked it
This one was difficult. It's sad, and real, and a bit tragic. I liked the unexpected events of the after effects and the unraveling of life in this novel. It's not one I'll be forgetting any time soon. ...more
Julie Zantopoulos
Nov 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Review to come but Trigger Warnings for self harm, alcohol abuse, grief, loss of a parent, loss of a sibling, loss of a loved on by suicide, loss of a loved one via health (cancer etc), loss of a loved one via accident (car), driving under the influence, discussion of extreme domestic violence (parent on child and boyfriend on girlfriend), emotional abuse, alcoholism, imprisonment of a parent, child neglect, eating disorder rep (is not eating to the point of self harm due to grief)... it’s a dif ...more
Faith M ✨
I received this eARC from Delacorte Press via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of this book in any way. All quotes are taken from the uncorrected proof and are subject to change.

You have always been lonely and you have never admitted it.

Obligatory Summary

Tiger Tolliver's mother just died and her whole life has been turned upside down. Traded from foster home to foster home, from strangers to family and back again, she mourns her mother. There is no
♛ may
i really loved the first half of this book and its portrayal of grief and trauma. tiger's home and school life felt so authentic and made me want to sob 43241 times

but the second half (view spoiler) was,,,,,,,,boring IM SORRY

i was more detached from the characters and found it tiring to keep reading (y'all the book is 400 pages and if i aint entertained for 400 pages, it isnt going to work well) everything felt very repetitive and the charac
Jan 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Another powerful and masterpiece by Glasgow, How To Make Friends With The Dark is a very stunning book, the story will be pinned in my head for a while because it has such an interesting and curated writings!
We all have ups and downs and I would nothing recommend you to read more than this beautiful and powerful book, Kathleen once again teaches us how to save us in our worst moments, she really reminds us that after lots of hurricanes will come a rainbow that can stuck for a while.
After surviv
Aj the Ravenous Reader
Apr 11, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Aj the Ravenous Reader by: Mina
“Who would ever guess that it isn’t your bones or your blood or your heart that keeps everything humming along inside you, it’s your freaking mom, and when she’s dead, it all disappears.”

Boy, I can't keep count of the number of times I forced these heavy lumps in my throat. Those thoughts about losing your mom, your life anchor at an early age of 16, and the harsh realities of the endless suffering of children without parents for awful reasons such as death, abuse, addiction, etc. make me
Nov 21, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-reads
“you are carrying so many heavy feelings. there just isn’t enough room for them all.”

going into this book, i had absolutely no idea what it was about. the only thing i knew was that it was going to be a sad contemporary, and that it was indeed. since i barely heard anyone talk about the novel either, i also pretty much had no expectations and that was ideal, to be quite honest. i feel like if how to make friends with the dark had been praised by everyone i watch on booktube and everyone whose
Nenia ✨ I yeet my books back and forth ✨ Campbell
2005 emo me is sCREAMING at that title

I need this
Apr 10, 2019 rated it really liked it
Grief is extremely personal. No two people experience and process their grief in the same way. Kathleen Glasgow's novel How to Make Friends with the Dark beautifully explores the complexity, the isolation, the raw pain you feel when someone you love dies.

What's it about?
Tiger's mother may be overprotective, but it has always been Tiger and her mother against the world.

On a day like any other, after harsh words you can't take back are exchanged, Tiger's mother unexpectedly dies. And now Tiger is
Apr 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book tore at my emotions the whole time and broke my heart many times. I can't pick one that stands out more than the others.

It reminded me of when I was grieving for my furbabies Tasha and Lilly, my bird Woody, Grandma, and Pop Pop. I kept thinking I was feeling this.. I experienced that! She gets it!

Not to compare my experiences to anyone else's, just to let you in to my thought process.

