The Art of Showing Up: Bringing Your True Self to All Your Relationships

by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr., Miguel Ruiz

Discover the Art of Creating Deep and Loving Relationships—Starting with Yourself

"You cannot give what you do not have," teach HeatherAsh Amara and don Miguel Ruiz Jr. To build stronger and more loving relationships with others, the starting point is always your relationship with yourself. With The Art of Showing Up, Amara and Ruiz bring you a powerful audio workshop to undo the inner patterns that keep you trapped in cycles of conflict and misunderstanding—and help you build a foundation for all your relationships to flourish and grow.

Dispelling the Illusion of Conditional Love

Most of us have been indoctrinated in the illusion that we should be rewarded with love when we are worthy and punished with abandonment when we are not. That is called conditional love—which leads to power struggles, deception, and the need to "domesticate" each other. Yet conditional love is learned, and can be unlearned. Using insights and guided meditations, Amara and Ruiz offer seven essential arts to help you locate the places where you are stuck in conditional thinking, so you may open again and again to a love that reflects the purest expression of yourself.

In the Toltec wisdom taught by HeatherAsh Amara and don Miguel Ruiz Jr., you learn to replace the conditions of love with agreements. These agreements arise freely from a place of mutual respect, curiosity, and honesty. With The Art of Showing Up, these masterful teachers reveal how you can cast aside the masks you wear in relationship with others and yourself—and discover the joy of unconditional love you were meant to share.

HIGHLIGHTS
• The Art of Commitment: embracing your power of choice
• The Art of Loving: coming back to unconditional love
• The Art of Trust: how to stop undermining your trust in yourself and others
• The Art of Healing: how to soften in the face of pain
• The Art of Communication: creating a new language based on respect and compassion
• The Art of Pleasure: bringing sensual joy to every aspect of your relationship
• The Art of Releasing: embracing change as an essential part of love

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships, Spirituality, Audiobook

Audio CD

Published March 5, 2019

Reviews

[Leah · Rating 1 out of 5]

Serves me right for reading a book with only 55 ratings and 4 ratings on it lol Basically no ones read it and probably for good reason. Lesson learned :P

I'm being harsh, this book wasn't bad, it just wasn't for me. It felt like I was at a therapy session for a broad spectrum audience, nothing customized or directed to me. It was like a whole bunch of random advice, guidance, and lessons learned.

It was about having healthy positive relationships, being non judgmental, acceptance of you and others, calm, loving, positive yatta yatta.

[Vero Aguirre vides · Rating 5 out of 5]

When people ask me which book impacted my life the most I always say it is the Four Agreements. This book again changed how I view life. The Four Agreements changed how I view my life. The Art of Showing Up changes how I view life in relation to itself. I am very grateful for this book and mostly for the power ive gained to let myself be the presence I sometimes seek. It felt like a really long therapy session.

[Adam · Rating 3 out of 5]

Beh. I get that there are certain types of people that connect with this style and type of self-help. I am not one. It is kind of like Annie Chang asian frozen foods. Sure it's 'eastern' food, but it's more western with an eastern inspiration. Everything that is shared is very much in the inspiration of eastern religion, ie talking about energy, acceptance, self, love as if they are established base points of argument. But, at the heart of everything they are saying are very common/western issues, ie self-doubt, relationship issues, integrity, being open to different opinions, forgiving yourself of past mistakes, fulfillment, etc. I found more to gain in reading the likes of Brene Brown, C. Terry Warner, and even Anne of Green Gables than what was being repeatedly offered here.

I'm sure the authors do a great job with their careers, but it all felt rather shallow. Every relationship was from the basis of how you are going to see the other person and how you are going to accept the other person and how by you accepting you and accepting them then balance is found. It's a very self-centered approach to life that really bothered me. They never really spoke about the reward of doing anything outside of yourself. Everything was based on what was happening within you and how everything should be happening with you, you just haven't realized it yet, and when you do realize it and stop lying to yourself you'll be free from yourself because you'll be your true self.

Again, I understand some people connect with this. I just did not.

[Heather DeCarlo · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a life changing read for me. Through Toltec wisdom and meditation this piece explored just about every aspect of relationship, of all sorts and shapes, from being present, acceptance, healing, understanding, love, communication, trust, pleasure, both in life and sexually... For anyone who has ever been hurt, has old wounds or old beliefs that prevent them from listening, changing healing or growing, or even those who are striving for a more fulfilling and happy marriage,, this is a must read. A MUST READ!!

[Heather · Rating 2 out of 5]

I had high hopes for this book as one of the authors is Miguel Ruiz. I listened to this book on audible and found it to be a bit laborious and the narrators did not seem to have much personality, therefore my excitement in listening to more ( although I finished) was minimal. This is a book that offers a lot of quotes and one liners to memorize to stay out of negative self space but other than that not much to offer based on an audio experience.

[Johanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book and was challenged by some of the perspectives. Some of the book ideas hit tender spots in me and left some space to explore. I may need to reread this book in a year or so and see how it lands. Be aware there are many meditations so not an easy book to enjoy on audio if you listen to it while driving.

[Hayden & Marine · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is weird for me because I usually listen to them. But I truly think that this book needs to be read instead of listened because there is a lot of good information. This is a focus book (the type you want to make notes of- hence the need to buy it so you can highlight what you need) I will go back to finish it I think sometimes in 2023

[Johan Pelgrim · Rating 2 out of 5]

Both authors read pretty lengthy essays about the various arts. Most of Heather Ash's messages clicked with me but when Miguel Ruiz was talking I wanted to cry and jump of a bridge. I didn't like his presentation at all. It was too icky for me. He creates a certain atmosphere which I simply don't like. Heather Ash's presentation was much more convincing and honest in my opinion.

[Jean Doolittle · Rating 2 out of 5]

The title offers good advice…show up: show up for yourself, but also show up for others. Beyond that though, it didn’t offer me much. It was both shallow and narrow in scope. Not bad, but not inspiring either, unless you are in a specific zone where this advice might reach you.

[SB The Student · Rating 4 out of 5]

I need to have a second listen with more focus. I feel this is a hidden gem.

[Jackie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Superb!

[Emily Thayne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lovely book. Really inspiring and definitely worth the read.

[Sean · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful. A must “read” (or rather, listen to). Sheds light on the wonder and joy of living and loving.

[Hawraki · Rating 3 out of 5]

أحببت أجزاء رويز المسرودة بدقة ووضوح أكثر من أجزاء هيذر التي بدت كحديث مسترسل وتضمنت قصص خاصة وحميمية.

[Michelle · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

[Sonstepaul · Rating 1 out of 5]

Couldn’t finish. Couldn’t even get much into. File with the many others that appear to take advantage of the self-help label by really passionately stating the obvious. Or the inane.