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Soul Mates: Honouring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship

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This companion volume to Care of the Soul offers more of Thomas Moore's inspiring wisdom and empathy as it expands on his ideas about life, love, and the mysteries of human relationships.

In Care of the Soul, Thomas Moore explored the importance of nurturing the soul and struck a chord nationwide—the book became a long-term bestseller, topping charts across the country.

Paperback, 267 pages
Published November 4th 1994 by Harper Perennial
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Mark Bennett
Not sure what to do with the thoughts/feelings that have gripped me since reading Moore’s book. Over and over he writes of the “soul-work” we’re all challenged to engage in.

And really all along the way and right to the end he’s making an argument for facing off with and confronting everything that transpires in our lives without judgement, that love is the ground and life affirmation the end all: the good and bad, the dark and despairing, the difficult and confusing, the grand and glorious, the
Apr 02, 2008 added it
as i get older
and continue to build my nest of love
i'm so taken by the lil birds
that have landed along side of me
to shake me and wake me
there are those rare gems
that when you look into their eyes
you know you sit warmly in their depths.

soul mates.
Candace Morris
Mar 27, 2009 rated it really liked it
Another amazing installment in Moore's lifelong quest towards avodacting the mysterious and unfathomable depths of the human soul and how it can possible amalgamate to another equally enigmatic human soul. Moore confronts moralism in sexuality as well as pondering the needs of soul - in that it often wants detachment just as much as attachment, coldness as well as passion. Though I consider myself a lover of soul and proponent of the soul's journey, Moore never ceases to press further into the p ...more
Steve Arthur
Dec 25, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book helped to inspire a song I wrote for my soulmate:
Here is just a few words:
"Just two imperfect people, perfectly made for each other.
Willing to go the distance to find the perfect comfort for every imperfect heartache.
Just two imperfect people, perfectly made for each other...."
I appreciate Thomas Moore writings and understanding, even more so the way in which he communicates so that one soul can understand their mate.
Robin Woodcock
May 22, 2012 rated it liked it
I appropriately read this book on a flight to San Francisco -- some of you will think it hippie dippy but I have to say, I really appreciated its introspective view and the encouragement of the author. Thanks to Clare
Gupta for passing it along! Also liked that while it's a little heady and even circular at times, there are good examples from mythology and references to Jung that sort of ground it. I would recommend this to anyone interested in learning more about themselves in relationships (pla
Trisha Keiman
One of my favorite writers. He teaches about ourselves, others and the world around us. This book focuses on the meanigns behind intimacy, separations, endings, beginnings, sexual conflicts and any other obstacles in our pursuit for intimacy. It basically tells us that if we are brave enough, willing enough to go these these motions, we will be enriched and our souls will thrive. He also explores being soulful in a community, society and with other nations. I love the way he adds a wide range of ...more
Oct 09, 2014 rated it it was ok
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Mar 31, 2014 rated it really liked it
"As with all matters of soul, it is in honoring its impulses that we find our way best into its mysteries."

Biography: Moore was born in 1940 in Detroit, Michigan to an Irish Catholic family. As a youth he joined the Servites, a Roman Catholic lay order where he studied philosophy and music.
He then earned a Bachelor of Arts degree from Chicago's DePaul University, a Master of Arts degree in musicology from the University of Michigan, a Master of Arts degree in theology from the University of Wind
Yelda Basar Moers
Jan 17, 2015 rated it liked it
What is a soul mate? I don't think the author here really explains it, so it is left as a mystery. I admit, it is difficult to define such a spiritual concept in concrete terms, and his title does say "honoring the mysteries of love and relationship," but an attempt to explain how people connect as soul mates would have been helpful.