Some things in the end chapters had me almost outright bawling in the breakroom and smiling a little
Emma's Reading Corner
{4.5 ⭐️}

this book broke me. i highly recommend this!!
Dec 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
In this raw, powerful and heartbreaking meditation on loss and grief, Glasgow writes with unflinching beauty. We meet Tiger Tolliver at her most broken--at her darkest moment--and yet, somehow, How To Make Friends With the Dark teaches us how to let the light in. Read this book. It's gorgeous. ...more
Obelina Wang
Feb 21, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: my-collection
“I’ll never see her crescent moon superhero mark again. It seems wrong to put her in a box and shove her underground and walk away. She made jams and jellies and grew irises and sunflowers and told me about periods and breasts and bras and how to properly wash my face and she brushed my hair…”

My grandmother had a garden full of plants, a house filled with fishes and turtles and she loved hosting. She had a life filled with adventures and plenty of people who adored her. She cooked all types of f
Sep 18, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: book-club
Tuesdays with Morrie made me sob like a baby...How to Make Friends with the Dark did not. In fact, it left me feeling a smidge ambivalent.

Please don't misunderstand. This was a good story. The writing was fantastic, the characters were insightful and brimming with depth, and the theme was topical and on point. Something about it though, felt plastic? generic? empty? I'm not entirely sure I can pinpoint why I felt this way, I just did. I realize every person experiences grief differently, but
Liz Lawson
Oct 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I finished reading How To Make Friends With the Dark over the weekend and you guys - it is STUNNING. It's one of the most beautiful books I've read in a long time - it's a book about grief and love and trying to keep yourself together when your whole world is falling apart. This is going to be such an important book to so many people. Kathleen Glasgow is a true treasure. Could not recommended more. ...more
Chelsey (a_novel_idea11)
Oct 01, 2020 rated it really liked it
Tiger Tolliver is a fairly typical, sixteen year old girl, trying to find her way in the world. She's looking forward to her first school dance, enjoying her first kiss with her first crush, and wishing her mother would finally give her some autonomy. And it's those wishes that drive Tiger to attack her mother when she finds out she's purchased her a matronly dress for the dress. It's those wishes that motivate Tiger to tell her mom to 'just leave her alone!' And it's those wishes, that make tha ...more
Do you only realize how many broken lives are around you when you have a broken life of your own?
Jan 13, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favourites
utter pain and sadness. this is the only book that has made me cry whilst reading. all i want to do is hug my parents and never let go
Jun 20, 2021 rated it really liked it
This book is so heartbreaking but beautiful and there are so many important messages throughout the entire novel. I highly recommend, but do look up trigger warnings because the content is quite heavy.
PinkAmy loves books, cats and naps
Every once in a while, I read a book that feels so profound I don’t think I can do it justice in a review. Kathleen Glasgow’s debut GIRL IN PIECES was one of those books. Glasgow’s sophomore efforts HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE DARK is just as special.

Tiger AKA Grace and her mother June live an isolated life. With few friends other than BFF Cake, Tiger lives an isolated life. Then, after an argument, June dies and Tiger must navigate life without her mother and in the foster care system.

Jan 31, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-releases
I’m not crying, my eyes are just sweating ;-;
❀ Rose ❀
Jan 17, 2021 rated it really liked it
🔹 Overall feelings:
〰 I liked it. I did, i really did. But I went into this expecting to bawl my eyes out.
Did that happen? No, not really.

🔹 What didn’t really work for me:
〰 Don’t get me wrong, this was a sad book but by no means would I say that it broke my heart (which is what I was expecting after seeing people talking about this on tiktok). To be honest, the first 50% didn’t do much for me which is odd considering that’s when she’s dealing with her mother’s death and her grief the most. I
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Kathleen Glasgow is the author of YOU'D BE HOME NOW, GIRL IN PIECES (a New York Times bestseller and Target Book Club pick), and HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE DARK. Proud faulty robot. Visit her on Twitter (@kathglasgow), Instagram (misskathleenglasgow), her website (, or TikTok @kathleenglasgow. ...more

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