Ultimately I found this book to be not so much about soul mates, but about the author's own beliefs about the workings of the soul and our connections with others. H
Jun 21, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Perhaps I should return to certain passages of this work all through my life to find new insight into myself. I have had a life long struggle with ideas I’ve seen to be polar opposites – religion & science and sensuality & intellect where Moore seems to view the facets of life as different qualities to feed the soul, not to be denied and all of value to the soul. The insight I found within these pages is vast, but one passage in particular on page 179 stuck with me. ‘Even intelligent, so ...more
Olive Steele
Sep 15, 2015 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: My readers
Shelves: self-help, psychology
I had no idea about what I would learn when I began to read Thomas Moore’s SOUL MATES. I must say, I was moved by Moore’s simple yet deep discourse, in which he entwines soul (separate from spirit and body) and mates (friendships) in a way clergy might not have adequately succeed. In his Introduction, Moore prepares the reader to accept or reject long held soul factors in unusual ways; as regards relationships, sex, and community. SOUL MATES sees issues such as; incompleteness, rough edges and l ...more
Dec 29, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: partially-read
Began to read this book this year...very intuitive and soul-touching. Stopped reading it..need to pick up again soon. So much of Thomas Moore's writing is so familiar and true, as if it were a part of me all along. Plan to restart/continue this book soon. Not sure what has kept me from doing so yet...perhaps the connection it had with me, regarding that particular time in my life. Although I have not read the entire book, I would strongly recommend reading it...without fear or hesitation of what ...more
Oct 16, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: personal-growth
Thomas More (former monk, Jungian psychologist) has some interesting insights on the nature of "soul" in one's life and relationships. I am not always clear what exactly he is talking about, but he makes me think in terms of what my inner promptings may be saying and leading me to do. In this book he applies those same ideas to relationships, and invites the reader to not only listen to one's own soul, but the soul of the relationship.
Miroku Nemeth
Feb 17, 2012 rated it really liked it
I think that the best advice one can gain from this book is to explore both the darkness and the light in love and life and see them as necessary cycles that will and must unfold. Live life as poetry unfolding. A very worthwhile read.
Rosie Banks
Sep 23, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This book really turned my whole view of soulmates around. It gave me an understanding of soul as separate from spirit. Very thought-provoking! It challenged me to consider how I've preferred spirit over soul.
Sep 11, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Thomas Moore's writing is soul candy. Maybe that's an inadequate metaphor. . . . Here's another stab at it: it's a magnificent, delightful feast for the soul.
Lynn Wilson
Aug 09, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This is a profound book, an important read for those who yearn for a deeper form of relationship than the superficial norm.
Nov 08, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Although I read this book over ten years ago, I remember it well. It gave me a lot to think about with regards to my relationships, and was quite inspiring.
Jun 08, 2014 rated it it was amazing
A beautiful read that has allowed me to really challenge myself. It's helped me intepret some of my behaviours and understand what I need to work upon.
Sharon Joller
Jan 04, 2008 rated it really liked it
Jul 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in soul work
Another good book for soul work.
Jul 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
I've been thinking of this quote a lot lately (from Jordan Peterson)

"We walk a very thin and narrow edge and we are very lucky when things aren't degenerating into chaos or rapidly moving into far too much order. And its not an easy thing to stay on that line. You can tell when you are on that line because things are deeply meaningful and engaging. But if you're
not existentially terrified of the consequences of wavering off that line, you are not awake."

I dont really get it but i feel like I sh
Jun 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is one of those books where you're never quite sure at any paragraph if what you're reading is pure wisdom or just another insipid platitude. Which way you go with it seems to be your choice. And perhaps that's fitting. That said, I really liked this book. Thomas Moore seemed to take a fresh approach to relationships that tried never to hide behind tradition or moralism. He urged patience in understanding yourself. And he advised listening intently to those dark moments of the soul when you ...more
Alyssa Sargent
Jan 19, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book explores the truly mysterious and intuitive nature of the soul. Moore invites us to pause and consider its deeper stirrings, paying attention to the limitless potential and opportunities for imagination, growth, and cultivation of a more soul-filled life.

Soul can be found in every relationship, interaction, and engagement with the world--even the seemingly inconsequential ones--influencing the soul's development, exploration, and discovery.
Oct 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is a must read for everyone seeking to understand himself/herself and his/her loves, friendships and relationships. A great book when you need to hear clear and precisely chosen words to explain why you feel what you feel. You will definitely be more kind to yourself and better able to understand your Soul at the end of it.
Jun Zaragoza
Feb 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: poetry
A poetic journey to the depths of the soul. More of a guide than a book on how to understand the feelings and the needs of our soul. This book will also shed light to the mysteries of love, soul, longingness and the universe.
James Laginess
Jan 19, 2017 rated it really liked it
Twice I've read Soulmates by Thomas Moore ; and each time I've gleaned more insight into the mystery of relationships. I cannot say I completely agree with everything written ; as much is written in a manner which allows him to avoid discussing Roman Catholic Theology, but the Catholic underpinnings are still present in subtle ways. In the end, the majority of this book is quite profound and definitely worth the $1 American dollar it cost at my local thrift store. I highly recommend and can conf ...more
Jan 21, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Soul Mates.. reminds us to remember to look at ourselves, others and the world from a new perspective--through story, myth, image and dream. This book is urgently imporant and filled with practical wisdom, deep feeling and much love.

It is uncanny that I was looking for a book today and noticed Soul Mates. Only yesterday Barack Obama urged us to look at ourselves, others and the world from a new perspective. Nothing transpires by accident.
Mar 10, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self
This book was much more than I expected in terms of content and nuance. Not one word of this book is superfluous, and I particularly found his use and readings of myths to be very valuable. I think any one person can gain powerful and encouraging insights into their own lifepath and relationships by reading this book. I will definitely check out more of Thomas Moore's works.
Aug 01, 2016 rated it really liked it
I absolutely love Moore's perspective on all things involving soul. I've read three of his books so far and each and every one takes me to a new level of thinking and understanding of the human soul. We are much more complex than we may imagine. There is beauty and design in all things favorable and unfavorable. I highly recommend this book. Four out of Five Gold Stars.
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Thomas Moore is the author of the bestselling book Care of the Soul, Ageless Soul, and fifteen other books on deepening spirituality and cultivating soul in every aspect of life. He has been a monk, a musician, a university professor, and a psychotherapist, and today he lec
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